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damn ari, back at it again with dem rants

Okay, first off, hello again! It’s Ari, the one who had to rant about the person who commented on my post about the faults of YanSim. I’m back again to rant about YandereDev’s current “clearing up misunderstandings” post because that idiot really makes me wanna fight something!

Warning, this post might be long and there won’t a TL;DR at the end, so I apologize in advance!

So first off, if you have to make fucking SEVEN POSTS about clearing “misunderstandings”, then there’s something wrong with you. If you do so much shit that it causes you to make multiple posts about clearing your name, then you’re doing something wrong.

Now, onto some of the points that he made in his nasty-ass post that REALLY pissed me off.

“YandereDev said that pedophilia is just another sexual orientation!”

That’s not what I said. I said that nobody chooses to be a pedophile, just like nobody gets to choose their sexual orientation. I used the words “orientation” and “pedophilia” in separate sentences of the same paragraph, but I did not say that pedophilia IS a sexual orientation

No, just stop right there. Pedophilia and sexual/romantic orientations have ZERO THINGS IN COMMON.

Sexual/romantic orientations are a part of being a person. It changes, it’s fluid. Some people need some time until they are definitely sure they are gay/trans/bi/aro-ace/etc, and some don’t. It’s a normal thing that’s a part of life, such as puberty.

Pedophilia is not a normal thing, nor should it be normalized. It harms others, mainly impressionable minors that don’t know better because they are not as informed as those older than them. Those who act upon these “desires” to pursue romantic relationships with minors are nasty people that need to just go. People choose to be pedophiles because they’re disgusting like that.

You cannot compare the two. It’s as simple as that.

“YandereDev treatened to dox someone into silence!”

That’s not how it went down. I said something I didn’t mean while I was fired up up in the middle of an angry rant about someone who had been harassing me for several months. Obviously, it shouldn’t have been taken seriously. It was an “in the heat of the moment” statement, not a genuine threat.

Firstly, he spelled “threatened” wrong. Sorry, but I get a little nit-picky about spelling. :P

But anyways, what the hell.

I may not know much about this incident, but what I DO know is that the person (they are the original owner of this blog, right?) YandereDev threatened to dox did not harass him in any way. They did nothing of the sort.

And, (again from what I’ve heard) describing a person’s house in detail while you’re threatening to doxx someone is not a heat of the moment thing. You really got to think about stuff like that. Heat of the moment thing is not thinking about what you’re going to say while getting real emotional, and then feeling really guilty about it afterwards. YandereDev, you don’t sound guilty about what had happened. In fact, you sound like you think you’re innocent and didn’t absolutely wrong.

Oh wait, YOU DO THINK THAT YOU’RE NOT THE ONE TO BLAME HERE BECAUSE YOU’RE AN UNSEEMLY ASSHOLE.

“One of the rivals in Yandere Simulator is a pedophile!”

Pedophiles are attracted to pre-pubescent children (younger than 14), and Mida Rana is attracted to boys that are older than 14, so this statement isn’t accurate, but that’s beside the point. Sometimes, video games have antagonists who do bad things, and allow you to punish the antagonists for their evil ways. Some villains kill, some villains kidnap, some villains are sexual predators. If you don’t like Mida Rana, just punish her however you see fit, like any other villain in any other video game.

Say it with me now, kids: MIDA RANA IS A PEDOPHILE BECAUSE SHE IS ATTRACTED TO MINORS. MIDA RANA IS A PEDOPHILE BECAUSE PEDOPHILIA MEANS THAT YOU DESIRE TO HAVE ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS WITH MINORS. MINORS ARE THOSE UNDER THE AGE OF 18 OR 21, IF WE’RE PUTTING THIS INTO USA LAW CONTEXT. TARO YAMADA/SENPAI IS A MINOR, IF YOU WANT TO CONSIDER MINORS BEING UNDER 21.

Just because Mida Rana is an antagonist, doesn’t mean you get to brush aside the fact that she’s a pedophile. Villains are villains because you don’t brush aside the reasons that they are in the wrong. Getting the to get rid of Mida in the game still doesn’t make it okay. She SHOULDN’T have been a TEACHER in the first place. She SHOULDN’T have been a RIVAL in the first place.

“YandereDev said that pedophilia is ‘forbidden love’!”

That’s not what I said. I was referring to love between a student and a teacher as forbidden love. Student/teacher relationships are forbidden, irrespective of the age gap between the student and teacher.

LMAO, what the honest fuck is wrong with this dude.

Teachers shouldn’t be interested in having romantic relationships with their students because it is against the law and wrong at the same time. The reason it’s “forbidden” is because teachers hold so much more control over students. They can do things to students because they have more power over them due to their seniority over the student. Plus, relationships with huge age gaps (such as the student/teacher romantic relationship) are very problematic and can turn ugly without a doubt.

Forbidden love is like a royal/noble falling for a peasant; they know they can never be together due to the standards set by their society, but they don’t care because their love for one another is that strong. Forbidden love projects the idea that love conquers all, even if their situation is hopeless. The student/teacher thing is not forbidden love and it will never be. It’s harmful, disgusting, and abusive. Forbidden love is not that, not at all.

“YandereDev reads lolicon manga!”

There was a thread on 4chan where people were editing this image by putting different things in the bag. It was a meme. I could tell that the image had been taken from a sexual manga, but I didn’t care. To me, it was like any other “reaction image” featuring a character making a silly face. The meme was about putting something funny in the bag, not the character’s age or situation. I edited the image and used it in a blog post. Just because I posted a “reaction face” that came from a manga, this doesn’t mean that I read the manga, or enjoy the content. Reaction faces are reaction faces. Memes are memes.

“Reaction faces are reaction face. Memes are meme.”

*inhales deeply* BOI.

Just because you “don’t read it” or “don’t enjoy the content”, doesn’t mean you should use the material as if it were some copypasta. The content is still gross and wrong. Using it to be “funny” just adds onto the problem.

“YandereDev liked a pornographic image of one of his underage characters!”

I give “likes” to almost all of the fan art I see on Tumblr, because I am happy and flattered to see people producing artwork based on my creations. This doesn’t mean that I’m aroused by everything that I give a “like” to, or expressing approval of the subject matter of every post that I give a “like” to.

To quote one of your nice anons:

“Does he actually read the shit he writes out?”

Liking a post on Tumblr means you approve of it, idiot! That’s the definition of approval.

“YandereDev made fun of suicidal people!”

In 2015, someone asked me if it would be possible to drive girls to suicide in Yandere Simulator. I answered, “Yes.” Then, they asked me if girls would commit suicide for silly reasons, or serious reasons. I explained that I did not want people to commit suicide for petty reasons in Yandere Simulator. As an example, I posted a screenshot of a news report about a teenage boy in Russia who committed suicide because his favorite anime character had died. This was not me “making fun of suicidal people”, but providing an example of something that should not cause enough emotional distress to cause a suicide.

Hey, how about fuck off???

You don’t know what that kid’s been going through. You have no right to determine how much emotional distress makes the suicide valid. Unless you know the kid on a personal level, you can’t say shit about him.

“YandereDev wrote rape stories!”

Game of Thrones has rape scenes. Is Game of Thrones a “rape show”? No, it is a TV show that has very dark subject matter, and characters who are put through traumatic and perilous situations. I have written stories with dark subject matter. Some of my stories involved sexual assault. The sexual assaults were never meant to be “sexy”. A more elaborate answer can be found here.

Okay, no one but kiwifarms has really talked about your shitty fanfics.

Also, rape isn’t the main focus of Game of Thrones. Just because something like a TV show has a scene that depicted something like rape, it doesn’t automatically make it a “rape show”. It just means it’s a show that has rape in it. Your fanfics are focusing on rape, putting it in the spotlight. Therefore, your fanfics are “rape stories” because you focus on it.

“YandereDev refuses to add dark-skinned characters to the game!”

That’s not true. I want the ethnicity ratio in Yandere-chan’s school to match Japan’s ethnicity ratio in the real world. In the real world, 98.5% of the population of Japan are ethnic Japanese. This means that if you went to Japan and encountered 200 people, only 3 would not be ethnic Japanese. If you go to a high school in Japan, you are simply not going to encounter dozens of dark-skinned students. With all of that said, I do plan to include a dark-skinned character in Yandere Simulator’s school in the future.

Shut the fuck up. No, literally, SHUT THE FUCK UP.

You know jack shit about Asian cultures, YandereDev. You literally don’t know what it means to be an “ethnic Japanese” or an “ethnic Asian”. You are a white man, so you have NO RIGHT to decide who’s “ethnically” Asian and who’s not.

All Asians (from the Middle East to East Asia) can have dark/brown skin, just like how they can have light/peachy skin. We are not white, we are POC. Because of your fucking ignorance YandereDev, you’re contributing to the problem Asians like me face.

I am a young Asian girl with brown skin, who comes from a Filipino family. When I was young, I didn’t considered myself as an Asian because people expect Asians to be pale and beautiful. I never proudly showed off my Asian roots until I got older and got a better understanding of my culture.

There’s this little thing called colorism, and it’s a big problem in Asian countries like Japan. In Asia, white skin = rich and dark skin = poor. That’s why most characters in anime are light skinned. Thanks to the romanticizing of pale skin and the promotion of whiteness, white skin is seen as more appealing than dark skin because Asians don’t want to be seen as “poor”. It’s sickening and saddening. Dark-skinned Asians are just as beautiful as light-skinned ones. We’re still Asians, we’re still from the same country.

Saying that you’ll never see dark-skinned students in a Japanese school is very inaccurate and ignorant. Like I said, YandereDev doesn’t know a thing about Asian cultures and should stay in his fucking lane. If he wanted to be realistic, then he would’ve had already added dark-skinned characters by now. But no, he’s a prick that doesn’t seem to understand that colorism is an issue and his game is just an inaccurate piece of shit.

“YandereDev used a transphobic slur!”

I have used the term “trap”. However, this term has nothing to do with transgender people. The term “trap” refers to a male who dresses as a female and attempts to trick people into thinking he is a female, as a prank. This word describes someone who is attempting to trick others, not someone who genuinely identifies as another gender.

I have used the term “tranny”. This is because I was directly quoting someone else’s statement word-for-word. This is not because I was using the word to demean anyone.

I have expressed a dislike for “dickgirls”. Dickgirls - or “futanari” - are a type of Japanese fetish porn. Dickgirls are female anime characters who acquire a dick through a magic potion or some other fantastical reason; the term is not used to describe males who identify as female.

YandereDev, you have no right to use any of the slurs you have said in the past. The only ones who can are the people that the slur insults because they are reclaiming the slur.

Trap is associated with transgender people because people have used it to describe transgender people before.

Just because you are quoting someone, doesn’t mean you can use the slur they used as if it was just some normal word. You need to recognize that it’s a slur and that you can’t use it in a casual way.

Say it with me: IF SOMEONE IDENTIFIES AS A FEMALE, THEN THEY ARE A FEMALE. DON’T CALL THEM MALE BECAUSE YOU’RE MISGENDERING THEM. IT’S TRANSPHOBIC.

That aside, I’m pretty sure futanari are mocking transfolk? I could be wrong, so correct me if I am!

“YandereDev steals 3D models and textures!”

I sometimes put temporary placeholder assets into the game, with the intention of replacing them with original assets as soon as possible. This is not an uncommon practice for early prototypes of video games. Yandere Simulator is no longer in an “early prototype” stage, but some temporary placeholder assets are still lingering in Yandere Simulator from its earlier days. I am still in the process of removing these assets from the game. “Theft” and “stealing” are very disingenuous ways of describing the situation. It should go without saying that I have no intention to ship the final game with models or images that I don’t have permission to use.

Even if you’re using them temporarily, you still need to ask the original creator for permission. It’s their content, so they are the ones that get to decide where their creations will go and who can use them. The sandbox of Yandere Simulator is open to the public, therefore people can still see them. YandereDev, you haven’t said that the placeholders aren’t yours, so people are going to assume that you or your volunteers made these assets. You are stealing from the creators because you aren’t stating that the assets aren’t yours and that you’re using them for a sandbox build that’s anyone can see/download.

“YandereDev used the word ‘autistic’ as an insult!”

A strange person had been harassing me for several months. Eventually, I learned that they were actually an autistic child. This helped me to understand the behavior that I had been observing from them. I proceeded to tell them that I had identified their autism, but also firmly stated that their autism wasn’t any excuse for the behavior that they had been demonstrating for the past several months. This was interpreted as some kind of attack on their autism. It wasn’t.

Oh my fucking god, I cannot believe people can be this ignorant.

Unless you’ve got some kind of extensive knowledge about autism, you have no right to assume if someone is autistic or not. You can’t assume someone has a certain disorder by observing their behavior. It’s like saying you think someone is depressed if they don’t constantly smile or look happy. It’s wrong and gross.

Also, I doubt this “strange person” was harassing you. You’re the one that constantly bitches about getting too many emails or blow up at people for saying some harmless/innocent.

His whole conclusion is a mess of bullshit, but one thing I’m going to mention is this:

So, why do they do this? It’s very easy to explain. The reason is simple; they do this because it’s fun.

It’s fun to hate. It’s fun to shame. It’s fun to ridicule. It’s fun to make other people look bad. It’s fun to talk trash about others. It’s fun to “expose” other people. It’s fun to ruin someone’s life. It’s fun to ruin someone’s career. All of these things are super fun…if you’re a sadistic scumbag who takes pleasure in harming others.

To keep having fun, all they have to do is keep brainwashing themselves to believe that I’m a horrible monster, and dismiss everything I say when I attempt to explain myself. As long as they follow those two simple little rules, they can have unlimited fun. And, as long as they can keep having fun, why would they ever stop?

We haters aren’t doing this because it is “fun”. We are doing this because we want to inform others of the nasty shit you have done/are doing. I could do so many other things that are more fun than dealing with your nonsense, but your “game” has attracted the attention of younger kids. These kids don’t understand what you’re is bad and they need someone to steer them in the right direction.

Every time you explain yourself YandereDev, you just add onto the list of reasons why you’re a bad person. The fact that you have the audacity to act so high and mighty and then bitch about the “triggered SJWs” that are “harassing” you shows what kind of person you are.

In conclusion, YandereDev is just giving me more reasons why I should not support him or his gross game.

I hope I didn’t say anything wrong, but if I have please tell me! Thanks for reading and I hope all of you have a lovely day/night!

Cheers!

~ Ari

#tw: pedophilia mention #tw: abuse mention #tw: rape mention #long post

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i’m sure this scene has been discussed to death in the past, but since in all the talk of subtext and such on tumblr that i’ve witnessed i’ve never actually seen any attention called to this (probably because it’s, well, matsuda) i figured i’d make a post about it nonetheless.

for once, the viz translation is actually quite faithful here—they don’t change anything in particular, it’s a pretty legit translation.

it’s also probably the most conservative translation they could have written with the source material, however. the word translated as “wish” is 願望, which does mean wish, but it’s a bit heavier of a word and it’s usually translated as “desire”. so right there, the feeling of ide’s first line is “it’s desire.”

then, when it comes to “but you were fond of light, weren’t you?”, the actual line is “おまえ、月くんを好きだったろう?” which, plainly, is “you liked light, didn’t you?” i’ve talked before about 好き and the ambiguity of it, but this is a case where it’s especially obvious—while it’s fine to use it to say you’re fond of something, it can also mean “love”, and when said in reference to a person like that, it carries the implication that romantic affection could be meant in a way that “you were fond of light” doesn’t, really. (it’s like “do you like me, or do you like me?” 好き in reference to a person can feel a bit like like.) there are other ways to say that you’re fond of something or someone without having that undertone, too. and while it’s not explicitly stated that that’s the meaning, it’s also not really said that it’s not, and the possibility is absolutely there in what’s said. this line can be equally read as “you loved light, didn’t you?”

(as an aside, this probably explains a small part of aizawa’s anger when L says he “likes people like him” and why he accuses L of saying “corny things like that.” L using 好き might feel slightly off-putting in that context, and i’d imagine L might have meant it to.)

the gravity of the line’s delivery (a large, detailed panel, with ide’s face hidden in shadow) and matsuda’s reaction (speechless shock, then sadness, then “desire… you might be right,” on the next page) lend to that too.

this is definitely a scene that can go either way, but when it comes to subtext, this is far more overt than any of the stuff that usually comes up in analysis (even in the drama L and light don’t have a nice ambiguous “i like you” for the shippers to play with) and a case where a romantic reading could absolutely feasibly have been the authorial intent.

have fun with it.

anonymous asked:

Can you go in depth with Virginity, waiting for marriage and sex in general

With all the sex-based ads and sex promotions telling us that that sex is the best way to show our significant others love, we miss out on what God created sex to be: a way of bonding a husband and wife in marital love (Matthew 19:5; Mark 10:7). (Not to mention that it’s also how we procreate, awkward as that sounds.)

Sex, no matter who it is with, is a special relationship between two people, making them “one body.” The apostle Paul talks about how even a man who has sex with a prostitute has become “one body” (1 Corinthians 6:15-16). There is a level of vulnerability in any sexual relationship, and you should fully trust the other person before making yourself that vulnerable. That is why the Bible instructs that we should only have sex in the context of a committed, trusting, marital union.

Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:2 that if you cannot control the temptation to have sex outside of marriage, then you should be married to the one you love, then you may both fulfill your passions in a moral way. After all, God has lordship over our bodies and our souls, and we must respect that (1 Corinthians 6:12-20).

Sex and Marriage

Marriage is, at its very essence, a way to worship God. When two people are married, they become one body, functioning together to give glory to God. Ephesians 5:21 talks about the metaphorical nature of “becoming one,” but also the literal, physical act of two bodies joining during sex. The couple also “becomes one” when they create a child. This is very literally two persons genetically making one body (or more in the case of a multiple births).

Just because a couple has the intention of getting married, that doesn’t mean they get the green light for sex before their wedding night. Premarital sex shows an impatience and disrespect to oneself and his or her spouse-to-be. They’ll lose the special nature of how God designed martial sex to be. To tell your prospective husband or wife that they’re worth waiting for will actually strengthen your relationship and act as a profession of your commitment to that person.

A Story of Premarital Sex

Someone I know very well was in this situation. She had dated someone for three years, and she thought that he was “the one.” One night, she and her boyfriend had sex. At the time, neither of them thought it would matter. Both of them were ready, and they both wanted to get married someday when they were a little more financially stable.

However, time went on, and their lives led them in different directions. He ended up leaving her, and she was heartbroken. She felt like she had given him everything, yet somehow it wasn’t worth enough to make him stay and work things out. In turn, this made her feel worthless, broken, and used.

I won’t say that this happens in every story. I don’t know everyone’s story. But I do know that, emotionally, sex creates a vulnerability that you cannot get from any other kind of relationship. God is trying to protect us by telling us to marry the partner that we want to have sex with. He wants us to live fulfilled and joyful lives, but if we are having sex outside of marriage, that IS very likely going to have a huge effect on our lives and our relationship with God.

If premarital sex is so bad, why does my body want it?

It is often really hard to control ourselves physically when it comes to feelings of sexual pleasure. Maybe you know that premarital sex is not a good choice, but you just can’t help it. Why is it that our bodies rebel against our minds when it comes to sexual purity? Matthew 26:41 says that “the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

Simply put, God created sex to be pleasurable, that’s why our bodies desire it and all the sensations that come with it. But sex was created to be enjoyed only in the context of marriage between a husband and wife. (See 1 Corinthians 6:9, 13 and 2 Timothy 2:22.)

Biologically, sex makes our bodies release hormones that are not released in any other situation. Once you begin having sex with someone, your brain begins to create markers that associate these hormones with that person. This is one of the strongest bonds to an outside force that the human brain ever creates. Every time a person has sex, they leave a part of themselves with their partner.

Breaking up with a person you have had sex with will hurt exponentially more because of the fact that you have been at your most vulnerable with them, yet the relationship still failed. Then there are the biological challenges that your brain must resolve because the good feelings have gone away with that person. Sex within a godly marriage removes the risk of loss and pain due to a break up.

God created marriage to last. The Bible tells us that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). Through the act of martial sex, a couple creates that lasting bond emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

Safe sex isn’t always “safe”

No matter how confident you are in your birth control methods, there is ALWAYS a chance of contracting an STD (sexually-transmitted disease) or even creating a child. Condoms and pills and such don’t always work. Things break, medications don’t do their job. But some things are much longer lasting than those fleeting moments of sexual pleasure.

If you and your partner are not completely ready to bring a child into the world, then sex is very risky. Creating a child should be a beautiful, welcome, God-honoring action—not the reason for a shotgun wedding, the unthinkable consideration of an abortion, or just a pair of unmarried teenagers who are faced with something they should never have to deal with at that age.

Can I be forgiven for having premarital sex?

When a Christian has premarital sex, or when one who has lost their virginity comes to Christ, the Holy Spirit convicts that person of their sin. They will grieve over it, and hopefully repent from that behavior. However, remember that there is no sin too great that God will not forgive it. If you confess, God will forgive you, cleanse you from “all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9), and restore you (Joel 2:25) as a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17; Colossians 3:10).

God does not make rules just so we have rules to follow. God desperately, passionately loves us, and He gave us the Bible to help guide us into having creative, beautiful, productive lives. He doesn’t want to make us do things just for the sake of doing them; God honestly knows what is good for each and every one of us individually.

When He tells us not to have sex outside of marriage, He isn’t saying it to make you miss out on the enjoyment of sex. He says it because He knows your heart, your biological makeup, and that sex outside of marriage is not what is best for anyone in any sense. Trust that the God who created you—and loves you enough that He even knows the number of hairs on your head—knows what is best for you.

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”Isaiah 55:8-9

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.“Proverbs 3:5-6

anonymous asked:

Is premarital sex wrong?

This is a hard question for a lot of us today. With all the sex-based ads and sex promotions telling us that that sex is the best way to show our significant others love, we miss out on what God created sex to be: a way of bonding a husband and wife in marital love (Matthew 19:5; Mark 10:7). (Not to mention that it’s also how we procreate, awkward as that sounds.)

Sex, no matter who it is with, is a special relationship between two people, making them “one body.” The apostle Paul talks about how even a man who has sex with a prostitute has become “one body” (1 Corinthians 6:15-16). There is a level of vulnerability in any sexual relationship, and you should fully trust the other person before making yourself that vulnerable. That is why the Bible instructs that we should only have sex in the context of a committed, trusting, marital union.

Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:2 that if you cannot control the temptation to have sex outside of marriage, then you should be married to the one you love, then you may both fulfill your passions in a moral way. After all, God has lordship over our bodies and our souls, and we must respect that (1 Corinthians 6:12-20).

Sex and Marriage

Marriage is, at its very essence, a way to worship God. When two people are married, they become one body, functioning together to give glory to God. Ephesians 5:21 talks about the metaphorical nature of “becoming one,” but also the literal, physical act of two bodies joining during sex. The couple also “becomes one” when they create a child. This is very literally two persons genetically making one body (or more in the case of a multiple births).

Just because a couple has the intention of getting married, that doesn’t mean they get the green light for sex before their wedding night. Premarital sex shows an impatience and disrespect to oneself and his or her spouse-to-be. They’ll lose the special nature of how God designed martial sex to be. To tell your prospective husband or wife that they’re worth waiting for will actually strengthen your relationship and act as a profession of your commitment to that person.

A Story of Premarital Sex

Someone I know very well was in this situation. She had dated someone for three years, and she thought that he was “the one.” One night, she and her boyfriend had sex. At the time, neither of them thought it would matter. Both of them were ready, and they both wanted to get married someday when they were a little more financially stable.

However, time went on, and their lives led them in different directions. He ended up leaving her, and she was heartbroken. She felt like she had given him everything, yet somehow it wasn’t worth enough to make him stay and work things out. In turn, this made her feel worthless, broken, and used.

I won’t say that this happens in every story. I don’t know everyone’s story. But I do know that, emotionally, sex creates a vulnerability that you cannot get from any other kind of relationship. God is trying to protect us by telling us to marry the partner that we want to have sex with. He wants us to live fulfilled and joyful lives, but if we are having sex outside of marriage, that IS very likely going to have a huge effect on our lives and our relationship with God.

If premarital sex is so bad, why does my body want it?

It is often really hard to control ourselves physically when it comes to feelings of sexual pleasure. Maybe you know that premarital sex is not a good choice, but you just can’t help it. Why is it that our bodies rebel against our minds when it comes to sexual purity?Matthew 26:41 says that “the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

Simply put, God created sex to be pleasurable, that’s why our bodies desire it and all the sensations that come with it. But sex was created to be enjoyed only in the context of marriage between a husband and wife. (See 1 Corinthians 6:9, 13 and 2 Timothy 2:22.)

Biologically, sex makes our bodies release hormones that are not released in any other situation. Once you begin having sex with someone, your brain begins to create markers that associate these hormones with that person. This is one of the strongest bonds to an outside force that the human brain ever creates. Every time a person has sex, they leave a part of themselves with their partner.

Breaking up with a person you have had sex with will hurt exponentially more because of the fact that you have been at your most vulnerable with them, yet the relationship still failed. Then there are the biological challenges that your brain must resolve because the good feelings have gone away with that person. Sex within a godly marriage removes the risk of loss and pain due to a break up.

God created marriage to last. The Bible tells us that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). Through the act of martial sex, a couple creates that lasting bond emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

Safe sex isn’t always “safe”

No matter how confident you are in your birth control methods, there is ALWAYS a chance of contracting an STD (sexually-transmitted disease) or even creating a child. Condoms and pills and such don’t always work. Things break, medications don’t do their job. But some things are much longer lasting than those fleeting moments of sexual pleasure.

If you and your partner are not completely ready to bring a child into the world, then sex is very risky. Creating a child should be a beautiful, welcome, God-honoring action—not the reason for a shotgun wedding, the unthinkable consideration of an abortion, or just a pair of unmarried teenagers who are faced with something they should never have to deal with at that age.

Can I be forgiven for having premarital sex?

When a Christian has premarital sex, or when one who has lost their virginity comes to Christ, the Holy Spirit convicts that person of their sin. They will grieve over it, and hopefully repent from that behavior. However, remember that there is no sin too great that God will not forgive it. If you confess, God will forgive you, cleanse you from “all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9), and restore you (Joel 2:25) as a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17; Colossians 3:10).

God does not make rules just so we have rules to follow. God desperately, passionately loves us, and He gave us the Bible to help guide us into having creative, beautiful, productive lives. He doesn’t want to make us do things just for the sake of doing them; God honestly knows what is good for each and every one of us individually.

When He tells us not to have sex outside of marriage, He isn’t saying it to make you miss out on the enjoyment of sex. He says it because He knows your heart, your biological makeup, and that sex outside of marriage is not what is best for anyone in any sense. Trust that the God who created you—and loves you enough that He even knows the number of hairs on your head—knows what is best for you.

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”Isaiah 55:8-9

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.“Proverbs 3:5-6

For anybody who’s ever come to my blog thinking “Wow this stupid chick wrote one really bizarre smut and now she thinks she’s a rock star”

I’m not. I’m just barely a minor celebrity within this fandom. Outside the Elsannaverse, I am no one. I am the person you will completely overlook without any idea you have. I am in the limbo between “broken” and “fixed”. I am the one who can’t win despite the degree of effort put toward winning. Literally, as soon as I’m seen outside of this context, I’m mostly tolerated or ignored. Quickly forgotten.

So yes, it’s nice to be in this fandom where people actually seem to care what I think, hear what I have to say even if they don’t end up agreeing. My entire life, I’ve desired a space like this where I’m accepted. And now I’ve found it. Maybe it won’t last forever, but at least it happened once. I’m sure that’s more than some people ever get.