quotes to make you feel better

whodecidedweneedrealityanyway replied to your post:I threw up so hard last night I ruptured the blood…

Your life is like a little ball of pain and I’m so sorry if I could help in any way I totally would because your blog just makes my day happier and–

Just feel better"

Thank you <3 I hate that I’ve been so down lately and that my pain is getting to me. Every time I post about health stuff I lose about 20 followers instantly, and I honestly don’t blame them. I’d hate reading about me too.

So knowing that somehow I’m still not completely and utterly depressing to read is comforting.

anonymous asked:

You're very rude to your followers sometimes. There are better ways to give advice and tough love than to just tell them to stop whining. Don't be a cunt. Some of these people want serious answers. Not just "well figure it out yourself, crybaby!"

I see someone who didn’t read my FAQ. Here, let me make it easier for you cupcake. A direct quote. You can read the full FAQ here

I’m not mean. I specialize in honesty. Lots of people are in really bad spots when they need advice. 

You deserve better than [biased advice]. Whether you are 15 or 82, you deserve to be spoken to with frankness and honesty. So I tell it like it is. I’m sorry if it hurts your feelings to hear some of what I say, and I am fully aware that it may sound harsh to hear things you might not want to hear. 

But if you need to hear it, you will. Because my only desire is to help you. If you want smiles and rainbows, ask someone else - if you want an unbiased, adult opinion on how to deal with your problems, ask me.

So again, I ain’t here to pat you on the butt and make you feel good. I’m here to give solid advice. And I’m pretty sure the advice you take take umbrage with is this one, where I said “stop whining.” Disregarding the immediate paragraph after detailing to them that their best course of action was pushing through their worry and concern, double-down on their own feelings and their own self-confidence, and take a leap of faith to see if their potential relationship would work out. 

But I mean, then again, in a single message you’ve already displayed a history of failing to read complete paragraphs, so who am I to judge?

People come to me for advice. I want to give them good, honest advice. If that good and honest advice involves them being too scared and nervous for their own good, I’ll tell them to put on their big people pants and get over it. If it involves them cheating, lying, or hurting their partner, I’m going to call them a fucking asshole. If it involves them not being sure of something, I will make them as certain as I am able. 

I do that, and talk to people like the adults they should aspire to be, because y’all deserve not to be spoken to like children who are incapable of being mature. We’re all awesome human beings. Relationships are hard, so if I can give some straight talk to help people solve their situations faster, why wouldn’t I? That may be why this is the most popular relationship advice blog on Tumblr, with the highest response rate of any advice blog that I know exists, and with more public disclosure than any advice blog that exists. 

I talk to people like an adult because they deserve to hear it like an adult. You, however, are acting like a petulant child. Maybe stop calling people cunts, read more thoroughly before you dribble a response out of your grey matter, and be a little nicer to people on the internet, you leaf-nibbling goat of an idiot. 

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will I ever feel good enough?
Is a question that likes to lick the back of my throat,
especially on my worst days.

Making each gulp 
a tougher answer to swallow

“I won’t be good enough" 
I wash down,
because this sadness will never go away.

"He’ll stop loving you, and find someone better”
I ingest,
because who wants to love someone who doesn’t love themselves?

—  my self esteem (361 out of 365)
QUOTES FOR THE MOON SIGNS (Part II)

aries moon

We need love but all we want is danger.

taurus moon

Decisions are the hardest thing to make, especially when it is a choice between where you should be and where you want to be.

gemini moon

There is peaceful.

There is wild.

I am both at the same time.

cancer moon

I kept trying to make it go away but how do you kill a feeling ?

leo moon

If your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough.

virgo moon

Slow progress is better than no progress.

libra moon

I am going to make everything around me beautiful - that will be my life.

scorpio moon

First you feel like dying. Then you feel reborn.

sagittarius moon

Not all who wander are lost.

capricorn moon

Do your thing and don’t care if they like it.

aquarius moon

Everyone has a chapter they don’t read out loud.

pisces moon

Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, then it’s not the end.

me: gambling is so disgusting. the government uses people’s adiction to make a profit, just with like cigarette companies and prostitution. i am sad, disheartened, praying for better days. quoting zhang yixing,  better known as lay (korean: 레이), exo’s main chinese singer, composer, author, dancer, and actor, all i can ask for is… world peace. 

exo: [releases a casino-themed concept]

me: you know what guys? we need to be more open minded :) gambling is okay! :) people can spend their money how they want :) i actually feel like playing some poker until i get evicted :) and showering in champagne :) who is with me? :))

I’d like to think that you still have some kind of little love for me. That my name is still on your mind and my taste in the tip of your tongue. Maybe when you feel sad you think of the words I’d say to make you feel better or how I’d hug you to bring your pieces together. I’d like to think that you still think of me when you listen to our favorite songs. Maybe when I miss you, you are missing me too.
—  k.m

6 Things I’ve learned from my break up’s

(1.) You can’t fucking fix people.
Sometimes we believe that when people are broken it is our job to fix them, but you can’t fix a broken person with another broken person. You can’t make yourself feel better or deserving of love by trying to make another person feel deserving of love by loving you.
People are not problems, they are not lumps of clay that you can mold and sculpt into whatever you desire. People are not welcoming to change. It takes the right person to make someone want to and no matter how hard you try sometimes that person just isn’t you.

(2.) It’s true what they say about being unhappy.
If you don’t feel the same about a person anymore or feel like you’re constantly looking for something you used to find in them in others all you need to do is leave. There is no point in staying with someone out of guilt, or loneliness or the feeling that you are trapped you are not. This is always been two sided. If you feel that they are not showing you the same effort and you are tired of being let down or making excuses as to why you are treated the way you are to others then leave. If you feel like you just don’t want the relationship anymore then leave, If you feel like you are just taking it day by day then leave. You are not just hurting them by staying and cheating or staying and waiting for a change you are hurting yourself, there is no need to keep a relationship if you feel that it has ran its course when the love just isn’t there anymore.

(3.) It is never wrong to put yourself first when you are the one hurting.
You should not ever feel guilty about leaving someone when the love is not the same for you anymore. You should never let yourself be sucked back into a relationship just because they’re tears were louder than your heart telling you that it was okay. It was not okay, you were not okay, you gave so much of your time to someone who thought it was a right to have it and not return it to you, you were not wrong. A relationship is an equal two people giving each other they’re time and love. There is no percentage of amounts of who gives who more because at the end of the day, how you’re feeling about them is what shows you how much you love them, not the numbers in your head or the times you counted them telling you “I love you” you are just as important, you matter. Your feelings matter. You are allowed to leave to better yourself.

(4.) People can’t be crutches.
People are not things to love when you are lonely. People are not things you can hold onto when you need something to release sexual tension. You can’t keep someone around for your pure pleasure when you know that they would almost do anything for you. You can’t keep someone around like that just to make you feel like you have power over them. That kind of hold on someone will blow up in your face and you will break, they will break, and they’re heart will break into a million pieces and that person will never be able to love the same way again. All you are doing is breaking a loyal person who wanted nothing more than to be loved by someone they thought put the stars in the sky.

(5.) Sometimes the “forever” you promised is just a number of days.
 nothing is eternal unless it is meant to be and what is meant to be will always find it’s way, but sometimes it gets caught in a little detour along the way and people fall in love to learn lessons. I’ve learned my lesson. Seeing a future with someone can go one of two ways.
One, you either see a future together and you make it happen, Or two you see a future together and you fall in love with the idea of a future together. This is something I’ve fallen victim to, many times. Don’t feel discouraged that it didn’t happen. This is just another step closer to finding the real forever. Just remember you’re almost there.

(6.) Sometimes shit just doesn’t work out.
Relationships come and go, people find love everyday but just because it doesn’t work once doesn’t mean it never will. You don’t need anybody. You are independent, you are strong, and you are worthy of love. Remember to always keep your head high and you mind open, love will find you someday and when it does the wait will feel like just another amount of time that was worth all the heart break.

…And as far as finding the right guy, as soon as we said we were going to do Superman, Greg [Berlanti] mentioned Tyler [Hoechlin]. We’ve been fans of his for years, and when we sat down with him, he is Superman. Not just with the looks, but he’s such a good guy, such a nice guy, and he’s so open and forthright and brimming with life. You just feel better when you’re around him, which I think is part of the secret of Superman. He is that ideal, but not in an unattainable way. Superman should make you feel like you can do anything, even though he’s the one that can do anything. And Tyler just had all that in spades. So, it was less a question of us reaching out. It was more a question of hoping he would say yes. After Tyler, I’m not sure what we would have done.
— 

- The CW producer Andrew Kreisberg on Tyler Hoechlin

Originally posted by darain39

First Kiss(es) (Lafayette X Reader)

Request: Omg reader being insecure because they’ve never kissed anyone and best friend Lafayette offers to be their first kiss to make them feel better and then a make out session happens and “oh hello John when did you get home"Reader and Laf like each other, John’s just kinda there for awkwardness haha. It could be anyone but for some reason I just imagined John walking in and being all smug

Word Count:1,099

Just a little short and sweet one babes. Little fluff drabble.
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The party was finally slowing down. Not that you minded the big crowded party but it was always a lot more fun when you could actually hear the person talking to you.

That was until Hercules came up and clapped a hand on your back, flashing a half drunk smile at you.

“Y/N! We’re playing spin the bottle, you in?” You shook your head, making a note to never, never stay at a party Mulligan threw once people started leaving. This hadn’t been the first time that you’d found yourself here.

“C’mon, you never play.” Alex whined from behind Herc, and you rolled your eyes.

“Next time. I need another beer.” You walked away before they could have a chance to protest.

Lafayette had been listening in, it was clear by just how close he was to the door when you got in. “I wish you wouldn’t do that.” You grabbed a bottle from the sink full of ice. “Aren’t you playing?”

“After I get you to play, ma amie.” A smile spread across his face.

“So you’re passing entirely? Not like you.” You teased, popping the bottle open and taking a swig of the beer.

“Y/N, you always avoid the games. It takes away from the fun to think of you sitting in another room, drinking alone. Play with us, si vous plaît. “ He smiled at you, stepping closer to you, leading you to take a step back into the counter.

“I just..I’m allowed to not want to do something, Gilbert.” You huffed, moving to sit on the counter.

“I can tell when you’re lying ma chérie. It’s my superpower.” He pressed, and you rolled your eyes at him. He was right, and he definitely knew you too well, best friend or not.

“It’s none of your business. “ You took another drink, avoiding his fairly intense stare.

“Tell me and I’ll leave you to your wallowing.”

“I am not wallowing!” You huffed, pushing at his shoulder. “Is it a crime to not want to risk having to make out with Hamilton?”

“We can hear you!” Alex called from the room you’d left him in. A blush rose to your cheeks, wondering just how loud the both of you had been.

“Good!” You called back, glad you had an excuse to look away from Laf.

“Y/N. Just tell me.” Lafayette whispered at you now. He looked genuine, like you not playing spin the bottle actually affected his life.

You sighed, shoulders falling as you gave in. “I’ve never been kissed, okay? I’m not about to play some stupid game just for someone to pull back and laugh at me.” Your voice was quiet, but sharp.

“Y/ N. Is that all?” He was laughing, but still quiet, keeping listening ears to wonder.

“I’m serious! Go away now. We had a deal.”

“Kiss me. Then you’ll have some practice. And we can go play. That is such a silly reason to miss out on such fun. “ He offered, and you choked on your beer.

“Excuse me?” You looked at him like he’d grown an extra head.

“C’mon. Just kiss me.” He made a dramatic puckered face, and you leaned down, as if you were going to kiss him.

Instead, you leaned into, and whispered “You wish” in his ear. But Laf turned his head as you were pulling back, a hand threading through your hair to keep you there, lips catching yours.

Your first thought was to pull away, but instead you let yourself lean into it, bringing your hand to his shoulder to steady yourself.

“See? That was not so bad, no?” He smiled at you after pulling away. You hadn’t realized just how short your breath had gotten until you had a chance to properly take a breath in.

“I’m still way too out of practice for that shit.” You mumbled, daring him to try again. This time your hips were pulled forward, always off the counter.

“Guess we’ll just have to put in some more practice.” He leaned back in, lips back on yours almost instantly. Your cheeks flushed, warmth radiating between you both.

You were still on the counter, but that didn’t mean much, the man was a goddamn giant. Your lips moved against his, following whatever lead he set.

It wasn’t exactly like you had to think much about it, but there was still a part if you that thought he’d pull away and laugh at had bad you were at this. In an amazingly uncharacteristic move for him, granted.

But it didn’t happen. You felt his hand wrap around your hip, tugging you closer to him. Some part of you knew that it was getting to the point where there was a line you were gonna cross, but you didn’t want to stop.

Your arm wrapped around Lafayette’s shoulder, nipping at his lip. He took it as an invitation to deepen the kiss, leaning into you, forcing your head to tilt back a little.

You let yourself get lost in the kiss, thoughts going from what it meant to nothing more than the electricity coursing through your body.

That was until you heard a cough, tearing you out of the state of bliss you’d found yourself in.

Laf pulled away from you and both of your heads snapped towards the source of the noise. Laurens and Hamilton were standing there, Alex looking particularly smug with his hand stretched out.

John slapped some bills in the hand, grumbling before smiling at the both of you and turning to walk away.

“I ah, guess we should go play,yeah?” You turned back to look at Lafayette, ignoring the fact that your face felt like it was on fire. Ignoring the fact that you definitely had to talk about this at some point. Just trying to gather your bearings.

“Non. “He shook his head, and you shot him a confused look. “I would rather not see anyone but myself do these things” He explained, before leaning back into you and you were lost in him all over again.

i heard the earth fits nine hundred and sixty thousand times into the sun and i don’t know about you but that kind of makes me feel like i am shrinking. in middle school my favorite word was infinitesimal. i think i read it in a lois lowry book. i wrote a lot of poems back then about how the mountains made me feel small but did you know there’s this star canis majoris that’s seventy quadrillion times the size of earth? i don’t know quite how we got here but i know better than to call it a coincidence.

i really only think about god on sundays. i really only pray when i need something. i spend more time angry than i do grateful. someone tells me blue-haired poets are supposed to know better than to believe this kind of thing. i say i still don’t know if i do.

what i’m trying to say is, i know there’s something out there. i think it takes more faith to believe in a perfect explosion so maybe this is just me taking the easy way out. i am still picking gravel from my knees from all the places i’ve knelt and felt nothing. i keep asking questions and getting no answers. i keep praying anyway. i don’t know where this leaves me. my bible is always contradicting itself but can i really complain when all i’ve done here is change my mind?

there’s this star canis majoris that’s seventy quadrillion times the size of earth. there are seven billion people on this planet made of seven billion billion billion atoms each. do you feel it now? that shrinking feeling, the one i was talking about? do you feel like god might be real? how could you call this an accident? i don’t think i believe in miracles but i don’t know how else to explain this. i don’t know how else to believe in anything.

god, if you’re out there, i’m sorry. if you aren’t, i’m sorry too.

—  s(hr)inking feeling, sarah kate osborn