questions from readers

The Littlest Winchester - Where Do Babies Come From?

Character(s): Dean Winchester

Warning: None

Word Count: 639

Request:  Wondering if you could tie this request to the last one so its easier. I was thinking maybe you could have the reader ask about where babies come from and Sam and Dean awkwardly answers her, maybe the boy mentions it to her when they were playing?

AN: Couldn’t tie this to The Dating Game. Sorry!

Fic:

           As Dean gets himself another helping of spaghetti from the bowl on the table, he glances at his four-year-old daughter. She’s still on her first serving, and she’s trying very hard to get the food from the plate to her mouth without making a mess. It doesn’t seem to be working as well as she thinks it is. Noodles dangle from the edge of the plate, more rest on the table around the plate, and enough sauce is on her face to make her look like a sloppy vampire. The mess would probably be bigger if she weren’t seated on several thick books. By the time she cleans her plate, her fork hand is also covered in sauce.

           “I’m done!” She announces.

           “You’re also a mess.” Dean stands and scoops her out of her chair. “Let’s get you cleaned up, shall we?”

Keep reading

anonymous asked:

Is getting a Sak Yant tattoo by a buddhist monk in a temple considered cultural appropriation?

Here are some (but not all) of the questions that you need to be able to answer honestly before a person should consider this step:

Are you Buddhist? Do you specifically follow the tenets of Cambodian and Thai Buddhism? Do you know Thai or Khmer, and can speak with the monks about the rules you must follow after getting the tattoo? If you are white, have you taken part in Thai or Cambodian religious customs and grappled with your place in a history of Westerners fucking with southeast Asian politics and culture? Similarly, if you are white, have you grappled with the history of degradation and exoticization which leads not only to Thai culture being exploited, but Thai PEOPLE being exploited both in their own country and elsewhere?  Are you willing to follow the traditional rules of abstention? Do you understand that you are making a serious pact that could have spiritual repercussions?

There are probably other questions that you should ask yourself about this, these are the ones G came up with off the top of their head.

In short, you need to recognize and deal with the fact that white westerners have used Asian cultures to get their fix of the exotic and magical for centuries. This has had serious repercussions for Asians in the diaspora, where their traditions are used to degrade them, but are pretty and magical on non-Asian people, not to mention the repercussions for those countries’ economic, cultural and political spheres.

😅 

[The submitter asked for critique of their tattoo]

Mod G: So first off, I hope the anime symbol was intentional– that’s a human transmutation circle from Full Metal Alchemist, I believe. Beyond that, the lines look fairly straight but like they need a bit of touch-up. They’re not as solid as I would like.

Mod I: yawn. Maybe it’s the proliferation of nerds in my life, but I’m mostly just…bored? Seems basic, uneven lines, some of the symbols are slightly blobby.

Advice for working in publishing

Hi guys! I get so many amazing questions from readers about working in the biz. As some of you know, I also worked in publishing as my day job before I started writing full time. I thought I’d link a few of my older posts that are still frequently asked in case you might find them helpful

A general post about the types of jobs and realities of working in publishing

All about being an Editorial Assistant  

On Summer Publishing Courses

Do I need an internship?

What should I major in?

The difference between marketing and publicity

All about being a publicist

All about working in digital/online marketing

The blogger’s dilemma (Basically: does having a book blog/reviewing books work against you in trying to get published or get a job in the industry?)

I honestly cannot stop thinking about the That’s RanKING! guy with the top stars discussing questions from readers where they were talking about bugs. All the other stars were like “ah I think Micchan would know so much about bugs” and Micchan’s just like “I WANT TO DIE” the moment bugs are mentioned. It is so pure and so cute and honestly, poor Micchan.

How to offer condolences? Readers offer suggestions


Dear Readers: Recently, responding to a question from “Reader,” I asked people to suggest how to offer condolences to someone who is grieving. I have received many responses, and a sampling of your wisdom is included here. Many of these suggestions brought a tear to my eye, and I thank you all.

Dear Amy: As someone who has given and received condolences, I would say that someone who is grieving most wants to talk or to hear about the person who has been lost.

If you knew the deceased, relate something warm or amusing that you remember about him; if you didn’t, ask the mourner to tell you something about the deceased.

When my mother died, what was most comforting was speaking about her, feeling like she had not been erased from my life.

Asking someone in mourning how they feel or telling them how they should feel isn’t helpful. — Rabbi Dvora Weisberg

Dear Amy: Nearly 60 years ago my 9-year-old friend walked up to me and said she heard that my mother had died and how sorry she felt.

Then she hugged me. All these years later, I still remember how she made me feel: I wasn’t alone. The exact words didn’t matter. — Genie

Dear Amy: What helped me most after my mother’s death were the words that started, “I remember the time your mother. … ”

My mother lingered for years, and the stories helped me get past the long, sad times and back to wading in mountain streams, road trips and how her face would light up when she had a long-distance phone call with her sister. — Grateful

Dear Amy: As a grandmother who lost her 8-year-old grandson to brain cancer, I am an expert on the subject, unfortunately. Please do not say phrases like: “Enough time has passed so you must be feeling better,” or, “Don’t you think it is time for you to get over your sadness?” Most people do not have a clue as to how the grieving person is feeling. — Still Grieving Grandmother

Dear Amy: When my uncle died I wrote a note to my aunt reminiscing about the many times he had me laughing so hard it hurt! Not long after I got a letter back thanking me.

Who wouldn’t want to hear about how a departed loved one left a mark on your life? — Happy Memory

Dear Amy: After my son died, I appreciated these simple words: “I am so very sorry for you loss.” Followed by something simple like, “He had the greatest smile.”

Anything beyond that was too much. Don’t say something philosophical like, “God needed him in heaven.”

Don’t ask how the grieving person is doing. That question requires a response that is too hard to make. — Grieving Mother

Dear Amy: My mother died when I was a teenager, and my father killed himself years later. What would have been helpful (and what I do) is to tell the grieving person that their loved one mattered in your life. Even if you did not know the deceased that well you can share a good memory or story. People mistakenly think they shouldn’t remind grieving people of their loved ones, so they never talk about them again. In my experience grieving people like to know their loved ones are remembered. — Experienced

Dear Amy: My heart swells when I have to reach out to people who are grieving. I’m a mortician’s daughter and have been a hospice volunteer for eight years. I try to convey how important it is to take care of the caretaker. And give them the right to honor their grief. — Live Life

Dear Amy: After 40 years of marriage, my husband passed away unexpectedly this year. I have found a simple, “Sorry for your loss,” to be most helpful. If we know each other well enough, a hug following it is welcome and comforting. No need for fancy words. Cards are welcome. I re-read them. — Recovering

superheroeskickingass  asked:

I'm actually willing to defend the Wasp/Hank Pym thing.Calling him an abusive husband is wrong to me. As I recall he only hit her that one time. And the only reason he hit her was of his mental instability. Is he kinda messed up in the head? yes. Is he an abusive husband? no.. He's no Ultimate Hank Pym. So what's your response?

External image

Abuse doesn’t just take the form of physical abuse.  I don’t know if you have looked into the older issues of the Avengers but I have.  While the marriage between Wasp and Hank Pym or Ant-Man or Giant Man or any of the dozens of identities he’s had over the years (seriously, the man just can’t seem to settle on one) started out good at first it slowly started to erode over time.

External image

His mental instability started shortly after the murder of his first wife, which is understandable, and then he married a woman who reminded him of Maria.  Yes it said flat-out in the comic that Janet Van Dyne looked like and reminded him of his beloved dead first wife.  While it’s somewhat understandable why he became fixated on her based on that criteria it doesn’t make for a healthy relationship, and it didn’t.

Hank Pym was always insecure but over time he became more and more messed up, suffering from depression, a little DID, and a major inferiority complex.  And he became jealous of his own wife, namely the fact that she was the bread-winner in the marriage.

External image

As a result he became verbally abusive towards her, constantly berating her “flightiness” and complaing that she was late, becoming possessive and controlling to the point of suffocation.  Things were going badly downhill long before the infamous slap.

So no, he isn’t Ultimate Pym (and don’t get me started on the Ultimate verse…).  However for a time he was abusive, perhaps not physically so but he was abusive towards his wife emotionally and verbally. 

Did he mean it intentionally?  No, I’m very sure he did not.  Like you said he is mentally unstable and mental illness can make a person do a lot of screwed up things.  That doesn’t necessarily mean we should completely absolve them of responsibility for their actions though.

External image

Now to give the good doctor credit he has made a lot of effort since that time to atone for his actions, even if he’s still a little out there mentally wise (is he still Wasp II?  Or Giant Man again?  I think I saw some pictures…it’s really hard to keep track of this guy’s IDs…).  So I give him points.  But I think the marriage was still a mistake, and notice I didn’t blame him entirely…as I said, Jan did take advantage of his mental instability to rope him into marriage in the first place (granted it was the 60s, a time when women were still being portrayed as caring for nothing but getting a ring and a certificate at any cost so the writers were just following trends, but still…)  So to me it was still a messed up situation.

Those are just my thoughts.  Everyone has differing opinions and I certainly respect it, and it’s understandable when people want to jump to the defenses of their fav characters.  I do it all the time. 

youtube

YOUTUBESDAY: HOW DO YOU DATE A BI GIRL?

You may know Gaby Dunn and Allison Raskin from Buzzfeed but they also have their own YouTube channel, called Just Between Us. Which is a confusing name for a web series because what they say doesn’t just stay between them but is broadcast to the world. 

Anyway, in this episode they get a question from a reader asking how you date a bi girl. Gaby is bisexual so she answers it.

Conclusion: There is no difference between dating a bi girl and a straight girl.

Q: You can pose well. For the previous (Grazia magazine) shoot, because it was a group shoot, we did not realize that. Are you more used to the camera now?

O: Ah, is that the case? The people who are (shooting) together are all very relaxed so I’m also very relaxed…. I am originally not really good at being photographed. To me, it is considered quite a difficult thing to do.

Q: So is video recording more comfortable than taking photos?

O: Ah, that is more difficult. It makes things worse (laughs).

Q: We received a question from a reader on instagram. The reader is curious as to whether there is really no photo editing application on your phone.

O: Yes, there isn’t. I don’t really take selcas well. How you are born looking like, just live life that way (laughs). Even if a slightly nicer edited photo is obtained, that photo may not have much significance.

trans cr: squishyjinki

THE Q&A

You asked, she answered: As May draws to a close, our guest editor signs off with some questions from our readers.


What is the proudest moment so far in your modeling career?
It’s hard to choose as I try and do work I’m proud of every day. I think my Vogue covers have been very defining moments for me, as well as signing my Maybelline contract, plus some stuff that’s yet to come out… stay tuned!
   
What is your favorite quote?
It changes often, but one that really touched me recently was this Ernest Hemingway quote: “There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.”  

What is your favorite thing to do when you’re having a lazy day with Bella?
Lay in bed, watch TV, and laugh.

How do you edit your pictures on Instagram?
I usually keep them pretty natural and use the editing tools on Instagram—sometimes I’ll use an additional iPhone camera filter!

What are your top styling tips?
I style myself by mixing high and low price points, or basic pieces with standout ones. So something easy like jeans and a tee with great boots and a great coat.

How would you describe your style?
I’d say casual-chic. I’m always comfortable and try to keep it simple but on-trend. 

Where are your favorite places to travel to?
I love Tahiti, St. Barts and Egypt, among many others. I find something I love in every place I travel to, and I especially love places where I end up learning a lot about its history.

If you can only choose a meal to eat all your life, what would it be?
Probably a cheeseburger and fries from J.G. Melon in New York.

If you were to get a tattoo, what would it be?

Every time I think about getting a tattoo I draw it on myself for a month and by the end I’m usually over it. If I end up getting one it’ll be something with a lot of meaning and very small—that said, I love Dr. Woo’s work at Shamrock Social Club in Hollywood. 

Thanks, tumblr

So last night I couldn’t sleep (adrenal insufficiency, increased meds, boring story) and as I was scrolling through tumblr, a question popped up from a reader dealing with a terrible loss. I’m really behind on answering my mail, but this one pierced my heart. I wrote back. This morning I had a note saying that my response had helped.

And that is amazing.

Two strangers, connected because of stories, found each other in the night and talked about love and death and how to get through hard things. What an opportunity. What a gift this Internet-thing can be, when not overrun by hoards of slimy trolls!

This is why I love tumblr, almost as much as I love my readers.

And now I shall woo my coffee pot because it’s going to be a long day.