"Why is there no Straight Pride, when there's a gay one?"

Okay one, it’s not “gay” pride. It’s LGBT pride. Without Trans women, there’d be no pride. Because it’s not all about rainbows and glitter and drag queens and “pride”. It’s about standing in a world that tells you you should not exist, you are wrong, you are an abomination and saying, “you are alright”. It is about remembering the lives lost every day to hate crime, the ones ruined every day from assaults. It is about saying, "we will not be silent. We will not have our rights debated or stripped away and take it lying down. We will not go back to a past where our very existence was illegal”. It is about knowing the fight is not over, not for all of us. It is saying, “we will be with you and you will never be alone” to confused and scared kids, to ones who have nobody left because their own family, threw them out, disgusted by them, as if they were an old candy wrapper, into a garbage. It is about remembering and acknowledging that people have died for our rights, and respecting them.

It is about saying, “go ahead, throw your sticks and throw your stones.” To the ones who let hate and bitterness fuel them. It is saying, "we started riots with our hands and stones because we were tired of being treated as if we were scum beneath your shoe.”

It is not about pride. It has never just been, about “pride”. It is about putting on a smile and a brave face for a day or two, and knowing that our fight is not over yet.

So let me know, when you get anything other than just some eye rolls, maybe a few jokes and laughs for being straight. You do not need a pride.

And saying that you do, or that it’s “not fair”? It just goes to further show just why WE do.

pride psa

bringing this back because i always, always hear some snide shitweasel make a comment at my local Pride events:


  • do not
  • no seriously, don’t be that asshole
  • one or more of them could be trans
  • one or more of them could be bi
  • one or more of them could be pan
  • one or more of them could be ace
  • fuck’s sake they could gay or lesbian or straight why are you policing people’s relationships how do you know
  • they are there to support their friends/family/colleagues/community

This was me at Capital Pride last year. I was walking around dressed as Xena, posing for photos and giving hugs, when I noticed these religious zealots with their microphones and signs spewing their messages of hatred. I always ignore them, but I noticed they were making some people in the crowd visibly upset. A few people were even crying. I couldn’t stand by and let that happen. I hopped over his little chained off section and stood next to him. He immediately turned and began yelling at me and telling the crowd I was going to hell. So I just kept smiling and making funny faces. He eventually gave up yelling to me and about me and tried to go back to taunting people. But no one was taking him seriously with me standing there posing. I’m sure they will be there again this year….and so will I. :-)

I get made fun of for being straight

Before anyone has a fit please read the whole thing. Thank you.

I go to this lgbt+ group in the city. It’s every week and I am the only straight person there. All of us are trans, but our sexualities vary. I happen to be the only one who only likes the opposite gender (female) and nothing else. Everyone is either pan or gay.
I get made fun of in this group. They’ll joke about how straightness is overrated and being in the binary is boring. And you know what? I don’t get offended. I find their little teases hilarious and laugh right along with them. I understand what it’s like to be gay or a minority. Before I transitioned I was one of those “girls” who would go and kiss the girlfriend I was with at that time in front of a crowd of biggots. I understand why, even jokingly, they slam heterosexuals.
They have been slammed, oppressed and abused by the majority. LGBT people have been made fun of, not jokingly, and harassed for not fitting in. They deserve to hate. But you know what? They don’t. Gay people do not hate you if you are straight just because you are straight. Yes they might roll their eyes at ignorant things you say but they would never oppress you. Anyway, being gay, you do get a few perks. You can have pride parades, flaunt your sexuality, make little (nonhurtful) jokes at heterosexuals, and other things that are inclusive only to our lgbt+ community. But straight people, please do not do this. You don’t need your festivals, you don’t need to go announcing you’re straight, and please do not make fun of us for being different. You do not mean it in the nicest way. You are the majority which means you have your own perks (like not being oppressed).
As a trans man I have lived both sides. Yes as a gay child and young teenager growing up, I knew I was oppressed and didn’t have as many privileges as heterosexuals but I didn’t know how oppressed lgbt people really are and the difference on how people treat you. As a trans man who passes I know I am privileged. When I walk the streets full of strangers who don’t know me or my past, I am not oppressed, I am not mocked or glared at, I am not treated differently. I know what it is like to be oppressed and to be privileged and there is a difference.
Here is the message to all this though. Straight people, let lgbt people have their parades, pride, and little jokes. Just go about your day and don’t act like the annoying sibling who has jealousy problems because your siblings get cooler things than you do because the truth is, your the “parents’” favorite. You get everything you want. And gay people, keep being fabulous. Fight for the freedom of love and flaunt your sexuality. Go ahead and have your jokes and festivals. Be in peace and love each other. Be the exclusive club because you deserve that. Thanks for reading
~Elijah Graysen