Transitioning isn’t always linear. It isn’t always “from one gender to another.” There’s a misconception that when people transition they increasingly conform to gender roles; that they reinforce the gender binary. If anything, the opposite is true. As we grow more confident in ourselves, we expand the boundaries of our presentation and how the world conceptualizes gender. The further on hormones I was, the less I felt tied up by the gender norms that restricted me throughout my teenage years. Transitioning can welcome in bodies to new forms of gender presentation and even create new genders. This development of self-consciousness isn’t just for us, it’s also a way of communicating that everyone should be able to express themselves. Transitioning isn’t just about gender: it’s about our ability to create community and understanding.
Fat bodies are either forcibly desexualized, often being made a mockery, or hyper sexualized, being reduced to a simple closeted sexual fetish. But not my body. My body gets me up everyday, gets me to work, my body heals me, my body works wonders, my body gives me all the life I need. My sexuality is undoubtedly linked to my body and it’s beautiful form. I will not be reduced to a fetish, and my sexuality will not go muted or be made a punch line in media.