So, I am a nanny for a very Christian family, that family of which fired me when they found out about my spiritual path. However they since apologized, and I have received my job back. These kids that I nanny go to a Christian private school. This means dress codes. At this school colored hair is not allowed, you cannot have piercings or tattoos, your pants must always be at least to your knees. No tank tops, no sweat pants, only business casual clothing. And on Thursday’s they must dress super nice for Chapel. The oldest of the two that I care for has informed me that her class mates have created a nickname for me, “Punk” and on top of that, they have all said I look like the devil. I have 5 small tattoos, nose piercing, and bright green hair, and I do not conform to their standards of “modesty”. Every time I get out of my car to take the kids to an extracurricular activity such as sports or clubs, I receive the most judgemental stares from the grown ups, the faculty and the parents. This is the reason I am not longer Christian, but on top of that, my favorite thing to do when picking up the kids, is blast my pagan music in the pick up line!
If you ever think private schools or boarding schools are sophisticated or prestige just remember that once in the 90′s the governor general of the province came to visit my school’s campus on photo day and he liked it so much that he wouldn’t leave and he photobombed all of the pictures, meanwhile his chauffeur got so upset he locked himself in the car.
Police arrested two ninth-graders, Henry E. Sanchez, 18, and Jose O. Montano, 17, who appeared in court Friday and were ordered held without bond.
Sanchez, a native of Guatemala who arrived in the United States about seven months ago, has a pending “alien removal” case against him, court officials said Friday.
Montano has been in the United States for about eight months, MacVittie said. Details about Sanchez’s removal case, or Montano’s immigration status, couldn’t immediately be learned Friday.
Gboyinde Onijala, a schools spokeswoman, said she could not comment on why Sanchez and Montano are only in ninth grade.
TRUTH: Public schools are prohibited from asking legal status upon enrollment. Public schools DO NOT do criminal background checks upon enrollment. Public schools get funding for the number of butts in the seats. Feel safe?
My heart is bursting as we just spent the weekend with Ms. 6 with plans for her to return during Thanksgiving week. She did really well, and it was seriously thrilling to see the kids get along as well as they did. I had a somewhat stern talk with she and DS that they had the ability to be the best of friends and have a positive influence on one another, or the opposite. We are praying it is the former. This weekend they raked leaves together in the cold, and encouraged each other to work hard. They played a quiet game together yesterday afternoon while E napped and I met with a school principal (yes, on a Saturday). They played cards last night while DH and I were putting the three youngest kids to bed. I know not every moment can be like that, but it was SO good for my heart to see what it could be like. It gave me so much hope! As I sat through church last night, I prayed several prayers of Thanksgiving.
We also took all six kids to get professional Christmas photos taken yesterday. It was surreal to be with the photographer and think that this is our complete family being photographed for the first time. It was two Christmases ago that I first figured out that Ms. 6 was no longer with her adoptive family (because I saw a Christmas photo of their family online without her in it). I started searching for her that day. Within 3-4 months we were finally told where she was and started the process of reconnecting with her. We are talking about a December discharge date for her. I’m guessing the date will be solidified sometime in the next 1-2 weeks.
We are still scared and uncertain, but things are coming together. I think that we have decided on a school for her–a smallish Catholic school. I met with that principal yesterday and toured it weeks ago. Some follow up conversations will be needed, but we have the application packet. We have to work out funding as the state can’t legally pay for private school, but since she is starting mid-year, the tuition is pro-rated. We are not Catholic, we fall into the evengelical camp with spiritual beliefs, but the evangelical school was double the cost and a town over. I don’t think I can make it work. We’re also new to private school so there will be a steep learning curve for everyone. One of the other Catholic schools basically sent me a follow up email after the tour and said they didn’t think they would be a good fit for her (because they’re scared of her background). They think she should do public school with a one-on-one aide (which there is no chance she would qualify for). It’s so interesting how people react. “Oh, you’re doing such a good thing! We just want to have nothing to do with it.” I’ll try not to be bitter.
It’s also becoming fairly apparent that we are going to need to make the switch to a 12 passenger van. Our Odyssey technically seats eight, but not in a way that works for any sort of drive over five minutes. There’s a used 12 passenger van at the dealership one mile from our home that DH has test driven. We are thinking about selling our 2007 Odyssey and pursuing purchasing that. It has over 80,000 miles on it, but it’s a diesel engine so the salesman said it still has quite a bit of life left in it.
We got the boys bunk beds, and have been trying to hire a contractor to come over and do an expansion both upstairs in one of the bedrooms, and do some work on our front steps. So far we’ve struck out in that contractors are in high demand right now. We can’t even get people to return our phone calls.
I had a 504 meeting and conferences for DS this last week. It went really well! The school psychologist said he’s a “role model” for other students! What the what?! She was specifically speaking to the social skills group she has him in, but still. His teacher said he is growing leaps and bounds and has friends at school (such a relief for me to hear). He is certainly still struggling with his language at school, but making progress.
We started him back on his ADHD medication on Thursday of last week. He’s now on that and his anti-anxiety medication. This weekend, he did really well! I am enjoying spending time with him again and feel so much joy at seeing his progress. There are definitely still challenges, but it is a far cry from where we were last November. I am incredibly grateful!
Work for me is work. The insurance changes and pay decrease will happen in January. It coincides with our needs increasing with adding a child, but the sermon last night at church was on finances. I tend to feel a bit more stressed about money and DH has a completely lackadaisical attitude about it. It shows how different our backrounds were coming into our marriage (single mom vs. ministry). It was good for me to hear the sermon, and will give DH and I some talking points in the next weeks. I’m still actively looking for other employment options, and will continue to do so. Send jobs my way Fumblrs. I’m wondering what kind of consulting work I could do with 15 years of training/teaching experience and 12 years of foster care experience.
I sometimes hesitate to post the good because I think I’m fearful that it will go away. I want this placement to work out with Ms. 6, but then feel like I can’t hold onto it too tightly because I don’t want to feel the responsibility of it if we fail. I’m realizing that I have to take the good with the bad at this point. I want to embrace the good wholeheartedly and joyfully even if it means feeling the bad more acutely. God’s got us!