Pearl is the only one who actually decided that they needed to stop trying to get Rose back.
Amethyst and Garnet keep trying to get Rose to come back in their own ways, and don’t know what to do when their plans fail.
So Pearl takes Steven and thinks she’s probably just going to poof him, NOT kill him, and when he reforms he’ll just reform as Rose. I don’t even think she thought what she was doing could even result in the death of Steven.
And yet, she stops herself either way. Knowing that Rose, the love of her life, wanted to do this more than anything. She thinks removing his gem will bring Rose back and she STILL decides to respect what Rose originally wanted.
And that’s how much she loves Rose. But now 14 years later and with so much growth, Pearl has come to love Steven with everything in her. And I don’t think for one freaking second that she resents him today.
I love this character and I will continue to defend her to the end of time sorry.