public shaming

Lauren Stardust

"This is what I was wearing today when two women saw fit to laugh at me in a restaurant while I sat and ordered food with my partner.

It started with one pointing me out to the other.

I watched while the friend “casually” stretched and turned to face me, her head whipping back around to confirm her shared opinion of what I as wearing. They both began to laugh.

I sighed, willing to let it go… but it didn’t stop.

Finally when the friend pulled out her phone to take my photo over her shoulder (disguising it as a selfie) I had had enough.

I got up from my table approached them both and simply asked “I’m sorry but are you both laughing at me?”

They responded that it wasn’t the case, but the obviousness of whole façade made the bullshit buzzer go off in my head.

“Oh good! I was starting to feel really self conscious!” (I finished) and went back to my seat.

What these two women subjected me too today is a symptom of Internalised Misogyny:

“involuntary internalization by women of the sexist messages that are present in their societies and culture.” (for further reading http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/choice-feminism-internalized-misogyny/)

I haven’t mentioned the women’s age or what they were wearing because it’s not relevant.

How they present themselves does not affect me.

It doesn’t change my life in any way.

Women are constantly judged for everything. It’s inescapable.

Let me get one thing straight.

I am fully aware that I dress like I’ve been fucked by a unicorn.

I know because I dress myself every morning… and would you believe? It’s deliberate!!!

I don’t wake up and think “Gee, I wonder how I can appeal to strangers today?”

Our patriarchal society makes strangers -of any gender- think it acceptable to humiliate a woman based on how she woke up that morning and got dressed to please herself.

So next time you catch yourself critiquing someone’s appearance negatively (In particular, how women dress) maybe try to think instead of why you feel the need to make that horrible assessment?

Are you intimidated by them? Are you sexualising them? Are you repulsed because they don’t adhere to your standards of beauty?

Then ask yourself why any of those things bother you in the first place.”

#feminism   #feminist   #internalisedmisogyny   #patriarchalsociety

Source

A collection of racists who thought it was appropriate to refer to Martin Luther King Day as “n-word day”

David James Majors from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

Justin Parker from Monongah, West Virginia

Jerry Hartzog from Mishawaka, Indiana

Steven McCulloch from Somerset, Colorado

Tyler Brown from Wister, Oklahoma (he gets bonus racism points for having a Swastika tattoo)

Dillan Troxel from Stockton, California

Cory B. Gill from Norco, California

Jeremy Wilson from Rocky Grove, Pennsylvania

Branden Glass from Mansfield, Ohio

Jon Shuman from Erie, Pennsylvania

Jonathan Batten from Nashville, Tennessee 

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ANITA SARKEESIAN IS DOXING.

To those who don’t know, here is the definition of doxing.

Doxing (spelling variant Doxxing) is an abbreviation of document tracing, the Internet-based practice of researching and publishing personally identifiable information about an individual.The methods employed in pursuit of this information range from searching publicly available databases and social media websites like Facebook, to hacking, and social engineering. It is closely related to cyber-vigilantism, hacktivism, and cyber-bullying.

Doxing may be carried out to aid law enforcement,extortion, coercion, harassment, public shaming, and other forms of vigilante justice.[6]

Note it is NOT illegal to collect data but BLACKMAIL and posting information PUBLIC is.

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I blurred the information out because its outright wrong to dox someone with their personal information. And remember, when we saw Anita was a PROFIT organization when she was accused of stealing from Tammy, she claimed she was being doxed. Not only was she accusing people looking up her corporate organization as doxxing but she has officially done it herself.

And of course, in the email sent to her, notice how the person asked her why she doesn’t address ThunderFoot and she calls him sexist?

DOXXING IS A CRIME SPECIFICALLY PUTTING SOMEONE’S IP ADDRESS UP FOR IDENTITY THEFT.

Your name is one thing but again, your IP address is your personal computer address.

This needs to be spread around. Anita thinks she’s above the law because she just registered for non-profit. No, if you do this, you have to blur out there personal information.

I’m very aware that this could be a troll account but the fact still stands that she doxxed the person with their name, email and IP Address.

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EDIT: AND SHE’S DOXXING MORE THAN ONE PERSON. IF THESE PEOPLE WEREN’T IN A PUBLIC LOCATION, THEIR LIVES WOULD BE IN DANGER. Such a horrible human being.

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The group above (AHA) distanced themselves greatly from the widely publicized post (below) listed on their page (see HERE). The earlier post contradicts their denials with regard to strategy. Of course, their Texas group is now protesting high schools in Texas and the leader of said group did time for attempting to blow up a church for his radical non-denominational agenda. 

Classy.

  1. Bully your kids and they will learn to fear you.  As in be afraid of you.  Cringing in your presence and hiding their lives from you.
  2. Publicly shame your kids and they will learn the only important character development is to be found in a good public persona and the fool’s gold of value based solely upon outward perception and public approval.
  3. Mock your children as they struggle and they will learn to never share their struggles with you. 
  4. Share their weaknesses with the world and they will find the world to be cruel and will put you in the role of the cruelest of all.
  5. They will think they are a joke, not to be taken seriously.  Their pain the only commodity to sell.
  6. They will treat you as you have treated them.

http://pebblechaser.wordpress.com/2014/01/07/destroying-your-childs-heart-one-fb-picture-at-a-time/

One Year Ago Today: 'Public Shaming' Was Born

I received this in an email from Tumblr today, which reminded me…

One year ago today, while hunkered down, waiting for Hurricane Sandy to pass over New York City, I began the Public Shaming blog on Tumblr. It began with retweets on Twitter and needing a place to post screenshots of the tweets that were being deleted.

This was the first post.

And these were all the posts that went up on that first day.

A year in and there is no shortage of assholes, sexists, racists, bigots, homophobes, privileged brats, scumbags, slime balls, losers, turds, and all around vile cretins to make a mockery of.

You can follow Public Shaming on Twitter: @publicshaming

You can ‘Like’ Public Shaming on Facebook: fb.com/PublicShaming

Thank you for following this Tumblr and sharing, reblogging and liking the posts.

- Matt

(P.S. You can follow me on Twitter at @MattBinder)

What you're saying when you call someone oversensitive

When you call someone oversensitive (as has happened to me about a million times since this blog’s inception two days ago) you are telling them two things

1. I did nothing wrong

When you call someone oversensitive, you are telling them you did nothing wrong. Whatever it was you did that offended them was not actually offensive.

2. Your feelings are wrong

You are telling the other person that how they feel is wrong, that their emotions are invalid. You are telling them that they are the one at fault, that it’s their fault for feeling how they feel. 

However, no one is ever wrong for how they feel, even if you disagree with it. 

ALL FEELINGS ARE VALID

You are shifting the blame off of yourself, and putting it on the person you offended. You are absolving yourself of any wrongdoing (whether or not you actually did something wrong), and telling someone who is already upset that they are wrong for being upset.

Don’t call people oversensitive. It’s dismissive and demeaning.

just like in the Ferguson decision, the grand jury/district attorney didn’t even list the many many charges that couldve been placed against the cop that murdered Eric Garner. its common for in cases like this for at least a couple of charges to be presented for the defendant and just like for Darren Wilson they just werent and it just goes to show that they don’t take it fucking seriously and already think of the persecution as dead in the fucking water. what bullshit

REPEAT AFTER ME

WHAT OTHER PEOPLE DO WITH THEIR BODIES IS NO ONE’S BUSINESS BUT THEIR OWN

THIS APPLIES TO

  • WHAT THEY EAT
  • WHAT THEY WEAR
  • WHO THEY HAVE SEX WITH
  • WHO THEY DON’T HAVE SEX WITH
  • ANY MODIFICATIONS THEY MAY COOSE TO HAVE
  • WHETHER OR NOT THEY CHOOSE TO BE PREGNANT 
  • ANY SURGERY THEY CHOOSE TO HAVE
  • PRETTY MUCH ANYTHING THAT DOES NOT DIRECTLY PHYSICALLY EFFECT YOU

Soren Bowie accused you of fouling all of the Internet. For that, he is sorry. So he wrote you a letter to make it all better. A love letter, straight from his heart.

4 Positive Trends the Internet Doesn’t Get Enough Credit For

#2. You’re Making People Accountable for Injustice

While the Internet’s constant insistence on political correctness can sometimes be grating, knowing that there are entire communities of people holding bigots, sexists, and assholes in general accountable is comforting. It was the Internet that refused to let the Steubenville rape disappear, and it was the Internet that wasn’t willing to just move on when Amanda Todd was bullied into suicide. Every day we force each other to be more self-aware and make smarter choices, or else risk suffering the wrath of millions. But more importantly, we’re making each other better people.

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