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anonymous asked:

Day 23, 2/27/17 - What do you think of "Purity Balls", "Abortion" and "Friends with Benefits" ?

I’m laughing so hard at “purity balls” I can’t even answer the question!!!

I know what they are but I just am picturing testicles with angel halos and wings….. I can not stop laughing

Emerging from the Sinus Haze

So, the doctor last week said I should use a nose spray for two weeks before switching to antibiotics, but I felt like such crap by Saturday evening that I said fuck it and started taking antibiotics. THEY ARE MAGIC. 

but now

a) I am realizing how much I let fall by the wayside in the past MONTH, sorry EVERYONE WHO EMAILED ME and anyone who asked me even a slightly detailed question in asks

b) I am back at work and expected to be a competent human being especially since half the team is now out sick (probably my fault). Also one of our newest analysts is very sweet and has imprinted on me just a little – I am her preferred question-answerer, I think – which is fine except for how I gotta know answers and stuff. 

And one of the highest-up guys in our company – who I used to smartass around with because I didn’t know he was one of the highest up guys in our company – emailed me today like I NEED. A THING. PLEASE. NOW. HELP. and I, having realized Who Exactly He Is, made tiny mental screams of terror while procuring the thing. 

It’s been a day.

anonymous asked:

But you don't know Benedict.

Ah, now this is a topic I’ve been lucky enough to discuss with some dear mutuals over the years, so let me see if I can do an answer justice.

Of course, we can never know the man, not truly; that is only for the very lucky few that are a part of his life, his world.  But there is so much we can deduce of him, based upon his work, his words, his public deeds and behavior.  

If you look at his work alone, you see incredible natural talent that he has refined through dedication & physical and mental discipline; you see a love of the written & spoken word; and most especially you see a keen & compassionate understanding of the human condition–for how else could he bring such breathtaking truth to all of his characters?  Even the wicked ones, like Khan & Richard III–he makes us feel that even they have reasons for the things they do, often rooted in emotional/psychological pain.  Though the evil they do is no less evil, we can sympathize to some degree, with what brought them to that place.  In my lifetime I have seen no player more truly & more lovingly—in Shakespeare’s words—hold the mirror up to nature.

In interviews & public appearances, you find a humble, self-effacing man, a bright wit, & sense of humor generous enough to make himself as likely a target of jesting as anyone or anything else.  He values home, hearth, family, the environment, although he could easily give over to hedonism on his bank account. How many times do we see him wearing the same clothes, carrying that same blue water bottle on set, even brown bagging his lunches at times?Choices, I’m sure, that reflect his commitment to simplicity and to reduce his carbon footprint. Benedict’s charitable works have been well-recorded on this site, so I’m not going to research it, but when I run across a post about it, I’ll be sure to reblog for info’s sake.

I won’t speak at length about his personal relationships, except to say that’s a man who loves his wife thoroughly. It would frankly break my heart to learn he had the same feet of clay of so many other public figures & celebrities in this regard—what I see tells me he and Sophie have the real thing. And that he guards his little family’s privacy so jealously is further testament to that.

In short, (though this runs long) I trust my eyes & ears, and they tell me to trust in the public image that is clearly on view.  I see a man who gives as much positive energy to the world as he can, and embraces life with complete joie de vivre.  And as I believe in the human soul, I see a most spectacular one that shines luminously, not only enhancing his unique physical beauty, but reminding me that true good is possible in a world that is often quite selfish & mean.

I could probably go on with dozens of more examples, but let me just finish with one of my favorite photos of him, which for me reflects (I hope) a bit of what I’ve written here.

Thank you for your ask–it was a delight to answer! ❤❤❤

Nct as things I've witness in my honors English class

Taeil: teacher giving students a 20 page packet to read and summerize + another story for a test. All due the next class they have together

Hansol: sits in the back and shoots hair ties at people until someone slaps him

Johnny: answers the phone when the teacher is out in an fake Asian accent but no one rats him out

Taeyong: brings febreeze because the person sitting in front of them smells

Yuta: asks a lot of questions that will get the teacher triggered so they can waste class time. Ex.“Harry Potter sucks. Why do you even like it” the teacher then proceeds to spend half of class explaining why and how hurt he is

Kun: sits in front and no one knows who tf they are but the one time the teacher does call on them everyone is shook because their voice is so nice

Doyoung: salty 25/8 and refuses to do any work but somehow has an A in that class

Ten: holds hand with the person in front of them for the whole class and everyone is just used to it. Was once asked why and answered with ‘they have really soft hands’. That was when everyone realized that they had a big thing for hands ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

Jaehyun: gets really hungry and the teacher won’t let them bring in food for because it’s 'unfair’ so brings in a giant bag of eggrolls to share but eats the majority of it

Winwin: teacher’s favorite student that always gets to keep their phone even though they were on it during class. the teacher proceeds to take everyone’s phone that he sees out of their pockets

Mark: said 'I Want To Die’ too loud in class and got pulled out to have a talk with the teacher about how it is not funny to joke around like that but is laughing the whole time. Convo went like this: “are you getting mentally or physically abused” “no” “don’t lie to me” “okay” “now it’s okay to be getting abused” “but I’m not getting abused” “it’s okay if you don’t want to talk about it” “???”

Haechan: got someone else to do their homework but the other person trolled them and messed up their homework by writing comments like 'this is stupid’, 'this class is fucking boring’ and 'no one is gonna read this because this is sucky like this class

Renjun : legitimate angel that will lend you notes when you nap if you give them a piece of coffee candy

Chenle: if they don’t get to sit next to their best friend will get all moppy and depressing. also gets triggered af when their best friend isn’t there and will throw a tantrum

Jeno:brought a pillow to class and swore he was not taking a nap and just 'resting his eyes’

Jaemin: teacher told this kid to stop smiling because it was creepy af and laughs at the most inappropriate times

Jisung: broke down when they had to do their final presentation and still got an A

anonymous asked:

I hear the term "weights" often in heathen circles. I know little more than that they are land-spirits. I would like to learn more about them and how they were honored and their place in old nordic practices. I thought you might be willing to share some of what you know, or some resources you recommend I explore? If it's not a hassle.

Sæll (eða sæl) vinur,
(Hello friend,)

No question is ever a hassle, my friend. I am more than happy to share my knowledge regarding vættir (nature spirits). Not all vættir are land sprits, though, for those are often referred to as landvættir. Still, vættir of the land seem to be the most common and most often interacted with, so I will focus our discussion on them specifically. To be honest, they are a particularly favorite subject of mine! I wrote a lot, so I am structuring this answer as an essay, which I hope you do not mind. It should help to organize the content!

On Landvættir: An Exploration of Primary Source Examples and Suggestions for Further Reading.

It is not surprising that we know fairly little about them, because they are quite elusive in our surviving texts. This is mainly because they are not always referred to directly being ‘landvættir’, but rather are referred to indirectly. The landvættir, from what I know of them, do not even appear in our eddic sources, but perhaps indirectly and vaguely, if they do. I also do suppose some people align the landvættir with the álfar (elves), which is reasonable. If this is done, they do appear in eddic material, in a way. Yet, even so, they still remain quite vague even in those sources. In the end, references to the landvættir seem to mostly be hidden gems scattered throughout other materials, such as Landnámabók (Book of Settlements) and the Íslendingasögur (Sagas of the Icelanders).

What are ‘Vættir’?

It is good to begin with solid footing, so let’s begin with a bit of an introduction to what a vættr (weight, or nature sprint) is:

“There were various kinds of nature spirits that the Icelanders (and other Scandinavians) believed in, and sometimes gave sacrifices to. There are early references to elves (álfar) in mainland Scandinavia. Like their modern-day equivalents, the “hidden people” (and expression used in both Norway and Iceland), these would have been of human size. Even close to nature were the guardian spirits of the land, or landvættir which inhabited the landscape. The welfare of the inhabitants of the country depended on their welfare and support, as can be seen in Egil’s Saga, ch. 58, when Egil raises a scorn-pole (níð) facing the guardian spirits of Norway. According to Ulfljot’s Law, people approaching Iceland by sea had to remove the dragon-heads from the prows of their ships to avoid frightening the guardian spirits.”(1.)

From that, we can gather a few things: that there are many more types of vættir than just those who inhabit the land (although those will be the ones I mostly focus on in this discussion), that there is a long, evolving tradition surrounding them that lasts even into current times, and that they held considerable influence over the lands they inhabited, and even over the people who lived in those lands.

The Landvættir Today (Iceland):

Speaking of modern-day representations, the landvættir live on in Iceland’s coat of arms (a dragon, a bird, a bull, and a mountain giant):

Their story is told in Snorri Sturluson’s Heimskringla, or more precisely in The Saga of Olaf Tryggvason contained therein:

“King Haraldr (as in Bluetooth, the son of Gorm) told a man skilled in magic to go in changed shape to Iceland and  find out what he could tell the king. He went in the form of a whale. And when he came to the land, he went westwards round the north of the country. He saw that all the mountains and hills were full of land-spirits (landvættir), some large and some small. And when he came opposite Vápnafjǫrðr, then he went into the fjord and was going to go ashore. Then there went down along the valley a great dragon, and with it many snakes, toads and vipers, and spat poison on him. And he swam away and westwards along the coast, right up to Eyjafjǫrðr. He went in along that fjord. There a bird went against him, so large that its wings reached out to the mountains on both sides, and a multitude of other birds both large and small. He went away from there and westwards round the coast and so south to Breiðifjǫrðr and made to go into that fjord. There a huge bull went against him and waded out into the sea and began to bellow horribly. A multitude of land-spirits came with it. He went away from there and southwards round Reykjanes and tried to go up onto Víkarsskeið. There a mountain giant came against him with an iron staff in his hand, and his head rose higher than the mountains, and many other giants with him. From there he went eastwards along the whole length of the coast.”(2.)

Thus, these landvættir have a long history, stetting far back into at least the medieval period. From this example, we can tell that they were very powerful. Not only that, though, but that the land was “full of landvættir.” Yet, this example shows their menacing power to outsiders, but what about those living among them? For this, we shall turn to the Landnámabók.

Examples from Landnámabók:

Iceland seems to have provided us with the unique opportunity of gaining some minor insights into how native settlers treated the landvættir. Below are three examples of three different settlers interacting with these spirits:

Bjorn Gnupsson (Hafr-Bjorn):

“One night Bjorn dreamed that a cliff-giant came and offered him partnership, and that he accepted the offer. Afterwards a strange billy-goat came to join his herd of goats, and his livestock began to multiply so fast that soon he was a wealthy man. After that he was called Hafr-Bjorn (Goat-Bjorn). People with second sight could see that all the guardian spirits of the land accompanied him when he attended the Althing, and Thorstein and Thord (his brothers) when they went out fishing.”(3.)

In this example, Hafr-Bjorn befriends a landvættr that is referred to as a cliff-giant, or, in some other versions I believe, as a cliff or rock-dweller. He was actually offered this friendship from the landvættr itself in a dream, which demonstrates a possible method for communication with a landvættr. Furthermore, this example reveals the benefits to such a relationship, which was usually prosperity in land-related activities, such as the raising of livestock and fishing. Hafr-Bjorn and his brothers must have treated these spirits with great respect to have earned their friendship, and the benefits of such relations are clearly worthwhile. Also, this example shows us that seeing the landvættir required a special skill, or “second sight,” so not everyone could nor can see these spirits.

Olvir Eysteinsson:

“Olvir Eysteinsson took possession of land east of Grims River where no one had dared to settle for fear of land-spirits, since Hjorleif was killed there.” (4.)

Hjorleif was a blot-brother of Ingolf’s, the alleged first settler of Iceland.(5.) He was killed by a another man’s (Dufthak) slaves while looking for a bear in the woods.(6.) Yet, it was also mentioned earlier that he “would never sacrifice to the gods.”(7.) Regardless, his death laid a bad omen across that land, which is felt even when, many years later, a settler named Olvir comes along (as told above). This example, although short, demonstrates even the native fear of the power that the landvættir held, and that if their land was disrespected, it would likely not result in peaceful times for the settlers living there.

Thorstein Red-Nose (son of Hrolf Red-Beard):

“Thorstein Red-Nose was a great sacrificer. He used to make sacrifices to the waterfall and all the left-overs had to be thrown into it. He could see clearly into the future. Thorstein had all his sheep counted and they numbered 2400; after that they all jumped over the wall of the fold. Thorstein had so many sheep because each autumn he could see which of the sheep were doomed to die, and he had those slaughtered. That’s why he always had so many. The last autumn of his life, he said at the sheep-fold, ‘Now you can slaughter any of the sheep you life. Either I’m doomed to die or the sheep are doomed, or all of us are.’ The night he died, all the sheep got swept into the waterfall by a gale.”(8.)

This example is fascinating, because we kind of must piece things together to truly get the depth behind it. Thorstein was sacrificing the a landvættr that lived in a waterfall. It seems that this landvættr granted him this ability of foresight to enhance his skill in maintaining his sheep. I find this to be the case because, at the end of this example, the sheep are ‘returned’ to the waterfall once Thorstein passes away, therefore connecting the sheep to the waterfall through Thorstein. Once he was gone, the connection was broken and the landvættr took what was rightfully its.

All of these examples serve to demonstrate the various aspects of the landvættir that you asked about. They were honored much like the gods themselves were, it seems, although suitable information to ‘prove’ this is still to be desired. They either came to you in a dream, like one did with Hafr-Bjorn, or they would be won over through generous sacrifice, as was seen with Thorstein. They were respected and given appreciation to keep them in good spirits. After all, when angered or ignored, they could cause fear, as seen with the case of Olvir, or even destructive and threatening, as seen in the Saga of Olaf Tryggvason.

Examples from Icelandic Sagas and Tales:

If Landnámabók was not quite satisfying enough, there are still a few examples to be explored from Egil’s Saga and The Tale of Thorvald the Far-Travelled. For those reading this that are already well-read, it may seem odd for me to be leaving out Bard’s Saga. That example deals with vættir-related subject matter intensively, and I would rather recommend that as a full reading than except it as an example on this post, so I will return to Bard momentarily.

Egil’s Saga, chapter 58:

“He (Egil) took a hazel pole in his hand and went to the edge of a rock facing inland. Then he took a horse’s head and put it on the end of the pole.

Afterwards he made an invocation, saying, ‘Here I set up this scorn-pole (nið) and turn its scorn upon King Eirik and Queen Gunnhild’ - then turned the horse’s head to face land - ‘and I turn its scorn upon the nature spirits (vættir) that inhabit this land, sending them all astray so that none of them shall find its resting-place by chance or design until they have driven King Eirik and Gunnhild from this land.’

Then he drove the pole into a cleft in the rock and left it to stand there. He turned the head towards the land and carved the whole invocation in runes on the pole.”(9.)

In this example, we can see that people can actually ‘control’ the wrath of vættir, and they can even turn this wrath onto others, if they are skilled enough. Yet, in the case of Egil, he was wronged, and so he had right on his side (see footnote 9 for detail). Perhaps, then, vættir have a sense of justice even. Nonetheless, I suppose this is a sort of ritual, in which one would target their enemies with strong words, runes, and insulting imagery. Yet, it does hint that the vættir did play a social function as well. This was already indicated by the landvættir, who often protect the land and the people who dwell there, if they have a good relationship with them, of course. Thus, vættir can either protect people or attack them, depending on their relationship with the user and his or her skill.

Thorvald the Far-Travelled, chapter 3:

In this example, the ‘theme’ of a vættr is used very strategically by the author, so we must take caution in how we read this source. In the quote below, Thorvald talks with his father, Kodran, about converting to Christianity. Kodran responds (at first) by telling Thorvald that he has a ‘prophet’ who lives in some nearby stone, and that this prophet helps him in many ways. The author treats this prophet as a demon, although it seems that this figure is being built upon the tradition of the vættir.

“ ‘But I have another prophet of my own, who is very beneficial to me. He tells me many things which have not yet come to be. He takes care of my cattle, and reminds me what I should do and what I should avoid. That is why I have great faith in him and have worshipped him for a long time, but you are your prophet (a bishop named Fridrek) and your religion disparage him a great deal, and he dissuades me from making any agreements with you, and especially from taking your faith.’

‘Where does your prophet live?’ asked Thorvald.

‘He lives here, close by my farm,’ said Kodran, ‘in a large and imposing stone.’

Thorvald asked how long he had been living there.

Kodran said he had lived there for a long time.”(10.)

A few things should sound familiar by now. This is a landvættr, for he dwells within a stone. It also seems that we can conclude that landvættir are prophetic, because both here and with Thorstein Red-Nose in Landnámabók. The landvættir also tend to earthly things, such as livestock and farms, as we have seen with Hafr-Bjorn (goats), Thorstein Red-Nose (sheep), and now here with Kodran (cattle). The ‘prophet’ is also very old, which would not be surprising for a landvættr. Thus, it is not unreasonable to notice the connection here with landvættir, even though this tale never explicitly uses the term, which brings back a point made earlier that references to landvættir are like hidden gems scattered throughout our sources.

Recommendations for Further Reading:

It may be troublesome to randomly read sagas and tales with the hopes of stumbling upon one of these gems. Of course, I have already named a few that touch on the topic, but they are generally centered around other ideas and motives. If you want the short-cut method (other than just reading this post), I highly recommend you take a look into this source:

H.R. Ellis Davis, Myths and Symbols in Pagan Europe: Early Scandinavian and Celtic Religions(Syracuse University Press, 1989). 

This book would be the best way to learn about the material from a reliable place, and without scavenging the primary source material for information. Google has an eBook version that contains a preview, if you would like to check that out before purchasing. For the most direct information on landvættir, I recommend special attention be given to pages 102 through 133. In fact, I tried to make use of the examples discussed in her book as well, so that, if you choose to read it, things should be more familiar to you already. The whole book seems to be quite the gem, though, so you may be interested in that text for other purposes as well.

Regarding primary sources, you can investigate any of the sources I covered in this post by looking at the relevant footnotes. I will say, though, that I have mostly pulled what is relevant from the sources that you would have easy access to. For example, I would hate to recommend Egil’s Saga just for you to only have that portion of chapter 58 to read about regarding landvættir.

As I mentioned briefly before, I do highly recommend a complete reading of Bard’s Saga, although it may be difficult to acquire the text. I have done research on what English translations are available for all the Icelandic sagas and tales (you can see that information on this post), and, in this endeavor, I found that Bard’s Saga seems to only be reasonably accessible (in English) via this book: 

Ralph O’Connor, Icelandic Histories & Romances. (Tempus, 2004).

If you have trouble, don’t hesitate to let me know, because I would be more than happy to try to help you find a way to read that saga.


So, in the end, what have we learned?

  • Vættir are nature spirits, and people often sacrificed to them. Many of these vættir were called landvættir, but only those who lived in features of the land, such as waterfalls or large stones.
  • Landvættir (at least) can be in the form of animals, so they do not always take a human form.
  • Vættir could be friendly, but they could also be spiteful when angered, ignored, or disrespected.
  • Some landvættir protected entire regions or countries, whereas others protected local farmsteads. Sometimes they did not protect for the sake of humanity, but for themselves, and so if you are not on friendly terms with them, they will likely cause you great trouble.
  • Many people gave offerings to the landvættir to build a stronger relationship with them and the land. These offerings were not always material, but could also be offerings of respect and recognition, because some landvættir became friendly with people without the need for a formal sacrifice. Sometimes they would come to people in dreams, but only if they wished to.
  • A landvættr could offer a friend many gifts, but mostly prosperity in regards to the raising of livestock, in farming, and even in advice. Another frequent gift they would offer would be the gift of prophecy or foresight.
  • The vættir could be ‘manipulated’ in such a way to incite trouble for a foe, although this seems to require careful skill, for the user would not wish to disrespect the vættir him- or herself, lest they wish to incur their wrath. Yet, this could also be due to good relations.
  • Not everyone could see vættir, for this required a special ability referred to as “second-sight.”
  • Despite not holding a prominent place in Eddic material, other sources suggest that the vættir placed a very central and regional role within the confines of Norse heathenism, and even beyond. Many of the practices told above would ahem been a part of daily life, and can best be summed up as a deep respect, and sometimes fear, of the power of nature.
  • The tradition surrounding the vættir has lived on for quite a long time, existing likely even before Iceland was settled. The vættir still live on today in folklore and in national images such as Iceland’s coat of arms.

Seems like we have learned quite a bit! Of course, this is perhaps only just the surface of the complexity that surrounds the vættir, but it is still quite rich and rewarding. Besides, I have only discussed examples from Iceland. Nonetheless, I do hope that you and others benefit from this post, despite its possibly daunting length. Feel free to reach out to me in the future if the need arises. I am always happy to discuss these things!

Með vinsemd og virðingu,
(With friendliness and respect,)


1. Viðar Hreinsson, Reference Section: Glossary, in The Complete Sagas of Icelanders: Including 49 Tales, Vol. V, edited by Viðar Hreinsson, Robert Cook, Terry Gunnell, Keneva Kunz, and Bernard Scudder, (Reykjavík: Leifur Eiríksson Publishing, 1997), 413.

Fig.1. Coat of Arms of Iceland, Wikimedia Commons.

2. Snorri Struluson, The Saga of Olaf Tryggvason, in Heimskringla, Vol. I, translated by Alison Finlay and Anthony Faulkes. (Viking Society for Northern Research: University College London, 2016), 168. (Chapter 33)

3. Hermann Pálsson and Paul Edwards trans., The Book of Settlements: Landnámabók. (repr., 1972; Manitoba: University of Manitoba Press, 2012), 125. (Chapter 329, Sturlubók)

4. Ibid., 126. (Chapter 330, Sturlubók)

5. Ari Thorgilsson, The Book of the Icelanders: Íslendingabók, translated by Siân Grønlie. (Viking Society for Northern Research: University College London, 2006), 4.

“It is said with accuracy that a Norwegian called Ingólfr travelled from there [Norway] to Iceland for the first time when Haraldr the Fine-Haired was sixteen years old, and a second time a few years later; he settled in the south in Reykjarvík.”

6. Pálsson trans., The Book of Settlements, 20. (Chapter 8, Sturlubók)

7. Ibid., 19. (Chapter 7, Sturlubók)

8. Ibid., 134. (Chapter 329, Sturlubók)

9. Bernard Scudder trans., Egil’s Saga, in The Complete Sagas of Icelanders: Including 49 Tales, Vol. I, edited by Viðar Hreinsson, Robert Cook, Terry Gunnell, Keneva Kunz, and Bernard Scudder, (Reykjavík: Leifur Eiríksson Publishing, 1997), 114. (Chapter 58) I recommend referring to the Penguin edition (page 119), due to the expense of the version I have used in writing this post.

I actually stubbled upon another bit of information, a poem this time, contained earlier in this chapter (Verse 29, page 110. Penguin: page 114). This actually explains why Egil did not incur the wrath of the landvættir, because he had right on his side. Think of it as a treat for actually reading these footnotes:

“Land spirit, the law-breaker        – (‘land spirit’ appears here as ‘landalfr’).
has forced me to travel 
far and wide; his bride deceives
the man who slew his brothers.
Grim-tempered Gunnhild must pay
for driving me from this land.
In my youth, I was quick to conquer
hesitation and avenge treachery.”

10. John Porter trans., The Tale of Thorvald the Far-Travelled, in The Complete Sagas of Icelanders: Including 49 Tales, vol. V, edited by Viðar Hreinsson, Robert Cook, Terry Gunnell, Keneva Kunz, and Bernard Scudder, (Reykjavík: Leifur Eiríksson Publishing, 1997), 360. (Chapter 3)

anonymous asked:

Hiii, if u don't mind, I'd like to hear your opinion/perspective about this-Do you think TV Shadowhunters will ever explore more of a romantic relationship with Jace and Alec? Like they are setting Malec up to be the endgame it seems (which is fine too bc I like them) but the Jace and Alec romantic storyline could have great imo!! Especially because of the chemistry between Matthew and Dom..

nah the shows never going to explore a romantic relationship between jace and alec past what they’ve already done. malec is endgame, both in the books and on the show, and tbh i’m glad it is, i love that relationship. but i love jalec too, just in a different way.

i’ve always stipulated the the biggest draw to jalec for me is their relationship as it is - as parabatai, as best friends, as soulmates, etc. the romantic side of it i barely think about tbh. is it interesting? yes. i will always love a good pining, unrequited love story with some forbidden romance (since parabatai are forbidden to become romantic by the clave). jalec in that sense has all the makings of an intense and angst filled story, but that won’t be explored on the show. which imo is perfectly fine, i don’t need nor necessarily want it to be. 

i enjoy what we got on the show tbh. alec pining, his real and canon romantic feelings for jace, the struggle he had with it and what he would do for jace versus what he wouldn’t. his reaction when confronted by everyone (bc magnus, izzy, clary, and jace himself were all aware of alec’s feelings towards jace) was at times funny (clary) and at all times absolutely heartbreaking (jace). he was struggling to come into his own as a gay shadowhunter and accept that about himself in this society. he struggled with his feelings for jace and jealousy of clary. he struggled with jace, at times, treating him like a “lap dog” (as simon once said). it’s a beautifully complex, albeit tragic, thing, unrequited love. i think we can all relate to alec in that sense - when you want someone you just can’t have and know you will never have. 

i honestly think one of the most underrated moments of the jalec relationship shown on the show are the flashbacks. everyone loves the ceremony flashback (as do i) but i think the scene between alec and izzy where we see that, even back then, alec was in love with jace is incredibly powerful. because even with the pain he knows bonding himself to jace will bring considering he’s in love with him, he goes through with the ceremony anyway. he choses to bind himself to jace, forever, despite his romantic feelings for jace. i think there’s something so powerful in that, in alec knowing how important jace is to him, without regards to the romantic feelings, and wanting jace with him always. he knows it will hurt, and he’s struggling to come to terms with himself still, but he pushes through it because he knows he loves jace, outside of romantic feelings. he loves him and he wants to be connected with him. alec doesn’t choose to go through with the ceremony in some weird twisted way to make his romantic feelings stronger or bind jace to him for that purpose, he does it in spite of his feelings and for himself and jace and to be connected for how they already are, not what alec might wish they could be. i just… really love that. and you see too jace’s absolute joy and excitement that they’ve passed their last trial and can become parabatai. jace wants alec tied to him, he wants that bond. he loves alec so intrinsically he wants alec to have a piece of him and for alec to be a part of him.

and that flashback with izzy i think is also the ultimate answer to your question. izzy tells alec that one day someone will love him but to not give up on his parabatai bond with jace. and that’s how the show is - jace and alec are bonded, but alec is falling in love with magnus and that is who he’s going to end up with. and i think that’s the furthest exploration of a romantic jalec you’re ever going to get, and i kind of, well, i like it. 

i do also appreciate that matt and dom though have researched this concept. as dom said, “ [Matthew and I] even looked back into kind of the origins of the word “parabatai,” where they come from, and this, that, and the other. And we ended up going back as far as the Greeks, and [them] moving and fighting alongside other soldiers in such an intimate sense, was very heavy through Greek mythology, folklore, and Greek history. So we looked quite heavily into that and developed our own modern take on that. ” and they would’ve looked into that, the physical romances that did happen there, and the bonds shared. and i think they work to bring a bond and level of intimacy and tactile-ness to jalec. i think this is a large part of why dom plays jace looking so broken every time he fights with alec, and alec in 109 we see the pain it causes him to say no to jace. i think matt and dom do a good job of bringing that intensity, and absolute heartbreak when the fight, to jalec. you can feel their bond at times and how much they truly rely on each other/need each other. you heard it in the way jace didn’t care what happened to him in 203 as long as he could help alec, in the broken way he whispered “please don’t leave me, alec.” and then the look jace gives alec when he sees he’s alive and the look alec gives jace when he sees him in front of him - that is beautiful. matt and dom truly do bring a level of intimacy and profound love to them. you can see, feel, how important they are too each other, the way that they love each other deeper than any human bond.

my only… annoyance with the romantic jalec portrayal is that they’ve started to completely ignored it now. yes, we saw it again in the flashback, but the showrunners have doubled down on using the word brother every other sentence to try to distance it now (not that i will ever deny that jace is alec’s family. and also part of the lightwoods), and alec seems to be completely over his feelings for jace and is solely focused on magnus. would i like the show to explore that sometimes? yes. but not in a make jalec canon way. in a conversation maybe between alec and jace about those feelings, about alec pushing forward and moving on, and about jace being happy for him. something that was so beautiful to me was the way jace knew about alec’s feelings, but nothing changed. he still loved alec, he still hugged alec, he still wanted to be bonded to alec, he still told alec he loved him. they were still tactile. jace still rushed to make sure alec was okay after he was attacked by the forsaken. jace still couldn’t live without alec. jace still looked completely broken when alec said no to him and didn’t come with him. and i think there’s something so beautiful about jace, a straight man (i do believe he is canonically outright said to be straight in the books), knowing that his best friend is in love with him but not letting it change a single thing.

i think in a lot of ways i actually consider jalec a romantic friendship. they love each other unconditionally, they’re tactile with each other, they’ve sworn their lives - their souls - to each other, they’d die for each other, they are, quite literally, soulmates, etc. and romantic friendships are so important imo, and they’re neither below nor above a romantic physical relationship (i.e. malec) imo - they exist on an equal plane of importance. i think people underestimate, constantly, and society enforces this, the uniqueness of friendships and romantic friendships versus relationships. and i love the essence of who jalec already are to each other in that sense. there’s no denying that they’ve dedicated their lives to one another, that they’d lose a piece of themselves without each other, that one dying would inexplicably and forever change the other and kill a part of them. the parabatai vows are strikingly similar to marriage vows and i think that’s important - in both senses you are choosing to bind yourself to this one person and dedicate a life to one another. that’s what parabatai’s are. it’s a friendship but it’s also so much deeper than that. it’s pure love and the power of choosing your soulmate.

so if anything, i want that explored more. i want this romantic friendship explored and their bond explored. i’m in love with the idea that your soulmate does not have to be your romantic partner, it can be your friend. alec and jace stood together and bound themselves together, knitted their souls together in a way that forever changed them. alec is jace’s soulmate and jace is alec’s soulmate. that’s an indisputable fact. now in my head and in fic and with my friends to i explore the nature of that being romantic beyond friendship at times? yes. but i don’t need it to be, i don’t want it to be on the show, and the show is never going to go that route. and i think that’s fine. matt and dom do have good chemistry together, and what i want to see is their parabatai bond, them being soulmates but not romantic, explored. but we all know that this is not the best show, especially writing wise, so i work with what we have. 

The weird thing about research is that sometimes you end up having this idea that seems so completely obvious and yet, for some reason, no one has bothered to run the needed experiments and answer those questions. 

But you’re so sure that someone must have had this idea before because you’re obviously not that amazing, yet after hours of searching for papers you still come up empty and very confused. 

Which I guess is better than finding out your idea isn’t new, which is much more common…but still…

  • travis: that's a very good question that we do not, off the top of our heads, know the answer to, but i'm sure there's somebody in huntington who does, now we just have to find them.
  • griffin: And Take. Them. Out.
  • justin: a nice meal and ask them about your question!
  • griffin: and then finish them.
  • justin: ...finish their desserts!
  • travis: because they won't be able to finish their meal because the meal would be too nice!
  • Griffin: and then kill them with the car

safestsephiroth  asked:

I'm writing a novel about a character with debilitating sleep problems (I haven't decided on a disorder yet) who consistently ends up unable to sleep before the point of absolute exhaustion. What is a feasible length of time for this to be on a consistent basis while not being completely life-threatening in the short term? (I'm accepting that it'll knock years off her life in the long term.) Also - I've found conflicting answers, do you know a good resource to use to research sleep disorders?

Hey there! Thanks for the question, and sorry for the (extreme) delay. This is currently the oldest ask in my inbox.

Sleep disorders are common, and are problematic, but it sounds like what you’re describing is some pretty gnarly insomnia.  

Your character will have a number of effects to keep in mind. First, decreased performance at whatever task is at hand. Their thinking may become muddled or clouded. They’ll likely “space out”, or may even have bursts of micro-sleep during other parts of the day. (This can be fatal while driving, and exhaustion is as much or more of an impairment to drivers as alcohol is.)

They’ll also have lower reaction time, which contributes to driving injuries or deaths, and may come into play if your character is the actiony type (gunplay, for example, will be impaired, as will their tumbling / climbing abilities).

Sleep is a critical part of a character’s life and livelihood. They may be very tired during the day, make bad decisions, or fall asleep when they shouldn’t. Irritability is also a huge thing. They may gain, or lose, weight. DOverall they’re likely to have some significant issues.

The good news is that, outside of driving fatalities, insomnia is rarely fatal (with the exception of the helpfully-named Fatal Familial Insomnia, which is a genetic (familial) disease in which the victims stop sleeping (insomnia) until they die (fatal). Hooray!

Mayo Clinic has a pretty good overview of regular ol’ insomnia here:

In terms of your actual question, when it comes to duration, “months” is an extreme but accurate example. I probably averaged three to four hours a night during the weeks in high school, for most of the time; I slept in on weekends and during holidays, so it wasn’t necessarily true insomnia so much as the whole “teenagers stay up late and SHOULD be able to get up late” thing.

I hope this was useful, even a month or two later :)

xoxo, Aunt Scripty


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anonymous asked:

quick question, but what is your favorite b99/peraltiago fic??


like okay. pretty much anything @phil-the-stone has written is like, a guaranteed fave. but tbh her fic all that laughter crumbling through your fingers changed who i am as a person

also noah fence but @wagamiller‘s hollywood ending is also life-changing. 11/10

jake peralta’s quest for true love by @littlegreenwomen is also really good and it has a heavy dose of jake/gina friendship which is just like. dang it’s already so good and then u add that brotp to it and u got urself an a+ au

for you are my fate by @gabby-dawson is quite possibly the best slowburn peraltiago fic i’ve read thus far and it has SO MANY TROPES I LOVE WRITTEN SO WELL REST IN PIECES BLESS

this one isn’t really peraltiago but like oh my god it’s so good - influence by vivarocksteady (i’m so sorry if u have a tumblr, i didn’t see it listed on ao3!!!) is an au in which kevin and holt adopt jake when he’s a baby and!!!! oh my god!!!!!! just read it do urself a favor and read!!!!!!!!!!!

i’d say those five are like. tippy top for me. like if i was only allowed to read 5 fics for the rest of my life it would be those five. but yeah basically anything on my fic rec page is hella good and all those authors deserve all the love in the whole entire world

get to know me (music edition)

I was tagged by @advicewitch

Rules: Using only songs from one artist, answer these nine questions and tag 10 people.

Artist: Backstreet Boys
What’s your gender?: More Than That
Describe yourself: All I Have To Give
How do you feel?: How Did I Fall In Love With You

Favorite mode of transportation?: Trust Me
Your best friend?: Show Me The Meaning of Being Lonely (omfg hahaah)

Favorite time of day?: Make Believe 
If your life was a tv show?: Climbing the Walls
Relationship status?: Shining Star

Your fear?: I’ll Never Break Your Heart

Omg I don’t know who to tag uuuhhh I will try to tag people I don’t usually tag!

@rosethediviner @wildernesswitchery @fluorite-witch @gallaxiard @thewindcarrieswhispers @allthequeenstarot uuuuhhh i cant think of any more! If you want to do this, feel free!

anonymous asked:

I love how you calmly answer questions about gender/sexuality things. A lot of people on this website would explode over how someone doesn't know a term

It’s chill, as long as people aren’t all “yoU SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE!!1!” about it, I don’t really mind.

anonymous asked:

Heyyya mind naming your top 3 twice otps? And maybe also include short reasons for each otp for why you chose them to be at those respective positions (1st, 2nd & 3rd)

Um, this is very specific and I know I’ve answered this question several times before, but I’ll give it a go again~ :)

1) Mimo ‘cause which other pairing tries to be discreet on camera? Real couples only I tell you. They’re just so wonderful together and I love that they balance each other out. They’re great at different things, but are also so passionate about some of the same things (such as dance and each other). They’re really considerate to each other and so thankful for each other, and even their families get along great. Mina is super devoted and caring to Momo, and Momo is always so proud of Mina even for the littlest achievements. They’re really natural without overdoing it. (Most would argue that they underdo it which is also conspicuous but that’s just us delulu fans speculating lol..) I could go on with a million other reasons, but I’ll just say that they’re one in a million.

2) Saida, the obvious fan favorite because what’s not to like? They’re super affectionate (when Sana is not snaking), and you can tell Sana gets uber excited and happy over anything Dahyun does. Sana would be a super attached and fussy gf and Dahyun wouldn’t know how to handle sometimes except to just let Sana do PDA even if Dahyun whines the whole time about it lol. I put Saida at number 2 because Mimo is life I sometimes feel like Dahyun plays along with Sana’s antics but doesn’t or can’t fully reciprocate. Dahyun is barely an adult, so I’d give her some time to figure things out. (And as I’ve said before, I think everyone can, and should if possible, explore their sexuality a bit more~ I won’t elaborate here, but you get the point.) But Saida still gives me life too ^^

3) All other Twice pairings are about tied here. They all love each other and I love all of them. I have lots of besties platonic ships though. It’s a long list that includes 2yeon, Jeongmo, Jitzu, Samo, and many more! They all have different dynamics, but they’re all so loving which makes them even more vibrant.

OT9 is my OTP~

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when the war ends, ron and hermione go home. harry disappears. no one hears from him for three weeks, he wanders aimlessly from hotel room to hotel room, trying to find a new city, somewhere to begin again. he’s in london when he calls his friends, tells them that he needs them.

for ron, home is full of ghosts, for hermione, home is full of her parents questions, questions she can’t answer. so when harry suggests they get an apartment together, they jump at the chance. hermione does most of the apartment hunting, calculates costs, fills out the forms. ron and harry shop for furniture, ron doesn’t know what home means anymore and harry never knew, so they’re both trying to carve a home for themselves in this new world.

they move into a three bed apartment, but it soon becomes two bed as hermione and ron start sharing more and more often and hermione declares that it’s a waste not to use the third room as a study.

ron cooks, harry cleans, hermione makes sure the bills get paid on time. they talk less than they used to, there’s a silence that hangs in the air, but it’s getting better, they’re healing together.

hermione decides to go to sixth form, she wants to go to university. she’ll think about the future later, but right now she’s young and she wants to learn.

ron gets a job at a local corner store. he volunteers at a soup kitchen on weekends. he doesn’t know what he wants to do or be yet. the wizarding world he grew up in no longer exists.

harry doesn’t do anything for a while. part of him still feels like a ghost. but slowly he starts to thaw out, he starts small, reading to children at the library. eventually he realises he wants to work in social services. he wants to save children the way someone should have saved him.

it’s not perfect. they’re all a little cracked and their lives are messy. there are nights when none of them can sleep. there are days when getting out of bed seems too hard. but it’s okay, cause they’re never alone. time passes, life moves on. they learn how to live again.

 hermione graduates with a ppe (politics, philosophy, and economics) degree and starts to climb the ladder at the ministry of magic. she’s ready to change the world.

 ron proposes to hermione. she says yes. harry starts to suggest he move out but is quickly shushed, it’s been the three of them for so long now that they couldn’t imagine it any other way. ron works with his father in the ministry for a while but when hermione gives birth to their first child he quits. he’d rather be a stay at home dad any day. 

and harry? harry saves children. he works for social services and he’s an expert at seeing past the guise of suburban normality to what lies beneath. his co workers notice how astonishingly good he is at noticing the signs of abuse, and one of them realises why and kindly asks if he’s seen a therapist. he hasn’t but he soon does. he has to edit out the bits about magic but he finds in the end it still does him good. as well as all this, he works with the ministry of magic, helping muggle parents understand what it means to have a wizard/ witch as a child. 

harry never marries, he’s the first to know when ginny and luna get engaged and when luna decides that only grooms having best men is just so antiquated, harry is luna’s best man. 

they grow old together, harry, ron, and hermione. they buy a house in the country side together. to the granger- weasley children, uncle harry is like a second dad. 

the war still haunts them, but they live and learn and love. they change the world, not by winning a war, but by remaining kind after and recognising that it is the smallest actions that play the biggest role.