A woman more precious than jewels is found in the presence of the Lord Jesus. Her eyes are fixed on Him, her smile radiates His grace, her tears pour out of compassion, and her healed wounds declare her redemption, and the strength she receives she extends to those in need. She is found both surrendered and driven by the purpose of God’s glory.
“Often times, when looking for a Proverbs 31 type of woman (or a woman in general), we as Christian men focus so much on physical attributes that when we have found someone that captures our attention/interest, we take little consideration as to whether that woman is really a woman of God or not. We are so mesmerized by our perception of her outward beauty that we don’t even focus on the heart (ref. 1 Samuel 16:7). This can lead to disaster.
Speaking of this, I’ve noticed that the chapter of Proverbs 31, which talks about godly womanhood, does not focus on a woman’s physical attributes. It doesn’t say that she has to have a certain length of hair, be a certain height, have this color eyes, be a Victoria’s Secret model, etc. in order to TRULY be a woman of God. The Lord desires for her to fear the Lord. He made her beautiful just the way she is, and we as men of God need to understand this. This means that when deciding who you should marry, what she looks like on the outside shouldn’t matter.
By choosing our woman solely off of the way she looks not only can lead us to the wrong girl, but in turning our heads to give the wrong girl that “second glance,” we’ve simultaneously taken our attention away from the right girl. There’s nothing wrong with having a “type,” but don’t let that be the main deciding factor.
“Does she pray?”, “Does she read her Word?”, “How does she act in times of struggle/temptation?”, and “Is she sincerely seeking the Lord with all her heart?” are just a few questions we need to be asking. Yes, we need to be Ephesians 5 men and be willing to lead our woman, but we cannot lead someone who does not wish to go where we are going.
In regards to this, be patient, wait on God’s timing, and allow the Lord to bring you to her when it is His time. In the meantime, allow your singleness to be a time of not anxiously waiting when you will be married, but thanking the Lord for making you wait so that you have the opportunity to serve Him and get closer to Him in the best way you can. That way, when that time DOES COME, you will know and you will be ready so that you can effectively lead her.
So, let’s not trade the beautiful rib that the Lord is offering for some legs, thighs, and breasts that we will treat as pieces of meat only to be thrown to the wayside after we are done with them. Instead, let us be willing to wait. I know the temptation is hard to wait, but I promise that when the Lord delivers your Proverbs 31 woman, you will find that she is NOT the woman of your dreams, because even the most “perfect” woman you might have dreamed up in your mind won’t even come CLOSE to her, because a fantasy can’t compare to a reality.“
I found this post online by a Facebook user… just wanted to share with you all :)
On the side note, our relationships with people are broken. Why? Because we are imperfect. We make mistakes too. So often I meet people who give up on their relationship because they or the other person have a hard time understanding brokenness. They expect “everything to be okay” all the time. But this idea of a relationship is wrong. A true relationship shows perseverance. Working together, helping each other (However, if the other person is hurting you, that is another story. In that case, you have to leave. God doesn’t want you being physically, sexually, and emotionally abused).
So I wanted to leave all you readers with this. We are all broken and Jesus is our only healer. We must turn our relationships to have a goal in pursuing Christ. We just have another helper in doing so - our girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband. If our relationships do not point to Him, then what are we doing in the relationship? We must pursue God in our single lives, in our marriage, and in our dating lives!!
“Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.”
Proverbs 31:23 KJV
Why should I settle for less?
Why would a virtuous woman want a boy who just cares how big a girl’s ass is? Just wanna fuck a pretty girl and run to the next? Who only cares about the game next Friday? Just wanna be high and drink? Who only cares about his Xbox & 2k17? A boy who don’t want to be great? Who doesn’t want to lead and grow with his people, the nation of Israel? A boy who doesn’t have goals for his family, to take them to the next level?
How about a man who wants to lead his nation. A man who wants to be great and also have his virtuous wife to be great with him. To grow together and not settling for comfort, but aiming for perfection. A man who doesn’t talk about the next big game, but on issues that matter. Real issues. A man who is all about order just like The Most High. A man who is sober. A man who studies his word and teaches his family. A man of the household. A man of The Most High.
Christian women often are told that they have to be a certain way, or act like they are perfect. But have you ever read what God wants us to be?
As I pondered upon this, I remembered Proverbs 31. This chapter is written by a king, whose mother taught him how a woman of God should act. What does she say? Open up your Bibles!
Now as I read, I created a list.
1. We should have faith. Serve God with your whole heart, and believe that He will do good.
2. Have a faith-filled relationship. This chapter mentions a lot about taking care of your husband, but every single relationship should keep God first. Don’t give your husband or boyfriend a reason to doubt you.
3. Be a sister. Pray for your church and church family. You never know when they will need you, so always be ready to be there for them.
4. Health. You can’t be superwoman! Don’t overdo yourself, keep your own personal health in check.
5. Serving. Be obedient to God! Do what he tells you to do! Let go of your pride whenever The Lord moves on you.
6. Industry. We women shouldn’t be lazy. Whether you have a job or you clean the house, don’t be useless! God never intended anyone to sit around!
7. Be a homemaker. Take care of your household. Cook meals, keep your home a sanctuary, be a mother/wife.
8. Manage time wisely. If you are given responsibilities, make sure that you complete them all.
9. Beauty. Make sure that you never lose your inner-beauty. Even if it does get hard.
10. Show Jesus. Be a witness for your saviour! If you know someone is lost, pray for them. Always keep a smile, after all, you could be the only Jesus someone sees.
Well I hoped you enjoyed this devotional! It was week number one for my ministry, Virtuous Women, which I encourage you to go read about on the up-coming page that will be linked here! God bless!
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Day 17/30: Your Hope Story
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. - Proverbs 31:25
1. Be confident in knowing that because God is the One who holds your future, there is nothing to be afraid of. Sometimes we fear the future because we’re thinking about what went wrong last time. Maybe we put our hope into a relationship and then they let us down. Perhaps we thought we were going on a mission trip or to a certain college and things fell through and just like that, our dreams were crushed. It’s hard to deal with this in our hearts over and over, and sometimes it wears us down and we don’t want to put hope in anything anymore. We let ourselves only think of the bad that might happen to the point that it paralyzes us. But today’s verse is a reminder that that is no way to live. Because of Christ, we have hope and that’s the hope that saves us. We no longer put hope in the things we see or what we’ve experienced. It’s about putting our hope in something more, something Eternal!
2. So don’t be discouraged when it seems like your hopes and dreams are crushed, because it’s time hope instead in Jesus. Even when you’re sitting there with a lot on your mind Jesus is right there and He wants you to lift your eyes and look to Him. His hope is the only hope that’s going to save you!
3. As empty and discouraged as you may feel at times, know that your weakness isn’t too much for God. The Apostle Paul actually encouraged the Roman church of this in verse 26-27: “the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.” Wow! be encouraged knowing that this applies to you. No matter how weak you feel, it’s not too much for God to handle because He is the One giving you hope! Hold onto that!
Biblical context + further reading: Proverbs 31:10-31, Romans 8:18-30
Stop squandering those who you believe to be beneath you. No one is less or more important than you. Even Jesus dined with prostitutes, tax collectors, and others deep in their sin. You are no more righteous than a man who sells drugs.