prioritizations

When Henry is more forgiving of his deadbeat dad leaving his pregnant, 17 year old mother in prison for a crime he committed than he is of Emma lying to him about who his father really was in order to protect him

being an adult is coming home drunk but still cleaning my dishes and doing my night time face routine w face wash + tea tee oil then promptly brushing my teeth carefully before drinking a full glass of water

I don’t skip the necessities even on those Saturday nights hell ya prioritize

In a mirror, darkly; but then face to face

This is based on an earlier meta I wrote that I decided to clean up a bit in light of what’s happened recently in canon. Take it with a lot of salt because it contains a fair amount of speculation.

The Quinx are foreshadowed to play a role in bringing down Dragoneki. As we’re still in the moon arc, that means Kaneki hasn’t been able to look at himself or his flaws properly. Fortunately, we have the literal embodiments of three of those flaws and the possible undead embodiment of another flaw trained specifically to take down Sasaki (aka Kaneki’s illusionary self). Ishida kind of outlined these flaws for us pretty early on in :re:

Urie: will keep his mouth shut again

Mutsuki: will lie again

Saiko: will sleep again

Shirazu: will carry the burden again

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anonymous asked:

in terms of capitalist/societal critiques, what major mainstream book or film do you think has done the best job?

My mind is honestly blanking right now, but off the top of my head, the documentary “The Corporation” does a good job outlining the development of corporations, how they work, how they make people rely on them, and the crimes they get away with. This isn’t exactly anticapitalist, it was more about corporate greed, but it definetly put me on the road to anticapitalism because they explained how these incidents aren’t “a few bad apples” and corporations are always driven to prioritize profit over people.

The other ones I know aren’t mainstream. Obviously not everyone has watched this documentary but it still reached the mainstream so I’m counting it.

neongreenblood  asked:

What's your opinion on animation memes? Or do you have one?

ehhhh most people who do them are children, so if your past 12 making them they should at least have more than goddamn 5 frames, like its hardly animation to make a drawing and an in between and flip the drawing.

I see a lot of people bitching about the “unoriginality” or the looping but that I think is a pointless criticism, yes people can be more original with them but I see them as an animation exercise something for fun then you animate on the side. Shit like animation memes are very similar to actual animation homework like “loop this walk cycle” and learn how to add motion blurs. Personally I actually enjoy some of the well done ones and think it’d be cool to have more animators do stuff on youtube. I think a lot of people who complain about it are people who no idea that A.) youtube prioritizes quick to make content and B.) animation takes a long time

Like currently I’m doing a 4 second animation and its taking me forever, you know why? Frame by frame animation on 4 seconds at 30fps is at least 60-120 frames. 60-120 individual drawings, colored, inked and shaded.

@scotchtapeofficial has some amazing animations, highly recommend you check him out

noddytheornithopod  asked:

I'm kind of stuck on how the Sincline Ships are supposed to work. Like, the current two can only fit in two pilots each, right? The remaining comet material would provide the ship for I assume the fifth pilot (I guess Lotor's personal ship), but they don't even have the comet now so they'd have to reclaim it. Also, assuming they will combine like you theorise, what would a combined not-Voltron even look like with such alien designs? Even the Lions still somewhat resemble the parts they act as.

So I think with Sincline, in its current state, the comet is split into head, arms, and legs. Rather than five autonomous units, they have three units, two of which operate on two pilots each. Because of this, they don’t take the form Voltron does with five individual units who each resemble a whole creature in and of themselves so they can move around separately. That, I think, is still in the cards for Sincline but will come later… probably much later given certain plot points have indefinitely benched Sincline.

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I guess my question is why The Collector seeked out Adrien.

He seemed to have a lot of cognizance as an akuma, going after Nathalie first. He got Gorilla next, Adrien’s bodyguard. Then he went for Adrien, which seems contradictory to his character before.

What confuses me is that Gabriel prioritizes Adrien’s safety. As soon as he detranforms he looks for his son, worries and frets over it.

And we’ve seen akumas in the past deliberately not target victims their normal selves care about. Evillustrator asked Marinette out on a date.

I don’t want to say that it was because Gabriel was angry with Adrien over the book because that wasn’t the Collector’s priority. The Collector was clear on his goals to fill his sketchbook with new sources of inspiration. We even saw the man delete a chair from his book.

Sidebar: maybe Gabriel hates the dining room furniture. Maybe his wife picked it out and he hates it. But we can also assume that that chair truly ceased to exist.

So why did The Collector go after Adrien? Adrien may inspire him but surely he knew the consequence of putting his son in the book?

My original guess is that he wanted to trap Adrien to trap the ring, because he know he’s Chat. But we see The Collector ask for the girl’s earrings first, before he wanted to trap her.

Trapping the miraculous in the book would not have gotten him the miraculous. Trapping Adrien would’ve just….trapped Adrien.

I don’t know friends.

I’m so excited and hopeful for our generation. We’re undoing all the wrongs of the past. from zero waste hippies with youtube channels to our mentally-ill friends who prioritize self-care and de-stigmatize it. We’re going to build a sustainable, wholesome, tolerant future for ourselves and our children and we’ll never let the nazis win

anonymous asked:

1. Hi! I guess I'm not totally sure if you'll relate but I feel like you'll at least get where I'm coming from. Do you ever feel like sort of a minority within a minority? I swear, so often I'll start, say, reading a non-fiction book about lesbians (& it doesn't even have to be terribly political or anything) & I'll get like 5 pages in & realize it's a book written by a bisexual masquerading as a lesbian. I also feel like I get so much disappointment from so many supposedly important pieces of

2. (academic, political, feminist) writing about lesbians because inevitably so many of them turn out to be written by political lesbians, about lesbianism as a ~feminist choice~, etc. & they carry such disdain for us simple, stupid “born this way” lesbians. Even less serious things like watching a lesbian movie or reading a lesbian fiction novel often ends up disappointing because half of the content is focused on men or some character’s long past (or even present, despite being marketed or
3. framed as a lesbian character) with men. It’s so frustrating. You seek out lesbian writing or media & so often it has non-lesbians at the helm. This is going off into a different direction, but additionally it feels like the vast majority of lesbian media & writings seem so focused on lesbians who have long histories with men. It just feels incredibly alienating as a lesbian who doesn’t relate to that at all. I don’t think that I’m better than anyone else, but it just sucks feeling like
4. there’s nothing for you or about you out there, even in what’s supposed to be your niche. I’m sure I’m hardly the only lesbian who feels this way & I’m sure other lesbians who are marginalized in other ways feel a similar sense of isolation, whether they’re lesbians of color who feel alienated due to so much lesbian media focusing on white women, they’re disabled lesbians who rarely see anything representing them, etc. It’s just getting old feeling tricked all the time when I start reading
5. some writing on lesbians only to find it’s about political lesbians, bisexuals masquerading as lesbians, het women waxing poetic about their ~choice~ to prioritize women (as if that has anything to do with lesbianism)…& basically anything but female homosexuality. Anyway I’ll quit clogging up your inbox now haha!

I share your frustration, anon… There’s really nothing for lesbians out there and goldstar lesbians even less so. We’re just anathema to this culture, and constantly reminded of it by the defeaning silence about our experiences.

“so many supposedly important pieces of (academic, political, feminist) writing about lesbians inevitably turn out to be written by political lesbians, & they carry such disdain for us simple, stupid “born this way” lesbians.” I talked about this a lot with oceanlesbian a few months ago when we were reading Tamsin Wilton’s Lesbian Studies. Although she makes a lot of interesting points, we felt that some parts sounded iffy or not like something a lesbian would say, and chalked it up to the fact that you can’t be a lesbian in academia and get anything published unless you are willing to toe the line and queerify your speech. But then there was a chapter where Wilton quoted a homophobic academic who said “Lesbians who protest that their relationship is better than any possible intimacy with a man do not know what they are really missing”, and her rebuttal was something like “This man is so ignorant that he seems unaware of the substantial numbers of women who choose lesbianism after years of heterosexuality!”
Even if you carefully filter your reading material so that all of it is (purportedly) written by lesbians, it’s always this guessing game, “Is the author a real lesbian making a few lesbophobic remarks here and there to pay lip service to bihets to get them off her back, or is she a lesbophobic mlw calling herself a lesbian?” and it usually ends up being the latter. It’s exhausting.

“Even less serious things like reading a lesbian fiction novel often ends up disappointing because half of the content is focused on men” So true, and it’s hard to imagine how we could get more lesbian characters with no history with men when we’re already vilified just for wanting lesbian fiction to have lesbian  rather than bisexual characters - I was talking with @supergiraffes recently about this “lesbian” publishing house that published a disgusting article on their website last month titled “Bitching about Bisexuality”, in which they essentially called lesbians evil for asking to have separate categories for “lesbian fiction” and “bisexual fiction” - so that they would stop stumbling upon hetero sex scenes in books marketed as “lesbian fiction”. Sounds evil, right? Of course the author called this biphobic and said “Whaaat? ‘Books written by bisexuals shouldn’t be counted as lesbian fiction. Books with bisexuals as main characters shouldn’t be counted as lesbian fiction.’ Lesbians said these things. Lesbians put these things in writing.” Evil, evil lesbians. This bi woman, endorsed by the “lesbian” publishing house, not only characterised this reasonable request as oppression, saying “a marginalized community still can’t help but marginalize others” but also compared it to racial segregation and lesbians to racist whites defending Jim Crow laws.
The last sentences of her article are “We’re all queer. Get the fuck used to it.”

That’s not even the worst part - supergiraffes wrote a post (not tagging them or anything) saying she was looking for books written by lesbians, with a lesbian main character, and this publishing house that claims to be a lesbian company publishing lesbian fiction replied on her post telling her to check out their books since they are “by and for queer ladies.” When supergiraffes said she was specifically looking for lesbian, not queer books, Ylva Publishing replied that they “used the term queer because not everyone looking for ‘lesbian books’ is determined to exclude all other queer women from the narrative.”
When a lesbian writing a post on her own personal blog about how hard it is to find any book that reflects her experiences is immediately shut down by a lesbian publishing house who writes “lesbian books” in scare quotes and scolds her for being “determined to exclude all other” groups, I think we can say we’ve hit rock bottom.

As you say, all of this “has non-lesbians at the helm.” That’s exactly the point Julia Robertson was making in that article I just reblogged - “Publications that are lesbian in name, make it seem like we’re okay with redefining ourselves, erasing ourselves… We’re not. Someone needs to fight and give lesbians a voice. Because lesbians don’t currently have a voice. We have the illusion of a voice. And the silencing of lesbian voices within the alphabet is unparalleled. It’s 2017 and we’ve been so heavily censored, that we’ve gone underground.”

anonymous asked:

A lot the responses people are imagining to Keith's suicidal actions are extremely harmful though: being angry /blaming,/minimizing/punitive are not good ways to support a suicidal personS Lot of the stuff the team did in s4 can be really hurtful to as a suicidal person too. Being offended/holding a suicide attempt against the person are extremely unhelpful responses 2. I fear a 13 reasons why kind of situation, especially since the team never has been less equiped to deal with such a situation

I mean, you’re not wrong. I was speaking from personal experience there. That’s how other people react. I’m not saying it’s right or good or helpful, because it’s certainly not, but it’s something that happens. 

I think this is different though because Keith isn’t suicidal really, he just prioritizes the mission. And we have seen other members of the BOM commit suicide as a sacrifice for the “greater good” before, at this point it’s fairly common. So I don’t think it’ll be the other characters reacting to Keith wanting to die–because I don’t think he does. But I do think they’ll kind of pull him aside and say that he shouldn’t be so reckless and so ready to risk his life. 

How to Handle Having TOO MUCH To Do

So let’s say you’re in the same boat I am (this is a running theme, have you noticed?) and you’ve just got, like, SO MUCH STUFF that HAS to get done YESTERDAY or you will DIE (or fail/get fired/mope). Everything needs to be done yesterday, you’re sick, and for whatever reason you are focusing on the least important stuff first. What to do!

Take a deep breath, because this is a boot camp in prioritization.

  • Make a 3 by 4 grid. Make it pretty big. The line above your top row goes like this: Due YESTERDAY - due TOMORROW - due LATER. Along the side, write: Takes 5 min - Takes 30 min - Takes hours - Takes DAYS.
  • Divide ALL your tasks into one of these squares, based on how much work you still have to do. A thank you note for a present you received two weeks ago? That takes 5 minutes and was due YESTERDAY. Put it in that square. A five page paper that’s due tomorrow? That takes an hour/hours, place it appropriately. Tomorrow’s speech you just need to rehearse? Half an hour, due TOMORROW. Do the same for ALL of your tasks
  • Your priority goes like this:
    • 5 minutes due YESTERDAY
    • 5 minutes due TOMORROW
    • Half-hour due YESTERDAY
    • Half-hour due TOMORROW
    • Hours due YESTERDAY
    • Hours due TOMORROW
    • 5 minutes due LATER
    • Half-hour due LATER
    • Hours due LATER
    • DAYS due YESTERDAY
    • DAYS due TOMORROW
    • DAYS due LATER
  • At this point you just go down the list in each section. If something feels especially urgent, for whatever reason - a certain professor is hounding you, you’re especially worried about that speech, whatever - you can bump that up to the top of the entire list. However, going through the list like this is what I find most efficient.
    • Some people do like to save the 5 minute tasks for kind of a break between longer-running tasks. If that’s what you want to try, go for it! You’re the one studying here.

So that’s how to prioritize. Now, how to actually do shit? That’s where the 20/10 method comes in. It’s simple: do stuff like a stuff-doing FIEND for 20 minutes, then take a ten minute break and do whatever you want. Repeat ad infinitum. It’s how I’ve gotten through my to do list, concussed and everything.

You’ve got this. Get a drink and start - we can do our stuff together!

college study tips that actually help
  • put your phone on silent and put it across the room
  • listen to classical/soundtrack music without lyrics
  • make index cards for important vocab
  • wear pajamas
  • make diagrams and pictures. they don’t have to look pretty, as long as you understand it
  • make timelines for historical events
  • have a light snack
  • drink coffee or tea to keep you going
  • take a break every hour or so
  • have one pencil/black pen and one colored pen or highlighter. anything more will just distract you. the aesthetics aren’t important, your knowledge is
  • don’t be afraid to email/message your teacher or a classmate if you don’t understand something. the last thing you want to do is learn the incorrect information
  • know that sleep and health is more important than your grade. you cannot perform as well on a test if you are tired or sick. take care of yourself
  • it’s not a race. it’s not about who can learn something in the quickest time, it’s about learning
  • take a deep breath 
  • prioritize your homework by how long it will take you and when it’s due
  • plan some you time in between studying and school
  • if you’re mentally exhausted, set a timer for 30 minutes and take a nap. any longer and you’ll wake up even more tired
  • don’t understand something? that’s perfectly fine, don’t stress over it. ask for help rather than complaining
  • have a goal in mind and write them down. say things like “i am getting an education so i can get the job of my dreams. the life that i want. the happiness that i deserve”
  • be thankful. it is a privilege that you get to go to school and get an education. 
  • you got this.

The funny thing is I actually wasn’t opposed to Bucky being in Black Panther in a small role because it made some sense considering where we left off in Civil War

But every time I see “Where’s Bucky?” or “This was cool and all but is Bucky going to be in the next trailer?” I re-up my membership to Team “Throw the Winter Popsicle down the river and over a waterfall”

Emotional Consent

I’ve always been hesitant to post about this because I’m worried people will take it as a personal offense and I just want to say in advance this isn’t “@ anyone” or a callout even

I just feel like emotional consent as a concept is rarely talked about and therefore it’s often breached unknowingly (hence why I don’t never get mad at anyone specific for breaching it), and also I think it’s important I make this post. I didn’t learn what it was till I was older, and most people don’t.

Essentially “emotional consent” is a mutual understanding and willing agreement between both parties when discussing directly emotional or potentially emotionally loaded questions.

I’m going to start with examples, and I know it might feel bad at first if you recognize you do some of them (it’s okay, we all do from time to time), but please keep reading because I promise I’ll get onto alternative dialogues and solution

Here are some examples of what a breach of emotional consent can look like- not all the ways of course, but the major ones off the top of my head:

  • Venting to someone without warning or established boundaries this can look like starting a conversation by venting, or detailing graphic information seemingly out of nowhere and without effective trigger warnings. This can put people in situations where they feel like they have to respond, even if they’re not emotionally equipped, if they’re busy, or if they don’t have the spoons. Of course, usually this wasn’t the intent of the venter, but still has the same effect. FYI- this includes celebrities, social media icons, and people you admire. 
  • Talking graphically about sex, masturbation, or anything in that range without warning or established boundaries this can look like anything from sharing a funny sexual escapade with your friends, and dirty jokes, to sexual harassment and telling someone hows bad you want to fuck them despite not knowing how they feel about it. Sometimes in these scenarios, people can appear visibly comfortable in attempt to fit in and not seem prudish, or to avoid awkward confrontation. This can also be especially sensitive because this is a topic that can very easily and unexpectedly bring up traumas and insecurities along with the discomfort, and it can perpetuate rape culture.
  • Using pet-names and romantic implications, even platonically, without established consent this one was tough for me to swallow at first because I love pet names and I love using them platonically to show love. But even more, I want the people I love to feel comfortable and safe around me. Some people have deeper more negatively charged, or more intensely charged feelings around pet names than I do, and I wouldn’t want to subject them to that. Some people are also comfortable with certain pet names and not others. Also things like calling platonic meetups dates, cuddling, and platonically holding hands mean different things to different people, which is important to respect.
  • Showing people media or sending articles or news with heavy emotional content either without warning, or with the expectation of discussion part of this is about including trigger warnings, and making sure viewing triggering content is optional in spaces and interactions we have control over. Another part though, is the fact that we often expect people to have interactions and discussions with us about emotionally charged topics, including politics, crime, oppression, natural disasters, etc. without fully understanding how this can affect the other person.
  • Telling someone they’re the only person you feel comfortable telling something to, or be open with this one sucks because it usually (except in cases of abuse) comes out of genuine care and wanting to make the other person feel special. That being said, no matter how you phrase it, it can put a massive responsibility on the person that similar to my first example, can make them feel obligated to help even when they’re not in an appropriate place to. 
  • Expecting people to share personal or intimate information a lot of times we ask emotionally loaded questions because we care about and are interested in the lives of our loved ones. That being said, if we’re not careful people can really feel obligated to share information they’re not prepared to, or don’t want to process at the moment. This can look like “How’s your health been?” “How are you handling [life event]?” and “Why didn’t you tell me sooner?”

so now the more pleasant part! What can it look like to prioritize emotional consent instead- these correspond in order of initial bullets

  • Starting vague and asking if it’s okay an example dialogue could be “I’m feeling crappy about [blank] are you up to listen to me talk about it?” I also love to add “or should I try [alternative coping method/talking to someone else right now?]” to the end of that if I have one so the other person knows if they say no I have something to turn to. Another example could be “Would it be alright for me to vent right now? FYI it may include mentions of [possible triggers] so if you’re not up for it right now I understand?” or simply “Are you comfortable with me talking about [blank?]”. Also talking to a celebrity or idol “You really helped me with [blank]. I don’t know if you’re comfortable with detail so I won’t elaborate, but I really appreciate it.” or “You really helped me with [blank.] [An explanation about what specifically helped or inspired you in more detail rather than graphic description of the event.]”
  • Again! You can just ask example dialogue can include “Can I mention something about my sex life?” “I have a joke but it’s dirty so I want to make sure thats okay with you” “Can I say something nsfw?” “Is everyone here okay with sex mentions?” 
  • Asking still works! Example dialogue can be “Thanks [petname] (are you okay with me using that or would you rather I don’t)” “Are you okay being called [petname]?” “Are you comfortable with [intimate platonic act]?” “Do you want to [intimate platonic act]?” “I’d like to [intimate platonic act] if you’d be okay with that”
  • Ask/Warn ahead of time or clarify you don’t need response example dialogue “I want to process [news event] but I know it’s heavy so I wanted to ask first” “Jsyk this article contains [possible triggers] so don’t read it if you think it’d be harmful to you]” “Can I ask your opinion on [charged topic]. If you’d rather not, I understand” “[thought or link to article] FYI no need to respond. I just wanted to share.]”
  • Show you’re appreciation in other ways using phrases that show appreciation but don’t implicate responsibility like “Thanks for being here for me whenever you’re able to” “I really appreciate being able to talk about this with you” “It means a lot to me that I can feel so comfortable and open with you” “Being able to talk about this with you has been really helpful for me and I’m really glad I was ables to.”
  • Asking with an easy out or optional response examples include “Hey, I know you’re dealing with as lot and grieving right now so I absolutely don’t need a response, but I wanted to remind you if you need support in any way I’m available and have time right now.” “Do you want to talk about [emotionally charged life event] or would you rather talk about something else right now?” “I know it’s hard to talk about these things and I understand if you can’t, but I want to remind you that when you can and want to I’m available and won’t judge you.” “Would venting be helpful or draining right now?” “What’s the best way I can support you, or are you not sure right now?”

Sorry this became a long ass post but I thought it was important. I should also add that the exception of course is therapists and counselors, crisis hotlines, or other people trained and already prepared to cope with these things. but besides that- try and emo responsibly.