question gender

I feel like a lot of people don’t want to ask questions they have about gender/sexuality to LGBT people because they don’t want to offend them because we talk about cishet people asking stupid or intrusive questions a lot

But actually when you’re questioning it’s really helpful to be able to ask some ‘stupid’ questions although you’re too afraid to

So can y'all LGBTQIA+ people reblog this if you’re totally fine with people asking questions about your gender/sexuality, as long as they do so respectfully

This blog is a safe space for anyone who is:

Non binary
Gender questioning
Gender queer
Gender neutral
(The list goes on)

Reblog if your blog is a safe space too! 😁

anonymous asked:

do you know any good readings on the effects of colonialism on modern concepts of gender? i've seen you talk a lot about this and i'm interested to read more into it

Heterosexualism and the Colonial / Modern Gender System, María Lugones 

Colonial Dependence and Sexual Difference: Reading for Gender in the Writings of Simón Bolívar (1783-1830), Catherine Davies

(you can download those last two articles here if you don’t have access to jstor)

The Coloniality of Gender, Maria Lugones

Romancing the Transgender Native, Evan B. Towle and Lynn M. Morgan

Scientific Racism and the Emergence of the Homosexual Body, Siobhan Somerville

Asexuality as a white supremacist dream (and additional commentary)

The Empire of Sexuality, Joseph Massa

Women and Men, Cloth and Colonization: The Transformation of Production-Distribution Relations among the Baule (Ivory Coast) (Femmes et hommes, pagnes et colonisation: la transformation des relations de production et de distribution chez les Baule de Côte d'Ivoire), Mona Etienne

“Some Could Suckle over Their Shoulder”: Male Travelers, Female Bodies, and the Gendering of Racial Ideology, 1500-1770, Jennifer L. Morgan

White Sexual Imperialism: A Theory of Asian Feminist Jurisprudence, Sunny Woan

The veil or a brother’s life: French manipulations of Muslim women’s images during the Algerian War, 1954–62, Elizabeth Perego

Rethinking Sex-Positivity, Rebecca John

Women of Color Seen As Always Sexually AvailableJaclyn Friedman 

Do you feel like someone is using the “wrong” bathroom?

Please don’t:
-Stare at them
-Challenge them
-Insult them
-Do not purposefully make them uncomfortable.

Instead, please:
-Respect their privacy
-Respect their identity
-Carry on with your day
-Protect them from harm

They are using the facilities they feel safe in. Please do not take this right away from them.

Trans* & gender questioning students… You have every right to be here:
-In this facility
-In this university
-In this world

Your gender identity and expression are valid.

what gender critical should mean: questioning gender norms, the categorisation of genitalia, and how femininity and masculinity are perceived and represented in our world

what gender critical is on tumblr: transphobic, but like, a feminist version


If you are questioning, you don’t have to label your orientation or gender if you don’t want to. Labels are for you to choose, not for others to place on you.

Thesis: People hate social media and the concept of internet friends because it breaks through societal control of social interactions. White kids who live in towns that are 98% white aren’t supposed to have black or brown friends. Teenagers aren’t supposed to know 15 other kids their age who are LGBT, lest they question their own gender and/or sexuality. There are people who hate that kids and young adults are making friends in places other than school, work, place of worship, places within the local community, and family connections, because those are the places where you meet people who are “your kind”, and now it doesn’t matter what worldview adults try to instill in their children. They can be exposed to several other world views, some of which may conflict with the one they were brought up with, by talking to people online from 5 different countries.

a little note for everyone:

you are allowed to be LGBTQA+ and religious 

it is ok to be both

they are not mutually exclusive 

and when people jokingly refer to being gay as sinning,

don’t pay attention to them

because they don’t have religion in their lives the way we do

you are also allowed to be questioning, 

“"How can I serve and love God the way I want to while also being my true self?”

because guess what?

not every LGBTQA+ person is an atheist or a non-believer

so here’s a shoutout to the Christian LGBTQA+

and the Muslim LGBTQA+ 

and the Jewish LGBTQA+ 

and the Buddhist LGBTQA+

and every other religion that you may believe in

religion can coexist with your sexual identity and your gender identity

you are loved by God and by me 

This one is for those questioning their gender:

Don’t be afraid to claim the nonbinary label just because you might need to change that later on.

You are not “invading” anyone’s space. You won’t hurt nonbinary people by changing that label as you need.

I believe that this nonbinary community is welcoming and kind before all else, especially to people questioning.

We’ve all been (or currently are) where you are now. Do what you need to do.

We understand.