69% of people would find this public proposal absolutely awful

A new study by ScienceOfRelationships.com interviewed nearly 400 participants about their proposal preferences and found that 69% said they’d prefer to keep it private. 17% said they wanted semi-private, while 15% preferred a public event. Despite the popularity of proposal videos, that 69% may have the right idea.

A Dancer Proposed To His Boyfriend In Likely The First Gay Marriage Proposal On Italian TV
The judges had no idea it was coming, but they loved what they saw. BuzzFeed News spoke with the happy couple.
By Ema O'Connor

Yesterday, after the French acrobatic dance troupe called Les Farfadais perfromed a dance to “The Power of Love” on Italia’s Got Talent, one of the dancers proposed to his boyfriend on live TV to the great surprise of the judges.

(Video in the link.)

The dancer, who is named Stephane Haffner and owns the troupe, began by enlisting the help of the judges in translating his proposal from English into Italian.

“This occasion, it only happens once in your life,” Haffner, 37, said to the judges. “Can you help me by translating?”

His now-fiancé Kyle Kier, 24, is from New York and told BuzzFeed News that he had no idea what was going on since he does not speak Italian… Until Haffner said his name.

Haffner then got down on one knee and proposed to Kier to the screams of the audience and judges.

“We have performed tonight in a ring,” Haffner said to Kier, who was clearly wigging out. “This ring has brought us together in our work, our passion, and in our love. And I would like to know …”

But before he could finish his proposal, Kier grabbed the ring and brought him up from his knee for a kiss. This was reportedly Italy’s first televised gay marriage proposal.

Haffner confirmed that the judges had no idea this was going to happen, and Kier said he had no idea either.

Vanessa Incontrada, the show’s host who was translating on stage, appeared to cry at the proposal. Luciana Littizzetto and Frank Matano clapped and Nina Zilli made a heart shape with her hands in support. Claudio Bisio, the oldest of the judges, stood up, but remained noticeably unmoved.

Italy’s top court of appeals ruled against gay marriage in February, though same-sex marriage has been legal in the troupe’s home country of France since 2013.

“We are just so grateful for everyones reactions,” Kier told BuzzFeed News. “That three minutes of our lives changed so many things for us and so many people around the world … We just hope to keep the ball rolling with rights and equality.”

The men said that for the past 48 hours they have been flooded with messages of support and gratefulness from people gay and straight all over the world. 

The couple met when Haffner scouted Kier for his dance troupe. “I was only supposed to be in Europe for a few weeks,” Kier told BuzzFeed News. “I guess I ended up staying for ever.

They are based in Paris but spend their lives traveling. Haffner said they have now had many offers of places to have their honeymoon but plan on “having honeymoons as often as possible” for the rest of their lives.

Haffner said that the dance, which the couple did together, the song, and the white clothes were all leading up to the proposal, which he spent two months secretly planning.

“All I wanted to say was I love my boyfriend, I didn’t really want to make a huge political issue.” Haffner said. “But now, I want to defend our cause so that all the people in the world can be as happy as we are.”

Guys, you have no idea how happy I am for them. Italy is reportedly the most homophobic country in Europe, with no laws against homophobia, where gay marriage is still illegal and gay unions are not recognised. Stephane did something incredibly brave in a country where gay people fear to be beaten in the middle of the street for holding hands with their partner. I wish them all the best.

ICYMI: Tennis legend Martina Navratilova proposed to her girlfriend during the U.S. Open last week! They’ve been together since 2006, and her now-fiancée Julia Lemigova said yes. 

“I was very nervous,” Navratilova said later, via The Associated Press. “It came off. She said yes. It was kind of an out-of-body experience. You’ve seen people propose at sporting events before, in movies, in real life. Here it was happening to me. It was like I was watching myself do it.”

Precious. (via the Huffington Post)


New favorite proposal video. And that’s saying something. (via Upworthy)

headcanon: Angela made the whole family matching sweaters to wear at the holidays.

Not to be excluded, Maura got one too.

And then one Christmas she went to put it on, and found it like this

And that’s why she’s perfectly happy to have the only family sweater with the off-center letter