Hey maybe when talking about how religion relates to queerness consider the fact that out rabbis have been ordained as early as 1984 (Reconstructionist) and 1985 (Reform). In 1990 Reform Judaism issued a proclamation that all reform seminaries had to accept lesbian and gay rabbinical students.
In 1993 Reconstuctionists issued that their Rabbis are encouraged to honor and conduct Jewish weddings for same gender couples.
In 1995 a Reform Rabbi officiated at the commitment ceremony of a junior Rabbi at his synagogue and her wife. (disclaimer: I grew up a member of this particular congregation and both Rabbis involved were my Rabbis. In fact I was being taught in Hebrew School by Rabbi Bender when she got married, and wish I had been older and more able to understand what was happening then, and had not lost touch with her when she left to work at a synagogue in California) This led to five years of conversation within the larger Reform movement and…
In 2000 Reform Judaism ruled in favor of honoring Jewish weddings for same gender couples.
In 2000 the school that trains Reform Rabbis in the US established a center in the school to educate all their students on LGBTQ issues, specifically to ensure that their Rabbis could be effective spiritual leaders, healers and of course teachers for LGBTQ Jews.
In 2003 Reform Judaism officially recognized that all their previous language on the matter excluded bisexual and transgender Jews, and sought to change that issuing a resolution called
“Support for the Inclusion and Acceptance of the Transgender and Bisexual Communities” This included accepting out Bi and Trans folks to their rabbinical schools.
In 2006 Conservative Judaism decided to admit out LGB students to their Rabbinical seminaries provided they agreed to abstain from gay sex.
In 2009 Reform Judaism updated their documents to state that a person’s gender is what they identify as, period, and a Reform prayerbook came out with a prayer for transitioning.
In 2012 Conservative Judaism decided that gay sex within the confines of marriage would be ok, and therefore they would have to allow gay folks to get married to facilitate that. Also that Bisexuality is a real thing and that their previous stance of telling bi folks to partner with opposite sex partners was kinda wrong of them.
In 2014 Reform Judaism’s central committee joined a lawsuit where several religious groups in favor of marriage have come together against faith based bans on marriage equality in North Carolina. They have also been making statements to the Supreme Court about ways that it is not against religious ideology.
This year (2015) a new prayerbook was put out for Reform congregations to use on the High Holy Days. It not only added a gender neutral way of calling a person to read from the Torah (this is major) but also changed the wording of lines referencing a bride and groom under the chuppah to instead say a couple under the chuppah
And many many other stories from both Judaism and other faiths.
When you act like religion and queerness are inherently opposed, you are not only being shitty as all fuck to us religious queers, but are also making it easy for the bigots to pretend religion is an ok excuse, when there honestly is no reason why religion and queerness can’t exist in harmony.