quotes by joanna strafford

I really give credit to those who change for the better, who realize their own negative or toxic way of thinking has prevented themselves from moving forward or has prevented others from realizing their own potentials. True confidence does not come from knocking down other people but by encouraging those people to strive to be better.

No matter what happened in the past, you can change. You can improve. You can be better than the person you were yesterday and you can make a difference in your life. The ball is in your court.

And remember your dreams are valid; don’t make anyone feel they have the right to keep you from soaring too high into the sun.

It’s your flight, if they were so concerned about you getting burned they would have giving you sun block before you ventured out into the unknown. Only insecure people will try to clip your wings, before you even had the chance to know how far you could fly.

—  Joanna Strafford
I don’t use people’s faults or flaws against them to win an argument, because they are not mine to use. Only thieves take things that don’t belong to them. But I do give the truth and that’s worth more than anything in the world. So listen to it. Understand it. And learn from it.
—  Joanna Strafford
Just because a person claims that they are a good person doesn’t get them off the hook when they do bad things. In the end they should be held just as accountable for their behavior as anyone else would. Real people will always fess up to everything they’ve done wrong, make it up to people they unintentionally hurt in the past and not filter their behavior with excuses. If you are good person, you would  make a consistent effort to do the right thing no matter what it takes, no matter the cost.
—  Joanna Strafford      http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/
And those who have treated you bad in the past, don’t want to hear how strong  you are now after everything they put you through. Putting you down or treating you second was not an act of theirs to make you stronger. But you will always show them that life is about experiences and experiences make you who you are today. And karma is the result of what you put back in the world, so make it count and make it right. And strength comes from your ability to let go and move on to a place where happiness and love can be shared with people that appreciate your time and your value your journey.
The more you keep on just living your own life, the more you will keep on proving them wrong.
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Joanna Strafford

http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/ 

I know some people will “say that you can’t change someone who doesn’t see an issue within their actions.” But if those people are still effected by everything you have to say, somewhere deep down inside they realize that their actions are wrong, they are just too stubborn to admit when they are and are too much of a coward to change them.
—  Joanna Strafford, Tangled
A transformation or metamorphosis is a personal journey: It has nothing to do with what they want, or he wants or she wants or what society wants for us. It has to do with what WE want and what WE need. Our changes will happen whether they agree on those changes or choices or ideas.
A metamorphosis cannot be stopped, just as a caterpillar cannot be stopped from growing into a butterfly.  No one can stop you from being the person you are meant to be. Your life is your life, so always allow your change or metamorphosis be a personal one.
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Joanna Strafford

http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/ 

I don’t use people’s faults or flaws against them to win an argument, because they are not mine to use. Only thieves take things that don’t belong to them. But I do give the truth and that’s worth more than anything in the world. So listen to it. Understand it. And learn from it.
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Joanna Strafford

http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/

It’s  better to ignore something that makes you jealous then to pretend to be happy for the person you keep on pretending for. It’s a song and a dance that you should have given up on trying to learn, because the moves are all wrong. Stop pretending to be something you are not, stop creating lies to foreshadow the truth of your insecurities. Not everything is about you. Work hard for your own achievements; Give yourself something to believe in, but don't stand in the light of those who are just trying to succeed. Create your own light. Create your own opportunities.
—  Joanna Strafford
You taught me how to keep calm, you taught me how to stay strong. You taught me how to focus on what is truly important and how to disregard what isn’t. Those are the lessons I needed and will always need. Thank you for being there. There are only certain people that come into our lives that will make a big impact in good ways. Remember, who they are and stay loyal to them. True friends are hard to come by and sometimes even harder to be. Do your best at doing what is right.
—  Joanna Strafford
Open-mindedness needs to stand behind every thought, every action and every conscious effort for change to grow into something better. With this, you will able to change with your surroundings without losing your values or what stands important to you. You will be able to welcome new experiences and understand different approaches to life. You will face challenges or obstacles without self-doubt being the one thing to stand in your way and where risk will overcome the dark clouds of fear. Your strength will blossom. You will have the chance to experience life to the fullest. And maybe life experiences are not what you ever planned them to be, but in the end you accepted those chances and made them your own. Remember this, remember this always. You have what it takes.
—  Joanna Strafford
If you find yourself complaining about the friends that are around you for not appreciating you for who you are, then maybe it’s time to change the friends that you surrounded yourself with. Don’t hang out with negative people and then complain about how negative they are. You may not be able to change the people around you, but you can certainly change the settings and those settings will allow you to move on to bigger and better things. Find your own self worth and realize that you deserve to be around people who will go out of their way to make you ‘smile’ not vice versa. Don’t explain to the people that you need to cut ties from, just cut them from your life. Most of them will feel they either have a part in your life or deserve to be a part of your life without actually making an effort to be there in a positive way. If you do nothing to change the environment that you find yourself in, then you will never see positive changes.
—  Joanna Strafford
My biggest pet peeve are those certain people who refuse to let go of old ideas or cannot adjust to your ability to move on. Don’t be invested in placing yourself in stories that you had nothing to do with influence of creating. Write your own stories and dedicate your time with filling those pages with your thoughts, words, and ideas. Take the time to see how far you could go instead of wondering how far I will go. Believe me, you will be thankful that you quit being invested in what everyone is doing and learn how to make things happen for yourself.
—  Joanna Strafford
Yes, it’s hard to forgive certain friends who have the habit of making the same mistake of hurting you. No matter how many times they’ll say they’ve changed or even somehow proved it, you just don’t trust them enough to give them a complete second chance or how many chances you have left to give. It is not because you are mortally wounded and it will never heal. It’s because you just don’t have the time.  Yeah, that’s right. It’s sad to admit but sometimes life get’s just too short to care or to be inconvenienced.
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Joanna Strafford

http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/

Remember the world doesn’t stop spinning when your life feels like it is collapsing all around you. And that’s the most important lesson to learn. If your perception only allows you to see things in a closed-minded view on the world, then you will never learn anything new. When you won’t allow yourself to be open to new ideas, new experiences or different perspectives, that’s a sad life to live. Remember keep an open mind and you will go far in life, keep parading on and you will find what you are looking for.
People will get tired of you being happy, people will get tired of you being sad. But what did it ever have to do with any of them anyway? Forget them and keep on doing what is best for you. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter what you do as long as it gets you to better places than they could ever be. In the end no matter how happy, how sad, or how successful you are, they’ll still find something to complain about.
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Joanna Strafford

http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/

People who are too invested in your life for the wrong reasons, don’t want you to move on because moving on means that you don’t need their approval or acceptance or friendship anymore to get what you want in life. The truth is that you never really needed them to begin with. Successful people don’t have time for fake friends. If these so called ‘friends,’ were never truly there for you in a way that mattered but only for the entertainment value, when you finally found a better place to be, they will continue to make a fuss about it, now that they are bored.
—  Joanna Strafford (Becoming Joanna Strafford: The Collected Quotes and Writings Vol 3,)
I don’t use people’s faults or flaws against them to win an argument, because they are not mine to use. Only thieves take things that don’t belong to them. But I do give the truth and that’s worth more than anything in the world. So listen to it. Understand it. And learn from it.
—  Joanna Strafford
Those you have to constantly explain yourself to have either never intended to understand you or don’t have the capacity to understand you other than what they have chosen to perceive you to be. Either way you are you for a reason and you were given the right to see life the way you need to see it. Never let anyone judge your journey for they have not or will never get the chance to see it through your own eyes. But remember: You understand you well enough to know what you need or where you need to be. And that’s all that really matters.
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Joanna Strafford 

http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/

Lessons, Change and moving on

Sometimes I wonder how come certain people haven’t learned their own lessons yet. It took me a long enough time to realize that they are either too stubborn to learn those lessons for themselves or are are just too invested in the lessons of others and whether they finally moved on from a past they know nothing about. 

You can’t give a heart to the heartless, you cannot give a lesson to someone who refuses to learn the value of it. You can’t make people believe when they are closed off to the truth. You cannot make a person appreciate others when they struggle or are without the capacity to understand people who are different. And most people who come into your life don’t purposely want to hurt you or let you down, it just happens. In the end they wouldn’t feel honored for teaching you how to let go or would expect an award for those lessons they feel they needed to teach you. 

Those who are invested in you for the wrong reasons won’t give you room to be who you are meant to be without suffocating you with their own expectations or with the expectations of others.  Most people who expect an award for teaching you to let go have have refused to learn their own life lessons. And we end up trusting the wrong people or expect too much from a friend who was only willing to give so little. But that’s a lesson that we give to ourselves. In the end not everyone is worth the time or the effort we bestow onto them. But we learn to let go to make room for things that are better.

Change only works through effort. Actions are necessary to make changes. Saying you are a good person is not the same as being a good person. But actions will prove it whether people want to believe or acknowledge it or not. In the end you will prove what you need to prove; no time wasted. 

Sometimes it takes a change to make a change. And I know that I am in a better place because of it. When you finally get the chance to truly walk away from a negative or toxic situation it, new doors will open. I am very receptive to things or situations that I have outgrown or since then has become too toxic for me to be around. In the end life has always given me a chance to make something of myself and throughout the setbacks or obstacles it has not made me bitter. And that’s the most important thing. I will always give the good fight right up till the end.

Remember, the more you spend trying to tell people how many doors of theirs are unlocked, you’ll over see the many doors you haven’t tried to open or chapters you haven’t closed in your own book. Remember, when you move on, your past is where it needs to be to remind you how far you’ve come not how far you still need to go. 

Pretty words may not always be true, they just read really well on paper. But fiction is made so you can write the truth without offending the people who need most things to be sugarcoated so it won’t disturb the illusions they’ve created to live in. 

The best you can do for anyone is to give them the space to be who they need to be, and to let them follow the dreams they were destined to catch. Life is hard enough when people decide to remain cold and un-enchanted with the possibility of positive change. You may carry the idea of harsh reality or unaffected truths but you don’t need to affect the world with it. The universe is still a big enough place to allow each person their own dreams and realities, so try not to over crowd it.

Thoughts are everything. The starting point and ending point of everything good and bad. Remember, you are in control. So make the best of your thoughts now.

Your life is on the horizon of changes, new beginnings, new chapters and adventures. This is for you to discover on a road only meant for you. Don’t let anyone convince you to turn left when you need to turn right. Don’t allow anyone to lure you back to a past that no longer defines your life, your choices, or future.

This ones for you.

Keep reminding yourself of this. Take a deep breath. Move forward without negative thoughts. This is your journey; anyone that has their own journey wouldn’t have time to worry so much about yours. So keep on moving forward. Don’t care what anyone thinks. Keep on doing for you. And if you find yourself feeling lost, helpless, afraid, or are drawn to toxic friends that really don’t have anything positive to offer you in a friendship, repeat this sentence:

“The only people who are stuck in the past are the ones that have to constantly remind you of yours.”

Remember you are heading to amazing places. Keep your head up and stay strong!

—  Joanna Strafford