quentin's muse

Bless my heart, a network tv show discusses female sexual pleasure

So, we get to the episode where they use the Bechdel test line. I seriously LOLed at this part because it was so ludicrous. At least they are acknowledging the ridiculousness of pandering to only male fantasy on TV and pointing fingers at it — and using it as a dream and not an actual event is definite kudos. And YES Julia, I saw you go for the spectacular boobs.

The more the series goes on the less it is like the books, but again I think that’s okay because of what they are doing to further the storylines. We have queer characters, we have mental illness, alcohol and drug addiction, etc. AND NOW WE HAVE A DISCUSSION ABOUT FEMALE SEXUAL PLEASURE. Bless my exploding heart, a network television show just openly talked about women getting off.

On top of that, the subject came about really honestly. It is brought up — guy thinks everything is a-OK — girl says actually not really — feelings are hurt, discussions are had, and abracadabra, orgasms all around. Alice was shy about admitting it at first, but who wouldn’t be growing up in that maze of horrors she did…and when she admits yes, sometimes it is hard for her to orgasm and she doesn’t know how to ask for what she wants, all women everywhere watching this show probably cheered. In a world where women are expected (and shown to) orgasm in 2 seconds flat from a bit of gymnastic thrusting, it’s hard to say that you need more assistance in the bedroom department. In the end, she literally grabs Quentin’s hand and pulls it down to where she wants. This is huge. Now, in my opinion, Quentin doesn’t really become a feminist until book three. I’m liking the more evolved attitude on the show thus far. I don’t know how the show runners are going to fit this new attitude into the ending storyline but whatever. When said he was a feminist in the dream sequence I about died. A STRAIGHT WHITE MAN ADMITTING HE IS A FEMINIST ON TV? I mean I know it was his dream and he was watching two hot girls macking but still.

Quentin also handled the whole sex thing better than expected, and very realistically. Imagine what you would do if you are told you’re not doing “it” correctly, your feelings would be understandably hurt. He assumes wrongly he is being a good lover, either because he lacks attention or because Alice is faking, but after a bit of childish storming off he comes back and admits his douchebaggery and insecurity. This is incredible! — Especially for men to watch. It’s not only damaging for women to see on TV that they don’t need foreplay, it’s damaging for men to see that they don’t need to do it, or pay attention — or even that they are perfect lovers right off the bat. No one is. It was also awesome that he admitted he wanted direction from Alice. When she asked if he expected sex to be perfect every time and he said no, that he wanted her to tell him when he was doing something incorrectly, that he wanted her to speak up about what she wanted, it floored me. TV usually shows men just taking pleasure, but he genuinely wants to give Alice pleasure and be a good lover to her. He swallows his wounded pride and accepts her directions, listens to what SHE wants, does those things, and guess what — it works. Communication about sex is so rare in media, it’s even more rare when it involves women speaking up about what they want. I’m so glad they had two characters actually communicate with each other on this subject and do so successfully, with a woman asking for and receiving pleasure, and a man checking his ego at the door and wanting to give it.

Side notes. My baby Elliot is a broken teddy bear who needs a hug. I was genuinely upset that Margot was not there for the speech he gave. He understandably recoils when Margot-Bot kisses him, he’s so not in that place, and he’s not into her. Not sure how he feels now that he knows it wasn’t the real Margot. Yet, he closes right back up and doesn’t tell her what happens. His body language is so heartbreaking, he curled into himself so tight when real Margot sat down, it looked painful. I honestly like Margot (Janet?) and Elliot needs a friend. Hey show people, can the Queliot friendship start now,? You’re way past the deadline on that one. Remember who practically saves Elliot from cirrhosis? It’s Quentin.

Maurice Quentin de La Tour (1704-1788)
“Portrait of King Louis XV” (1748)
Pastel on gray-blue paper stuck on a canvas stretched on a chassis
Rococo
Located in the Musée du Louvre, Paris, France

Louis XV (1710-1774), known as Louis the Beloved (Louis le bien aimé), was a monarch of the House of Bourbon who ruled as King of France from 1 September 1715 until his death. He succeeded his great-grandfather Louis XIV at the age of five. Until he reached maturity in 1723, his kingdom was ruled by Philippe d'Orléans, Duke of Orléans as Regent of France; the duke was his maternal great-uncle, as well as first cousin twice removed patrilineally.

Send Me A Ship And I’ll Tell You....   Queliot Answers

who is more likely to hurt the other? 

Eliot is more likely to hurt Quentin.  He’s got baggage that is miles thick and he can’t hold his tongue for the life of him.

who is emotionally stronger? 

Neither of them.  They both have issues, but they balance each other super well.  Eliot helps Quentin socially and Quentin pulls Eliot out of his head when he starts to drown.

who is physically stronger?

Quentin, but only by a hair.  Eliot is too reliant on magic, he’ll turn to that first.  Quentin isn’t afraid to get his hands dirty.

who is more likely to break a bone? 

Quentin.  Eliot has had broken bones in the past, he knows how long they take to heal, and he knows if they break again they just get weaker so he’s less careless than Quentin tends to be.

who knows best what to say to upset the other?

Words are Eliot’s weapons.  They help hide how deeply damaged he is, and he wears sarcasm and sharp comments like they are armor. 

who is most likely to apologize first after an argument?

Quentin.  Having Eliot mad at him amps his anxiety to a thousand.  He’s scared he’ll lose this amazing guy who he doesn’t feel worthy of half the time. 

who treats who’s wounds more often?

Eliot is the one looking after Quentin. The guy is almost like a lost puppy, but he adores him for it. 

who is in constant need of comfort?

They both are, for completely different reasons.  Quentin’s barely capable of being social and needs support when he feels he’s let someone down, and there are days when his depression rears his head and all he wants is cuddles and reassurances.  Eliot just needs to know he’s loved, because people have turned their backs on him so many times.

who gets more jealous?

Eliot!  Quentin is the first guy he’s dated seriously in years, and he’ll be damned if he loses that emotional connection. 

who’s most likely to walk out on the other?

Eliot.  He’ll convince himself that things are falling apart and decide that he needs to be the one to step away so he’s not left alone again.  

who will propose?

They both secretly make plans for this with Margo, and Margo doesn’t tell either what his boyfriend is up to.  

who has the most difficult parents?

Eliot’s parents are horrible people, who want nothing to do with their youngest son.

who initiates hand-holding when they’re out in public?

Eliot.  He’s physical all the time.

who hogs the blankets?

Eliot.  His bed is a nest of silk sheets and soft blankets.  Before Quentin he usually slept alone, and hiding away under a mountain of covers helped slack the loneliness. 

who gets more sad?

Quentin suffers from clinical depression so there are days it just buries him.

who is better at cheering the other up?

Eliot has gotten good at reading Quentin’s moods and when he can’t pull Quentin out of one of his funks he gets Margo and Alice to help.

who’s the one that playfully slaps the other all the time after they make silly jokes?

Eliot.  He’ll sieve any excuse to touch Quentin, even if it’s just a light teasing touch. 

who is more streetwise?

Eliot.  He learned about his telekinisis at fourteen, and he spent a little time before Brakebills figuring out the hedge wizard side of things.  He cared about his body enough to avoid the tattoos but he knows a thing or two, like how to rob an ATM

who is more wise?

Quentin knows more trivia, especially geeky trivia, but Eliot is the magical savant of the pair. 

who’s the shyest?

Quentin.  If it had been up to Eliot the two of them would have been dating within a week of meeting. 

who boasts about the other more?

Eliot tries to buid Quentin’s confidence.  It’s obvious that Q has the ability to be powerful, but lacks the confidence to show just how resourceful and smart he is.

who sits on who’s lap?

They don’t really sit in each other’s laps, but they lay against one another when ever there is enough room to accomodate them.