queer role model

It’s pretty fucking scary how many queer youth and young adults on this site are radicalized by “conservative protestantism in a gay hat” and/or radfems. I’d say 10-20% at a low estimate? The answer is “a terrifying amount,” but it’s hard to measure precisely. Fewer on Reddit and in IRL spaces, but there’s a perception in social justice circles that Reddit is evil, and then people with social support are less likely to be radicalized.

In any case, it needs to be addressed, and addressed at a deeper level than “Why [specific group] should be included” or even “Why rhetoric of invaders or being the real oppressors or sexual predators applied to identity groups is bad.” We need to address why these people are so vulnerable to radical exclusionist neo-conservatism, and honestly, I think part of that is recognizing that queer people under ~30 (particularly in the US and UK, and a few other places) are essentially second- and third-generation genocide survivors. No one talks about that. I’m not minimizing the first-generation survivors, and I understand that it is painful to talk about any of this, but more attention needs to be paid to the effects of growing up in the aftermath. In particular, the isolation and lack of mentor figures (particularly for trans people), and the tendency to latch onto any half-qualified queer adult as role models or political guides (and that the surviving queer middle aged adults skew cis and female, which means that you get a higher concentration of TERFs). Also, the difficulty in cross-generational knowledge transmission and the lack of official teaching of queer history—we are particularly vulnerable to this, because queer people are mostly born into cishet families. If we are not careful, every generation is a stolen generation. Not addressing all this has allowed the radicalization to happen. We need counter-radicalization online programs, because most of the radicalization happens on the internet to people who have no other way to access queer communities, and those will definitely need to take this into account.

Personally I’m a fan of celebs realizing that there aren’t enough positive queer role models and coming out to make that difference. That being said, you can’t force anyone to be comfortable sharing their sexuality and if they’re not comfortable enough to share it it’s not your decision to ignore that and decide for them. That’s it.

Over here just trying to make the best of this masculine body of mine.

It is interesting to live here in the south during a time where much of the world, especially the younger generations, are transitioning away from the idea that gender is a binary. Slowly, I believe the society here in my home town will recognize individuality as something that can be expressed beyond our biological obstacles. Take myself for example…

-Elliott Alexzander

Image from:
Raymond Stephanson, The Eighteenth Century,  Vol. 38, No. 2 (SUMMER 1997), pp.151-170

Stephanson’s ‘Epicoene Friendship’ paradigm provides some context for romantic male friendships in the eighteenth century, and at face-value it fits the Hamilton/Laurens relationship startlingly well, but it should be noted that these conventions were out-dated by the 1770s by the shifting standards of masculinity, so the fact that Hamilton and Laurens were still adhering to a similar model either means they were overly-affectionate dorks trying to act like the old-school millennial bros that came before them, or they were just really gay and pretty bad at hiding it.

anonymous asked:

Sorry but i don't realy know why would Jesse cry?

[puts authorial intent glasses on] i always feel the need to over explain stuff i do so this will do fine

tl;dr if youve never had a happy cry over successful queer role models then im not rly sure what to tell u man

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Dear straight allies,

Do you want to genuinely be helpful to the lgbtq community? Well, sometimes you’re going to have to do things that you don’t want to do. That seem counterproductive. But if you really are an ally, you’ll do them.

So stay out of lgbtq safe spaces.

You may be feeling hurt, confused, even offended. You may be thinking “But if it’s meant to be inclusive, then it should include me too”. Groups like that have to include those kinds of things; it’s the only real way many of them can avoid public outcry. But that doesn’t mean it’s meant to be a zoo for cishet people.

I’ve seen too many lgbtq groups- especially ones meant for queer youth- poisoned by well-meaning straight people. It may be difficult to understand, but the reason queer people go to safe spaces isn’t for acceptance from straight people. It’s for the safety of being around other queer people. 

A great example of this is my former middle school’s QSA. The staff administrator was a cishet drama teacher. Everyone else was queer, but nobody felt comfortable talking about queer subjects with her in the room. At one point, she even said she identified with the rainbow flag because she felt she was “weird” and “different from everyone else”. Inserting yourself into the lgbtq community like that does much more harm than good. 

Queer youth, especially, need strong queer role models, not what they’ve had their whole lives: well meaning but in the end not nearly sufficient straight people. As a straight ally, the best thing you can do is stay out of queer spaces.

I finally left my (fine, I admit it, she’s abusive) gf tonight and you all deserve a thank you

We’ve been together for over three years and I love her so much, but it took me a long time and a lot of help to recognise that I wasn’t OK. Because she lives with bipolar and anxiety, I struggled to distinguish abuse from just her lashing out in a bad headspace, but on many occasions she would:

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Introducing Alystair!

pronouns: they/them or he/him
age: 20
online at: @Not_SoSure on twitter

Alystair wrote a short story titled “The Breath and the Dirt” for the pilot issue of Callithump! They describe the piece as, “Two boys grow up and fall in love in rural Kentucky.” His story contains beautiful visuals and a lovely depiction of the evolution of a relationship.

Pledge to the Callithump! Kickstarter to get a copy of the zine and read Alystair’s amazing contribution!

We asked each of our contributors to answer a few questions about themselves! Here are a few of Alystair’s answers:

Q: Describe your perfect weather:

A: “Bright sun, frequent breeze, clouds moving very quickly across the sky.”

Q: Can you boogie?

A: “I can fake it, but only with non-dancers.”

Q: Do you have a queer role model? If so, who?

A: “Miss Major.”

Q: When did you start writing?

A: “I started writing seriously when I was a senior in high school.”

Q: Tell us anything you’d like!

A: “I am embarrassingly bad at checkers. I have never won a game.”


im glad this terrible post resonated with so many folks lol,,,,, teaching is hard for weird reasons and no one understands!!

i really do have a lot of mixed feelings about adult-minor interaction on social media, especially sites like tumblr where theres a lot of personal stuff and also nsfw content. because im with kids so much i think a lot about ethical treatment of young people, and while i feel very strongly about the responsibilities of adults to respect minors space and be sure not to use their position of social power to take advantage of young people, i kinda feel like strict adult/minor divides between social media spaces isnt always a benefit. especially for queer youths, having mentors and older queer figures to be role models or even just to show the possibility of queer futures,,,, i think is really important. i wish id had more queer adults in my life as a kid, and now as a teacher i really aim to be, at the very least, an example of a queer adult who is alive and happy (sometimes!) and successful (not really!) 

that being said, i super respect any minors who feel uncomfy w adults being in their social media spaces. the onus is totally on adults to not abuse their power over young people! adults pls be ethical and set good ethical examples for other adults and young folks!!!!!

anyway, sorry to get so dang serious on a jokey joke post,,,, tell me ur thoughts and feelings in the replies or message me, im sure i will holler about how much i love my student a lot more in the future 

Introducing Orion!

pronouns: he/him/his
age: 19
online at: poetry blogmain bloginstagram, and twitter

Orion contributed “PSALM 23” to the pilot issue of Callithump! His poem is absolutely stunning - like all of Orion’s poetry, it is full of beautiful imagery and descriptions that leave you thinking for days after you first read them. Orion describes his piece as: “Two boys tussle by a riverbed. It is a desperate and holy encounter.”

To read Orion’s poem, contribute to the Callithump! Kickstarter and get your copy of the zine!!!

We asked each of our contributors to answer a few questions about themselves! Here are a few of Orion’s answers:

Q: Where is your favorite place to write/draw/create?

A: “Curled up in my bed in a nest of pillows with a glass of chocolate milk.”

Q: Do you have any pets? Do you want to tell us about them?

A: “SNICKERDOODLE IS MY DOG!!! She is a tiny fluffball who prefers sleeping and cheese over everything else.”

Q: What’s something you can do that you’re proud of?

A: “I can play guitar and recite the alphabet backwards!”

Q: Do you have a queer role model? If so, who are they?

A: “Laura Jane Grace is a queer trans woman in the band Against Me! and she’s a constant source of inspiration for me.”

Q: How did you get the idea for your story?

A: “I’ve read a lot of pieces about gay unholiness, but not many about the inverse. I wanted to write a poem that allowed my love for men to be the holy part - although there are other parts of my life (and the narrative of this particular poem) that aren’t clean or pretty, loving men isn’t one of them. There is nothing more holy than queer adoration.”