queering gender

I just finished my first week of graduate classes and something really stood out to me: everyone cares. As a trans woman, I’ve been denied access to care and caring. I know people are there because they truly want to be but this isn’t something I’m used to seeing. In Los Angeles no less, it is custom to pretend not to care (about anything). It is comforting to know that all of these students will continue their work with and through caring and be able to help better our understanding of social issues. ❤️

HALLOWEEN IS COMING

AND HEY GUYS MY BOOK IS OUT BY THE WAY AHHH!!

The Missing, a YA paranormal/lgbtq+, you can check it out here on Amazon. it’s a little bit sherlock holmes meets ghost hunters, in victorian london, with a queer main character and i am just so excited to finally be able to share it with you guys!!  (ノ゚ο゚)ノミ★゜・。。・゜゜・

passive aggressive reminder that more than two genders and transgender people have existed for millennia

reminder that colonialism forced native societies to revert back to their gender assigned at birth or be killed

reminder that there has been Mahu in Hawai’i until it was forcefully taken and colonized by white america

reminder that there were Hijra in South Asia until britain colonized it and forced every Hijra person into concentration camps the same time the german holocaust was happening

reminder that We’Wha was lhamana who served as an Ambassador to the Zuni people in 1886 to Grover Cleveland and was arrested for witch craft

reminder that in ancient Egypt there were people who were transgender and Egyptologists say that it was just people who were “buried wrong”

reminder that there are thousands of societies and cultures lost because of white colonization and we will never hear their stories

reminder that when this isnt taught in school it erases the history of people of color and queer people 

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I went off on twitter. This was mostly about sexuality, but it fucking applies to gender too, Melissa.

Transcript:

“Why are there new terms for sexualities? They sound made up.“ 

 Yes, Susan, that’s language; A BUNCH OF MADE UP SOUNDS THAT EVOLVE OVER TIME

This isn’t the 40s, Bob; I’m not a hep cat homophile, I’m a tired lesbian who wants you to leave the nice demi/pan/aro/ace/etc queers ALONE.

All they wanna do… is have a nice succinct name… and a nice little flag… AND WALK IN THE PRIDE PARADE LIKE THE REST OF US, MIKAELA.

I’ll put it this way: 

 "If thou dost protest thine word’s natural evolutions, mayhaps THOUST GET THEE TO AN INN FOR THINE ELDERY, HORATIO.”

Perhaps… have some empathy & maybe think about how people are different from you & that doesn’t invalidate either of your feelings, Chad.

“Everyone has to make an emotional connection before they’re sexually attracted to someone.“ 

 No, Lucy, I’d bang hot total strangers.

But hey… if you think that… maybe… YOU SHOULD LOOK UP THESE SEXUALITIES YOU’RE SAYING ARE MADE UP AND REASSESS YOUR’S, SHAKIRA.

We make up new words b/c we need a new word. That’s how you know that an "app” is the word for the application on your microcomputer, Lou.

So I’m sorry if you’re lazy/new words scare/threaten you in your  old age. But these are my queer sisters/bros/NB kin & they’re REAL & VALID

Survey Into Gender And Sexuality Experiences

In an attempt to develop some concept of the populations, numbers, and correlations of certain belief patterns in online LGBTQ+ spaces, I have drafted this semi-formal survey.

It is not associated with any academic institution or data collection group. Simply a personal project. As such, it has not been reviewed by the APA or any other formal review groups.

It is extremely long, and will take around 20-30 minutes to complete.

All questions excepting the first two demographics questions are completely optional, so if you do not feel confident in your ability to answer a question, please skip it, or mark it as “blank.”

If possible, please also pass this survey along to others.

If you have questions regarding the survey, or the data collected by it, please send those questions to the ask system on this blog.

All responses are anonymous. The “sign in” feature is to prevent people from spamming the form with duplicate submissions.

You are able to edit your responses after submission, in the event that you wish to change the way you answered a question or questions.

If you wish to take the survey, click here.

Summaries and cleaned raw data from the survey results will be posted on this blog at 100, 250, and 500 respondents, and every additional 500 respondents after that.

Cleaned raw data in public releases includes the full text of any text input. 

The survey will be closed in one year (August 1st, 2018), or if no new responses have been added for three months (90 days). 

RePosting this as we enter Pride Month(s)

Pride is something I struggle with to some degree even having come out of the closet. There are days when it’s quite clear that unless I “present” as Trans NonBinary I will not be seen as such.

Some days nobody could stop me from “presenting,” other days it’s an honest chore, and there have been long stretches where I’m too busy disentangling myself from my own dysphoria to grasp what’s going on at all. So accept this friendly reminder:

You deserve to feel proud, year round, no matter what.

If you’re not ready to march - that’s fine.If you haven’t come out - that’s fine.If you’re too broke to go to events - that’s fine.If you’re just not feeling it - that’s fine too.

Regardless of the feelings that can complicate things, I’m happy you’re here. I take pride in simply knowing people like you. That’s enough. You’re enough! <3
DO NOT FOLLOW ME IF YOUR FEMINISM DOESN'T INCLUDE:

• Trans women
• Trans men
• Intersex people
• The LGBTQ community
• Queer people of colour
• People with disabilities
• Autistic and neurodivergent people
• Sex workers
• Immigrants
• Women of colour
• People with mental illness
• The Black Lives Matter movement
• The poor and homeless
• Male advocacy
• Sexual assault survivors (men and women)
• Muslim women (with or without the hijab)
• Jewish women
• Sikh women
• Mothers