if you are a woman who loves women and you feel divorced from your gender — if you feel like you’re not fully a woman, or like womanhood has been applied to you but isn’t a part of you, or like the kind of woman you are isn’t accepted by society — please know that you are not a bad lesbian or bi/pan/queer woman for feeling this way, and please do not listen to anyone who’d tell you you are. heterosexual society puts a lot of pressure onto women’s bodies and selves, and loving women is inherently a rebellion against what gender expects of women: these and other, varying factors (such as those that doubly or uniquely affect trans women, disabled women, women of color, and gender-nonconforming women) can cause a difficult experience with womanhood among women like us.
you are allowed to wonder or feel distant or uncomfortable. there is a long-documented history of these feelings; they are not newfangled or trivial. your experiences are real and deserve respect, and however you exist with your gender is absolutely fine.
i would like to emphasize that this is true regardless of the gender you were assigned at birth or how you’re perceived by others.
Lol I’m usually too much of a coward to message artists but I can’t KEEP IT IN. *takes deep breath* You are such an inspiration to me. Your art and creativity are truly amazing and I’m so glad I’m finally able to follow you after a year of having your tumblr webpage on my favourites bar! :3 *shakily exhales*
Hey emma, do you have any tips for memorizing notes? Im just kinda stuck in the middle of my notes and my head seems "already full".
Hey! It sometimes can feel like things aren’t going in but then you do manage to remember them in the right situation/context. Here are a few things I’d recommend:
read and summarise - read the passage over. Highlight or underline key words and onlykeywords! Summarise in your own words what you’ve read. Try to make it simpler and more to the point.
listen to audio - either place your notes into google translate or if you have a mac, select the text and click “add as spoken track to iTunes”. That way you’ll get a file just talking about your notes which you can add to your phone. I did this with an essay two years ago and still remember it haha!
make sure your studying in an active and meaningful way - just passively studying isn’t going to put the information in your brain. You need to find ways to engage your brain. This could be using different study methods such as mind maps, study groups or flashcards!
handwrite your notes - by writing things out you’re giving your brain more time to process the information and therefore it is being more absorbed.
set up a study schedule over time rather than trying to cram - you’re better off doing an hour of study of a topic over a few days or weeks compared to trying to memorise everything in 4 hours.
talk about it to someone - ask a family member or friend to test your knowledge. Try to explain the concept to them without your notes. If you can manage, awesome! If not, you’ll be able to see where your knowledge gaps are.
use mnemonic devices - this could be making a story, an acronym, or rhymes!
teach someone else - often cited as the best method for learning. Get your friend, a sibling, or a parent to sit with you. Walk them through the topic, ask them questions to make sure they’re understanding and so you can explain better.
get some sleep - sleep is an easy way to boost your remember. A lot of people recommend reviewing notes or flashcards before bed!
use a colour code - I love colour coding my notes! It helps me visualise my notes when I need to remember things!
follow the curve of forgetting - You can’t be expected to remember every single thing from a class. Here is a graphic on the curve of forgetting. As you can see with the blue line, most of what you learn is forgotten if you don’t review it. But what the other lines show is how it can be retained if you review consistently. Make an effort to review your notes after class, after a day, after a week, and after a month. This printable pack includes a revision checklist you can use!
So after all the hell my mother has caused me, she has given me 6 weeks to move out (which is right by my birthday). I have no money, I am unable to work and I am freaking the hell out. Like what do I do?? What can I do? Do I just give up and live on the streets? Because I may not have a choice at this point.
Me and my family have never gotten along. But even less so when they found out I am transmale. It made my mum sick and she has been making me pay rent ever since. Out of the blue, they’re moving and she says I am no longer welcome to come with them
I don’t a gofundme or anything of that nature. All I do is commissions and well, now I really need some. Or, if you just want to give me money I will be forever grateful to you.
I don’t know what to do or who to go to but all I have to focus on right now is finding somewhere to live.
Thanks for listening, PM me if you want a commission or want the paypal I use (I currently don’t have my own, but will when I turn 18)