“Women without kids are always so lonely and incomplete. I honestly just pity them.”
Man, you’re so right.
I mean, apart from all my family, my old school friends, my old university friends, my work friends at two different places, my neighbours, my pub buddies, my board-games buddies, my writing group and the husband who adores me, I have, like, no-one in this world.
Simply put, we don’t live in the era of traditional gender roles anymore.
Female lives no longer have to orbit children, cleaning and cooking. It’s no longer thought unseemly or selfish for you to have hobbies, interests and social connections of your own. You’re no longer limited to other mummies at the school gates, the other ladies in the church group and the wives of your husband’s business associates.
You can find fulfillment and community outside of a nuclear family.
In fact, you’ll probably find your social connections to be a lot healthier out there, too.
This is, quite obviously, an outdated viewpoint that needs consigning to history, where once it might have been true.
Seriously - anyone reading this and panicking, thinking, “Shit, I don’t want to be lonely!” - it’s utter rubbish.
For reassurance, I’ll point out that a not-insignificant proportion of women actually find motherhood to be isolating.
One of my aforementioned board-game buddies can’t make it this week. His wife has begged him not to leave her alone with their snotty three-year-old for another night this week. I don’t blame her. (I also wonder when she last got to go out for the evening.)
My mum also remembers those “early childhood” years with a particularly weary expression. I don’t remember them myself - I was too busy strewing plastic animals throughout the house in easily-stepped on places - but from what my mum says, your social circles as a mum shrink pretty dramatically. For the most part you’re stuck with other mummies, who are nearly as competitive as beauty pageant girls. Statistically, it’s going to be you (not him)either quitting your job or dropping to part-time, which again severs a whole load of healthy social contacts.
Even if you have the time to see friends, you’ll be shattered, and the only friends who understand how shattered you are… are other parents. So when you do meet up, all you do is compete over how tired you are.
Then off you go home, to be tired out some more by your main point of social contact - which is a tiny, money-guzzling dictator who calls you things like “Silly Mummy” and asks the question ‘why’ on average several hundred times a day.
Don’t believe the lie, ladies.
It’s not lonely out here in the real world. It’s actually pretty fucking sweet.
Pretty Little Liars 4x17 'Bite Your Tongue' Review
Okay let’s just say that I think that this is yet another great episode. 4B has REALLY been impressing me so far, and I’m so glad that the show is feeling just as exciting as it felt in Season 1 again. Overall I am just super happy with the way it’s all going.
Now I just want to point out some things in the episode that I loved most.
1) Intro to the Episode: Aria, Emily, Mona, Mike’s party.
I just want to say that I thought this was an awesome start to the episode. It threw us RIGHT into the drama, instead of taking 15 minutes to build up.
Loved the way Aria was trying to take charge of Mike’s dumb party.
Loved the dynamic between Aria and Emily, when Emily was clearly still so pissed at Spencer, and Aria was really trying to be there for Em, while still not taking sides.
And Emily yelling at the couple making out on the desk? Haha, hilarious! (*slap* “MOVE IT!”)
I seriously love how fearless Aria is towards Mona. She just doesn’t care… the attitude she gave her.
But seriously, what was Mona doing there? She definitely either took something from Aria’s room, or she planted something in there. The way she zipped her purse back up before walking away… That wasn’t put in there for no reason.
And Mona’s comment to Aria about the wallpaper? Is that some kind of a weird clue? Or just a snarky Mona comment?
2) The Outcasts: Detective Hanna and Spencer
The fact that Emily is still so mad at Spencer, is sad. Especially since it is now causing conflicts between Hanna and Emily. I get why Emily is angry, but they will never figure out the truth if they aren’t all in it together.
I love how smart Hanna was being… Using Crime novels to influence her to think like a criminal, in order to get more in tune with what A is up to or what happened to Ali? Genius. A little out there… but hey, still Genius. I commend her for her thought.
And SPENCER IS FINALLY DECODING THE DIARY ENTRIES SHE HAS ON HER PHONE! yayyyy!
3) Insensitive Mike:
For a guy who usually has his sisters best interest at heart, he sure doesn’t seem to care too much about her or her feelings now. What the hell is up with that?
“I’ve done a lot of crap that I’m not proud of” Hmmm, Mike… is this just about your past of breaking and entering? or Is there something more to this?
4) Irrelevant Maggie scene:
Seriously, I’m SO over Maggie and her story line. Go away!
Although, the feelings it triggered for Ezra… Very interesting. “People get what they deserve, Eventually…” Shady, shady… Mr. Ezra Fitz.
Also, when he said this, it said England behind his head on the chalkboard. I know we’ve been told that clues can be found here sometimes, so would that be a hint towards Wren?
5) Detective Holbrook: A legitimately nice cop?
Is it possible we FINALLY have a decent cop in Rosewood?
He seemed genuinely concerned about how Hanna and her mom were doing, as well as being worried that he may have been the reason that they might be doing bad. Is it an act, or is he sincere?
I’m a little suspicious of his crime novel choice, though.
6) How do we know it was ‘A’ who shut off Emily’s engine?
When Hanna and Emily were talking in the hallway, Hanna made a comment about them not knowing for sure that it was A that shut down the car. At first I thought Hanna was just being naive, and I think that’s what we’re supposed to think, but maybe she has a point.
Hanna was very smart this episode, and the reason she said this was because of her sudden interest in figuring out 'A’s motives by reading crime novels.
She said “The sociopathic mind feeds on intricate patterns.” She also said, “If A did kill your car, wouldn’t he own up to it by now?
She has a point, because A loves rubbing it in their faces when he/she does something to them. So the fact that this person didn’t do that, it may not be A. We definitely seen someone in a black hoodie who restored the car’s system back to normal… but we are pretty sure that Ezra is the one that set them up to stall right by his cabin. So maybe Ezra is working with someone in a black hoodie, but they are their own team. Maybe they really aren’t A… Something to think about.
7) Major Hostility:
Emily slamming the locker door and ignoring Spencer, then proceeding to walk away… HARSH.
Mona and Aria’s feud… I seriously love when these two go head to head. But Mona hanging with a new crowd now? Uh oh, Mona’s A-Team: Round two.
8) New Alliance?
Ezra and Mona? JUST, NO.
I liked their last scene together from 4x14 when it seemed like he basically shot her down… Is he changing his mind now? Is he recruiting Mona for help?
And also, she needs to wipe that smirk off her face! She seems way too pleased that Ezra is asking her to talk.
9) It always comes down to the teeth:
This kind of makes me suspicious of Det. Holbrook, as much as I want him to be a nice guy.
This basically leads us to believe that the reason Ali got away with people thinking she was dead, was because someone switched the dental records, or the teeth themselves. So was it Ali? Or did she ask someone to do this for her? Or is there someone else that wants everyone to think she is dead?
10) Jesse: Another Cute Faculty Member
This Jesse guy is kinda cute, in a nerdy kind of way. Not complaining though.
He seems pretty nice, but so naive about who Mona really is and what she has actually done.
He made an "Educated Guess” that Aria was talking about Mona… so Mona must have told him about the feud between her and the liars? Did she tell him the WHOLE truth? Is he her newest ally, to the point that the girls can’t trust him either?
“If two students form a bond, it’s usually because they found common ground.” Okay… so what Is Mike and Mona’s common ground? Mike is seeming awfully shady to me now…
11) Ezra and Emily’s Dad: Did Wayne just clue him in?
The scene starts with Ezra texting to someone “There’s been a set back re: Alison”. re: usually means “in regards to” or “about”. sooo… there’s been a Setback regarding Alison. Hmmm, what does this mean?
Now am I the only one that noticed how surprised Ezra seemed to be that not only was Emily staying in Ali’s bedroom at the Dilaurentis house, but also that Mrs. D seems to act like Ali may “walk through the door again”?
If you ask me, that is definitely a look of surprise… Did Wayne Fields just clue Ezra in to a new lead? That maybe Mrs. DiLaurentis actually knows that Ali is alive? and waiting for her return?
12) Here comes the Drug Problems: Spencer
Very disappointed in Spencer for even allowing herself to try something like this, but at the same time, I’m glad that the show is bringing new and real life teenage problems to the table.
I love Spencer and Toby together, but I do really like Andrew. I feel bad that he came over with hope and that Spencer shot him down. so sad.
13) Emily Almost Stabs Her Father
I think this whole scene is a great symbolization of how much A and Ali turning out to be alive has REALLY messed with Emily mentally and emotionally. She is clearly extremely paranoid, and doesn’t feel safe in the walls of her own home.
AND FOR GOOD REASON, because that Hand print on the window sill was creepy as shit!
14) Spencer and Hanna devise a plan:
I’m so glad that Spencer is working so hard at decoding these diary pages.
That flash back SCREAMED Ezra from the very beginning! I mean, beer? stories? writing? love and death? metaphoric advice? Hollis Bar? Come on, Ezra.
When Spencer goes to Hanna’s house at 4 in the morning, did you notice how fidgety she was? Drugs are already hitting her hard.
I love that they are both coming up with these plans. Hanna to the Dentist, Spencer to the pub. Ready? 1, 2, 3, BREAK.
15) Aria and Maggie Catfight.
Seriously, this whole thing was so ridiculous. I’m sure the “Aria is A” theorists were eating it up though!
Aria going from hostile to sorry in two seconds flat… Whoa. Her hostility was very apparent throughout the WHOLE episode… Towards Mona, Mike, and Now Maggie… even a little towards Jesse.
When she went to talk to Emily about what happened, I definitely think Emily is finally getting suspicious about Aria and Ezra still being together. She said, “ It’s not like you two are still together,” and she totally noticed Aria’s awkward facial expression afterwards.
But the sound of throwing up when the Screen was still showing Mona and Mike making out? HYSTERICAL.
16) British Pub and Board Shorts
Well first of all, if “Hart and the Huntsman Pub” Didn’t clue you in, then the british flag definitely should. This is a BRITISH PUB… nod to Wren?
But of course… who is here? Eating BOYSENBERRY PIE? EZRA FITZ. OMG. Really?
When Spencer asks him what kind of pie, he says Boysenberry at first… then he quickly says, “or actually it might be blackberry, I don’t know, I’m going off the recommendation from the waitress.” Then he quickly grabs the waitress and CANCELS the rest of his order and hurries out. (also he picked up his phone really fast when Spencer approached).
Then the waitress brings the rest of his order anyway… Beer. So obviously, Ezra didn’t want to sound like he himself had ordered the boysenberry, and he didn’t want Spencer to see him with the beer. But that plan backfired because the waitress brought it over anyways, and she even made a comment about how she thought the combination of the two was gross… so, she obviously didn’t actually give that recommendation. And it is none other than BOARD SHORTS ALE.
SO… Ezra = Board shorts? It appears so.
17) Dental Work: Poor Hanna
Whoever did this to Hanna, was DEFINITELY a guy.
This person was completely flat shaped. And had no boobs whatsoever… and the only girl that we know on the show that is that flat chested is Spencer, but she was at the pub.
Whoever it was knows how to use that syringe to give someone a numbing shot though… possibly Wren?
18) Was 'A’ going to hurt Emily?:
The whole situation of Emily in the school totally freaked me out.
I have no clue who this could be at the moment.
Ezra was supposed to be there with her, but he wasn’t (or was he?). We never saw him again after he left the pub… Maybe too obvious though?
Music was scary as shit, and this A was VERY vengeful
Act Normal, Bitch? Really? WTF.
And what I want to know is what A’s plan was… was he/she going to hurt Emily? It certainly seemed like a he. But he certainly seemed like he was trying hard to get in that room with her… usually A never straight up attacks like that… A tries to stay under the radar so no one can see who he/she is. So it kind of makes me wonder if this was actually A, or if this person really wanted to hurt Emily.
19) Episode Conclusion: Reconciliation, Creepy A message
I’m SO pissed that A took that dental sign in sheet out of Hanna’s purse! All her hard detective work for nothing! She was so smart this episode and instead of it helping, it just hurt her.
So glad Spencer and Emily FINALLY made up!
This was by far the most psychotic thing A has ever done to the girls. Really? Performing Dental work on Hanna? Shoving a little tiny A note into her tooth? WTF.
And something else: The message said, “I told you, dead girls can’t smile. Stop looking”. For one: this person REALLY wants these girls to stop looking.. they’ve said it on more than one occasion. and Two: “I told you..”? When Emily got the original necklace with the teeth that said “Dead girls can’t smile,” Toby was the one helping Mona while she was in Radley… so is this the same person? Could it really still be Toby? (theory/idea from prettylittlealisondi)
20) C. Cavanaugh:
I already posted what I think about this. But basically I think It’s definitely C. Cavanaugh that we are supposed to be questioning.. not Chris Vail.