queers and associates

Just got into Chicago to speak at the American Studies Association conference! Hit me up if you’re in town. 👍
I like to pretend I’m above getting nervous when doing public speaking, but when most people in the audience are a few decades older than you, cis, and tenured, it can still be hard. I’ve done public speaking at least a hundred times but there’s always an underlying aspect of it that can make me worried about my performance. Everybody gets nervous. However, we can remind ourselves that if someone judges you based on your public speaking ability, they’re overlooking what’s really important: what you’re actually saying.

Magic Color Associations

Black- Fertility, healing, hexes, repelling and reversing spells, solace, Dark Moon spells

Blue - Traditionally the most potent color of protection, anti-evil eye

Brown- Grounding and stabilizing effects during divination and psychic journey’s, justice spells.

Green - Healing, money, prosperity, growth and increase, fertility

Pink - Love, friendship, romance, a beneficial color when working magic on behalf of children

Purple - Sex, passion, power, commanding, domination, higher consciousness

Red - Love, sex, romance, luck, fertility, healing, death-defying, protection, anti-evil eye

White - Initiations, creativity, lunar spells, spells to allay ghosts, healing

Yellow - Love, romance, power, prosperity

gutsyfrog  asked:

erica moen is hilarious and your parody made me laugh but I’m not sure what the point is. are her fetishes too gross for you? is it wrong that her art is overtly porny? I dunno

its like… weirdly advocating for some sort of social acceptance and normalization of fetishes. which is … not what fetishes are about.

like a more sensible thing to do would be just kind of explain a fetish and what it is that’s appealing, but instead all the comics on OJST are like people trying so hard to make it all seem completely normal and acceptable. like “I love cuckolding! it’s actually really strengthening our relationship, it’s empowering to my wife and it makes us trust each other a lot <3″

like no its you getting off on being dominated by having someone steal your sex partner from you and u being denied sex because ur weaker and less masculine. theres no point in trying to make it some shit about love and trust and empowerment.

jdlkfjsdlfjk theres absolutely Z E R O need in our society for any sort of fetish awareness or kink acceptance or whatever. theres zero need for anyone to know what ur kinks are, or for them to be super welcoming and open about them, if they’re not literally headin to bed with you. like it just straight up does not need to be “socially accepted”.

thats some bullshit that leads to people believing kinks are a part of queerness, and that association makes 1) some straight ppl feel like they’re fighting the same battle as LGBT people because they bought a handcuff/whip set at spencers gifts, and 2) other straight people assume LGBT acceptance/pride is all about displaying our ‘sex lives’ rather than it being a fight against discrimination for our identities.

thepoliticalbrit  asked:

Can you tell us if they'll be any lgbt characters in Seattle bites cos let's face it the fey are way too dramatic and well dressed to be straight

YES. The main characters are a Gay Man and a Bisexual Vampire!  I’ve also got Agender and Genderfluid characters, and I’m still hammering out the details of side-characters but most of the cast is some flavor of Queer.

Actually, most of the pretending-I’m-an-English-major-subtext is about how Queerness is HEAVILY associated with Monstrousness in western literature, but especially in western theater and cinema, and the effect that has on the formation of those communities, esp given how many queer people are involved in the arts.  (Hint: most monstrous characteristics are basically mainstream society othering people, it’s not really a surprise we identify with monsters)

The other half is me going “You know what would be Kickass?  Were-Orcas.” then world-building to accommodate that.

My experience as a queer kid without a role model

I had my first celebrity crush on a girl when I was five. Her name was Caroline and she was one of the kids on ZOOM. It wasn’t until 15 years later that I realized that’s what it was.

I started watching gay couples in 7th grade. I used to look up “gay kisses” on YouTube because watching them kiss felt more raw and emotional to me than watching the straight couples. Gay storylines were never black and white and usually a lot more realistic.

I watched South of Nowhere and Degrassi in secret cause my mom thought it was corrupting me. I also discovered Queer as Folk the same year.

With this being my introduction into queer TV, I always associated it with something taboo. Something that I should be ashamed of watching, something that wasn’t okay.

There was no role model character or actor that I could look at and say, oh, gay relationships aren’t just about sex and clubbing and twinks. And for those I could, they were all older than me. 

With today’s news about Andi Mack, this next generation won’t have to go through what I did.

8-year-olds are going to be watching this season. The storyline will never get sexual, cause it’s Disney. It’s gonna be treated just like a straight romance….I hope.

It’s going to be made “normal.”

This isn’t a station like Freeform where it feels like they have to check every box from teen pregnancy to suicide in every single show.

This isn’t CW which has a tagline of “dare to defy” but hasn’t done shit for religion or sexuality in terms of diversity in any of its main characters ever.

This is Disney, a station watched by all kids with cable.

I wonder if my life would have been different had I had a Cyrus growing up. Would I have even started my obsession with supporting queer actors? Would it even have mattered?

It sounds silly, but this is history making and life-changing. The world will be different after this season. Even if it’s an unconscious shift, gay, characters, at least will be that much more normalized.

@persongoingfast , do us proud.

“Queer Witch” Ideas
  • Use glitter in your spells based on colour correspondences
  • Queer-themed/inclusive tarot decks
  • Work primarily with queer and queer-associated deities and/or spirits in your spellwork
  • Emphasis on queer associations of plants, planets, etc. (ie Mercury’s androgynous / non-binary / intersex associations, violets as Sapphic love symbols, hyacinths as Achillean, etc)
  • Spells to empower queer people (and other oppressed groups) and hex our oppressors
  • Rainbows

anonymous asked:

Wait hold up, I have so many questions about cowboys being gay. Like I’ve grown up in Texas and I’ve never heard of anything like that, lol. So I guess my question is what gay aspects are there that says cowboys are gay? I asked friends and they’ve never heard of anything about cowboys being gay, but I’m very curious lol.

I really am no expert. Like.. not at all. The below is all just my own opinion and view based on my life experience (I’m European by the way).

I’m just like… cowboys are reminiscent of the village people and do have a strong queer association in my experience. Not to say that it’s the only one though!! There’s very not queer cowboy association too, but yeah, you say cowboys and queer men in the same breath and I literally don’t even blink.

Then theres stuff like this:

https://www.outfrontmagazine.com/culture/history-homoerotic-cowboy-imagery/   - i like this article, it’s clear but succinct in explaining where the gay cowboy trope/concept comes from.

It features the quote “Today, gay cowboys are a happy symbol of sexuality and living as one’s truest self.” which, could this BE more Dean Winchester? 

Also: https://truewestmagazine.com/homos-on-the-range/ for the more historic side.

Then there’s Brokeback Mountain which is a huge deal and quite recent in people’s minds (also I remember having this conversation recently actually where someone was saying in the USA this film is kind of derided? Like… in Europe we WEPT at this movie and it’s seen as a giant leap forward for the LGBT movement and really important and a step forwards in representation and a really big social moment in film… No-one derides it).

So yeah, no-one is saying that just generically cowboys are gay, like no, not at all. It’s just that if you are referring to two men who are already in an ambiguously probable queer relationship on a show then add on top of that that one of them has a “fetish” for cowboy stuff according to his brother and then put both of them in cowboy gear?

It’s gonna get noticed ;)

anonymous asked:

Just literally any nurseydex fluff w ace Dex please and thanks 😙

I’m not sure if this has too many feelings for fluff, but I’m pretty happy with it. Hopefully you are, too
Read it (and other Ace!Dex fics) here on AO3!

When Dex opened the door to his and Nursey’s room, he stopped with one foot through the threshold. It was not how he left it that morning. It was… well, it was clean. It wasn’t that their room was usually messy, but it was never clean unless Dex was the one who cleaned it.

That morning, before he left for his first class, there had been a pile of sweaters and cardigans on Nursey’s bed; he was looking for his favorite, which had somehow ended up at the bottom of the drawer (again). There were also snack wrappers littering the floor from their marathon the night before, and the growing collection of empty coffee mugs that never made it back down to the kitchen was threatening to tumble over the edge of Nursey’s desk.

All of that was gone now. On top of that, the bookshelf that was usually overflowing with Nursey’s frankly ridiculous collection of books had been straightened out and it looked like the beds had been made (not well, but they weren’t the usual nest, at least). Dex could even smell a weird mix of off brand Fabreze and Bitty’s “Sweet Home Georgia” candles.

He couldn’t see Nursey anywhere, but there was a familiar off-key humming in the bathroom. Nursey never cleaned the bathroom. Neither did Chowder. Dex was the only one who ever did (and frankly, he was okay with that because he knew that he was doing a thorough job of it).

He had no clue what was going on, but something had to be. He wanted to believe it was innocent, but that horrible, destructive part of his brain said that it was bad and wrong. It was an apology, that Nursey was breaking up with Dex, that he couldn’t deal with no sex, that he was cheating, that, that, that.

Except Dex knew better than to let himself get lost in intrusive thoughts. He trusted Nursey, and he trusted that Nursey would come to him if he had a problem. And, even if that wasn’t the case, they already had the Polyamory Talk, and Nursey knew that if he needed more than Dex could give him, sexually, then they could discuss Nursey going outside of the relationships for those needs. They were good. They were solid.

But he still had no clue why Nursey was cleaning, so he dropped his bookbag, leaned against his desk, and waited. He was impatient, but thankfully only had to wait through a song and a half before his boyfriend finished whatever he was doing in the bathroom.

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LGBTQ* Check Yourself Post

There has been a ton of privilege and way too much (trans*, cis-*, geronto-, bi-*, pan-, *too many to name*)–PHOBIA around Tumblr since we went on hiatus.

Let’s start leading by example and remember that we cannot request equal support with a clear mind if we don’t show the same with an understanding heart.

-Rebecca, creator of KNOWhomo

“I have decided to stick to love…Hate is too great a burden to bear.” 
― Martin Luther King Jr.A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches

Photo Source: University of Chicago, Queer and Associates 

 

Me: LEGO BATMAN IS SO GOOD! And the way it handles the whole BatJokes thing is wonderful. They’re so gay and happy to hate each other and they CALLED it a relationship which is important because this film is all about unusual family dynamics. So you get the surrogate father rather than the birth father, the adopted son rather than the birth son and the not-really-a-love-interest instead of a sibling. AND THEN you get the villain who completes you instead of the silver screen romance. It all works and everyone is happy and learns to accept their feelings for each other and that the feelings they have for these people are real and valid. It’s a really lovely film about unconventional family building that places the relationship between two men in the slot reserved for the love story, and a declaration of hate where there should be a declaration of love. The reason that there isn’t a moment where Batman and The Joker are declared ‘boyfriends’ is because this film isn’t going about things in a by the book matter, but that doesn’t stop them being each other’s romantic partner in the context of the film. 

Discourse Me: But The Joker is one of the most obvious examples of queer coded villains in all of comics and associating queerness with evil like that is hella homophobic. You can’t deny that The Joker was more into Batman than Batman was into The Joker for most of Lego Batman and indeed, has made several passes at him in the comics and you can’t argue that this film does much to deconstruct that. The best you can say is that when Batman does admit his feelings for The Joker he doesn’t become a depraved villain and so queerness isn’t directly tied to evil, but it’s still kinda…there. Oh yeah and the filmmakers didn’t actually have the balls to say that they were in love and plenty of people are going to view how BatJokes are portrayed by Lego as a joke rather than a serious relationship and you are grasping at straws rather than appreciating genuine representation.  

Me: Shut the fuck up and have some fun jesus christ. 

it’s always fun being at the weird intersection between Being A Queer Person and Being An Organized Crime Historian because like

any time the conversation regarding mob ownership of gay bars and drag halls comes up i’m just sitting here screaming THE MOB OWNED THE BARS BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN NONE OF THE BARS WERE OWNED BY QUEER PEOPLE in my head

I wonder what it’s like to be a gay writer with a hit tv show and keep flirting with homoerotic subtext throughout every season, but get mad when people question if the two leads will get together. I wonder what it’s like to make the conscious decision to include that much gay subtext, then in the last season instead of making it text, decide to make even more blatant calls to gay icons in the subtext but textually associate queerness with rape and villainy. Boy do I wonder. 

anonymous asked:

"if anyone has taken up Jimmy’s mantle as Claire’s dad in any regard, it’s Dean. Even in 10x20, when Cas was around, Dean’s the one who really bonded with her. " Yeah just give Dean another character while Cas is completely isolated. What a good idea! Its not like every chars revolves around him. Charlie,Jody,Donna,Ketch, Bobby, Mary and now Claire too

Do you really think that Claire’s character “revolves around” Dean? That she isn’t entirely her own character? or that her dynamic is very different with Sam than it is with Dean?

It’s not a good thing or a bad thing, but she’s clearly just as important to Sam. It’s just… Sam relates to people differently than Dean does.

And Jody. You really think Sam’s friendship with Jody isn’t as strong as Dean’s? I mean, I’ve always thought at least her character “revolved around” Sam more. Sure Dean and Jody have bonded over “parental” sorts of things, while Sam and Jody have bonded more as “friends.”

Thing is, other characters serve as mirrors to bring out traits and show underlying characteristics and feelings of the main characters. And because Sam and Dean are fundamentally different people, the side characters are going to reflect those differences.

This is how storytelling works.

And since the start of the show, and for the majority of the 12 years it’s been on, Dean has been the emotional POV character (aside from that time he was in Sam’s usual spot as the Mytharc character during the MoC arc, and even then we often saw Dean’s emotional reactions more than Sam’s). So just by the structure of the narrative, we inherently understand Dean’s pov more than Sam’s.

It’s not a good thing or a bad thing, it just is. And because of that, the mirror characters tend to reflect Dean’s POV more than Sam’s. Dean also tends to bond with people more readily than Sam does, because that is his personality. You can see that really clearly in 2.18 (which I watched yesterday so it’s a fairly fresh example in my mind) and in 2.19 (which I just watched like 20 minutes ago, so also fresh in my mind). Heck I’m writing up notes on 2.19 now, and the thing I’ve still got saved to the clipboard is Sam’s quote to Dean:

Dean, does it … bother you at all, how easily you seem to fit in here?

And Dean’s like, no. It doesn’t bother him. He can fit in practically anywhere he wants to.

What’s the first thing we learn about Sam? He’s got a very solid idea of where he wants to fit in, and he’s never felt like he fit in in the hunting world. He wanted to go to Stanford and have a normal girlfriend and a normal life being normal. His entire narrative has been about getting dragged back into hunting, where he dragged his heels kicking and screaming back into the life.

It’s just who he is as a person.

But if you think Sam doesn’t have just as important of a bond with Mary or Bobby, then I don’t really think you’ve been paying attention. It might not be the same kind of bond that Dean has with them, but it’s no less important.

Saying it’s different doesn’t imply a value judgment here, either.

As to Charlie… well, why do you think the queer character has been more associated with Dean than Sam? Knowing that other characters serve as narrative mirrors for the main characters? It’s not difficult to understand that one.

Donna, who has self-image issues, is a tough-as-nails cop on the surface but who also is completely unashamed of her bubbly, fluffy sense of humor? Oh, and who deals with her emotional distress through a complicated relationship with food… She’s basically the G-rated girl version of Dean.

And Ketch. Really? Wtf? You really think his character “revolves around Dean?” He’s basically a dark mirror for Dean, in the way that we’re supposed to disassociate his character from Dean. This is the WORST incarnation of what Dean could’ve become… IF IT HADN’T BEEN FOR SAM showing Dean the shades of grey in the world…

Yes, Dean gets more of these narrative mirrors than Sam does, and yes he relates to these character differently than Sam does… but that’s because Sam has almost always been the character that the narrative happens TO, Dean’s the observational POV through which the audience processes our reactions.

It’s not a judgment about Sam vs Dean here. It’s literally the narrative structure of the show.

anonymous asked:

Random story. For the instagram stories, Shane used the song Conga (Gloria Estefan and Miami Sound Machine). The thing is that the very first time I ever heard that song was while watching The Birdcage. So of course I associate "queerness/LGBTQ" with that song. So I'm sitting there, trying to act normal "yeah two pals, try not to think about shyan" blabla...but then that song...THAT SONG is making everything way more difficult.

shane makes everything more difficult than it needs to be

anonymous asked:

hey, referring to your rant. i think the original argument was that ace people are not *necessarily* queer because they might not experience attraction to the same gender or identify and non-cis. not to erase the experience that ace people are marginalized. but if you're say a heteroromantic asexual, you're not queer.

speaking as a biromantic bisexual myself, i don’t agree, even a little bit. i appreciate that you’ve been polite and calm, and therefore i’m also going to be polite and calm when i explain the reasons why i disagree:

1. not “necessarily” queer as a concept is something i take umbrage with. the notion that queerness is even potentially situational is offensive in the highest degree and has a horrific and violent history, which to sum up quickly is the following and more: conversion therapies, correctional rape, queerness as mental disorder, queerness as criminal, having to “pass”, the association of queerness with sexual abuse, the association of queerness with teenage rebellion, queerness as phase. there is not one of these things that has not been experienced as a response to asexuality, whether it is heteroromantic or otherwise.

2. the arguments used to qualify asexual persons as non-queer (again, whether heteroromantic or otherwise) are the same arguments that have historically been used within queer communities to attack bisexual persons. see, the above with regards to “situational queerness” that has been used as an argument in both cases to exclude bisexual and asexuals. take the following example: a monogamous bisexual person who is a cis female marries a heterosexual person who is a cis male and remains in that marriage until the end of their life. the relationship is not “heterosexual” they are still bisexual, even when there is no possibility of entering into a sexual or romantic relationship with a person of a gender other than male. now replace bisexual with asexual. the argument stands. they are not defined by their relationship or current partner.

3. likewise, if a bisexual heteroromantic person is queer, why is an asexul heteroromantic person not queer? are we to imply that their queerness is defined by their partner and not by themselves as an individual? this an absolute fallacy of logic.

4. if, for a moment, we do consider that an asexual heteroromantic person is not queer, then what are they? they are not straight. they cannot rightly be grouped with heterosexual heteroromantic persons as they face prejudice, marginalisation and potentially violence within society that heterosexual heteroromantic persons don’t by virtue of their sexuality (which is an experience they do share with the rest of the queer community). if we briefly rearrange the argument and use race as a hypothetical example, you are either white or a poc. “poc” as a term is not an individual race, nor should it be treated like one and every race within the term “poc” experiences highly individuals racism. however, we could not take say, koreans, and suggest that they were not poc whilst conceding that they were also, indeed, not white. it would be a fallacy of logic and offensive and have massive detrimental effects just as this entire notion of “the asexual discourse” is having right now. take the same argument again and apply it to gender or to disability. it does not work.

5. i am not only bisexual and biromantic, but i also identify as polyamorous, which has a similar status as “only debatably queer”, much the same as asexual heteroromantic and heterosexual aromantics (or any heterosexual non-heteroromantics). i can testify to the fact that when one is a part of a group that are marginalised - and believe me, you don’t understand just how much the world is set up around the notion of monogamy (or monogamy featuring cheating) and how difficult it is to navigate as someone who is non-monogamous - to be told that you are not marginalised and do not deserve to be a part of a community of others with similar experiences is heartbreaking and cruel and rather pointless. [Note: this isn’t to imply polyamoury is inherently queer, I’m still working that one out for myself, but as a polyamorous person, I do have authority on my own identity and it is definitively something]. what does the queer community gain from excluding asexual heteroromantic people? nothing. literally nothing.

so yeah, there’s my reasoned argument to why i disagree with the notion that asexual heteroromantic people are not queer and frankly find the “discourse” surrounding it offensive.