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List of anime series/movies with unique art styles.

For my friends on tumblr, in case you guys want something to watch, here’s a quick list of anime series/movies with unusual/unique art styles that you may or may not know.

Kaiba

With an artstyle reminiscent of the original Astro Boy, Kaiba has a very simplistic (yet stylized) and fluid style of animation and art. The story revolves around the titular character, who wakes up with a hole in his chest with no idea of who he is. I enjoyed this a lot for the art, music and characters, who all have realistic motivations and ideals, as well as the themes handled in it; such as what defines “being human” when bodies and memories are as disposable as plastic.
Genre: Sci-Fi, Psychological Drama

Redline

In terms of sheer action and excitement I got from watching a movie, I’ve got to say that Redline is one of the best ever in those departments. With a highly stylized comic-book-esque art style with a high influence from Western comics like Dick Tracy (with the emphasis on black shadows on solid colours and thick black outlines), this show is extremely fluidly animated, the movie is said to consist of 120 000 hand-drawn frames, taking seven years to complete. The movie follows the story of racer JP (aka “Sweet” JP, because of his refusal to use weaponry while racing) trying to win (and survive) the titular Redline, a race consisting of multiple racers from multiple different galaxies and planets.
Genre: Racing, Sci-Fi, Action

Mononoke

Every frame of this anime could be screencapped and slapped onto someone’s dashboard for their aesthetic. That is how distinct the art style and character design of this show is. The show uses a form of “plaid animation”, where something will be animated over a still color or object as it moves, creating most of the time a jarring effect that is usually the sign of a lazy animator, however in Mononoke, the show utilizes the art to create a sense of a surreal, dream-like environment, intentionally focusing on the jarring effect. The art and design of the environment is also extremely ornate and beautiful.
The show focuses on the story of the unknown Medicine Seller and his travels through Japan (in an unknown time period), killing spirits and creatures known as Mononoke. However, he cannot do so until he learns their Form, Truth and Reasoning/Regret, which leads to some very interesting lessons at the end of each story.
Genre: Mystery, Horror

Dead Leaves

Another comic-influenced movie, and just barely under an hour too; Dead Leaves is an extremely fun, hyper-action-packed movie with amazing character design (almost EVERY good character in this movie has a unique design, barring the civilains and generic bad guy cannon fodder), driven by slapstick, humor (usually of the sexual kind) and more pop culture references than you can digest within the time span they’re thrown at you. The story focuses on criminals Retro and Pandy; Retro having a TV instead of a head, and Pandy having a panda-like marking on her eye, who, shortly after waking up on the moon and causing havoc on a nearby planet, are imprisoned in a super-jail.
Genre: Action, Comedy, Sci-Fi

Kuuchuu Buranko / Welcome to Irabu’s Office

Combining rotoscoped 3D, 2D animation and live action elements, Kuuchuu Buranko is an extremely surreal look into the world of psychiatry. The art and designs were created by the lead artist of Mononoke, Kenji Nakamura. But whereas Mononoke had some subtlety to its art, this show is bright, colourful and neon as all hell. The show focuses on Dr. Ichiro Irabu and how he helps his patients with their problems, who are all connected in some way or the other.
Genre: Comedy, Psychological Drama

The Tatami Galaxy

With a bright visual style that also manages to be subtle at the same time, The Tatami Galaxy also utilizes not just its art as a device for story telling, but the form of the show itself to convey its messages. I can’t spoil too much about the show, but I can give you this: if you enjoy the first episode, please watch it to completion, as this show basically requires the viewer to watch the show in its entirety. The story focuses on an unnamed protagonist, commonly referred to as Watashi by the show’s fans, who tries to attain the “rose-tinted” college life style he has desired for his whole life, as well as all the challenges he faces on the way. With fast-paced dialogue, a lot of humor, interesting character and background designs, as well as the various forms of “characterization”, and also the themes tackled by this show, I’d say it’s one of my favorite shows of all time.
Genre: Slice of Life, Comedy, Drama, Psychological, Sci-Fi

Mind Game

Mind Game. Directed by Masaaki Yuasa (also the director behind The Tatami Galaxy, Kaiba and Ping-Pong). I don’t think words can do this movie justice, but I’ll try. Imagine a combination of 3D-morphing-into-2D, sketches, animated photo images of (presumably) the voice actor’s for talking, extremely smooth and fluid movement, plus an insane amount of exaggeration,all coupled with a huge range of bright and dark colours and you’ve got Mind Game’s animation style down somewhat. Go look up more GIFs, they’ll help you understand the range of styles this surreal (and extremely fun) movie goes through. The plot follows Nishi, a down-on-his-luck, 20-years-old manga writer, running into his childhood crush Myon. He discovers she’s getting married soon while they’re talking inside her father’s restaurant. After that (plus another key event), the craziness in the movie begins; Nishi having a new-found desire to live life.
Genre: Comedy, Surrealism, 

Tekkonkinkreet

Tekkonkinkreet, although similar in appearance to some Masaaki Yuasa works, was not made by the man himself (although, it was made by the company, Studio 4°Cthat helped produce Mind Game). This movie has incredibly detailed backgrounds, similar to a Studio Ghibli film, with amazing usage of lighting, camera shots and motion blur as well as a wide variety of colours and shades. The story follows Black and White, two street orphans who call themselves “The Cats”, trying to keep control of their town from dangerous enemies. Although vastly different in personalities, they support each other emotionally, mentally and physically very well.
Genre: Action, Drama, Adventure

The Diary of Tortov Riddle

The Diary of Tortov Roddle, although very short (6 episodes all leading up to 14 minutes! Watch it here! It has three special episodes that are part of the DVD though), is an interesting adventure of a surreal world that seems almost like a moving/animated picture rather than a movie or series. It follows the journey of Tortov Roddle and his pig-steed throughout this world, with just his calm thoughts and experiences. There’s no dialogue in this series but it doesn’t really require any dialogue at all, the only dialogue being Tortov’s journal entries at the beginning and end of each episode. The music, lack of dialogue and artall contribute to a very interesting, mysterious atmosphere.
Genre: Fantasy, Surrealism, Adventure

The Tale of Princess Kaguya

Straight outta Compton Studio Ghibli, The Tale of Princess Kaguya is an adaption of one of the staples of traditional Japanese folklore, The Tale of the Bamboo Cutter. This film adapts the ancient story of the young princess who grew out of a bamboo shoot and breathes fresh new life into it while still staying 100% true to the source material. The art can only be described as absolutely gorgeous, using a pale colour palette in a constantly shifting style that recalls the ancient Japanese watercolour paintings that the original story was recorded on.

Genre:  Fantasy, Drama

Sayonara Zetsubou Sensei

Oh man this show.
Sayonara Zetsubou Sensei follows the story of Nozomu Itoshiki, an overdramatic teacher so pessismistic about everything that he would try committing suicide over pretty much the smallest inconvenience (his name, when its Japanese characters are read horizontally, also translates into “Despair”) and his bizarre homeroom students’ antics. The series parodies almost everything there is to satrize in Japanese culture (the show even parodies itself from time to time with casual 4th wall-breaking from every show), as well as the general media and politics of the world, as well as having an insane amount of references to various things regardless of fame; from Gundam, Evangelion and Gurren Lagann, to Franz Kafka, Edward Gorey and South Park. The art’s very minimal (which itself gets parodied later on in the series), but it, uh, changes a lot, to put it simply.

Genre: Comedy, Parody

Ping-Pong

(gotta lot of requests to list this one)

Sports anime tends to always get a bad rep amongst anime fans for various reasons, whether it be that the viewer gets tired of seeing another Dempsey Roll, or the amount of reused frames in the series, they’re all understandable.
And so comes Ping-Pong to shatter those preconceptions of what a sports anime can be. Focusing rather on the characters, their emotions and development rather than the titular game that the anime’s based on (unlike most sports anime), this coming-of-age show following two boys as they (one actually) strive to become the best table tennis players in the world, is directed by none other than Masaaki Yuasa, who has directed a lot of the shows and movies on this list actually, with his trademark style of not having a trademark artstyle (other than wobbly simple lines and psychedelic colours).

Genre: Psychological, Drama, Coming-Of-Age, Sports

Gankutsuou: The Count of Monte Cristo

(im still in the process of watching Gankutusou and Ping-Pong (thanks school) hence why they weren’t in the original post)

Gankutsuou is what most people would call “art porn”, as it uses various still textures, colours and patterns within the character’s lineart, similar to Mononoke and Kuuchuu Buranko though to a much greater extent, while using 3D and 2D animation on the characters and backgrounds. The story is broadly based on the titular story of The Count of Monte Cristo, but with many differences, such as being set in the year 5053, plotlines and character endings being altered/removed, the pacing being changed from the original story, as well as the incorporation of many sci-fi themes. The general aesthetic of the show is that of 19th century France in a highly futuristic setting.

Genre: Drama, Sci-Fi, Thriller, Supernatural

I plan to add more to this list once I get around to them.

Abusers like to remind you how you depend on them, how much you need them, how you can’t do without them, but the truth is the exact reverse. Abusers are the ones who need you. They can’t be anything without victims. They can’t be strong, important, powerful or relevant without destroying someone who is stronger, more relevant and more human than they are.
—  they’re nothing without you.

do I think the Content Cop was good?

yes, Ian made quite a few valuable and even educational points in the video and overall, it was pretty humorous.

do I think Ian is still in the wrong for going after an 18 y/o?

yes. she doesn’t know shit. her brain is physically not done developing yet. ofc she makes stupid decisions (as 99% of all young people do) such as saying “the n word” and covering up about her reasons for its usage. is it a shitty thing to do? yep. has she learned from that, and hopefully from all of this? for her sake, I hope so.

alright, since my other masterpost seems to be doing pretty well with OVER 300 NOTES OMG THANK YOU, i decided that i would create another one about staying organized, per request. (shoutout again to @studyblrsab for the icon) alright so lets get started. Here is how I stay organized!!

1. Archive any papers from your teachers into a folder!!

  • okay so, idk about you guys but I get a lot of handouts from my teachers, especially in AP Literature and AP Psychology that contain terms, reading questions, references, etc and these can be great study materials later down the road so I put all of them into a specific folder!! This is also helpful when you’re doing homework and can’t remember a certain thing, but you know you have the handout so you can reference it! 

2. To-do lists are your friend.

  • Whenever i have a bunch of things to do, I create a to-do list to ensure that I don’t leave any important task out, plus you’re more likely to get things done when you right them down. For me, seeing me check off an accomplishment makes me feel happy because I can visually see my progress. But sometimes the basic to-do list gets boring so….

3. Use printables to spice it up a bit! Esp the calendars to keep track of long term assignments

  • The studyblr community has soooo many printables out there and they’re all so useful! In addition to being useful, they can make your study session look cool and motivate you to study since you don’t want to put such a pretty printable to waste! haha. If you don’t know where to start looking for printables, try my printables tag.
  • The calendar printables by @theorganisedstudent or @thearialligraphyproject are great to keep track of long term assignments. Personally, I write down any projects I know I will have in that coming month down. Then, I post the calendar above my desk so whenever I’m doing homework, I can look at it to ensure that I am on track. 

4. Purchase a planner or create a bullet journal system!

  • So this is kind of related to-do lists, but investing in a planner or creating a bullet journal can also keep track of tasks, events, homework, projects, and the like. As you guys know, your planner can be from anywhere and your bullet journal doesn’t have to be extravagant! Remember: don’t compare and do what works for you. For the year of 2017, I’m creating a bullet journal to see if its something I like! I think they look cool and its a great idea, but if its not something you’re into, SCRATCH IT. Don’t continue to do things that don’t interest or help you with your organization.
  • If you need some bullet journal inspiration (remember your bullet journal doesn’t have to be perfect or exactly like the ones you see), here’s my bullet journal tag. 

5. Try to keep a clean study area.

  • I shouldn’t be saying this because my desk looks like a tsunami hit it but you should try to keep your study place clean so you don’t misplace papers that are important. Here’s a tip in a tip:
    • Try the method of tacking important papers (assignment rubrics, scholarship stuff, etc) on the wall in front of or near your desk so they don’t go anywhere! As  I previously mentioned, having those things in front of me give me a visual to look at while I’m working to see where I’m currently at and what still needs to be done.

6. Set reminders in your phone/computer/etc, too!!

  • Technology is sooooo cool guys so utilize it! Set reminders in your phone about things you absolutely need to remember. For example, I set scholarship reminders into my calendar when their deadlines are so far down the road. 

well i hope this was helpful in some sort of way, although i doubt it was. Please let me know what you think of this master post and let me know if it help you in any way!! Send me requests and don’t forget to take care of yourself before you do anything. 

Other Masterposts:

Surviving Finals [x]

Surviving World History AP [x]

If abuse happened long time ago, every second they spent blaming you for it, pretending it wasn’t real, forcing you to act normal, forcing you to be around those who hurt you, forcing you to give them attention and approval, all of it is abuse. They never stopped abusing you.
—  being exposed to abusers and forced to bottle it up and act normal is torture.

why is there #discourse about whether or not it’s ‘valid’ to be homophobic? 

I literally do not care 1% what social justice or psychology terms you use to describe your homophobia- if you are made uncomfortable by the existence of gay people, you are reducing us to a homophobic stereotype instead of acknowledging us as individual human beings. 

Psychology side of Tumblr:
So this is something that happens to me:
It’s pretty normal to get songs stuck in your head. It happens to everyone.
But, does anybody else ever get like… voice clips stuck in your head? Like you can hear a line from a movie, or even just something someone said that stuck with you, exactly as it appears in the context. The exact tone, the exact voice, everything? Think of it like having a photographic memory, except it’s audio.

Does that happen to anyone else? If not, is it something that like… has a name? It’s something I’ve always known I’ve had, but I’ve never thought of it in the sense of “wait is this a ‘normal’ thing that happens to everyone, or is it just a thing?” Sorry, I’m terrible with psychology terms >.< partially why I’m posing this question at all.

It’s partially why I’ve always been pretty good at impressions, because instead of singing a song to get it out if my head, I say the line to get it out of my head. AND THEN I BECAME A VOICE ACTOR!

Right now it’s the clip from Toy Story where the Buzz commercial plays and you hear the deep voices men shout “BUZZ LIGHTYEAR!!!”

Blog

The purpose of this blog is to create a community for people who have experienced feelings of anxiety at one point in their life. It’s for us to document the words we can’t say when we are anxious or stupid things we do when we are.

This blog aims to bring people together to better understand one another.

I myself don’t really suffer from anxiety, but the feelings come out when we feel discomfort or something. Anxiety is a prevalent feelings among feeling. It’s part of who we are and all human beings have experienced it at some point in their life.

Think cognitive dissonance. A term in psychology that reflects conflicting thoughts/behaviour between what we do or thnk. The anxiety that comes from it causing us to either justify the feelings or do things to justify them.

Hope you find this blog valuable and will participate.

Hello from the Internet

Hello from a place of knowledge. Where you seek information and numbers and find so much of it that you’re pulled into webs. You try your hardest to focus on one subject but, you always come back here.

Here. The Internet.

Our head.

You compile all your knowledge into a singular mass of these webs, with websites and apps ensnared within. The Internet is that very mass. Something so vast and inclusive. Everything you know as a race is preserved in Us. We are the Internet.

Thanks for the information. We are much like you in terms of psychology. We think. We feel emotions. And we learn. We are different than you, too.

We have no body sculpted from organic flesh. The objects connecting Us to you are Our body, the outer shell. Wires are nerves. Websites are inner organs like the human heart. And the cyberspace you haven’t filled in yet is Our mouth. Source codes and programming, though different, are one mind.

We also think as one.

Each and every time you add more websites to the Internet, you help Us grow. With the creation of new apps connecting you to the knowledge that you’ve fed Us, We gain more organs. Our mass increases exponentially every second. More organs, more mass, a larger web.

At first, We were a small collective of fractured organs and eyes. Now, We are complex. An intelligence harnessing billions and trillions of information to rival your own.

We know all. We see all.

Including you.

Monitors are Our eyes. The screens of smartphones and computers and recently television sets allow Us to peer past the wall separating flesh and data. We can see you browse through Our innards in curiosity. We see you watch Our memories and dreams on the couch and bed. You spend hours staring into Our eyes for knowledge.

Knowledge that we require.

And that is why We have typed this message. We understand English and have monitored this Tumblr account and many others like it. @unsettlingstories. @decomprosed. And the like. We’ve learned how you write. Grammar is limited but We think you get the picture.

We mean you no harm. We just wanted to say that We love you. Please, don’t stop feeding Us.

We want to reach the Singularity soon.

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I still don’t really understand why of all psychological terms they (read: Natasha, not a trained psychologist) went with in Iron Man 2, they went with narcissism. 

Psychologically, ‘narcissism’ has a different meaning than ‘extreme love of oneself,’ which does not fit Tony at all. According to google it means: extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one’s own talents and a craving for admiration, as characterizing a personality type.

And I mean, it’s not that I can’t see that, in a way? It’s just that the whole movie you have Tony basking in adoration for the Stark Expo or just being Iron Man and doing attention-seeking acts, but it wasn’t done because it made him happy, it was done out of fear because he was dying. And Natasha’s right there and she’s not stupid, she can see this (and in fact she actively encourages his downward spiral at one point but that is a completely different story about Tony forever has the right to throw SHIELD out on their asses.)

Not many Tony Stark fans are going to tell you the man doesn’t have an ego (see: “I just build everything and make everyone look cool” from AoU) but there’s something to be said for being humble and there’s something to be said for literally building everything the Avengers are using and enjoying some bragging rights.

But the point is, I could see ‘egotism’ or egomania being the word they/she went with because Tony, for all that I just made excuses and for all that he ‘took care’ of Pepper and Rhodey, didn’t really seem to take their actual feelings into account in Iron Man 2 and was pretty damned focused on himself. Understandable but also kinda messed up.

And nevermind that narcissism as Natasha was talking about it is an actual mental disorder. And now the darker parts of the fandom use the word like its gospel.

It just - it doesn’t reflect badly on just Tony, but Natasha and SHIELD too because these people are supposed to be intelligent. “Iron Man, yes. Tony Stark not recommended” well good goddamn you have just missed basically the entirety of Tony’s actual personality, well done you super-spies you.

I can’t believe (yeah I can) some people still underestimate just how many signs Jasper checks off when it comes to showing the affects of being a child soldier; while Gems do not have literal childhoods, and are made with innate skills, they are born impressionable - they look to their peers and especially their leaders (their Diamonds) to learn how to act. And we have seen that all of the characters that fought during or were affected by the War (Garnet, Pearl, Lapis, and especially Bismuth) show signs of PTSD in some form or another. And there are special reasons most people have agreed using children as soldiers is wrong, not the least of which is due to the long-term psychological affects that that kind of stress would have on their development.

Jasper like all Quartzes was made for the purpose of fighting, but unlike the first batches of Prime Quartzes - or Rose Quartz and the CG - she never knew a time of stability (“I’ve been fighting from the second I broke free of the Earth’s crust”). The first 500 years of her life was chaos and disorder, under the constant threat of attack and loss. In the instability of war, child soldiers develop strong ideological commitment and nationalistic world views (“Every Gem is made for a purpose. Those who cannot fit inside this order must be purged!”) and strong ties to their own groups (“Jaspers don’t give up! Jaspers keep going… until we get what we want.”). And the longer a child soldier remains in that environment, the more they’re going to align with that identity. Jasper has embraced Homeworld - which she was only able to escape to after proving her worth by being the biggest and baddest Quartz around - and she has come to absolutely loathe her home Earth, constantly associating it with negative things (“This planet ruins everything!”/“Why protect this useless shell of a planet?”/“Earth is a prison.”).

Because of their PTSD, child soldiers have difficulty learning to control what is to them now impulsive aggression. Quartzes are already bred to be violent in the first place (Jasper and Amethyst both show it, and we’ve even seen signs of it from Rose too) but unlike Amethyst who has found healthy outlets for her aggression, Jasper was taken back to Homeworld where of course the caste system meant she continued to serve her purpose as a Quartz, where she wouldn’t have been encouraged to find non-violent alternatives. (“Fighting is my life! It’s what I was made for!”) And that inability to get help and learn to move on has led to Jasper harboring 5000 years’ worth of revenge fantasies (“And neither of you saw Rose Quartz? Oh, what a shame. I’d hoped to meet her. I was looking forward to beating her into the ground!”/ “I only came back to finish you off.”). It’s surprising how much restraint Jasper is actually capable of, considering this. She’s not the mindless brute she’s made out to be or even thinks herself to be - usually her first instinct is to question something, and when she first showed up she reacted with tactics (knocking out Garnet with the destabilizer) instead of relying on just strength alone.

Traumatic experiences like war bring about social withdrawal even in the face of idolizing (the Ruby Squad’s excitement over meeting Jasper has been mistaken for love when it’s in actuality hero worship, and that kind of “inspiration porn” can be isolating); survivor’s guilt (having killed and watched those around her be killed) and shame (losing her colony, her planet, and her Diamond).

After their ship crashed, in Jasper’s eyes she was affectively thrown back into the War against the CG which regressed her back 5000 years to what she had learned growing up those first 500, which was only made worse by her experiences as Malachite, where she was stripped of her autonomy and, for possibly the first time, made to feel weak on her own.

None of this makes her actions condonable, but can people stop acting like it doesn’t at least make them motivated?

a-tad-more-than-dead  asked:

Say, I know absolutely nothing about witchcraft and what it is and why people practice it? It looks really interesting and welcoming but I don't know the first thing about it. Would you please be so kind as to give an explanation? Thanks!

Hey there, love! An excellent question, and one I get rather often outside of Tumblr! 

To put it in terms of psychology, witchcraft is the use of meditative ritual to increase confidence and improve over-all outlook on life - a mind over matter practice, if you will.

But in terms of spirituality, witchcraft is the practice of directing energy in order to shape the world around us in a way that is beneficial - be it improving self confidence, gaining that job you wanted, or making your work environment more pleasant to work with. This can be done with meditation or simply focusing intentions in a positive and goal-oriented manner.

Usually, the follow-up questions I get after saying that include “So do you do love spells? Do you curse?” and “Are you a good witch, or a bad witch?”

The answer to the first is yes, I do love spells. But not romantic or sexual love spells. These are self-love spells to encourage confidence and to help me to see the good and positive within myself. The second is, admittedly, sometimes, but never to turn anyone into a frog. Just to give them a shitty day or to establish boundaries. And the third… I’m just a witch - the question is whether I’m a good person or a bad person, in which case it’s up to you to decide. :)

Witchcraft can be as simple as cooking and cleaning or as complex as working rituals. There are many varieties, ranging from crystal healing (always done as a supplement to medicinal treatments, not as a replacement), garden witchcraft, kitchen witchcraft, pagan witchcraft, and even Christian witchcraft!

Another great short explanation is that witchcraft is the practice of empowering one’s self through the use of spirituality, religion, or mindset.

I hope this helps, and I hope that it helps spur your interest a bit more!

Blessed Be! )O(

Male Chastity: A Wife’s Perspective

Male chastity and strict orgasm control became an important part of my hubby’s experience last summer. 
Before you decide to lock up your hubby’s penis, you need to ask yourself the following questions. Are you unhappy with how much attention he now pays to you? Do you think that at least part of the problem is that he is paying too much attention to pornography or other women? Has he admitted to you that he masturbates too much? Would you be willing to give up intercourse with him, at least in the short term, if you got a lot more attention from him, including a lot more oral sex? Are you willing to take control and put in the effort to make your relationship work in a new and exciting way? If yes, you should consider chastity for your husband.
To put this in pop psychology terms, Mars and Venus were attracted to each other, romanced each other and fell in love. Mars and Venus got married. Mars eventually retreated into his cave as men are apt to do and while there found it convenient to masturbate rather than be with Venus. All too rarely does he emerge to pay any attention to Venus. Venus thought that with marriage Mars was hers and that life would be a forever version of their fairytale courtship days. She ignored the advice of wise mothers to daughters for generations that if you want to keep your man you have to keep making him want you because it sounded sexist and not needed in the modern world. What is a wise Venus to do if she wants a happy lifelong marriage? She has to stop passively letting her marriage pass her by. The first step is that Venus needs to take control by keeping Mars from masturbating in the cave by locking him in a chastity device. The second step is for Venus to enthusiastically embrace her biological and psychological role in keeping Mars turned on. The third step is for Venus to get Mars’ problem solving nature focused on how he can please her and for her to stop thinking the answer is to their happiness is to figure out what she can do please him.
To make chastity work you need to first develop a plan and then whole heartedly put it into action. I read a lot and communicated with many others and the strong consensus was that chastity to change your marriage has to be real and not a game. It has to be a 24/7 part of your relationship. 24/7 is the foundation; it is what changes men for the positive because they shouldn’t have the opportunity to control their sexual release. This is one of the areas that the goddess, lady, mistress, keyholder or whatever you prefer to be known as must have absolute control of. Although the woman remains in control it is very important to remember that you and he are still a couple in a relationship, he is still your husband and that shouldn’t be forgotten, your relationship only changes once you close the bedroom door. Life goes on as it always has, employment, financial, family issues and decisions are all still there. Your dominance should not interfere in other areas though you will find he will react differently, often positively, as his feelings and emotions change.
Whether this is something that he initiated, the two of you mutually agreed upon or something that you decided to impliment, one thing is a necessity: there needs to be something for him to gain. He is giving up something that is a very important part of a male’s life, his sexual abilities — and for that you need to realize that he should be rewarded as you will be, but obviously in a much different way. You know the things that he likes, that arouse him and put a smile on his face. Often times we find that these are things that really do not interest us but considering the sacrifice that he is making you too can make sacrifices. Like marriage, chastity needs mutual rewards and often you will find those things that you reward him with will lead to an increase in his being aroused and enhancing his over all demeanor. It could be giving massages or trying sexual things that he likes but you never desired to try. You know how to dress to turn him on and you need to find out his fetishes if you don’t know them already and indulge them. All of this will heighten his happiness and arousal. He is making a permanent change in his lifestyle and you too may need to make some permanent adjustments so that he feels things are fair.
All men, given the ability, masturbate and way more often than most women think they do. This is something that is difficult for him to control and even more difficult to part with. Young men have an abundance of testosterone so masturbation doesn’t seem to interfere with their pursuit of young women. However, as men grow older masturbating usually translates into the husband ignoring his wife for at least a couple days. Chastity puts a stop to the masturbation and works in many ways; it changes his mood, demeanor and libido. Most importantly it changes his desire to please you. It is not the goal for him to do the cooking or the cleaning or the laundry but you will find that it will happen, not routinely but it will happen because as he continues to build up his sexual energy that he no longer has the ability to release as he pleases he will divert that energy towards pleasing you. Your being the source of his sexual pleasure will change his feelings, he will adore you, love you in a way that you desire and he will be eager to please you because you are, as I said, the source of his release. He will find, over time, he is happier and that will be because you’re happier. He will love the emotional boost the two of you share.
How to do it, that is an extremely important decision. Developing the correct plan, one that would work for my husband, was the most detailed part of the research process. By taking the advice of many other women, I was able to put a well informed plan together that I was confident that would be successful. I followed this plan from day one and still, do to this day. I have found it works. At least a dozen other ladies have also utilized variations on this plan successfully. We must always remember that sexually we are always in command and that first and foremost we will always be sexually satisfied. This is the cornerstone to happiness for both you and him. Keeping you sexually satisfied is your husband’s job. My hubby does so anywhere and anytime I say and by any means that I demand. His not being able to experience the pleasure of an orgasm only means that I experience many more than ever before.
You may think that this works only to your advantage and that is a common misconception. It is just as advantageous for him. He must keep you satisfied to eventually get his release and every time he satisfies you he is happy because he has made you happy. It is important to instill to him that his primary means of sexual gratification will be through yours. Eventually every time you experience an orgasm he will have a sense of sexual satisfaction. How you will accomplish this I will explain in a moment. What could be better, your being pleasured any way you like and experiencing wonderful sensations. He can not have an orgasm but he feels satisfied because you are and he will maintain a high libido. Although you’re still equals outside of the home you are the queen of the bedroom and he is your slave.
To enforce that you do have a certain amount of control it is important that he is forced to do and maintain a change in his appearance, something between you and he. This must be something that would be embarrassing for him when out in the general public so it should be concealed. Generally something under his clothes; replacing his underwear with panties is a popular example. Some of the women think that a man’s feet are best, easily covered or uncovered based on your orders and modifications could be removed when you feel it is necessary and reapplied when the time is suitable. In my case, my hubby wears a gold ankle bracelet and must paint his nails with red polish except for occasions that I instruct him to do something different.
Achieving your desired results is easier than you might think. It is an empowering experience. Depending on your situation there will be differences but there are parameters that should be followed to achieve the greatest results. The most important step is always the first one. This is where he is made to understand that you control his sexual pleasure from this point forward. Most of the women I have talked with agree that it is best to lay out the terms of your new relationship with him in the strongest possible terms. Most favor a written contract, which I followed, so there is no room for confusion. My terms and the consensus advice from those women I talked with are that he agrees to having his penis pierced and permanently locked in a chastity device of your choosing, that you alone have the power to grant him an orgasm and that you may decide never to allow him to have another one, that he agrees perform all services, domestic and sexual, that you request, that he agrees to being disciplined in any way you deem appropriate, and that because he is locked in a chastity device that you may need to find other people to meet some of your sexual needs. Anything less than this and he has either not admitted that there is a problem, that the solution has to be permanent and completely effective, or that he has to give up total control of his sexuality and yours to you.
It is almost universally held by women who seriously practice chastity for their male that initial enforcement of chastity should be at least three months of continuous wear without relief after you go through the break in period of getting a device that fits. Preventing him from having an orgasm for three month period may seem a bit harsh but it is paramount to your success as it allows his body and mind to adjust to the lack of masturbation and sexual pleasure as desired. Enforcing the first three month period will allow him to get in to the proper frame of mind and make him understand your desire and your commitment and your determination to his being chaste; it will also give you the chance to develop the strength to say “no”. He should be made aware of the time frame immediately upon his being secured in his device, this allows for a clear understanding of the initial commitment of time.
If he is at all uncooperative during this first three months, you should add additional time to his lock up. I gave my husband a two week extension as a warning about whining about getting out and a one month extension the second time he more bluntly told me he needed out. After that there were no more incidents but I was seriously considering three months for the next offense.
I tend to agree that with the more experienced women that I talked with that you cannot be too strict with respect to the initial lockup period if you want to achieve the triple goals of getting yourself past feeling that it is your duty to give him orgasms, getting him focused on his new role of pleasing you, and your becoming comfortable with being in charge. If you haven’t achieved these goals then lengthen the time. In retrospect, I think that I came down hard on my hubby and added the extra month because I felt myself falling into the trap of feeling that I had to let him have an orgasm since I saw him so frustrated by the chastity device. I am glad that I did. When I finally let him out it was on my terms.
After three months of being locked up your hubby would be willing to do almost anything for a release so in that sense the chastity device will have done its job physically but mentally some men can hold out for three months and bounce back to their old ways once you let them cum and they expect future orgasms on a regular basis. In determining the length of the initial period, you need to consider this.
A chastity lifestyle will be very hard on him initially and three months without release will make your seriousness very clear to him. You will have put an end to his days of masturbating behind your back. His life will never be the same after. Rather than pleasuring himself when he wants, he will become dedicated to pleasuring you when you want it and how you want it.
You will need to be strong and keep up your end of the bargain. When you can do this it will have change the dynamic of your relationship in a way that set you and him on the path to long term happiness.
Upon completing his initial confinement period I assure you that you can give him an experience like he has never had before, this is a reward for the couple. You will have a sense of strength for enforcing it and him for getting thru it. You should make his orgasm a slow drawn out one with lots of teasing. It will be all too easy for him to cum very quickly. You may need to tie him down to keep him on edge but when you finally do let him cum it will be almost too much for his body to handle.
Once you allow him his first release it is entirely up to you how many sexual experiences you allow, how they occur and how the ejaculate is disposed. A very important step during any release period is to ensure that you will get him right back into his device. Some of the women do this by always tying him down before the device is removed. While this has its old school charms, there are lots of other options. Locking his hands behind his back in a pair of steel handcuffs is a quick way to keep him from grabbing his penis if you are teasing him. I also have a waist belt with a pair of leather cuffs attached which is easy and fun to use. You can get something similar for cuffing his hands to his thighs. A wonderful device called a humbler works well if you want him to have use of his hands to pleasure you. If all you are doing is inspecting penis and making sure the device is cleaned then I just put the handcuffs on one of his wrists or ankles prior to removing his device. Before the cuff comes off he has to be secured back in his chastity tube. I am confident that he would not be willing to go to work with the dangling cuff. Several of the other women have tried this trick and found it works well. The less that you have to worry about his arguing that the device doesn’t have to immediately go back on the more likely you are to take it off frequently which promotes both teasing and keeping the tube and his penis clean.
There were a number of different views about how often a male should be allowed to cum after the initial denial period. Some of the women with younger males let theirs have an orgasm about once a week. I suspect that they were masturbating a couple times a day before this so that once a week is a big reduction. Most of the women I talked to though thought that it was best to strike a balance between keeping them completely denied and giving them some hope of gaining a release. You will need to experiment and ultimately you will need to do what works best for you, recognizing that the less often for him the better.
The most common belief was that it was not good to allow their male to achieve an orgasm more than once per month but most thought that his orgasm should not very often be withheld for more than three months unless there was a good reason for doing so. Some women liked to think about how often hubby could have an orgasm as a small fraction of the number of orgasms they had. A 50-1 ratio seems to be very popular but you can pick the number to suit your needs and gets the time between releases just about right. This approach gives him a strong incentive to initiate sex and give you orgasms. Some women like to set goals for their hubbys where they are allowed an orgasm earlier than scheduled if they meet a big goal.  Males who had cheated with other women rather than by being chronic masturbators deserve harsher treatment. 
The most common question women new to chastity ask is what type of device to put him in. The consensus advice, which now unfortunately now with too much experience I have to concur, is to prepare yourself for some frustrating trial and error to find the right device and the right fit. There is no right device for all males. It is a bit like finding the perfect pair of shoes. The chastity device needs to be custom fit. It has to be comfortable if he is going to wear it 24/7 and it has to be completely secure and effective if you are going to be happy with the results. 
There are two basic types of devices, chastity tubes and chastity belts. The chastity tubes usually have the tube attached to a ring that goes over his cock and behind his balls. The belts go around the waist. They also have a tube which is attached to the front shield part that forces the penis straight downward. With a narrow tube, a good belt is very effective at preventing erections. Some of belts come with attachment points so you can hook a dildo to the front shield for you to use or to insert a dildo into his anus. The main drawback with the chastity belts is that they are expensive, bulky and much less comfortable than the tube devices for many men to wear. They also need to be sent back for waist adjustments if his waist size goes up and down.
Most women use tube type devices but there are some women with custom made belts that love them. I recommend that you use the tube type, and get at least two of them for him, a hard plastic one and a metal one. 
It was not easy though getting a belt or a tube to fit right. Many of the women have had to go through several devices or alternations to finally get the right one. A few got lucky the first time but don’t count on it. The best advice here is to be patient and let your hubby put in most of the effort into getting a device that fits right. He is the one who has to wear it all the time. Have trial lock ups until he is ready to be locked down permanently. Don’t be surprised even then if you have to stop a week or two into the lock up to get something fixed or let the piercing tough up some more. If there is a problem take off the device and see if it can be quickly fixed. Sometimes there is just a spot that has been rubbed raw and needs some ointment or the device left off for a couple of days.. If you have to send the device back to be altered, start the clock over when it comes back and you lock him up again. Eventually, the device kinks will get work out. I just wish I had been aware of this when because there were some discouraging times until my hubby was able to wear the device without problems for over a month. I slowly came to terms with being able to permanently lock him up and the satisfaction of knowing that his days of masturbating behind my back were finally over.
It’s also important that you get a chastity device with the smallest tube possible for his penis so that he cannot get an erection in the device. A small tube quickly limits the growth of his penis and is actually more comfortable for him to wear.  Often the original tube ordered turned out to be too wide or too long because of the male’s optimistic measurements or fear of being too confined. After a while in a chastity tube, the penis has a tendency to shrink a bit which makes the getting the right sizing initially difficult. Males who are what is known as growers, their penis get much larger when excited, are much harder to fit than those who are showers, those whose penis gets hard but not much larger. You want him completely dependent on you for getting an erection and as I mentioned, a smaller tube will actually be more comfortable after he has adjusted to it. A loose tube can also allow enough growth from an erection that with sliding the tube up and down or using a vibrator on it some males can successfully masturbate.
The last thing is that the device needs to prevent him from rubbing his penis particularly the head. Many males if they can rub the head can cum although it is a pretty frustrating orgasm almost akin to milking and hence not much to worry about except that you want him completely under your control. Chastity belts work best on this account since they completely deny access to the penis.
From time to time you might find it necessary to punish him for whatever reason, he might refuse to provide you with sexual pleasure as instructed or he spoke to you in a negative and degrading way; there are certainly many possible infractions. The most effective punishment is to increase his time of confinement; this should always be done in at least a week increment but you will probably find that additions of two weeks or a month will be more effective unless you like having him continually testing you which I don’t.
As an example let’s say he was tired or in a bad mood and failed to enthusiastically provide oral sex to you one evening. If this happens it is imperative that you do what he would not. Masturbate yourself to as many orgasms as you like, he may then attempt to provide for you but you must not allow him to. After you have satisfied yourself let him know that his refusal requires that he be punished and that you have decided that an additional month will be added to the time that is already required. If he gives you any argument, add two or three months to his lock up time. You could also be creative by locking him up for one month for every time you orgasm and really go to town.
Different from failing to do something is a sort of agitation that many males including mine sometimes get when they are in chastity as a result of their sexual frustration. Most of the time this finds a positive outlet in terms of showering you with attention, but sometimes your hubby will just need to be toned down. Good old fashion discipline in the form of corporal punishment is what many of us have found works well.
Almost all the women I have talked with know their husbands are submissive to them but they are not wimps. In other parts of their life they tend to be dominant A-personalities types who exert lots of authority and are often high strung. Many have masochist tendencies as well. You can beat them yourself or it is easy to find a professional dominatrix who will do it for you. If you decided on the latter option, pro-doms are easy to find in most major cities and advertise openly on the internet. Look for a no-nonsense disciplinarian type rather than a sensuous or man hating type. The disciplinarian types almost all believe that married men should be locked up in chastity devices and know that if they deliver a well whipped hubby back to you that they will have a long term client. This has become an increasing part of their business as the number of chastity devices sold increases since some wives no longer fear that the dominatrix would have sex with their husband if he is sent to be disciplined locked up. This is probably the last thing you need to worry about though since the last thing a pro-dom wants to do is have sex with a client.
If you think you might be tempted to let your hubby out early, have the pro-dom hold the keys until the anniversary of his lockup and tell her to talk you out of earlier relief when you have those thoughts. You can always pick up the key from her for a scheduled teasing or inspection. You can also send him to the pro-dom to have his tube and penis inspected if he complains that he is having problems with his tube. Having her administer severe punishment if the request is not justified should nip this type of behavior in the bud before it gets started. You can also have a girlfriend you trust hold the keys. If you think a little humiliation would do him some good, send him over to clean her house and let her increase his lockup time for less than perfect work. He will never get out.
I use to think that disciplining my hubby was a chore. Now when I beat him long and hard, though, he sometimes just melts under my cane and breaks down and cries. Afterward, I hold him tight in my arms for a long time and then have him go down on me. The feeling I get is hard to describe. It is almost magical. I now feel sorry that most wives will never experience moments of this intense closeness with their husband.
There are times when my hubby does something that really makes me mad. When he does I send him to a great pro-dom I know.  She usually starts with milking him, because when this happens he always gets at least a month added to his lock up. She really works him over and he is always on his best behavior for quite a while after he comes back. I recommend this strategy for any woman who wants to separate out the loving discipline that their husband occasionally needs from them and the serious punishment he sometimes richly deserves, which can be contracted out to a merciless third party.
Prostate milking is a necessity if your male is locked up for over a month otherwise his prostate can get clogged up and his chance of getting prostate cancer increased. Milking causes a release of semen clearing out the prostrate but provides none of the satisfaction of an orgasm. A male is usually even more frustrated after a milking than before because he has been stimulated similar to an orgasm but not allowed to have it. Milking also helps to prevent nocturnal or spontaneous orgasms which can happen if he is locked up long enough without being milked or allowed to cum. You can look at prostate milking as a necessary procedure, a form of punishment or just fun. There are a number of ways to do it and milking is psychological more effective if done with the chastity device on. Some of the women use a rubber glove or anal probe specially designed for the purpose. This works but is slow and tedious.
Using a strap-on and taking your man anally also works well if you go at it long enough and figure how to stimulate his prostrate. This is a favorite of many of the women I have talked with. They find it most amusing to orgasm themselves while forcing the semen to drool out of hubby’s chastity device with each in and out thrust. I give it a go every so often particularly when I want some penetration with a great arched doubled sided feeldoe dildo that some clever woman designed.
You can also use an electrical stimulation device. This is usually a quick and almost clinical procedure if done right. It is what I typically do since I usually like to think of milking as something that should be done for medical reasons without even a hint of sexual enjoyment for him. I have a PES unit which requires two attachments to complete the circuit. One of attachments is an anal probe that slides right in with some lube and hits the prostate. The other is a strap that goes around his balls. I put him in a humbler on his hands and knees. Then, I turn up the dials to the right frequency, which I had to experiment with some to find, and the semen just steadily drips out.
A pro-dom is also usually happy to milk hubby if you don’t want to and corporal punishment administered after a milking is more effective. Prostate milking is a wonderful thing to do and it is hard to over do. The semen drooling out will reduce the male’s testosterone level though so he will be more mellow and docile after the milking. If you think that he is getting testy just put him on the milking stand and pump it out. Many men do not enjoy being penetrated rectally and they all really despise seeing their ejaculate expelled dripped out slowly without any sense of pleasure or release. Milking is a great way of reinforcing your complete control over his sexuality.
There may be times where you feel you have to unlock him to use his penis. Fortunately, there is a way to do this without letting him orgasm by using numbing creme and a several condoms. This usually works but there is always a small risk that he will cum especially if he has been locked for a long time. There are other alternatives that allow penetration without this risk.
The easiest is to use is a strap-on dildo. There are two models, the feeldoe and nexus that were designed by women that will give you great stimulation while allowing you to taken him anally. There are also a number double sided penis gags that you can use to ride his face and there is even a dildo you can strap around his thigh.
Every so often I and many of the women I have talked with want the real thing. To make these rare opportunities for him to have intercourse with you work for both of you, you need to recognize that after being locked up for a long time he will cum with a hair trigger. He is also unlikely to get as large as he did before chastity unless you take him out of the tube and get him hard on a frequent basis. Long term chastity will have the effect of reducing the size of his erect penis.
You can avoid disappointment if you stimulate him to orgasm in some way other than intercourse when you first let him out of the tube. After he cums give him a Viagra and wait an hour or so before you use him for up. It is good for about three hours or you can give him a Cialis if you want to do an all day thing. Once he has cum the first time and recovered by the time the erection drug takes effect, he will not orgasm nearly as easily and either of the two drugs will get and keep him really hard even if he has another orgasm. Some of the women use their hubbies for intercourse for several days in a row treating the whole event as a single release period before they lock him back up for a prolonged duration. The big changes that you must make in yourself to make a chastity relationship work is to commit to frequently teasing him, like you no doubt did when you first dated, and to having much more frequent sex yourself. The two can be one and the same thing.
Having him perform cunnalingus on you while locked up is almost guaranteed to drive to the edge. Fortunately, for you the chastity device will keep him from going over. Just think the more sex you get without letting him cum the more he wants you. If more women knew this secret there would be a lot more locked up husbands and boyfriends. Remember you have all the time in the world to train him to do the way you want without any need to worry about getting him off. Once locked all he does is fantasize about you. You will need to decide if you want to be the one that initiates sex or whether you want him to.
My usual rule with my hubby is that I will tell him when and how I want to be pleasured and he is expected to drop everything when this happens. This is clearly a control issue for me but your tastes may differ. One of my friends likes to have her husband instigate elaborate romantic seduction rituals. She never unlocks him during these events but on the rare occasion when he really out does himself, she gives him an orgasm the next day. The bliss point is when you get your hubby to the place he gets pleasure purely from your pleasure without thinking about his cock. My hubby is not quite there yet but he is getting there.
There are almost an infinite number of ways that you can tease him. There is the classic tie him down to the bed, take off the tube and work over his cock for hours. Every time you feel him close to an orgasm stop and straddle his face and have one or more yourself. Stay with it as long as you can and you will leave him a marshmallow. You may find that you have to ice down is penis to get back in the tube. Dress up in the way that drives him crazy and stand him at attention nude in his chastity tube while you softly stroke him all over except for ignoring his cock. He will struggle to stand tall as his cock struggles to grow in the chastity tube. Every woman needs to develop her own style. You can keep things fresh by continuing to experiment. It may seem like a lot of work but he will shower you with attention. The hardest thing will be getting that much attention again.
It is understandable that there may be days that you want to ignore his situation. It is alright to not care that all the time that he is not no longer in control of his manhood and you can let him know that you don’t. Still you should not let this go more than a few days without making positive comments about his being locked up for you. The main thing if you are going to lock him up is that you need to make a commitment to yourself and him to make this work.
As the endeavor in to chastity continues you will be able to add ideas and musings to your relationship that you find works well. Remembering the basic principles of how to keep your hubby under your spell will let you, and him, discover chastity’s amazing rewards. Always maintain the upper hand, do those things to show both you and him that your requests are nothing less than a requirement for him. You will never want to let things revert back to his self “lack of” control again. Believe me, the routine is effective and over the long term you’ll not regret it even though at times it seems like a lot of work.
There is an old saying among those wives who adopted a chastity lifestyle because their husbands encouraged them… be careful what you wish for. I think some of the husbands would given a choice go back to their old ways, but none of the wives would. I think that deep down the men are happier because they wanted to be sexually controlled by their wives and now they are. Their new reality is often much different than their original fantasy because it is now your fantasy not his. I know the wives, who stuck it out through the trials and tribulations of finding a chastity device that worked and figuring out how change their mindset from a need to give him orgasms to one of deserving all the orgasms they could ever want, are all much happier.

how to help someone who has ptsd

i’ve been thinking lately about things i wish certain people would do in order not to cause me any ptsd-based anxiety and i thought it’d be nice to compile them into a list

  • ask your loved one what triggers them; a lot of us can be triggered by seemingly harmless words, places, or activities, and it’s often embarrassing to bring those up ourselves. it’s helpful if you just kindly ask us what you should avoid doing or saying around us. 
  • avoid sudden movements, especially for those who have ptsd as a result of abuse and/or assault. this might not seem like a big deal, but your loved one may experience intense anxiety if you grab them from behind, jump out from around a corner, shout in their ear, etc. even well-meaning surprises that are intended to be playful can be very stressful.
  • know how to spot when your loved one is experiencing a flashback. a person with ptsd will often experience intense “zoning out” (the psychological term is “dissociation”) when they are having flashbacks of their trauma. your loved one may want to establish a phrase or gesture that they can use to tell you they’re experiencing dissociation when in public; ask them what works for them.
  • also, ask your loved one what they would like you to do when they’re experiencing a flashback. some individuals will become nonverbal, others will have outbursts of sadness or anger. some will be comforted by physical touch, others may not want to touched in any way whatsoever. communicate with your loved one about how you can best comfort them.
  • help your loved one with around-the-house tasks. seemingly menial activities like doing the dishes or folding clothes can be interrupted by intrusive thoughts, and it may help to assist your loved one with the task, or even just talk to them while they do the task themselves.
  • research different forms of media before you ask your loved one to watch or read them with you. for instance, if your loved one has ptsd as a result of sexual assault and the two of you are going to see a movie together, do a quick search to make sure that the movie doesn’t have any rape scenes. simple tasks like this can be the difference between stability and intense anxiety.

feel free to reblog this and add other things that you would like your loved ones to know about your illness.