quotes to make you feel better

You can sit down, Potter.”

“Uh, I just brought Al over, I should probably go.” Harry motioned back over his shoulder toward the door.

“I see how it is, Potter. You truly are desperate to get rid of your son.”

“No, it’s just… uh,” Harry sighed and sat down.

“Better. It doesn’t do to make the host feel inhospitable. It’s impolite.

anonymous asked:

What do you think is the best way to approach loving yourself after it seems like you'll never be able to do so again?

Love is a very, very tricky thing, dear. I think the trick to learning to love yourself is realizing that nobody is perfect. And that’s great!! Being imperfect is what makes us human. The important thing is that you continuously strive to be a better person. You acknowledge your past mistakes and move on. Love isn’t shown when everything is perfect, but rather when things look rough. Everybody goes through spells of self-doubt, but you have to push through. If you focus on your insecurities, you will only make yourself more depressed. Focus on your talents and what makes you unique. You are beautiful and you are valuable. Never forget that.
I’ll end with my absolute favorite quote by Eleanor Roosevelt. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” I am in no way a master at anything that I just said, but I hope this helps at least a little ❤️️

It's worth the read, I promise

When he smiles at like you like you’re the only home he’s ever seen, you’ll fall for him. You know that you’re unsteady, and in the end, not at all what he wants. He’ll make a home out of you because there are no better options in the moment, and you’ll let him. You’ll so gladly let him, because you like him and you want to feel something other than dead.

He’ll see you smile back at him. Be wary as he starts to hang up lights on your walls, and paint pretty colors over everything you used to be, as he tells you how much he loves you. He’ll furnish you down to every last fine detail, and it’ll feel like a great setup to you.

But he doesn’t intend on staying- he never did. And he doesn’t love who you are, he loves what he’s turned you into.

He knows. He knows he’ll move out very soon, and yet he lets you become comfortable with him. He allows you to let him discover the cracks in the walls, and the creaky step on the stairs, and the most ironic part is that through it all, he starts to feel like a home to you himself.

Then, on more than one occasion, in his drunken (or his ever-dreaded sober) rage, you’ll see it. He throws an ashtray and it leaves a dent in the wall. He chips the paint or breaks a picture. And you justify it. You justify what he does because you love him, you swear you love him, and you should’ve been better to him. He says it’s your fault, so it’s your fault.

His curses echo through the air vents and you can feel the walls shaking, but it’s okay right? Because you’re his home and therefore you belong to him. He can do whatever he wants. Right?

You let him do it. You let him destroy you because you want him, you want him to love you so badly that it doesn’t matter if he leaves you beaten and broken, bruised and scarred, because at least he’s calling you his. At least you have him.

Except you don’t have him, not really. He will leave. He will walk away after stomping on you like he never meant a pretty word he said. Like you meant nothing to him.

And when he leaves, it will burn. He’ll shut the windows he always used to leave open and you’ll hear every remark he makes about you as they drift down every hallway and slink into every last corner of every room. He’s so glad to finally be gone, he says. To move on to the next big thing and leave you in the dust.

You will, even if only in silently within your mind, beg. You’ll fall to your knees and plead for answers. You’ll wonder why you weren’t good enough, and what you can possibly do to make a change, to win him back. That’s when it hurts the most- you never get those answers that you so desperately crave- instead, he’ll mutter something about how you were never good enough. Then, he’ll simply lock the door and walk away, as if he’d done it a million times before.

After that, you grow a bit wiser, and you see that he didn’t love you at all. You were a way for him to keep warm until a better offer came along. It hurts, but you also realize that when he leaves, someone new will take his place- someone who loves you just as you are, and who wants to spend the rest of their life living in comfortable harmony with you.

So, when you two reach your inevitable demise, it is okay to cry. It’s okay to scream and plead and sob until you can’t even breathe, until you can’t even see through the hot tears filling your eyes and spilling down your cheeks. It’s all okay, but don’t let him ruin the beautiful, beautiful soul that you are. Because I guarantee you, someone a billion times better will come along. Someone who won’t treat you like a house, but a home.

FRIENDLY REMINDER: You are allowed to feel proud of yourself for things that might seem silly to other people, like getting better at a video game or putting together a nice outfit for the next morning or finishing a book. You deserve to feel proud for your accomplishment.

Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.
—  Emery Allen
Please Remember...
  • You are allowed to take up space. You are human.
  • You are allowed to have a voice.
  • You are allowed to leave whenever you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.
  • You deserve more than someone who doesn’t know how to respect you.
  • You are allowed to put your own needs first.
  • You are allowed to love yourself.

1. Life gets better, and you should be there to see it.

2. If the love is true, they’ll come back. They always do.

3. The little things really do mean everything.

4. Be somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody

5. Things not going as planned sometimes make for the best stories.

6. Love wins.

7. The people you are kind to won’t forget you, even if you never see them again.

8. Make lists for everything. Your favorite tv show episodes, favorite movies. Make lists for people, fill them with all the things you learn about them as your relationship goes on. You’ll never forget if you write it down.

9. Words mean nothing if actions don’t back them up.

10. Take everything in. One day you’ll be dying to have it back again.

11. Someday we’ll forget these moments and what it feels like to be so young, but right now these moments aren’t stories, they’re happening. Live in the moment.

12. Looking back is human.

13. It’s nice to know you’re not the only person on Earth feeling the way you do.

14. Sometimes you just aren’t ready for someone yet.

15. Giving is the best feeling. Especially if the thing you are giving is something you put your whole heart into.

16. It can hurt just as much at 9 am as it does at 2 am.

17. Sometimes bad things happen to remind you of what good is supposed to look like.

18. If you need to take a day off, take it. Don’t make a habit of it.

19. Before you kiss someone, wait. They are so new and unfamiliar, you don’t know how they’ll taste or how they’ll breathe. They don’t know either. Isn’t that special? Every so often after that look at them through those eyes. That’s how you’ll never lose them. Don’t lose that spark.

20. Dogs are a necessity.

21. You’ve got to be there for your friends, even if your world feels like it’s caving in.

22. You never know what’s around the corner. You just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and then one day you’ll look back and see you’ve climbed a mountain.

23. You can love the memories and not love the person.

24. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn’t be one of them.

25. Keep a diary. Keep in mind that your memory won’t be as good in 30 years as it is now. At the same time, live a life you’ll remember even if you don’t write it down.

26. Be somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody

27. There are 6 billion people in the world. 6 billion souls. Sometimes, all you need is 1.

28. Being close to someone is never about the proximity.

29. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person that walked into it. That’s the point.

30. Of course it will hurt when it ends. But that’s the very condition of existence. To become spring means accepting the risk of winter.

31. Take videos. It’s one of the best forms of documentation

—  emmuuhhhhh, 31 Things I’ve Learned Coming Into 2016 Part 2
But rarely do you ever tell people about the true depths of your loneliness, about how you feel more and more alienated from your friends each passing day and you’re not sure how to fix it. It seems like everyone is just better at living than you are.
—  Ryan O’Connell, You’re Not Making The Most Out of Your 20s

your emotions are valid. you’re allowed to feel whatever you want

There’s also the argument ‘Books are supposed to challenge you!’ which is an interesting argument, but I don’t actually like it very much. Most of my books aren’t actually supposed to challenge you, they’re supposed to comfort you because life is a hard country and we all need a little kindness along the way. (It is totally fine if other people’s books are supposed to challenge you, just…err…#NotAllBooks or something.) I do not actually feel bad about this, because I think comfort is hard to do and generally worthwhile.
—  Ursula Vernon, and as if speaking directly to me
Never feel bad for putting yourself first and doing what is right for you.
So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered. I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.
—  John Green
overwatch starters

 i play to win.  
❝  this is my curse. ❞ 
❝  wait for me! ❞ 
❝  your mother would’ve been proud of you. ❞
❝  let us hope for a different outcome. ❞ 
❝  sorry it’s such a mess in here. i-i wasn’t expecting company. ❞
❝  this is going to make you feel better. ❞
❝  the true enemy of humanity is disorder. ❞ 
❝  a steady blade balances the soul. ❞ 
❝  this is just like old times. ❞ 
❝  even here i feel an outcast. ❞ 
❝  think you can do my job, do you… ❞
❝  all eyes on me! ❞ 
❝  ooh, this is my jam. ❞
❝  got your aim from your mom, i see. ❞
❝  i’ll feast on your soul. ❞ 
❝  cheers, love! the cavalry’s here! ❞ 
❝   our paths cross for now. as to the future, we shall see. ❞ 
❝   we could’ve built an empire together. ❞ 
❝   ah. just setting foot here sets my soul at ease. ❞ 
❝  this time, stay down. ❞ 
❝  can i get your autograph? ❞
❝  why are you so angry? ❞
❝  ever get that feeling of déjà vu? ❞ 
❝  i am a different man now. i am whole. ❞ 
❝  over my dead body. ❞ 
❝   i’m on top of the world! ❞
❝  i’m patched up. ❞ 
❝  kids today with techno music. you should enjoy the classics, like hasselhoff. ❞
❝   what’s wrong? don’t you recognize me? ❞ 
❝   aren’t you warm wearing all that? ❞ 
❝  can’t stop, won’t stop. ❞
❝  i’ll race ya! ❞
❝   mock death at your own peril. ❞ 
❝  this time, i will finish the job. ❞ 
❝  death is an illusion. ❞
❝  look at this team! we’re gonna do great. ❞
❝  i am beyond redemption. ❞
❝   it looks like we will be working together. ❞ 
❝   you’ve rescued me again. ❞ 
❝  i will not be defeated so easily. ❞
❝  treasure? s-sure, i don’t know anything you’re talking about. ❞ 
❝  so this is what has become of you? a pity.❞
❝  you’re so amazing! you inspire me. ❞ 
❝  i miss him greatly. ❞ 
❝  there is nowhere to hide. ❞ 
❝  whatcha’ lookin’ at? ❞ 
❝  woo, nothing’s gonna stop me. ❞
❝  that was your dream, not mine. ❞ 
❝  what you call freedom is an illusion that causes more harm than good. ❞ 
❝  hehe, there’s something on your dress.. ❞ 
❝  you have been judged! ❞
❝   i have the upper hand this time. ❞ 
❝  traitor! ❞
❝  you will never amount to anything! ❞
❝  i’ve got my eye on you. ❞
❝  lot of memories of this place. they weren’t all bad. ❞
❝  the heart of a man still beats inside of me. ❞ 
❝  stay out of trouble. ❞
❝  step into my parlor said the spider to the fly. ❞
❝  one shot, one kill. ❞
❝  don’t think i’m happy about that. ❞ 
❝  now this place? makes me wanna be an atheist. ❞
❝  our world is worth fighting for. ❞
❝  you haven’t aged a day. what’s your secret? ❞
❝  ooooh, shiny! ❞
❝  oh, did that sting? ❞
❝  heroes never die. ❞
❝  where does it hurt? ❞
❝  you’re just a no-good bully. ❞
❝  i’m a one-man apocalypse. ❞
❝  you should look somewhere else. ❞
❝  you said you would arm wrestle me. nervous? ❞
❝  i learned that from my brother. ❞ 
❝  i hope nobody saw that. ❞
❝  on a scale of one to ten, how is your pain? ❞
❝  i’m not a miracle worker. well… not always. ❞
❝  this was once my home. no longer. ❞
❝  sorry! sorry, i’m sorry. sorry. ❞
❝  i remember being here. it was good for my tan. ❞
❝  wish i’d practice my japanese more, konichiwa! ❞
❝  you need a time out. ❞ 
❝  you might not want to tell your friends about that. ❞
❝  guess we know who’s really on top, don’t we? ❞
❝  with every death, comes honor. with honor, redemption. ❞
❝  a punishment for your crimes. ❞ 
❝  i will be on my best behaviour. ❞
❝  you think there’s something worth stealing in that temple? ❞
❝  people should be free. ❞ 
❝  you were never my equal. ❞
❝  death walks among you. ❞ 
❝   last i checked, i didn’t ask for your opinion. ❞ 
❝   you can’t be serious. ❞ 
❝   they’re back. ❞ 
❝   armor? how positively primitive. ❞
❝   now this is my kinda city, everyone’s free to live as they choose. ❞
❝   you need a time out. ❞ 
❝   die! die! die! ❞ 
❝   to think i would have to work with a street ruffian. ❞ 
❝   death comes. ❞ 
❝   one of these days someone is gonna to put an end to you. ❞ 
❝   that which doesn’t kill you…makes you stronger.. ❞
❝   well. you sure take to this bad guy thing easily, don’t ya? ❞
❝   aren’t you supposed to be dead? ❞
❝  i’ll tell you my secret if you give me your coat. ❞
❝   sleep. ❞
❝  never liked you much. ❞
❝  never leave a teammate behind. ❞
❝  together we are strong. ❞
❝  you won’t get rid of me that easily. ❞
❝  i don’t even think children are afraid of you. ❞
❝  i taught you everything you know. ❞
❝  it’s hard to just sit around knowing there’s someone out there that needs to be blown up. ❞
❝  i’ll put an end to your sad story. ❞
❝  you havin’ trouble keeping up? ❞
❝  i have destroyed more of your kind than i can count. ❞
❝ it’s a perfect day for some mayhem. ❞
❝  we’re all soldiers now. ❞
❝  give me your best shot. ❞
❝   you knew exactly what were you doing. ❞
❝   knock me down, and i’ll keep getting back up. ❞
❝   you always did have a high opinion of yourself. ❞
❝   i’m not a young man anymore. ❞
❝  still trying to play hero? ❞
❝  i sometimes wonder if your height is why you’re always in such a bad mood. ❞
❝  this is no place for children. ❞
❝  the world could always use more heroes. ❞
❝  looked in a mirror lately? ❞
❝  Me one, bad guys zero. ❞
❝  i’m gonna have to shoot you down. ❞
❝  this old dog has learned a few tricks. ❞
❝  another one off the list. ❞
❝  i love your glasses, so cute! ❞
❝  if at first you don’t succeed…blow it up again! ❞
❝  that’s for my family back home! ❞
❝  i’ve got you in my sights. ❞
❝  i’m the one who does his job. i’m thinking… you’re the other one. ❞
❝   you weren’t given those guns to toss them away like trash. ❞
❝   i will protect the innocent. ❞ 

It’s taboo to admit that you’re lonely. You can make jokes about it, of course. You can tell people that you spend most of your time with Netflix or that you haven’t left the house today and you might not even go outside tomorrow. Ha ha, funny. But rarely do you ever tell people about the true depths of your loneliness, about how you feel more and more alienated from your friends each passing day and you’re not sure how to fix it. It seems like everyone is just better at living than you are.

…A part of you knew this was going to happen. Growing up, you just had this feeling that you wouldn’t transition well to adult life, that you’d fall right through the cracks. And look at you now. La di da, it’s happening.

Every day you vow to change some aspect of your life and every day you fail. At this point, you’re starting to question your own power as a human being. As of right now, your fears have you beat. They’re the ones that are holding your twenties hostage.

Stop thinking that everyone is having more sex than you, that everyone has more friends than you, that everyone out is having more fun than you. Not because it’s not true (it might be!) but because that kind of thinking leaves you frozen. You’ve already spent enough time feeling like you’re stuck, like you’re watching your life fall through you like a fast dissolve and you’re unable to hold on to anything.

I don’t know if you ever get better. I don’t know if a person can just wake up one day and decide to be an active participant in their life. I’d like to think so. I’d like to think that people get better each and every day but that’s not really true. People get worse and it’s their stories that end up getting forgotten because we can’t stand an unhappy ending. The sick have to get better. Our normalcy depends upon it.

You have to value yourself. You have to want great things for your life. This sort of shit doesn’t happen overnight but it can and will happen if you want it.

Do you want it bad enough? Does the fear of bein

have the courage to pursue what makes you feel alive :))

HOW TO: BUILD A STUDY SPACE

rid all distractions

  • make sure your study area is away from the tv, the phone, your family/friends
  • if you are using your laptop, use a browser extension to block certain websites + +
  • turn your phone off !!

clear the space

  • declutter the study area so you can have maximum movement 
  • it’ll also make you feel more comfortable and less cramped !

light

  • try choose a spot with good natural light !!!
  • natural light will give the area some warmth 
  • if not? buy a lamp/use one from home that provides you with good lighting, it is better than nothing

spice it up

  • try and also make it your own 
  • buy some plants?? 
  • put some pictures of you and your friends, your dog etc.
  • put motivational posters + quotes up! 
  • this will make you feel more comfortable and relaxed whilst studying !!

have a comfy chair 

  • ok to me this is so important
  • nothing is worse than studying for long periods of time and then your butt begins to ache!!! 
  • pls try and get a comfy chair 
  • if not? put a pillow under your butt, so much better !

use ambient noise 

have all the stuff you need before you start

  • make sure you don’t have to keep leaving every 5 mins to get something 
  • plan what you’re going to do, get everything you need, and then head in 

now actually study

  • make sure you have also created a space that is practical and promotes productivity 
  • then use it!
  • tailor it to your needs

there ya go!! i hope this was helpful in some way (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧

isabelle x