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“Cards on the table?”

Ending things with a therapist?

Anonymous said to realsocialskills:
Could you please do a post about how to politely/effectively/appropriately end a therapist-client (or doctor-patient) relationship? Like, you’re not moving on because you’re feeling better, but because of some other reason? I am looking to find a new therapist because my current one keeps forgetting which client I am/sharing personal information about other clients, and I am not sure how to tell her without being hurtful. Thanks :)

realsocialskills said:

I don’t know a good script for this — I bet some of my readers do, and I’m hoping y’all will weigh in.

What I do know is that it’s completely normal to end things with a therapist. People do it all the time, for all kinds of different reasons. You have the right to end therapy, or choose a different therapist, for any reason you want. You don’t owe your current therapist an explanation. 

If you’re working with a good therapist who just happens not to be a good fit for you, it can be helpful to tell them what’s going wrong. Good therapists understand that no therapist is a good fit for every client. Good therapists can often help you find someone else who will be a better fit. (Eg: if the problem is that you need someone with more trauma expertise, someone who has a different gender than your current therapist, someone with more experience working with LGBTQ clients, someone who takes your insurance, or something like that.). So while you’re never *obligated* to give an explanation, if you have a good therapist, it may be advisable. 

But not all therapists are good therapists. Some therapists aren’t very competent, and some therapists behave unethically. If the problem is that you have a bad therapist, giving them an explanation is less likely to help you. Bad therapists aren’t generally very good at helping you to find better therapists. If you’re ending things with a bad therapist, it’s probably better not to get into the reasons too much. You’re not obligated to explain to them what they’re doing wrong as a therapist — they’re responsible for being ethical and professionally competent. It is not your job to teach them how to be a good therapist. 

It’s also not your responsibility to take care of their feelings. If they feel hurt by your decision to end therapy, that’s their problem and not yours. Clients end therapy all the time, for all kinds of reasons. Therapists often have feelings about this — and part of what therapists are trained to do is deal with their own feelings. Feeling hurt about a client’s decision to end therapy is never the client’s problem. If therapists can’t handle that on their own, they’re expected to seek out help — from colleagues or supervisors, not from clients. (Again, not all therapists are good therapists, and some bad therapists do not handle endings appropriately.)

Anyone want to weigh in? If you’ve chosen to end therapy with a particular therapist, how have you had that conversation? What’s worked for you?

hux: You shouldn’t disparage my skills in war, Ren.  I’ll have you know that I excelled in the battle simulations at the Academy

kylo:

  • Sealand: Santa Clause is real!
  • America: ghosts and aliens are real!
  • France: ... England... I need to question your parenting skills.
  • England: *innocent and pure face of a child* of course they're real, you stupid frog~!
  • France: *cries* I can't, someone else tell him!!
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endless list of favorite characters → penny (stardew valley)

↳ “penny quietly tends to her chores in the dim, stuffy room she is forced to call home. she is shy and modest, without any grand ambitions for life other than settling in and starting a family. she likes to cook (although her skills are questionable) and read books from the local library.”

I really want to talk about the conclusion of the Lost Children arc, and Jill’s importance as a character.

One thing I see a lot of Berserk fans wish for is that the series could go back to the darker tones of arcs like Lost Children, the latter half of the Golden Age, and of course, the Black Swordsman arc. But the lighter mood is something that’s actually been developing since the manga’s beginning - it’s been gradual but it’s been consistent, and all the different characters Guts has encountered on his travels have been meeting better and kinder fates. Colette died horribly and had her corpse desecrated, then Vargas died cleanly and with hope of being avenged, then Theresia survived and carried physical and psychological scars as the price…and now Jill lives too; not undamaged, but she makes it out clean and strong and hopeful. And even though the Lost Children arc contains piles of dead children and shows Guts at one of his lowest points morally, this is the moment where the light breaks through at last.

And Jill is the character who brings this light into the story, and an incredible amount of hope too.

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Snape’s Questionable Teaching Skills

Say what you want about Snape as a person, but it’s incredibly difficult to argue that Snape was a good teacher.

Harry learned better from a book annotated by Snape than he did from Snape himself. If your job can be done better by a textbook (even if it’s one you modified), then you’re not a good teacher.

Snape makes his students nervous, negatively affecting their performance. In 1st year, Snape is specifically said to make the students nervous during their final exam: “Snape made them all nervous, breathing down their necks while they tried to remember how to make a Forgetfulness potion.”

Snape plays favorites. Obviously he hates Harry and will vanish Harry’s potion to ensure he gets a zero. But even if we put Harry aside, he’s pretty blatant about it.

Snape relentlessly bullies the worst student in his class. Harry asserts that Snape’s bullying has a negative impact on Neville’s work: “Neville regularly went to pieces in Potions lessons; it was his worst subject, and his great fear of Professor Snape made things ten times worse.” He bullies Neville in front of his peers and even other teachers. He tells Lupin that Neville is useless without Hermione to help him, and tells the entire dueling club that Neville “causes devastation with the simplest of spells.”

Snape is also cruel to one of the top students in the class. In addition to bullying Neville, Snape humiliates Hermione on multiple occasions. He insults her appearance, calls her an insufferable know-it-all, tells her to stop showing off, shouts at her for helping Neville, etc. And this is all despite the fact that she’s likely one of his top students. At one point, he stops mid-lesson to read Rita’s Skeeter’s Witch Weekly article about Harry/Hermione out loud, in its entirety. He even throws in a few of his own comments and pauses to allow for laughter at the end of sentences. And remember, this is a 14-year-old boy and a 15-year-old girl who have the misfortune to have their “relationship” speculated about in a tabloid.

Snape’s retention rate is not particularly high. Out of Harry/Ron’s entire year, 12 students achieve E/Os and continue the subject. We know that aspiring Aurors are required to take Potions, as are Healers. You would think that Potions would be quite relevant for a student in anything vaguely science/medicine-related. It’s a fairly important part of magical life with a very practical application. And yet only 12 students chose to continue, with a disproportionate number coming from in Snape’s own house.