I’m going to that. Katsucon, that is. I’ll be hanging out with @driftingbystars and her crew, taking pictures and nerding out. If you wanna say hi, go for it~ (and take pics of my friend too cuz her cosplay game is on p o i n t)
On this day in music history: February 17, 1983 - Music superstar Michael Jackson appears on the cover of Rolling Stone magazine. The article titled “Michael Jackson: Life In The Magical Kingdom”, features an in depth interview with the very media shy pop superstar by journalist Gerri Hirshey conducted over the course of several days in the Fall of 1982. In the interview, Jackson talks about his past as a child star and about the current projects he is working on at the time which include the blockbuster album “Thriller” and the “E.T. Storybook Album”. The article reveals a not often seen side of the usually guarded Jackson, revealing himself to be sensitive and playful, but also very business savvy and highly ambitious. The cover photo taken by photographer Bonnie Schiffman is the first time Michael Jackson is featured on the cover of Rolling Stone since 1971, when The Jackson 5 are at the height of their success. The interview is the last major in print interview that Jackson grants during his career. The article is reprinted in the Rolling Stone anthology book “20 Years Of Rolling Stone: What A Long, Strange Trip It’s Been” in 1987, and in the Michael Jackson memorial commemorative issue that Rolling Stone publishes in July of 2009.
It’s FRIDAY FASHION FACT! One of the biggest “hot topics” of today is the unrealistic beauty
standards for women. We are constantly surrounded by Photoshopped images
and celebrities who spend a vast amount of time and money sculpting
their bodies to “perfection.” Though the discussion is at the forefront
now, the topic is nothing new. One of the most iconic instances of these
near-impossible beauty ideals is the infamous turn of the 20th Century
The Gibson Girl is named for her
creator, artist Charles Dana Gibson. In the 1890s, Gibson worked for
LIFE magazine, where his girl first appeared. As she gained popularity,
his work was soon printed in all the major magazines. There is
speculation that the girl was modeled after his wife or his sister, but
according to Gibson, she was not one girl, she was every girl, and
that’s what made her beautiful. He saw her as the embodiment of the
American melting pot- she was a combination of countless nationalities
and races (of course, in this era, that still meant a very pale caucasian). In a way, the Gibson Girl was the first “All-American
Gibson believed that the more races
were mixed together, the more beautiful women would become, as he
predicted only the best features from each would be passed down.
He theorized that as a result, women of the future would be far more
beautiful than the women of his day. In his drawings, Gibson combined
what he saw as the best features: delicate facial features, soft hair in
the latest bouffant style (but still with natural wisps and tendrils
falling gracefully aside) a full chest and hips paired with a slender
waist, positioned into the highly corseted S-bend. She was perfect, but
not absurdly so, in a way that felt almost attainable.She wore the
latest fashions, but was not at the level of the royals whom Europeans
often turned to for beauty standards.
so-close-yet-so-far looks were not enough to attract admiration, Gibson
gave her a personality to match. She was active and independent, playing
sports, going off to work, not desperate for the help of a man. She was
playfully teasing towards men, for how could they possibly hold the
interest of such a woman? She did get swept up in romance, though,
becoming a wife and mother. She was not content keeping house, though,
and continued to spend her days with women as equally tenacious as she.
Yet she was not political or controversial, steering clear of the rising
suffragette movement, or stating any strong opinions of women’s rights.
She was the perfect blend of modern and traditional.
Gibson Girl was the perfect embodiment of “Women want to be her, men
want to be with her.” It is due to this mass appeal that so many women
strove to physically emulate the Gibson Girl. After all, who wouldn’t
want to be the girl that so many people adored and admired? Of course,
creating the look in real life was not nearly as simple as it appeared.
The S-bend corset became extremely popular, yet this corset style forced
the body into arguably the most unnatural shape of any other corset
throughout history. Reality meant that it was near impossible for women
to adopt the relaxed and care-free attitude of the Gibson Girl.
were a few actress and celebrities who came close to the ideal, several
of whom actually served as models for Charles Gibson, most notably
Camille Clifford, whose near-perfect hourglass figure was the drawings
come to life. Of course, this only enhanced the idea that the look was
attainable for the average woman. Just like every beauty ideal, though,
the Gibson Girl look eventually fell from favor. By the 1910s, society
was shifting. The women’s rights movement was gaining momentum,
catapulted by women joining the workforce en masse. The Gibson Girl was
soon viewed as too proper, uptight, and locked in tradition. However, to
this day the image remains the icon of the Edwardian age.
Have a question about fashion history that you want answered in the next FRIDAY FASHION FACT? Just click the ASK button at the top of the page!
semuanya! Selamat berjumpa di edisi perdana Writing’s Journey. Sesuai janji,
hari ini aku mau sedikit cerita-cerita tentang pengalaman menulis. Agak bingung
sih mau mulai darimana saking banyaknya yang ada di kepala. Tapi, mari diurai
sedikit demi sedikit.
Pertanyaan pertama yang
sering banget diajuin ketika temen-temen mulai tau kalo aku sudah punya buku “Sebatas Mimpi” yang nangkring di rak
Gramedia adalah, “gimana caranya bisa tembus
ke penerbit major atau GagasMedia?” dan satu-satunya jawaban yang aku bisa
utarakan hanya, “aku ditemukan oleh
editornya—yang sekarang jadi editor+teman kesayangan—karena konsisten nulis di
Ditemukan? Yaps, aku
memang ditemukan dan dichat duluan oleh Kak Ry (editor GagasMedia). Hal pertama
yang aku rasain pas itu tuh super duper excited,
mau nangis bahagia sekaligus dilemma takut-takut kalo itu boongan
*enggalebaytapibenerandeg-degan*. Inget banget waktu itu doi perkenalan nama
dan ngasih tau kalo doi dari penerbit GagasMedia. Trus doi bilang, “sudah pernah nerbitin buku? Aku mau ngajak
kamu nulis di GagasMedia.”
Selama beberapa menit
aku cuma ngeread doang saking gataunya harus bereaksi apa. Karena gamau
diboongin dengan percaya gitu aja *astagfirullahmaafkankesuudzonanku* akhirnya
aku stalking buat nyari tau ini
beneran engga sih? Asli orang GagasMedia engga sih? Karena yang aku tau mereka
tuh salah satu penerbit yang udah punya nama di Indonesia, secara ya teenlit
bahkan novelnya aku sering banget bacain pas SMP, dan mereka teh ngehubungin
aku? Da aku mah siapa sih, masa iya ujug-ujug mereka nawarin aku nulis.
Sampe kemudian aku nemu
twitternya dan langsung ngeadd line officialnya Kak Ry, lalu aku menemukan dia
pernah nulis tentang Ditawari Editor
untuk Bikin Buku.Kubaca tulisan
itu sampe akhir dan merasa yakin bahwa ini bukan tipu-tipu. Kemudian
pembicaraan berlanjutlah dengan konsep dan outline (ini akan aku bahas di sesi
lainnya ya hehe).
Setelah aku cerita
kayak gitu, mungkin saja muncul pernyataan dan pertanyaan, “enak banget bisa kayak gitu! Caranya gimana kak?”
Aku pribadi percaya,
setiap tulisan akan menemukan pembaca dan jalannya masing-masing, tapi yang
pasti untuk menjadi seseorang yang pada akhirnya bisa menerbitkan buku yang
diperlukan itu adalah konsisten.
Yak, konsisten untuk terus menulis!
Mungkin banyak yang
mengira aku enak banget bisa ditawarin nulis gitu aja, engga perlu susah-susah
untuk nunggu 1-3 bulan yang belum tentu naskahnya diterima. Wajar, komentar
yang sudah lumrah akan timbul di masyarakat kita zaman sekarang. Mungkin,
teman-teman yang berkomentar gitu lupa untuk melihat prosesnya. Seringkali kita
memang lebih suka melihat hasil tanpa mengetahui prosesnya.
Percaya atau tidak, aku
butuh waktu kurang lebih 9 tahun hingga
akhirnya bisa menerbitkan buku. Yak, 9 tahun kalo punya anak udah kelas
berapa tuh? Hmmm engga kode kok engga, hehe. Aku sudah suka sekali membaca dari
SD (anaknya doyan minjem buku di perpustakaan tapi lupa dibalikin) dan jatuh
cinta dengan kegiatan menulis sejak SMP.
Awal mulanya tuh karena
dipilih sama guru mata pelajaran Bahasa Indonesia untuk ikut lomba puisi di
Dinas Kota Yogyakarta (iye aku SMP di Jogja hehe). Padahal mah engga jago-jago
amat nulisnya da:( Nah tapi dari situ ketagihan untuk terus-terusan menulis,
mulailah nulis-nulis di platform yang beragam—sengaja engga nulis diary karena
takut dibaca orangtua haha—mulai dari nyerpen di facebook note (sampe dengan
belagunya ngetag editor-editor majalah yang kalo jaman dulu gampang banget tuh
buat temenan sama seleb-seleb atau orang terkenal di facebook yang penggunanya
masih itungan jari) trus pindah ke blogspot, wordpress sampe akhirnya di 2014
jatuh hati sama Tumblr.
Jangan dikira selama 9
tahun perjalanan aku nulis-nulis tuh mulus dan dapet dukungan dari banyak
pihak, karena itu sangat amatlah salah. Tau engga kenapa aku sampe akhirnya
engga menggunakan nama asli di Tumblr ini? Karena oh karena aku ingin melarikan
diri dari orang-orang yang bilang, “apasih
nulisnya mellow banget? Galau mulu deh! Itu tulisan kenapa melankolis banget
dah?” dan segala macam ejekan lainnya.
Bahkan orangtuaku dan
orang lain yang umurnya jauh di atasku dari dulu bahkan sampe detik ini masih
aja bisa ngomong, “emang kalo nulis bisa
jadi apa? Emang nulis itu pekerjaan?” Ya, aku tidak menyalahkan siapa pun
atas hal tersebut, karena memang profesi sebagai penulis sampe detik ini di
Indonesia masih dipandang sebelah mata, belum didambakan oleh
orangtua-orangtua, seperti mereka mendambakan anak-anaknya menjadi dokter,
polisi, insinyur dan sederet pekerjaan lainnya.
Tapi dengan perkataan
teman bahkan orang-orang terdekatku yang seperti itulah aku jadi semakin yakin
untuk merubah pandangan mereka. Bahwa manusia terlahir dengan hobi dan kesukaan
yang sebetulnya bisa untuk dijadikan sebuah karya kalo mereka serius mau
menekuninya. Apa pun itu, engga hanya menulis tentunya.
Dari situ aku mikir, kalo
aku engga bisa sebebas itu menulis dengan menggunakan nama Stefani Bella kenapa
aku engga mencari cara lain untuk tetap bebas menulis? Maka, begitulah nama
tumblr HujanMimpi ini tercipta~
Sembilan tahun aku juga
pasti jenuh dan sempat bosen untuk nulis, sempet males untuk berjuang sama
kesukaanku ini. Tapi, bener apa kata orang-orang zaman dulu, Tuhan selalu
bersama dengan hamba-Nya yang sabar dan mau berusaha. Di setiap kebosanan
selalu ada aja cara yang Tuhan berikan untuk ngasih semangat, salah satunya
respon dari orang-orang yang menemukan dan membaca tulisanku. Pembaca itu teman
baik! Respon pembaca adalah asupan motivasi tertinggi buatku pribadi.
Nah kalo habis ini
masih ada yang nanya, “jadi kak kalo aku
mau nerbitin buku enaknya gimana? Nunggu ditawarin atau gimana nih?”
Jawabanku adalah…Konsisten nulis dulu aja! Untuk
menerbitkan buku banyak jalannya, betul? Bisa lewat penerbit indie, bisa juga
di major, semua balik lagi ke usaha dan jalan yang sudah Tuhan pilihkan untuk
menerbitkan buku di penerbit indie banyak loh yang sukses. Sebut saja mas @kurniawangunadi atau mbak @karenapuisiituindah yang buku KPII nya bisa sampe 3 di indie atau mas @azharnurunala. Mereka adalah contoh orang-orang
ketje yang berhasil menemukan pembacanya sampe ke pelosok negeri seberang
dengan jalur penerbitan indie. Keren? Iya banget!
Atau mau ke penerbit
major? Langsung print naskahmu, kirimkan ke alamat redaksinya. Tapi, pintar-pintarlah memilih penerbit.
Kalo naskahmu genrenya romance-komedi, kamu cari buku yang serupa dengan
naskahmu, lalu lihat penerbitnya apa. Barulah kamu memasukkan naskahmu ke sana.
Jangan sampe penantian 3 bulanmu sia-sia hanya karena kamu memasukkan genre
romance ke penerbit yang hanya menerima naskah-naskah komedi atau horror. Ya
atuh gimana mau diterima –“
Tapi kalo kamu masih
belum seberani itu untuk memasukkan naskah ke penerbit, mulailah dengan
menggunakan social media yang kamu miliki. Bisa di tumblr, facebook notes,
twitter, ask.fm, Instagram, blogspot, wordpress, medium, wattpad, atau bahkan
storial dan segala macam media lainnya. Konsistenlah untuk menulis, jadwalkan
missal sehari harus ada 1 tulisan, atau seminggu harus ada minimal 2 tulisan
Social media adalah
cara tercepat untuk kamu memiliki pembaca dan mendapatkan respon dari pembaca
untuk semakin memperbaiki tulisanmu. Dan percayalah, banyak penerbit yang
mencari karya-karya popular dari social media. Jadi, jangan pernah takut bersuara
apalagi jadi jiper hanya karena satu dua orang yang meremehkan. Dunia engga lantas runtuh hanya karena satu dua orang yang berbeda pendapat atau selera denganmu :)
Aku aja berjuang 9
tahun sambil jatuh bangun dan tertatih-tatih untuk kemudian bisa menerbitkan
buku. Kamu, yakin gamau ngotot memperjuangkan mimpimu sampe akhirnya bisa
membuktikan ke dunia bahwa cita-cita dan mimpimu bukan hanya Sebatas Mimpi?
*tulisan ini sekaligus
menjawab pertanyaan dari Nur Azizah Zainal, terima kasih banyak atas
pertanyaannya dear :)
Untuk yang lain yang mau bertanya atau mengajukan saran tulisan boleh cek infonya di bawah ini
“Still, nothing prepared us for the magnitude of this train wreck. Like millions of other Americans, we clung to a slim hope that the new president would turn out to be all noise and bluster, or that the people around him in the White House would act as a check on his worst instincts, or that he would be sobered and transformed by the awesome responsibilities of office.”
This is ludicrous and embarrassing to see printed a major newspaper. Everything that could have prepared you for this was right in your face. Only willful ignorance could have kept it at bay.
Hillary Clinton prepared you. She called Trump a puppet of Putin to his face. She laid out exactly this scenario for you, but you listened to him instead.
Trump himself prepared you. He has been known in his own industry and in New York as a narcissistic liar, ineffective businessman and corrupt conman since the 1980s. There is literally nothing in his life and career that suggested his focus wouldn’t be in enriching himself or that he could handle this office.
History prepared you. No one, and I mean no one, has moderated their speech or beliefs upon taking high office. If anything the opposite has been true. Any new president that doesn’t push hard for their campaign agenda will immediately lose all political capital. This wishful thinking was absurd on its face.
His campaign and his advisers prepared you. His hateful and vile rallies, his incitement of violence, and his blatant lying were unlike anything we have ever seen from a US presidential campaign. The Russia connections throughout were clear to anyone who cared to dig in to them, as many of us did. The financial conflicts of interest were obviously never going to go away.
His rape and assault accusations, his money-laundering, his mob ties, his refusal to pay for rendered services, his profit-taking during multiple bankruptcies, his thin-skinned viciousness, all of these things prepared you. Every numbered item in this op-ed was on full display before the election. Not one of them is any sort of suprise.
The main takeaway from this op-ed is that if Hillary Rodham Clinton were president today, the news media would be calling her paranoid for her warnings about Trump, would be saying that Nazism/racism references were making the left look unreasonable, would say in the next election that cries of fascism in 2016 meant they didn’t take it seriously later, and would go on believing in the good will of people who had never shown it whatsoever.
As a casual observer, I think it’s kind of funny how certain companies are trying to push American advancement on their artists and trying hard to make them appeal to the Western audience, and then there’s BTS over here getting some American media attention/spotlight and recognition, even having their names printed in major newspapers, all while not even trying to push for American advancement.
Wooooo, a big thank you for everyone who visited me at Momocon last weekend! And all my out-of-town buddies that I got to see >3< I haven’t vended at Momocon since 2014(?), before they moved to their current venue and became a four day con, so this was pretty exciting!
I’ve been pretty bad about writing con reviews in the last few years, ha ha. But I won’t let it escape me this time! Overall Momocon was a great experience!
Instead of dwelling on the negatives of zine making (namely, huge delays in shipping because of major printing error and slow turnaround), I’m focusing on the positives and giving everyone a preview of the bundle keychain! Your zines should all ship in a little over a week, if everything goes right. We love you.
Happy New Year!! May 2017 be good to all of us 💗💗💗
✨ Hopefully you all keep up with us on Twitter, because we have tons of fun over there! Polls, previews, and other fun stuff. www.Twitter.com/voltronzine ✨
so i’m back from minncon!! or rather ROB PLS LET ME LIVE…CON
so to start out, i’ll explain this con’s comic a little better! after the SNS, i stayed around for quite a while talking and meeting up with friends i haven’t seen in a long time! it was really great, until security kicked us out at about 1AM. i lamented and realized i had no one to walk back with, but the trek was only about a block away, so i figured “eyyy, what could happen in that time”
…and then about 2/3 of the way there, i thought i was being abducted by the government because of a GIGANTIC shiny black SUV that was approaching me. TURNS OUT it wasn’t the gov’t, swain was actually headed back at the same time i was! i was spotted and shouted at, and bid farewell by the band. SO I LIVED! and i told them they scared the shit outta me the following afternoon bc i thought The Man was after me and billy said i deserved to have nice things shouted at me from strange vehicles. i then died
ALSO, I DID AS I PROMISED. i got rob’s auto, brought him god’n’gabe 3, and told him in exchange i wanted to know if it was cool to get a Robert Patrick Benedict original piece. a stick rob. HE WAS SO EXCITED, THOROUGHLY AGREED, AND ONE-UPPED ME BY MAKING IT MORE THAN A STICK MAN. he also walked me through his process, said it was all in the way he adds his beard, and told me if i needed any art lessons to give him a call. i told him i was honored
AND SPEAKING OF AWFUL THINGS, i’d heard the photographer good mr. schmelke needed to talk to me, and it was literally just to shut me down in compliment form. he insisted we take a selfie, and we proceeded to make fun of my shitty phone. and i got a swain op with @truebluecas THAT WAS A MESS. a mess. we wanted to do the End of Song Rock Jump
™ but strob couldn’t nail the jump timing. we decided on a jump on silent 3, did 3 takes, got a workout, and 3 hilarious photo prints out of it. my face, you guys. it says it all
so in as short as possible, the rest of the con was great. i asked bri about the cat that sharted on her, and got the 1st q of the koc panel! turns out a composer from spn is helping on the OST for the show YEA!! i livetweeted stephen norton messing around during the entirety of J3′s panels, but i spent about 85% of my time vending. which, btw, EVERY SINGLE BOOK SOLD OUT. so that’s incredible. and it was so great to see so many of you in person. seriously. thank you for everything.
road tripping with @neven-ebrez and @benny-la-phat was a BLAST (despite my incredibly telling and embarrassing sunburn + 3 near-death experiences i was surprisingly calm during) and i roomed with all sorts of fantastic people i’m happy to call friends now. they found out i REALLY love cake.
SORRY THIS WAS SO LONG-WINDED, but honestly, to everyone that stopped by and visited me, bought things, gave me freakin’ hAND-MADE GIFTS, OR just wanted a hug–thank you. you made this con, per usual. i hadn’t been feeling so hot lately, but i can’t deny it, none of you picked me up from it. no, you THREW me from it. i am eternally grateful!!
Today we’re joined by Dominique Cyprès. Dominique is a phenomenal writer who has dabbled with various forms including fiction and nonfiction. Their first love is poetry and they have written plenty of different kinds of poetry. They have a story in Unburied Fables, an anthology from Creative Aces. It’s obvious they’re a passionate and dedicated writer, as you’ll soon read. My thanks to them for taking the time to participate in this interview.
Please, tell us about
I’ve dabbled in a lot of different sorts of writing – from
fiction to creative non-fiction, poetry in both verse and prose. As someone
with an overlapping interest in tech, I’ve also experimented a little with
interactive fiction. I’m really interested in what new ground can still be
broken with Infocom-style text adventures.
I’ve also forayed a little into video editing and
stereographic photography. I’m pretty much the prototypical “jack of all
trades” in that I keep trying new media and I don’t often stick with one and
try to master it. In the end, though, everything seems to come back to poetry.
I often find that when I’m working on fiction, or text adventures, or visual
media, I’m compelled to find a way to inject poetry into that medium.
What inspires you?
My primary motivation in making art is a sort of practical
mysticism; my goal is to give voice to the enormous wonder and bewilderment I
feel trying to make sense of both the natural world and interpersonal
interaction. As an autistic person, I often find myself in the sort of
situation that Temple Grandin refers to as being “an anthropologist on Mars.”
The world often seems an altogether foreign place to me, and my art (when I
have the time to make it) acts essentially as fields notes on this inscrutable
What got you
interested in your field? Have you
always wanted to be an artist?
The artistic role models who have most informed the
direction I take in poetry are probably Emily Dickinson, Miyazawa Kenji (whose
work I have read only in English translation), and Charles Simic. Dickinson and
Miyazawa together really pulled me toward poetry as a medium in the first
place, and their biographies and work share certain themes in common. Both were
disabled and regarded as odd by their communities. Both expressed in their work
an immense love of humanity and of nature, but wrote from a perspective of
looking upon these subjects from the outside, and both wrote largely for
themselves and did not manage to sell much of their work to professional publications
during their lifetimes.
Simic’s influence on me comes through his seminal
Pulitzer-prize winning volume The World
Doesn’t End, and largely has to do with his pioneering work on the form of
prose poetry, and his use of ambiguous and discordant sensory images to
cultivate what poets refer to as “negative capability,” the ability to draw art
out of questions that have no answers, out of confusion and non-rational
I tend to think of art as something I am inclined to do, and not as a feature of who I am, perhaps because I’ve long had it
drilled into my head that writing poetry alone is not a viable professional
path for someone who needs to support themself and their family financially.
I’ve heard this even from former U.S. Poet Laureate Mark Strand, who derives
much of his personal income from his work as a college professor.
As a young person I wanted to devote my life to art in some
way professionally. As I neared the end of high school I told my parents I
wanted to study acting full-time in college and choose that as my field. They
asked where I would find the money to feed myself and I didn’t really have an
answer, so I studied psychology instead, and wound up dropping out of college
after three years when I reached a point where my undiagnosed learning
disabilities had started to make it impossible to complete my coursework.
At that point, in 2012, my self-esteem just bottomed out
entirely, and one thing to I did in an effort to pull it back up was to take a
bunch of poetry I had been working on while I was at school (where I was
pursuing a creative writing minor) and build on that work, flesh out its themes
a little bit, and compile it into a book I could have printed through a major
self-publishing-platform. That was Dogs
from your childhood & other unrealities. I had neither the money nor
the energy to engage in any serious promotion for it at the time, but being
able to share my work with some appreciative friends in that manner was the
kind of encouragement I needed.
Now I’m working on a new volume of poems. It’s necessarily
very different from my last book, because I’ve changed a lot since 2012. It’s
in verse, whereas my last book was entirely in prose. It’s much more concerned
with overtly political questions, with the relationships between the wage
worker and their work, with the struggles of a young and growing family. I
hardly find time to work on it, as a full-time retail worker, part-time
student, and parent, but I’m excited to share the personal growth I’ve
experienced in this form.
you have any kind of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you
include in your work that you’d be willing to reveal?
I often feel that I’m walking a metaphorical tightrope in my
work, attempting to balance impulses toward self-deprecation, disillusionment,
and cynicism on one hand and an irrepressible sense of naïve wonder on the
other. That’s a feature of my everyday life, too, but I expect it comes out a
lot in what I make.
What advice would you
give young aspiring artists?
My advice would be to try to hold on to your art, to what
you do that moves you on a deep level, even when it doesn’t pay the bills. And
if you have to step aside from making art because you’re depressed or just too
busy struggling to survive for a while, you need not be ashamed. Go back to
your art when you’re ready and let it accept you with open arms.
Where on the spectrum
do you identify?
I’m asexual, and I’ve identified myself as such since age 20
when I first heard about other asexual people. I’m quoiromantic. I’m married
now; I have two spouses and a child, and the fact that I’m asexual doesn’t come
up very often in my day-to-day life. But if I had never identified myself as
asexual in the first place, I probably wouldn’t be married now, because it was
identifying as asexual that allowed me first to accept myself for who I am, and
then to find people who understood and accepted me enough to start a family
Have you encountered
any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field? If so, how do you handle it?
There’s a strong push for writers of creative non-fiction
and poetry today to candidly confess intimate details of their personal lives,
and that very often includes one’s sex life and sexuality. That can be an
uncomfortable demand for an asexual writer and I encourage other writers to
share only what they can share confidently. As it happens, though, I have made very
few connections “in my field”, so I don’t yet have any direct
experience with ignorance around ace issues directed at me as a writer.
What’s the most
common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?
As much as you can insist to people that asexuality is your
sexual orientation, some people will be determined to see it as a medical
symptom that you should somehow be treating, or as an ideological position.
There’s only so much myth-dispelling educational material you can provide to
someone before it becomes a waste of time.
What advice would you
give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their
The decision to reclassify Pluto as a dwarf planet, and not
as a proper planet, was an arbitrary taxonomic exercise, motivated by mounting
discoveries of Pluto-sized objects in our solar system. Essentially, if we
continued to count Pluto as a planet, there would be so many newly-found
planets of similar size that we could never hope to make elementary school children
memorize all their names. But Pluto is still out there in the Kuiper belt, and
it’s still an important target for scientific research.
Similarly, your experiences as an asexual person are real
and an important part of your life even when other people find it inconvenient
to acknowledge them.
Finally, where can
people find out more about your work?
Dogs from your
childhood & other unrealities is still available in print and as a free
e-book via my blog. My next book, tentatively titled dead monochrome doggerel, is still in
the works and I’ll be sure to announce it on my blog when it’s ready.
Thank you, Dominique, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.
Chez Pierrefort (1897). P. H. Lobel. Edw. Ancourt, Paris. Poster.
Pierrefort was one of three major print dealers fin-de-siecle Paris (along with Sagot and Arnould) who also specialized in posters. From the flat colors and the color scheme, to the use of outlining and perspective, Lobel’s poster bears a startling resemblance to works by Toulouse-Lautrec. This is the version before text.