problems with being a fan

anonymous asked:

firstable, HOW do they have bts footage?

that is a good question! tbh i wouldn’t have a problem with this arrangement if it was made clear that niall’s team shared the footage in order to promote viral marketing. like, i think that level of fan engagement would be pretty cool and savvy. what i DO have a problem with is that not being clear, so us being left to assume that fans have procured this content first without niall clearing it, and second as a means for those in possession of it to gain what they want by obligating other people to do as they say. 


The Tragic Love Song of Destiny 

It kinda annoys me how fandom culture is often treated as something “other” to be mocked and laughed at, but being a passionate fan of a sports team is considered totally fine. 

Hey maybe stop the “you can insult this nasty work but don’t insult the author” trend because, and I know this is surprising: the work didn’t write itself. Those ugly themes, the homophobia or the abuse apologism or the racism, they didn’t create themselves. They came from the author and they represent the author’s thoughts. The author is at fault for the problems with the media and them being nice to fans isn’t going to change that.

the problem with being such a fan of these boys for so long, is that we know them… we know who they are. we know their body language, their mannerisms, we know when they’re uncomfortable or when they’re genuinely chilled.. it’s just so much more frustrating as the years go on and the lies continue and we get to know them more and more because we can see with our own eyes the lies and the bullshit they say and go through, and we can’t do anything about it. and it keeps happening. and it’s sad. and we’re all tired. but I feel like the more we get to know them, the bigger and more elaborate the lies have to get. it’s just becoming this pathetic fake unrealistic pile of shit and we’re all sitting there going what the actual fuck is going on and how can anyone believe any of this if you’ve been paying any attention for the last 7 years. anyway buy and stream bty


‘twas the grammar slam before christmas…

just because it’s christmas time doesn’t mean your poor grammar is excused!

Johnny Depp may have been through a lot of things and may have problems but he’s still there, going to events, meeting with fans and being nice to children. He has difficulties speaking in front of an audience and he still does interviews. And after being through so much this past year, he looks healthier than a year ago. He has more than 10 projects in the next 2-3 years.

And all of this gives me so much strength to deal with my problems (personal and speaking in front of an audience), you have no idea how important this is to so many people. 

anonymous asked:

Please let me know your thoughts re: the Supergirl Supercorp thing with Jeremy and Melissa that just happened


1. my position is, has, and always will be: ACTORS DON’T GET TO MOCK THEIR FANS. we are the reason they have a job, we are for whom their product is made, and what we choose to do with it is up to us.

2. there is a long history of creators being very dismissive of people who ship non-canon queer couples that does not exist for non-canon het couples, and that dismissiveness was and is hurtful.

but i want to get into why it’s hurtful, and how that intersects with the state of television and fandom at the moment, because i think there is so much blurring of lines right now between fandom and activism that we’re all a little lost.

  • shipping canon and non-canon ships is different, both from a fan’s side, obviously, but also from a creator’s side. from the fan side of things, these days that difference seems to hinge on some concept of winning and losing. if your ship isn’t canon, you’ve lost some competition, you weren’t loud enough, you didn’t cheer hard enough, tweet at enough people, win enough E! news polls. i’ve talked about this before, but i think it’s really important to take this context into discussions about non-canon ships and what we want as fans and what we want as a queer consumer looking for representation.
  • because when we look for representation, as people who are consumers our only power is to use our voices to say WE WANT THIS THING. that’s all we can do to demand fair representation.
  • and that looks a whole lot like what being a fan is these days.
  • and the problem here is that “we want more representation” should be directed at the media as a whole, and instead it’s being directed at specific shows for specific things.
  • and so when specific shows, about specific things, say things like THEY’RE JUST FRIENDS IT’S NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN, it’s easy to jump from “i’m a fan being told my thing isn’t going to happen” to “i’m a queer person who wants queer stories on tv being told queer stories aren’t going to happen”.
  • i obviously have opinions about whether that is good, bad, or otherwise, but it is what it is. the two voices coming from the fandom side of things have merged into one.
  • which makes it difficult to know where creators are coming from when they respond to that one voice, but when jeremy jordan starts shouting THEY’RE JUST FRIENDS, it’s not the same thing as eliza taylor saying OH THIS AGAIN about that het ship i’m not going to name, to us.
  • but it probably is the same thing to the people saying these things.

3. and that brings me to my controversial point: canon shipping and non-canon shipping is different. and i can only imagine how frustrating it is to be on the creators’ side of this demand for non-canon ships, when you’ve spent the last 9 months of your life creating this thing and all you ever hear about is this other thing, that was never your intention, not what you’re planning to do, and isn’t what you’ve spent all your time on.

4. AND YET THAT IS ALL THEY ARE HEARING ABOUT. i’ve been in fandom for a long, long, long time. i’ve had a number of really awful encounters with creators, online, in real life, completely one-sided, and mutually experienced. there are very few times when i’ve had anything to do with creators that has ever been wholly positive. so i’m never really expecting anything great to come out of these things. i watch interviews with my finger hovering over the pause button because like everyone else i’ve sometimes allowed creators to have that level of control over the way i enjoy their product.

but what i got from that was a lot of frustration about the way fans have been behaving at them in relation to supercorp. and i have some sympathy for that, having been witness to some really, really intense behaviour from this fandom. this fandom has no chill at all, in a way i have never seen before, and at a certain point, if you shout at someone long enough, they might shout back.

i don’t understand what’s so hard for these idols to see. it’s literally free to not be an offensive piece of shit towards your fan base. it costs $0 to not do blackface, to not say nigga/nigger, to not appropriate black culture, literally at no cost to you. black people make up a majority of international fans, and how do you think it makes them feel? how do you think it makes them feel to log onto their tumblrs, their twitters, their instagrams and happily check their social medias…. only to see their culture being mocked. to see their favorite singer wear blackface, which is known to be an offensive exaggeration of black features. to see them wear dreadlocks, which have a special set of meanings to black culture, just as a fashion accessory, essentially saying they don’t care about the meaning for it. to see them blatantly copy black culture and use nigga as a term of endearment to their friends, when it was a known slur for black people who were slaves by their white owners, and is a slur only black people can reclaim. and then, to think it wouldn’t be worse, they have other black fans, who side with the offenders. who say it’s okay for their culture to be mocked with blackface, that it’s cute when their oppa/unnie says nigga because they’re ‘embracing the culture’ when in reality all they’re doing is messing it up. black fans have to fight to educate their idols, and their fellow fans. to show they can pay homage and embrace black culture without being offensive. to show they can cosplay black characters without doing blackface, that they can use a thousand other words than nigga to refer to a friend. there’s no excuse to their offensive nature anymore. the word nigga is a global slur. everyone knows it. if a barely english speaking idol can blank out the word in a song and refuse to say it, so can your idol. blackface is one of the oldest mocking characterizations of black peoples that dehumanizes them into nothing more than their features. cultural appropriation is definitely known because those same idols and fans are screaming not to wear traditional korean items and things used in korean culture, but are silent when thousands of blacks are watching their culture being appropriated in daily performances, music videos and survival shows. and the fans that are defending their idols instead of calling them out are the ones claiming there’s more important things in the world to worry about than their idol being offensive. their idol being offensive causes self hate, causes insecurity within their beings. not to mention you can focus on many problem areas in the world at the time. being a black fan means you have to constantly deal with your culture being mocked and copied day in and day out, all the while hearing your idol falsely state they love you and all of their fans. that isn’t love, that’s exploitation and insensitivity. the fact that your idol can’t afford the hefty price of $0 for not being a headass boo boo the fool with their tomfoolery shows how much they’re willing to do for your love and respect.


For whatever reason The New York Post has a problem with Beyoncé and her fans being happy about her pregnancy. They posted two articles in two days, that did nothing but show how much hate lies in their hearts. How can you even tear a women apart for being happy and confident while pregnant. You don’t have to like Beyoncé or her music to know that this is gross and unnecessary. Having a baby is miracle for all women, but to attack a woman who has previously suffered a miscarriage for being happy and healthy, while carrying twins at 35 lets me know you are truly sick. Beyoncé and all women deserve to be happy about becoming a mother and they all deserve to feel like goddesses! GO FUCK YOURSELF IF YOU DON’T THINK SO!

Problems of being a kdrama fan..

• You are emotionally and physically affected by scenes in the drama.
• There are times when a drama finishes as well as your life because it was just that good.
• Your friends will think you’re speaking gibberish, but you are actually just repeating your favourite line from last nights episode.
• To my fellas who needs subs to understand everything, we all know that annoying feeling when we think the subbed version has came out already, but in reality it still hasn’t.
• We all plan out what dramas to watch in order depending on what feelings it’ll give you. I end up my day watching WFKBJ once cause The Legend of the Blue Sea’s episode was depressing.
• We will scream our hearts out whenever we see new still cuts or episode scenes from new episode you still haven’t seen.
• We always have a “Need to watch” dramas, but we never get to watch them cause we’re just too attached to the current drama we’re watching.
• We know that after happy scenes that’s been showing for 3 minutes, depressing scenes will come after.
• You’ll find every oppa in each drama you watch hot, and be immediately be married to them. (one of the greatest problem in all human history.) There’s so much oppas to love that it hurts the brain but a pleasure to the heart.
• You cry on each drama OST you hear. Even if it’s a happy song, it just brings so much memories.
• We’ve all had hated the lead females. And how they are so perfect and pretty. Like why Song Hye Kyo?
• You’ll watch specific variety show episodes you’ve never watched just because of your favourite actor/actress being a guess.
• The depressing dramas will affect your life.
• The happy ones will make you smile out of nowhere.
• Lines by oppa are too cringe worthy but yet you still love it.
• We’re all busy, each day new episodes of dramas we watch come out. (Honestly one of the reasons I wake up in the morning. Specially on Mondays just to see Park Seo Joon.)
• You always change your wall paper depending on what oppa you want to see that day.
• Once you’ve become a kdrama addict, there’s no way back.

• Second lead syndrome is just too real. • Age for an oppa doesn’t matter. They’re all be looking like they’re 26 even though they’re 50 ~.~ • constantly searching for special episodes after finishing a drama because it ending is just so hard getting over with… •The reply series are all beautiful and painful therefore every time you watch a drama that takes in a different time period or era, you wish to live at that time too. •sleeping at 4 am because of binge watching is worth it

(List some more!!!)

If you ever need evidence of how profoundly sexist the mainstream gaming press is, you don’t need to look any further than the alleged rise and fall of point-and-click adventure games.

Everybody knows what a point-and-click adventure game is, right? You walk around pre-rendered environments looking for hidden objects and talking to quirky NPCs, then use those objects to solve inventory-based puzzles. They’re usually colorful, often comedic, and tend to have little or nothing in the way of twitch gameplay - fun for the whole family.

Now, the narrative the gaming press would have us believe is that, following the golden age of Sierra and LucasArts back in the late 80s and early to mid 90s, point-and-click adventure games suffered a sharp and seemingly irreversible commercial decline, essentially vanishing from the gaming scene until they were revived by the heroic efforts of outfits like Telltale Games and guys like Tim Schafer in the late 00s.

The trouble is, that never actually happened.

Oh, don’t get me wrong: point-and-click adventure games are enjoying something of a renaissance at the moment, and the names I just dropped deserve a lot of credit for that.

No, the part I have trouble with is the alleged interregnum between the reigns of LucasArts and Telltale. The fact of the matter is that point-and-click adventure games never died.

The chronology just doesn’t add up. To pose a few obvious examples:

  • The Nancy Drew series, a point-and-click adventure franchise as old-school as they come, put out over a dozen titles during the early 00s.
  • Funcom’s Dreamfall: The Longest Journey was enormously successful, both critically and commercially, during a period when the gaming press would have us believe the genre was almost wholly moribund.
  • Likewise, the Dream Chronicles series managed three sequels during a period when point-and-click adventure games allegedly weren’t a thing.

Sure, a lot of these games weren’t sold via specialty gaming stores, instead appearing primarily on the discount software shelves at Target and similar stores - but then, that’s a matter of how you frame it, isn’t it? With a slight change in perspective, being relegated to the Target discount shelf becomes maintaining a strong presence in mainstream retail channels during a span when virtually all other games were increasingly confined to specialist hobby outlets.

So the question becomes: why was the gaming press claiming that point-and-click adventure games were dead when the genre was clearly alive and kicking?

I strongly suspect that the answer to that question lies in what the Nancy Drew franchise, the Dream Chronicles series and Dreamfall all have in common: female viewpoint characters and an explicitly female target audience.

None of that stuff counts because it’s for girls. When the gaming press talks about the revival of the old-school adventure game, they’re specifically talking about point-and-click adventure games for boys.

When FPSes began to dominate the young male gaming audience in the mid 90s, point-and-click adventure games saw the writing on the wall, and shifted their target audience en masse to young girls. And it worked fantastically - but as far as the gaming press was concerned, that was high treason.

There was a problem, though. You see, being a fan of point-and-click adventure games - particularly the kind with really obtuse puzzles - was once trumpeted as the badge of a “serious” gamer. There was far too much male gamer identity invested in the genre to simply turn around and say “well, they’re not real games anyway”, which is what usually happens when a genre finds a strong female audience.

And so the great myth of The Death of the Adventure Game was founded. That way, the gaming press could continue to lionise the point-and-click adventure games of the past while straight-up refusing to acknowledge the existence of the genre in its new, girl-targeted form.

These people are so sexist that they literally spent over a decade grandly eulogising a genre of games that was, in fact, alive and well rather than accept the blindingly obvious truth: that adventure games didn’t need male gamers to survive and thrive.

I think the worst thing about lapidot is that theirs no going back or fixing the characters

Lauren fucked up peridot and lapis so damn bad Jesus christ

It’s almost funny to me how much she had to change Peridot and Lapis to even make their relationship work lmao

Lapis went from being and actual character with problems to Laurens fan au of a grump(complete with lazy hair and lazy eyes)

And Peridot went from, well you know what she was, to an over happy and positive ball of sunshine to counter Lapis’s grumpyness.

Whenever Lapis and Peridot aren’t under Zuke you can see the characters they’re supposed to be in comparison to the oversimplified cliches that Lauren turned them into

Its sad. Why was no one watching over the writing. Do they care.

The Problem With Being a Fan Writer/Artist in a Big Fandom

So as many of you know, yesterday there was a LOT of drama here on the blog. I was thinking about deleting all of the posts, and just leaving things alone, but I feel this is actually a good opportunity to discuss a major problem that I’ve seen happen almost consistently. And not only have I seen it occur in this fandom, but in every fandom I’ve ever been in.

The common issue that I see seems to stem from the (usually minority) of the fandom that feels as though they have the right to tell creators of fan made things such as fanart and fanfics, what to do with their own works.

So, I wanted to deliver the following important message as a writer in the YOI fandom:


This sense of entitlement that I’ve seen spreading around fandoms has become quite toxic. People have little to no respect for others and seem to think they’re doing artists and writers favors by sending them PMs or anonymous messages trying to dictate or censor or make demands of their work.

Telling a creator something like:

“You shouldn’t write ____ plot because I don’t like it.” or “____ character isn’t gay/straight/bi/poly how DARE you depict them in a way that isn’t canon!” or “This is a shitty ship/pairing/AU I don’t like it and neither should you!”

This is the definition of entitlement. You aren’t owed anything by us. We write, draw, create because these are things that we love to do. We decide to share our thoughts and ideas and worlds that we want to create with all of you. And (most of the time) were doing this for free! Unless you’re commissioning someone for artwork or a story? You have no right to tell someone what to do with their own works.

If you don’t like something within the fandom, learn to ignore it. Scroll past it. Use the blacklist to block triggering terms or tags or blogs or things you just generally aren’t into. I’ve done it, many other have done it. It isn’t difficult to do.

And if you follow someone because you like something they write or make, then realize they also make something you don’t? Either learn to block the tags they use for the posts you don’t like - or just unfollow them.

There’s no need to make a show out of it.
There’s no need to make a huge deal out of it. There’s no need to personally message us or send passive aggressive anon asks explaining the reasons why you no longer want to follow someone.

Just hit that unfollow button and keep moving.

Remember, we’re all fans of the same thing here. And the beautiful thing about being part of large fandoms is the immense amount of diversity within them. We have people interacting from all over the world. We have people creating things and drawing from experiences in all walks of life.

The issue here is that there’s no respect for anyone outside of these people’s bubble. The moment they see something they don’t agree with, they feel this impulsive need to comment on it. People feel as though they’re owed something just because they like/reblog writing and art and follow someone’s blog. Remember that we’re all fans here. Remember that we’re all human beings here. Remember that there is a person behind the screen. Learn to respect when someone is different than you.

And I’ve had people message me privately and respectfully before, asking that I tag certain things or put a TW/CW on certain types of posts so that they CAN continue to follow my work and just block whatever it is that they don’t like. It’s all about how you approach us. Many of us aren’t bothered about being told these things. But you need to learn to ask and not just be like

“Oh i don’t like ____ so I’m unfollowing you.”

The only person you’re hurting by doing this isn’t us, it’s yourself. Creators aren’t going to want to write or work with someone who can’t communicate properly with them.

So please, PLEASE respect your fanartists. Respect your fanfic authors, respect your roleplayers. All we want is to create more wonderful things in this beautiful fandom for people to share and enjoy. And we can’t do that if we’re constantly treated like shit.

That said, I’m going to continue to write the things that I enjoy and love. I only hope something like this doesn’t happen on my blog ever again.