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Despite all, I find truly interesting just how much a trauma can change someone. 

Up to when I was 8, I used to take inumerous selfies with all my toys. People had to beg me to stand still for more than a minute and I vaguely remember to be a loud, energetic and happy child. Just a few years ago, the resemblance I had to that past was close to none.

Don’t get me wrong though - I wouldn’t change anything even if I could, and I’m not the type of person who holds grudges against others. But it gets really bothersome when people who knew you from before come to you and ask “What happened?” in such an accusatory, sad tone.

Everyone goes through shit at some point. People change. Trauma fucks them up. But none of that makes them less valid and if anything, your question is likely to make them feel guilty for absolutely no reason at all. It’s not their fault. You can’t talk like they’re to blame, or say they should change for “a greater good” because to you they were “better” before, especially if such a long time has already passed.

Remember that, please.

anonymous asked:

Do you have a view on this article? www (.) withanaccent (.) com/2016/07/27/sherlock-a-case-of-sexual-identity/ ? It is making me very sad - it seems so earnest a denial. I am sad.

(Article)

Okay, so this must be the thing everyone is upset about right now. Hmm. 

Yeah, you know what Nonny? This sounds NOTHING like our dads and it COMPLETELY contradicts the atmosphere and attitudes of everyone at the con and EVERYTHING that they stand for and EVERYTHING that they have been trying to do since TAB. Ask yourself this: Why the hell would a gay man queerbait in a day and age when you no longer need to? Honestly, it’s quite ridiculous, if you ask me.

I do not know for 100% certain, but I have learned from @vanetti  that there are reports of people asking for the transcripts of the so-called interviews and requesters are vehemently blocked AND past articles on the site are problematic (post 1) (post 2) (post 3). The author’s twitter is rather distasteful as well, very childish behaviour for someone who is supposedly a media professional. AND Vanetti has responded excellently here, so read that.

Until I see some proof from more reputable sources, or the context within which these quotes were written, like the Guardian or Independent, I’m going to take this with a grain of salt. One negative article out of the entire positive vibe of the weekend isn’t going to dissuade me, nosiree. Honestly, I have written WAY too much meta and analysed the SHIT out of the subtext of this show to believe anything other than Johnlock is the intention of Mofftiss. Do Mofftiss say problematic things? Sure, they’re only human. But a journalist who refuses to cite sources is highly suspicious to me. I’ve worked in news for 10 years – that kind of shit can get you into all kinds of trouble.

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myomers
and kerosenes
are nice and all
but there are things
that put to shame
all but a few -
and that is what
i think of you

i pay good money
and make good choice
and yet i am denied a voice
by my rote muscle’s slow descent
for reasons not quite apparent
cloud and care do forsake me
it is all i can do to find a tree
and cling to trunk like squalling brat
like fission’s child, like weakest sprat
and let the bark become my tongue -
become mother nature’s lung.

anonymous asked:

it baffles me that anyone could defend jessa; she is so textbook abusive. like. literally. @ anyone defending her please come forward and share with us just one difference between her and the Victim archetype in this book staghunts(.)tumblr(.)com/post/129731030533

i’m screaming (linked post here) this is??? omg she really does nail a bunch of these points, like, 100% accurately (i’m directly quoting the screenshots, bolding is mine because of the accuracy):

“When you accuse me of being abusive, you are joining the parade of people who have been cruel and unfair to me. It proves you’re just like the rest.”

“It’s justifiable for me to do to you whatever I feel you are doing to me, and even to make it quite a bit worse to make sure you get the message.”

“I’ve had it so hard that I’m not responsible for my actions.”

“I am not responsible for my actions because of my psychological or substance problems.”

“If you challenge me about my abusiveness, you are being mean to me, considering these other problems I have. It also shows that you don’t understand my other problems.”

“I’m not abusive, I’m just _____ (alcoholic, drug addicted, manic-depressive, an adult child of alcoholics, or whatever his condition may be).”

“If you challenge me, it will trigger my addiction or mental illness, and you’ll be responsible for what I do.”

“I’m against the macho men, so I couldn’t be abusive.”

“Nothing in the world is more important than my feelings.”

i’ve heard really good things about this book, thank you for bringing this to my attention!

so i just got offered a job doing something I love to do and im excited but it means quitting the job i’ve been doing that lets me work from home and I’d have to move across the country in 2 weeks and I have no where to live and no car or anything plus I dont know anybody there and i’m nervous and feel like i’m going to throw up lol

I’ve seen people make these three friends and it’s so pure and wholesome that I just have to agree

therefore: casual hangouts~

We are just alike. You’re as alone as I am.

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hello, i’m late. nice to meet you, dad... yuu-san seems to have had quite a day playing around with mika

When I was at the Royal Shakespeare Theatre a few weeks ago, they had these Emoji Shakespeare books in the gift shop.  They made me laugh.  I had to get the Hamlet one, just because.  It was cute.  I may have to get more…

s.t.r.e.s.s.e.d.

Interview with Tahereh Mafi:

’“Why do you think love triangles appeal to readers?’

I don’t think it’s appealing at all. I think in real life a love triangle is probably one of the most horrendous things you could ever be caught in the middle of. It seems like it would be extremely painful and complicated and just ugly.

What’s interesting though is that I never really thought of this story as being a love triangle because I already know who she’s going to end up with. When people started calling it a love triangle, I was like, “Really?” I’m not going to try to fight it because it seems like she’s torn between two guys, But in the third book it’s made very clear what’s going to happen.”’

WHAT ARE YOU SHITTING ME WHAT DO YOU MEAN NO LOVE TRIANGLE SHE KNOWS WHO SHE’S GONNA END UP WITH OMGGGG SOMEBODY SHOOT ME ALREADY

anonymous asked:

I love how if you go to the tag it's all a bunch of straight ships talking about how they finally exposed us. Honey if you're all straight don't you think that should tell you something?

Them: “…what do you mean we’re homophobic??? I ship these two guys on that one TV show and my third cousin twice removed is one of them gays and I haven’t murdered him yet!!! I’m not a bigot!”

Me:

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