I work at a terrible job. I work upwards of 60 hours in a week outside in 100+ degree heat. It’s exhausting and I won’t catch a break until late August when I go back to school.
I like my terrible job, even if it is terrible. I like the kids and making sure that they’re safe and taken care of. I’m even friends with some of the parents. But today, it was one of the parents that made the already hard job even harder. The mom I’ll call Mrs. Smith is a nice woman, although a very zealous and almost Westboro style Christian.
Our pool phone decided not to work today and Mrs. Smith needed to make a call. I offered her my phone as a substitute. I unlocked my phone, which has a picture or my girlfriend as the home screen. Mrs. Smith stares at the picture and asks who it was. I answered the question truthfully. She stated at me for a long time before declining the use of my phone. I really didn’t think much of it, as I had to up in the stand to watch over the fifty some-odd people that were in the pool.
What I got to do while I was sitting there, pretty much dying in the heat was Mrs. Smith freaking out to her friends about the fact that I was gay. She questioned my morals, my ability to watch over the kids and do what I’ve done for two years running.
“I’m not sure I feel comfortable leaving my daughters here with a lesbian at the pool. I’m not even sure why the company hired her. I think I’m going to lodge a complaint.”
I was starting to feel physically sick, and I was unable to even defend myself from the onslaught of insults this homophobic woman was throwing at me. I couldn’t take my eyes off the pool, there were far too many people swimming and jumping on top of each other for me to even divert my attention for two minutes to tell this woman off.
This is where I found my hero.
Naum (pronounced like “gnome”) is a kid that has gotten into many scrapes at my pool. I’ve dragged him out once after he hit his head on the diving board and patched up various cuts and nursed other injuries for him. He can be a little bit of a jerk, but he’s a very stereotypical 13 year old and he’s one of my favorite kids. Naum was sitting at the picnic table near Mrs. Smith and her friends, listening to the same conversation I was. And he spoke up.
“You shouldn’t trash talk her.” He yelled. “She’s the best damn lifeguard here. She cares a lot for us kids and she takes real great care of us. It isn’t up to you to decide if she’s done a good job.”
Mrs. Smith replied, in that hushed and awkward tone we all know “But she’s a homosexual ”
Naum simply replied “Yeah – and she’s a person, and she feels, and she’s saved my life once or twice. My mom loves her and knows she’s gay. Lodge a complaint and you’re going to have the wrath of the entire pool against you. You’re a cruel person.”
At this point, I was in tears. When I finally was able to get down from the stand, I found Naum and hugged him, literally crying. He shrugged it off and said that he didn’t like seeing me “visibly upset.”
“She’s a bitch – and besides, we all like you, so who cares. You’re like our own Superwoman.”
I was promptly tackle-hugged by 17 of my pool children, who were all screaming that they loved me.. I have never felt so loved or so proud of a kid in my life. I’m so glad that Naum has already learned the value of human emotion. This kid that I’ve had to put back together twice this summer is my hero.
tl;dr: A 13 year old boy at the pool I swim at told of a raging homophobe for me because I couldn’t stand up for myself.
Whoever decided that prom should be at the end of the year with AP testing, finals, college decisions, scholarships and looking for a summer job needs to jump off a bridge while simultaneously swallowing rat poison laced with laxatives.
In order to make my shifts at my summer job less terrible, I always rap Gambino songs to myself while I am on-stand (I’m a lifeguard at a rec plex). I figured out that I would be ready to rotate to my next station if I recited 4 songs. I had memorized like 60% of his songs after Camp came out. Long-story short, sometimes I went too hard and I’d get bewildered looks from the patrons. So yeah, don’t come to where I work because there’s no guarantee I can save you.
I wish I didn’t need a degree to be a librarian, and also they’re be an opening at the local library… Or even a quaint little bookshop… I’d be counting down the hours to my shift if I had a summer job like that
For a few hours last night, I slipped back into the world of regular dating. We didn’t talk about money, no one mentioned shopping or trips or anything, and when there was a lull in the conversation, he took the chance to fill it with my moans.
If I could keep what I have with the kid, I think it’ll bring the last bit of my life into balance. School, family/friends, sugaring, and my needs will all be balanced out to keep me sane.
On the sugar front, R is definitely really interested in me. With him, I’m total girl next door and we’re talking about a 2K allowance. I’m trying to get together with some guys from my Lacey profile, where I act like the Queen of France and tell men I deserve only the best and refuse anything less. A few guys have been talking to me about some nice 5K or 7K allowances, so I’m really pushing for this to work out.
My goal is to get a combined allowance of 15K monthly over summer. If I can pull that off, then school will be paid for along with everything else.
My dream goal is to get between 20K and 25K monthly, but I know 15K could be pushing it so I’m going to do the whole ask for a much higher starting to settle for what I really wanted thing with it.
Wish me luck girls! I’ve got a lot of hustling to do.
Did you do any volunteering for speech pathology as an undergrad? I've been trying to find volunteering opportunities but I can't seem to find anything for SLP. Is it because of patient privacy concerns? If there aren't volunteering opportunities what other things can I do to learn more or get involved in SLP as an undergrad? Thanks in advanced!
It’s difficult to get volunteer positions in directly in SLP, simply because to work in speech therapy, you need to have your CCCs. But there are ways to have related experiences that can help your resume.
-Work as a paraprofessional, substitute teacher, or a TA in a school. You get to work with children in a classroom setting, giving you experience with both typically developing children and children with special needs/disabilities. Check with our local district to see requirements for fingerprints and licensing. - Volunteer at a hospital, rehab center, or nursing home. The geriatric population is a group that are in high need of SLP services. Having experience in patient care is a real plus, as is knowing in inner workings of a hospital. - Work at a camp/daycare! - Contact SLPs to come in and observe their sessions. In most undergrad programs, your 25 observation hours are built into the program, but it never hurts to explore outside the classroom!
But really, any job is a great resume builder and you can foster skills that are useful to speech therapy, such as team building and organization.
So my advice? Get out there and do something! It can’t hurt.