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My Clexa Con Experience

I have taken a few days between the Con ending and now, I figured it would give me time to process what exactly happened that magical weekend… Turns out, it only made the job harder.

To articulate what happened, what I and many who attended the Con experienced- is near to impossible to do without sounding cheesy or ideological. But it was. That’s exactly what it was.

We created a space where everyone was accepted. We created a space where people of all ages, races, sexual orientation, gender identity, and belief system felt loved and accepted. Above all, we created a safe space where people could be vulnerable without fear of judgement. For those three days we had created a sort of Utopua for ourseves; no one fought, everyone was respectful, there was constructive conversations about race, representation, and how we could make our world a better place.

I arrived to Bally’s not expecting much, maybe 200-300 people- what I was met with was a convention center filled and a line that went on way past my wildest imagination. I picked up my camera, slapped on my “staff” badge, and I got to work.

Walking around the convention center I was met with so many beautiful faces. I tried to strike up a conversation with everyone I met before I take the picture- you can look in the eyes of anyone I had taken a picture with over that weekend. It’s my firm belief the difference between a good shot and a great shot is the relationship you build between a subject and yourself, you can see it in their eyes exactly what they’re thinking… If they like you or not, if they’re comfortable or not, if they want to be there or not.

I hope when my photos come out you can see what I saw through that lens… A group of amazing, passionate, beautiful women from all walks of life and all places.

Now getting to what I assume all of you have read this far for: Yes, Katherine, Dominique, Natasha, Elise, Elizabeth, Rachel, Zoie, Sarah, Amy, Jasika, and everyone are some of the nicest, most sincere people I’ve ever met. But I want to talk about a particular couple right now… WayHaught, or Kat and Dom. Listen to me when I tell you- I have never met two nicer, down to earth, smart, beautiful and incredible women. When Dominique talks to you, you feel like you two are the only ones in the room, she engages you in a way that’s almost hypnotozing, she makes physical contact to make sure you know she’s genuinely listening to what you’re saying… And Kat, where do I even begin. If you’ve ever watched an interview or a video of Kat talking, you can hear the kindness in her voice. When you talk to her you feel an almost safety blanket put around you, that she’s there for you no matter what.

The Shoot, WayHaught, and Hollstein panel was absolutely insane- and you could tell thqt the actresses thought it was just as bonkers as we did. I also want to take a moment to recognize all of the amazing panelists/interviewers- you guys made a hard job look easy. And Dana, having Elise and Natasha read from Clexa/Xena and Gabrielle/Carol scripts was one of the greatest things ever done on a panel EVER. It was unbelievable. Everyone I met over that weekend kept repeating the same question over and over… “Is this really happening?”

Yes. It happened.

I also met many people in the industry that I’ve long admired, notably Emily Andras (If you know me well, you know I was on board with Wynonna Earp since day one). I also took her writing class, the central theme of it being a WayHaught wedding- (she knows us too well 👀) and I learned so much valuable writing/industry rules to follow and goals to keep working on that I will never forget… Least of all my favorite piece of advice, “You know you’ve made it the first time you say ‘no’ in the writers room.”

Oh… And did I mention Sara Ramirez showed up? So, let me tell you a little story- on Saturday I worked about 10 hours, just photographing everyone and everything. I realized I had to finish a 5 page paper due for my English class that I had to get in before midnight, so at 10 p.m. I get to my hotel, write my essay and send it in… I then get peer Pressured into going into the “Sinful” party (Thanks Evan and Sam 😜) and didn’t get back to my hotel until around 3:30 am… So I slept in and unfortunately missed the Queer POC representation panel (the one I was really looking forward to) but by pure luck they were doing a part 2 later on! So… I get to the panel, and I use the term panel loosely as it was more of a very large group discussion about everything from race to safe spaces and who shows up? Sara Ramirez in all of her beautiful Bisexual glory. After that, she sort of became a panelist as well- talking about mental health (which hey ClexaCon 2018 how about a mental health panel!) And the difficulties growing up Bisexual and biracial. After the panel the entire room had a group hug.

Believe me when I tell you, Sara is one of the most charming people I met that weekend- and I learned more than I could ever thank her and the panel for. Being a queer white woman I know of many things, I know about mental health issues because I’ve suffered them, I know what it’s like to be in a wheelchair for an extended period of time and the difficulties that entails (and I also know how hard it is to re-learn how to walk), I know about being gay, and I know about having white privelage.

What I don’t know is race, what it means to be biracial, trans, Bisexual, asexual, gender non conforming, and many many other things. And I will never pretend that I do. Because I can’t possibly know what I haven’t experienced. That’s why as a screenwriter and someone who tells stories it was imperative for me to ask the amazing and diverse people in that room what I can do to help tell their stories and if it was okay to ask for them to help me do so, what they wanted to see in strong female characters that represents who they are. They were so gracious and kind, they gave so many wonderful suggestions and guidelines to work on that I will always keep in mind. I didn’t say much during the panel but that was the entire point of being a white woman in a room about Queer POC representation… It was my job to shut up and listen to them. And I’m so glad I did.

To Alexia, Sam, Lisa, Evan, literally ALL of the amazing organizers and volunteers- we have made something that will last for years to come. I hope to see you all next year for ClexaCon 2018, because there’s no way we’re letting this little piece of Utopia go.

-Rachel Kom Fotokru

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anonymous asked:

I just think people have rights to prefer who's top and who's bottom,please don't say horrible words to them,PLEASE DON'T JUDGE.

I’m assuming you are referring to this post anon, although I don’t understand where you got the idea that I was saying ‘horrible words’ to anyone since there is nothing of the sort in that post. In fact, I specifically stated that it’s absolutely fine to have a preference to who tops and bottoms. To quote myself in that post as proof ‘it’s perfectly ok to have a preference for one character in a certain position’ so I also can’t see why you’re assuming I’m judging people with a preference. A lot of readers have a preference, even a lot queer couples themselves have a preference, although not always. There’s nothing wrong with that. 

However, there is a problem in fandom with heteronormativity and stereotyping of queer couples which is what I was talking about in that post. The problem is not people have a preference for a character in a certain position, it’s people assigning queer couples rigid roles rooted in the idea that the bigger, more masculine character must always be the top and could never bottom because that would make them less ‘manly’ and the smaller character must be submissive and feminine to compensate and could never top or be dominant in any way. If you like the bigger character as the top and the smaller as the bottom then that’s fine. But if that’s all you can see them as and are disgusted with the idea of switching or see bottoming as stripping a character of their masculinity then you might need to take a step back and ask yourself if you are fetishising or heteronormalising a queer couple. Preference is absolutely fine. Fetishising and heteronormativity is a problem in fandom and one that we should all work to overcome as it can have an impact on how actual queer couples are perceived in real life. 

“Queer” arose as a critique of the assumptions that underlie identity politics. These assumptions were that oppressed groups were well-defined, had clear borders, that all members of the oppressed group have common desires and needs, and that a small portion of that group could thus speak for the entirety of the group. However, queer liberation movements remaining rooted in identity politics have led us down the road of debating the precise boundaries of queer and arguing over whose concerns are legitimate, all the while pretending that we were not participating in identity politics.

By generalizing “the straights” as a coherent group that hegemonically oppresses “the queers,” and that the reason we don’t want to assimilate is because we don’t we like them, it becomes both too easy for us to ignore struggles that do not directly touch the entire queer community and to reduce anti-assimilation into nothing but a way to police the desires and identities of other queers.

We need to oppose the institution of state-sanctioned marriage because it strengthens the nuclear family as the consumptive and reproductive unit of capitalism, not because many straight people get married. Trying to invert the relationship hierarchy to shame people who are happy with a long-term relationship and shared household with a partner does not bring us a step closer to ending capitalism and ending oppression. If anti-assimilation is to be of any value, it needs to be founded on the idea that we want to destroy the current order and help build a better world, not keep ourselves separate from “the straights” because queers are somehow a well-defined group that do not find themselves as part of any other groups and can be kept apart from the rest of the world.

While an understanding of intersectionality helps us to understand that some queers face issues that other queers do not, intersectionality is not enough as it does not address the fact that the interests of bourgeois are in direct contradiction to the interests of the majority of queers and this conflict can only be resolved through furthering class struggle, and ultimately by social revolution. We also need to be wary of a politics that has us make alliances with the people in power rather than with members of other marganilized and exploited groups.

—  Gayge Operaista - Radical Queers and Class Struggle: A Match to be made. In: Queering Anarchism (2012) 119-121.
Sexuality is another factor distinguishing social experience, but as noted by Rosamond King, female same-sex desire is “near-invisible” as a behavior and as an identity, in society and in scholarship, meaning that it is actively hidden or cast as nonexistent even when contradictory evidence exists. King suggested emphasis on other aspects of identity made same-sex desire less visible, and Indo-Caribbean women’s desires even more so. Allusions and suggestions of queer subtexts among Indo-Caribbean peoples have been made, such as among Indo-Caribbean women’s performance in matikhor or Indian men in indentureship contexts. Lauren Pragg uses matikhor as an allegory within Indo-Caribbean feminism to assess the queer potentialities “rooted in the erotic emancipation, sacred elements, and communal connections of the matikor space, as well as the non-normative embodiments, behaviors, and imaginings it can create for Indo-Caribbean women.” Sean Lokaisingh-Meighoo believed the homosocial conditions of indentureship and jahaji bhai (ship brother) created deep bonds, possibly of a “queer quality.” Both Pragg and Lokaisingh-Meighoo point to the absence of queer analysis of Indo-Caribbean culture and practices, including fluid gender and sexual identifications and expressions. While offering crucial insight into Indo-Caribbean women’s cultural and social experiences, the edited collections Matikor (1999) and Bindi (2011) interrogated their negotiations of gender and ethnicity within patriarchal Indo-Caribbean culture, a culture wherein female sexuality is subjugated to male control and layered with burdens of respectability and family honor. What does it mean to be same-sex loving in that context?

“(Un)Settling the Politics of Identity and Sexuality Among Indo-Trinidadian Same-Sex Loving Women” by Krystal Nandini Ghisyawan in Indo-Caribbean Feminist Thought Genealogies, Theories, Enactments (2016)

*note: majority of in-text citations removed for readability.

crossmyheartdarling  asked:

i really want to follow some more liberal (read: lgbt+ positive, pro-choice, feminist) christians on tumblr so can you post this publicly and can people who are christian/have a christian blog like this so i can follow them! 💛

You got it!

Calling all politically progressive, socially conscious, capitalism critical, woman affirming, and/or justice engaged Christian blogs! Self identify or raise up other blogs of interest!

My personal recommendation is Queer Theology. They’re Biblicaly rooted, socially active, incredibly informed, and incredibly well moderated.


cyberbeastswordwolfe  asked:

So I'm running into a bit of a problem with my love interest. A few of my early readers (two lesbian girls and a gay male) have said that they want the love interest to be Lesbian, but she's supposed to end up with the main character, who is male. I want to write the story and I want the main character (who is straight) in a relationship, but I'm worried that people will be upset that the main love interest isn't lesbian. What should I do?

Hmm.  Well, this could have something to do with your audience being queer (as a bi person, I tend to find myself rooting for queer couples to become canon more than straight ones, just because they’re less represented and feel fresher as a result) but if all of them are saying this, it could mean she and your main character just don’t have good chemistry or your main character isn’t likable enough to be a compelling romantic candidate.

My advice to you would be getting some more betas – I try to aim for fifteen to twenty myself – of varying genders and sexual preferences.  If most of them aren’t feelin’ it, there’s a problem that you need to lend serious thought to.

At this point, I would either edit the main character to be more sympathetic, and/or make the love interest a lesbian and give him a love interest who compliments his personality better.

Here is my post on writing relationships and here is my post on creating likable characters, along with types of male and female characters to avoid romanticizing. 

At the end of the day, however, it’s your story, and no one can or should write your story but you.  So ultimately, when all is said and done, my advice is to do what feels right.

Best of luck, and happy writing!  <3

Ok so here is the crazy plot twist! Murder mystery/thriller, two queer women, season finale, neither dies, they end up together, happy, with kids… It’s revolutionary 😭

On Canon Ships, Characters, and Queer Representation in Person of Interest

So, recently on one of my favorite television shows, Person of Interest, had a queer ship all but confirmed as canon.  This was a momentous occurrence for many people who had recognized the chemistry between the characters of Root and Shaw for some time, but there was also a rather loud minority of people decrying the show for not going ‘far enough’.  This raised, in my mind, questions about the nature of characters and relationships on various shows, as well as the larger question of queer representation on television.  To unpack the idea of queer representation and the recent cry for ‘canon’ pairings as the de facto form of representation, I want to examine Person of Interest in terms of romantic relationships, friendships, characters, writing style, and the nature of queer representation within this universe. 

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Holy shit you guys there’s a p cool-looking movie about the queer roots of Wonder Woman coming out on 10/13 in North America. (And it’s directed by a qwoc, so good chances that it’ll be handled well!)