Open Letter to People Who Do Things

If you do things that others know about, you will attract a lot of criticism.

People will think you’re wrong a lot. Sometimes you will actually be wrong; sometimes you won’t be.

Sometimes people will be vicious. Sometimes people will try to hurt you as badly as they possibly can.

No matter how well you do things, there will be people who are disgusted by what you do and think you’re a terrible person.

No matter how politically neutral the thing you do is, people will attack it for political reasons. (Either a specific reason, or they’ll say it’s frivolous and that you should be fighting global warming or poverty or something instead.)

If you charge money for what you do, people will be outraged (including people who would never work for free.)

No matter how much you charge, people will angrily tell you that it’s too much.

Even if you work for free, people will be angry with you for addressing some things but not others. Or for not giving them what they want fast enough.

No matter how well you consider other sides, someone will angrily accuse you of censorship or refusing to listen.

And so on and so on. No matter what you do, there are people who will be angry and disgusted by it. There will be people who will hate you. There will be people who try to hurt you to make you stop. This happens to absolutely everyone who does things that a lot of other people know about. It is possible to live with that.

(Part of the way to live with that is by learning to keep perspective in the face of other people’s anger.)

A note about criticism - it’s important to be open to criticism, because sometimes you will be wrong. In order to be truly open to criticism, you have to get past the desire to appease everyone who is mad at you. If you try to please everyone, what ends up happening is that you end up deferring to whoever is the loudest and meanest. Listening to criticism in a good way means you have to be selective — and it also usually means disengaging from jerks.

You don’t have to be perfect to do things that matter. If only perfect people could do things, nothing would ever get done. Everyone who has every done anything has also been flawed in a serious way. Because that’s how people are.

It’s also important to remember that you don’t owe the world a heckler’s veto. There will always be people who don’t like you or your work. That doesn’t mean you have to stop. It doesn’t mean you have to engage with them. It just means that you’re being noticed, and that some people don’t like what they’re seeing.

tl;dr If you do things that people notice, some people who notice will be mean to you and try to convince you that you are terrible. That happens to everyone who does things. It doesn’t mean you’re terrible. It means you’re visible. Being open to criticism doesn’t mean giving the world a heckler’s veto. It’s ok to do things even if you’re imperfect and sometimes people are angry at you.

I hope everyone has their eyes open and is on alert because shit is about to go down...

We have a peak in Elounor breakup rumours.

Larry Stylinson (& bonus Stylinson sisters) articles.

The perfect set up for a Zerrie breakup.

Zayn leaving the tour.

Fandom being left to play detective (yet again).

“Incognito" pics of Perrie leaving.

All attention on Zerrie.

Accusations of drug abuse getting out of hand.

Zayn arriving in the UK.

1DHQ is brewing one hell of a publicity/possibly narrative joke and we’re about to get served the punch line.
One Direction fans launch project to give 'Home' the single treatment
Well if it's good enough for 'No Control'...

When it comes to fan projects, Directioners go hard. We all saw what happened with Project No Control; the fan-driven idea to see ‘No Control’ released as a single which not only caught the attention of One Direction themselves, but also saw it added to the On the Road Again tour setlist. RESULT.

Well now, while we all sit around twiddling our thumbs during this hiatus malarky, fans have turned their attention to Made in the A.M. track 'Home;’ a song they wanna self-release and see get the attention it deserves.

Oh y'all are a bit brilliant, aren’t ya?

'Home’ was chosen since it resonates so strongly with LGBTQ+ 1D fans, and the project’s organisers explained: “The purpose of this project is to promote the song 'Home’, which was released on the Perfect (EP) and was not part of the album. The song deserves way more attention and recognition than it’s gotten.​

"​Our goal is to bring more attention to the song. We are fan releasing the song on April 29th after a week of promo leading up to that day. We are continuing promo after the release to get the song to #1.​”

It’s all well carefully orchestrated, too. As you can see below there’s a proper 'Home’ promo week (and month, for crying out loud); with different hash tags no doubt poppin’ up all over our timelines in the run-up to 'Home’ day on April 29th.

If you guys wanna get involved, you can find the official Twitter page over in this kinda direction. Get followin’.

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In 2003-2004, I was an audience page for The Late Show with David Letterman which means for a year, I checked people in to the show, cheered up the crowd waiting on line and showed them to their seats. I loved being around the show and watching Dave perform and a few months into the job, I got lucky enough to freelance for Dave’s monologue which was my first writing credit. This was around the time when I was interning at UCB for free classes, ate mostly on the dollar menus of fast food places and learned the trick of putting every free topping on a plain slice of pizza to make it feel like I was getting a special slice. I was obsessed with comedy, learning every second, failing constantly and finding my voice around incredibly talented humans. So much fun.

It has always been a bucket list item of mine to one day get from the back of that theatre where the pages stood, to the guest chair forty feet in front of me. It took eleven years but last night, I finally did it.

It was so fun to be in that chair, talking to the man I had written for and learned so much from for a year in person and decades on TV but even more fun was to reconnect with all of the crew, security and former pages from the show that were around when I was there eleven years ago. It made me so happy to see how proud they were that a page finally made it to the chair. Thank you to everyone that made it possible for me to get back in that theatre and thank you to everyone who is reading this and has supported my comedy over the past decade. It is truly crazy to me that I finally made that forty foot journey. I’m sad to see Dave hang it up in May but what an unbelievable run from a true legend. You can watch the interview above or if you want to see the very beginning and tail end of it, CLICK HERE.

Oh, also…I took these as a souvenir on the way out. Thanks Dave.
One Direction Fans' #ProjectHome has Kicked off with a Bang - CelebMix
If you’ve been keeping up with the One Direction fan base lately, you know this is a very important week for both the boys and their incredible supporters. This week is Project Home! We aren’t even a full day into Project Home yet and the support, love, and safety of the song is all over …

ASHLEY| APRIL 23, 2016

If you’ve been keeping up with the One Direction fan base lately, you know this is a very important week for both the boys and their incredible supporters.  This week is Project Home!

We aren’t even a full day into Project Home yet and the support, love, and safety of the song is all over social media – it’s absolutely beautiful.  Project Home began as a way to get the song, Home, written by Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, and Jamie Scott more recognition.  The song was not released on Made In The AM but was on the Perfect EP and also tweeted about by Louis Tomlinson as he gave fans the first listen to the track and also showed how important it was to him.

Home, to many fans, has been a personal anthem that allowed them to feel powerful, brave, and appreciated for who they are.  It is also a track that gave some fans the strength to come out and to say that love is love, and all love should be accepted.  Home is the kind of song that the music industry had been waiting for – and fans are determined to get it to number 1, but more important than that – to show the world exactly how much Harry, Louis, Liam, and Niall love their fans.

Made In The AM serves as a love letter from the boys to their teammates, the fans who have supported them through everything, and even though Home wasn’t on the album – the song proves that the boys pay attention to what happens in the lives of their fans and make sure to support them through it.

Project Home is a thank you – and we are already taken back by what fans have done this far, it’s only going to get bigger and better from here.

Check out their Twitter and Tumblr and join the Thunderclap to make sure you keep up with all of the ways you can help Project Home exceed everyone’s expectations!

The hashtag has already trended at #1 with over 502k tweets! Incredible.

From fan art and gifs to posters and videos – the way people are paying homage to Home is beautiful and we want to feature you in our articles this week.  If you take part in #ProjectHome please tweet us and let us know how you’re showing your support!


I am in this month’s issue of Complex Magazine chatting about my firsts and lasts. The first photo/article in this post is from the magazine which is on newsstands right now. You can CLICK HERE to see a higher res version and actually read the article. The rest of the photographs are from Bryan Sheffield’s (the amazing photographer) Tumblr account. Thank you to Complex, who I have been a fan of for a while now, to Bryan, who is an amazing photographer, Jhizet Panosian for hair, make up and joy, Tiffani Chylen for styling the hell out of my clothes and everyone else who worked on this shoot to make it so fun and easy.


Cards against Humanity literally fooled 30,000 people into buying bullshit on Black Friday

It was pretty clear on the site that the offer was $6 for “literal feces, from an actual bull,” and an FAQ clarified in the clearest way possible that there was nothing in the box except bullshit (no hidden cards like the one inside the box lid of The Biggest Blackest Box collection). Still, a surprising number of conspiracy theorists still thought perhaps there would be a surprise hidden within the poop.