anonymous asked:

Thoughts on Chicago Dykemarch?

1) It sounds like these organizers have a long history of playing particularly despicable exclusionary identity-politics games that prioritize looking attentive to the issue of the day over running an event for your community (getting into fights over the word ‘dyke’ and whether it’s an exclusively lesbian word, getting into other fights over which groups the march is for, getting into fights over their social media presence).

2) It is despicable to ask people to leave your pride parade for having a rainbow flag with a Magen David.

3) The justification employed here - this form of Jewish expression looked like a form of Israeli expression, and some people here find Israeli expression triggering plus this is a pro-Palestinian march, therefore it has to be disallowed - suffers from like four distinct errors of reasoning which I think have mostly been adequately picked apart.

4) BUT, some of the picking apart drops the ball on one point. Supposedly the organizers approached the Jewish women to ask what they thought about Israel, and the organizers say they would not have removed them if they’d thought something appropriately pro-Palestinian. Lots of people have (correctly!) observed that no one ever asks people who aren’t Jewish what they think about Israel, that this is a litmus test applied only to Jews. This is true and it is wrong. 

But it would be wrong even if it were applied to everybody. If the Dykemarch started diligently asking every person who showed up what they thought about Palestine, and turned away all of the problematic ones, then they wouldn’t be anti-semitic but they would still be doing something wrong. They would still be creating a culture of exclusivity and rigid ideological policing, injecting polarization into spaces for fostering community, and making access to events conditional on having the right leftist opinion on an issue completely unrelated to whether one would benefit from support from Chicago’s LGBT+ community.

They have the right to do that, of course, but it is a wrong course of action; it is poisonous; it means that many people in need will not have access to communities because those communities are demanding political purity on issues they’ve had no time to research or form an opinion on, and it means that those communities will be weakened by the intense policing for political conformity and the rejection of valuable community members who happen to be unwilling to take a stance on Israel or to have a complicated one or just to be turned off by everything implied by asking.

So, yes, it’s worth pointing out that leftist spaces that quiz Jews for political purity on Israel/Palestine only quiz Jews. But it’s also worth pointing out that they’re doing something objectively unhealthy and a terrible idea, and which would remain one even if they stopped targeting us with it!

I was walking home from acupuncture when I ran into an old tattooer pal of mine who I haven’t seen in a long time. We got to chatting and catching up when I asked if she wanted to tattoo a little banger I’ve been thinking about getting for a while now, and she said absolutely. Ive wanted a tattoo reminder to prioritize myself and my needs, and this Grey’s Anatomy quote has been my main mantra while I continue working on becoming the best version of me:

“Don’t let what he wants eclipse what you need. He’s very dreamy, but he’s not the sun. You are.”

Thank you, Ellen. This is a beyond perfect little reminder of so many things.

anonymous asked:

How do you move on from a toxic situationship?

I don’t believe in situationships. If a person is bad for you, cut ties and prioritize your own well being. I don’t do the whole sticking around to see if a person changes or sticking around to see if a bad personal will be good in a relationship. Who has time to waste on a person that’s bad for them?
Idk hun. Put yourself first. Be selfish with the love you have. Move on when someone turns out to be trash. It’s not worth it

anonymous asked:

My mom pierced my ears when I was five because people kept mistaking me as a boy (I'm a cis girl) they got infected because I have a naturally weak immune system. Her solution? Pierce them again as soon as the first ones healed. We found out after the third time that I had bad reactions to any earrings that were gold, even hypoallergenic stuff. All in all I've gotten pierced 4 times and wish I'd have just been able to go without. It would have been fine it is was my choice but it wasn't

I’m so, so sorry that this happened to you. :(
This is exactly what I’m talking about - people prioritize gender stereotypes instead of their own child’s health and bodily autonomy.

I think it should be more normal to wait until kids are older and are truly deciding on their own.. like 10-12 at the earliest.

- Solar the Sea Turtle

anonymous asked:

you are a hardcore caryler. and i love that about you.

I will absolutely go down with this ship! 

In fact, I shipped them hardcore before I ever heard the word “shipping” because this is a relationship based on mutual trust, respect, and honesty. They see and treat each other as equals, and just like Carol would never look down on Daryl for who he used to be and for staying with Merle once the two of them were alone, Daryl would never look down on Carol for staying with Ed despite all the things he did to her (and might later have done to Sophia as hinted at by Carol while Sophia was missing). They have been supporting and helping each other since the start, and while Daryl didn’t always behave the way he should have, he also saw when he was in the wrong, and apologized for it. Each of them prioritizes the well-being and safety of the other above their own, and they always trust each other’s judgement. They give each other closeness and comfort, which they have both learned to accept from each other, but also “processing time” and space when needed because they get each other like nobody else does.

I can’t wait for them to acknowledge their feelings for each other and grasp what happiness they can together!

Caryl on! ❤️

Wednesday run down

•Well…this lil’ momma is single AF.
Yep, that’s right. I’m single. My boyfriend got pissed off at me for calling him out and said he was done and was breaking up with me. So.. whatever.
I guess he forgot about all the times I sat MY problems aside for him in his time of need. And he forgot that I’m the one who stood by him through all the hell the past year. And I guess he just cannot figure out how to love me, prioritize me, and take care of his kids at the same time. Guess that’s “too much to ask”.
So if that’s how he feels- then so be it. He may have wanted to break up with me anyway and just used this as a “good” excuse, or way out. He probably couldn’t handle me being different and not having any breasts. I dunno. Who knows. Anyway… back to being single.

•I have an infection and they’re currently trying to treat it. Praying that I don’t have to have a second surgery, cuz that’s a possibility.
I’ve been at my infusion/doctors every single day this week, and will be here tomorrow too. Sooo much fun y'all. 😏

•Found some super cute flat girl bras. Just cuz I don’t have boobs doesn’t mean I can’t or won’t wear some cute bras. I’ll post pics later.

•Bath & Body Works was killing me today with their 75% off sell.

•Papyrus was killing me too. I love that store!!!

•Looking for a storage unit because I’m moving my things from my ex husbands house cuz I’m done with him.

How’s your Wednesday going?

OOC: Goodbye... for now

Hey everyone! That title is really dramatic and wasn’t gonna be my first choice but Casey’s note was titled hello and I couldn’t resist the sYmMeTry. 

Anyway, so I doubt this is going to be a big surprise to most of you given my stellar activity, but I’m going to be stepping down as mod and leaving the group. Which makes me hella sad, but I definitely don’t have the time to prioritize to the group that you all deserve. I love this group and I’ve loved being a part of it and helping to make some cool stuff with all of you but sometimes you gotta know when it’s time to move on.

I’m going to miss all of you and I’m definitely still around on the interwebz even if it’s not here or rping. If you’d like to keep in touch, I’ll still have skype and I use the book of many faces and the instagram, just message me for those if you don’t already have them. Maybe somewhere down the line I’ll have time to rejoin as a member but today is not that day so I hope to see this group carry on for a long damn time. So you all better get those previously’s in when they come up so I can adequately stalk you <3 

I love you all and I hope to see you again!

I’m actually quite glad you brought this to my attention, anon, thank you.

I’m sorry if I’ve made you uncomfortable, or have intimidated you in any way. I’m actually not as scary as you probably think. Honestly, I’m just a scared and overly cautious noodle behind this screen. 

Also, I’m sorry that the new character introduction is taking so long, but as much as I enjoy running this askblog, I’m ridiculously busy, and I need to prioritize my family, work, and my future first.

Thank you for understanding, and thank you to all of my followers for being so patient with me thus far. I truly do appreciate it. And as such, I’ll do my best to dial back on the strictness and firmness, alright?

I feel like the Jewish ppl at JVP or whoever else keeps releasing these wild statements can’t comprehend growing up Jewish in the US without ever hearing the word Zionism and without ever even thinking about Israel. Like you’s can go on and on about Zionist brainwashing or whatever, but all you’re doing is applying your own perception of what a subset of the Jewish community in the US experiences and prioritizes.

But what if this season ends with not only a big rematch between David and Daniel, but after Daniel is defeated, David realizes that he put all the kids in danger and prioritized the camp over their safety and well-being.

And the season ends with him quitting, because he’s clearly not the kind of counselor that deserves to be there. The kids deserve better.

anonymous asked:

I like yoongi's and jin's fashion... I call it simple, effortless, and timeless. Totally my style.

the thing that’s similar in their fashion style is they seem to prioritized comfort the most rather than the current trend and yet still managed to look good in whatever they’re wearing ♡

anonymous asked:

If you could go back to being 25 years old What would you've gained or changed? What sort of advice would you give a 25 year old?

I’m still in my twenties myself. Nothing special than what I usually say, invest in yourself, go outside, go have fun and unique experiences, be graceful, look after your reputation, take care of your emotional, mental and internal self, don’t prioritize image and looking the part over everything- actually make sure you have it together, and create your life how you want to..

Future Plans

1. I will try to learn to use Marvelous Designer. Hopefully I will be able to make these wonderful clothes.

2. I often get asked what kind of brands I am planning to make so I decided to make a list on what brands I prioritize(ranked).

Givenchy: I will most likely not make upcoming collections by the new creative director. I wasn’t feeling her work at Chloé. Givenchy stays on the list only until Resort 2018.

Dolce & Gabbana

Versace: Although Versace is and always will be my favorite brand, I will make less Versace from now on to make room for other brands. #diversity

Balenciaga (menswear only)

Valentino: Expect less Valentino in the future. I liked when the two creative directors worked together.


I will also make some Chanel, Miu Miu, and Marc Jacobs when I have spare time. I will absolutely not make Balmain or Balenciaga womenswear.

given the nature of the discourse thats circulating im very lucky that i know to prioritize my blood pressure over winning internet fights

anonymous asked:

i always believed louis and harry where in a relationship but i'm finding it harder and harder to accept the ways harry has used his industry connections to raise himself about louis. does that make sense? the interview last weekend has thrown up so many doubts for me. like the way louis talked about the hiatus? when it was announced he seemed so confident the band would be back but then his partner was scheming to go solo? i feel so bad for louis tbh.

I completely understand what you are saying. If they are still together you have to acknowledge Harry prioritizes himself and his career over his relationship. 🌸

anonymous asked:

HI do you know if anyone will translate bap's unlimited interview,??

Hi! Today’s stream will probably be uploaded with subs somewhere eventually, but translating takes time, and especially long videos like this. And the different subbers prioritize different videos, so I have no idea when that’d be.

BUT in this case, I was actually able to watch the interview and understand like 90% of it, thanks to this baby who livetweeted translations. It takes a bit of scrolling to get to the beginning, and ofc it won’t be as convenient after today as she makes new tweets, but right now it works great. I watched the stream here on YT after it aired live, so I could pause and check the twitter tab whenever I wanted. Naturally, it’s not as good as real time subtitles on a video, but at least I didn’t have to wait weeks to understand what they were saying :D

The funny thing is I actually wasn’t opposed to Bucky being in Black Panther in a small role because it made some sense considering where we left off in Civil War

But every time I see “Where’s Bucky?” or “This was cool and all but is Bucky going to be in the next trailer?” I re-up my membership to Team “Throw the Winter Popsicle down the river and over a waterfall”