I don’t give a flying fuck what you look like. If you tell me you’re a woman, then you’re a woman. If you tell me you’re a man, then you’re a man. If you tell me you’re more than one gender or non-binary or agender or anything else, then that’s what you are. That’s your call to make, not mine.
If you’re not telling the truth for some reason, I’ll still respect that, because I understand that it’s sometimes easier to misgender yourself than to endanger yourself, or maybe you’re just not comfortable coming out to me or the other people around you. Again, your call.
And if the next time we meet you tell me you’re a different gender, then guess what! I’m going to respect that, too.
Okay. There’s something that has been bothering me for a long time and today I’m gonna try to articulate it. Here I go:
If you are white, you do not get to distance yourself from your whiteness by saying “white people suck” to a person of color. Believe me, they know.
If you are straight, you do not get to distance yourself from your straightness by saying “straight people suck” to a non-straight person. Believe me, we know.
If you are cis, you do not get to distance yourself from your cis-ness by saying “cis people suck” to a trans and/or nonbinary person. Believe me, they know.
I’m white and I caught myself doing this shit the other day while I was working on a race theory essay. I was writing about how white people try to infantilize black people in ads and media and I wrote “they” instead of “we” to refer to white people. Once I’d realized what I’d done—how I’d subconsciously tried to other myself from an oppressive group simply because I was criticizing it—I corrected it to “we.” Because, as a white person, I know that I am part of the problem.
You don’t get to decide that you are one of the “good ones” just because you think racism/homophobia/transphobia/etc. is bad. You’re still a member of the oppressive majority. You still perpetuate racism/homophobia/transphobia/etc.… regardless of whether you’re aware of it or not.
TL; DR:Please spend more time actually listening to minorities and less time assuring them that you’re not like those other bad white/straight/cis people.
oh yall for those of you who don’t know, unfollow me if you think people have to have a diagnosis to say they’re mentally ill. I’ve experienced the same exact fucking symptoms of schizophrenia and BPD since I was 14 … lmao but I wasn’t diagnosed because my family couldn’t afford to see a doctor as we had no health insurance. Surprise almost a decade later and I’m diagnosed with, you guessed it, BPD and schizophrenia. (:
If you think you’re something, you’re probably either entirely correct, or there is definitely something wrong and it should be checked out when you are able to financially and physically.
A neurotypical person wouldn’t make up having disorders, because it’s definitionally not neurotypical to “fabricate illnesses for attention” that’s literally … not neurotypical lmao. So even if they don’t have what they say they have theres still some form of mental illness there.
Furthermore, some people’s psychosis prevents them from seeing doctors because they’re fucking paranoid about it and have thought disorders regarding medical practices … which you guessed it (: is psychosis
And it’s laughable to me that some of you think everyone saying they have psychosis go out and secretly get like fucking street antipsychotics, lmao … going to their local drug dealer for latuda and abilify like hey i need to self treat my psychosis. Lmao thats fucking absurd, you’re fucking absurd.
1) diagnosis doesn’t magically make you mentally ill 2) you’re literally mentally ill before you’re diagnosed, thats literally how they diagnose you, it doesn’t suddenly make you the thing you’ve known you’ve had for years. 3) You know what not everyone can afford to see a doctor or a psychiatrist or anything to get proper treatment and diagnosis. 4) you’re literally reinforcing the idea that mentally ill people don’t know if they’re mentally ill, lmao which is so fucking bullshit on so many levels. 5) there are people with psychosis who are afraid to see doctors because of their psychosis which is psychosis 6) diagnosis of mental illness can inhibit people from working at their jobs, because some jobs don’t allow mentally ill people to work there even if they’re perfectly capable 7) diagnosis can inhibit other medical treatment because doctors can use your illness against you to delegitimize your pain/illness 8) psychiatrists and therapists rarely diagnose minors with psychotic disorders or personality disorders even if they absolutely have it because they legally can’t in some places.
Stop policing mentally ill people and treating us like children who don’t know how to take care of ourselves
AND YOU KNOW WHAT there are people WITH A DIAGNOSIS INVOLVING PSYCHOSIS who do go out and seek hard drugs to treat their mental illnesses, this isn’t exclusive to people without diagnosis, it’s a fucking mental illness thing that mentally ill people do. Getting a diagnosis doesn’t eliminate addiction.
You know how psychiatrists figure out how to diagnose people with psychosis related illnesses ? They fucking ask us, and if we say we have it … bam you get your diagnosis. And as specified before, not everyone can afford the luxury of getting a diagnosis. Fuck. Off.