Pro-life people weren’t there for me when I was hauled off to the ER during a Chorale rehearsal, my heart pounding at 160 BPM just to keep my blood flowing because I was so dehydrated.

Pro-life people didn’t offer to help pay my hospital bills and help me gain access to the IV nutrition and anti-nausea meds that might have allowed me to carry to term had I not miscarried.

Pro-life people do not care that I vomited a dozen (or more) times a day for 5 weeks straight. They’ve told me on several dozen occasions, when I share my story, that a “real” mother would have died rather than even consider abortion.

Pro-life people don’t care that I actually miscarried - they tell me that I’m still a murderer because I didn’t die for my “child.”

Pro-life people tell me that I just had “morning sickness” and that I should get my tubes tied since I couldn’t handle being pregnant.

Pro-life people did not help me when I vomited and vomited and continued to vomit until there was nothing left but bile and blood from the broken vessels in my esophagus.

Pro-choice people at Planned Parenthood took me under their care, gave me antibiotics when I miscarried, gave me another ultrasound to make sure that I hadn’t retained any tissue, and enabled me to get a prescription for birth control pills rather than continuing to use condoms and risk having another one break.

Pro-life people are there every time I go to Planned Parenthood for pap smears and birth control. They curse at me, tell me that I’m going to Hell, wave around their signs full of pictures of aborted fetuses, and threaten all of the other “sluts” and “whores” who go there, no matter what the reason.

Pray for my sister and her unborn daughter

She was taken into the hospital with preeclampsia–a potentially dangerous pregnancy complication. My sister was not supposed to be due until November 16th, but it appears they may have to induce her by October 21st. She is 28 weeks along and will be staying in the hospital until the baby is born. The medical staff are going to try to keep her pregnant until October 21st, but if her or her daughter are at risk they may have to induce her even earlier. 

Please pray friends. 

Midwives talk about the “three delays” that can kill a mother in labor or her baby.The first delay stems from an assumption or hope that they can deliver at home without skilled assistance, so they do not go to a properly resourced medical facility when complications arise. Read more in Because Tomorrow Needs Her:

Please fire me. I’ve been off work for three weeks due to pregnancy complications. I turned up today to hand in my doctor’s notes and everyone asked how the baby was, no one asked how I am. Don’t mind me being pasty and puking and on crutches!

Lullaby-Part 9 (Conclusion)

Summary: Dean and you deal with the aftermath…Just read it, I don’t want to give anything away. ( PART ONE ) ( PART TWO) (PART THREE) (PART FOUR) (PART FIVE) (PART SIX) (PART SEVEN) (PART EIGHT)

Prompt: inspired by @deanwinchesterxreader

Characters: Dean, Sam, Reader

Pairings: Dean X Reader

Word Count: 2000

Warnings: Language, ANGST, DEATH, pregnancy!complications, Depression, self-hate

A/N: Hope you enjoy! I’m really sorry…ANGST and TRIGGERING  Please know that I am warning you now.Any feedback is appreciated, also if you wouldn’t mind liking and rebloging.I am so thankful for all y’all reading this series.

The inside of your nose feels dry and itchy, the stench of bleach filling your nostrils, everything smells too clean. There was a faint beeping and something was warm against your thigh. Your eyes didn’t want to open, lids heavy. What the hell was happening?

You force your eyes open, blinking frantically against the harsh white light. What was going on? You couldn’t remember anything besides going to bed with Dean. Where the hell?

Keep reading


Former abortionist Dr. Anthony Levatino explains why abortion is never medically necessary, even for severe pregnancy complications. 

Learn more at

Lullaby-Part 8

Summary: Dean and you approach the baby’s due date when complications occur. ( PART ONE ) ( PART TWO) (PART THREE) (PART FOUR) (PART FIVE) (PART SIX) (PART SEVEN)

Prompt: inspired by @deanwinchesterxreader

Characters: Dean, Sam, Reader

Pairings: Dean X Reader

Word Count: 1600

Warnings: Language, fluff, the Angst! Like holy shit angst. Trouble late pregnancy. Blood. ANGSTY AF

A/N: Hope you enjoy! I’m really sorry…ANGST and TRIGGERING  Please know that I am warning you now.Any feedback is appreciated, also if you wouldn’t mind liking and rebloging.

I am so thankful for all y’all reading this series.


You fell asleep, back pressed against Dean because that was the only way you two could sleep together now; your gigantor stomach not allowing you to flop over him any longer. He was barely awake, breath deepening but his hand still rubbed across your belly gently. It’s funny, you had always thought Dean and you were as close as two people could be, but it was so much more now. There was this new level of connection, a new level of feelings that you had never been aware existed. It was the way you two looked at each other across the room, how the small touches had become more meaningful. There was just… more.

Keep reading

My wife and I went through a tragic experience. I believe we have to turn the bullshit of life into gold for others. So, I wrote an article about it.

This human alchemy is the only way I know how to deal with it. By confronting our loss, we hope others can be helped to do the same. (Via the Huffington Post)


Midwives talk about the “three delays” that can kill a mother in labor or her baby. The third delay is an absence of good quality care at a health facility. A mother could arrive at night when no skilled staff are present. There may be staff, but no drugs or equipment or it could be too expensive. Read about how MSF tries to prevent the third delay in Chapter 2 of  Because Tomorrow Needs Her:

“Too much love will kill you”.

This is an incredible photo of an embryo from an ectopic pregnancy which is approximately 3 to 4 weeks old from the point of conception (0.5 cm long).

An ectopic pregnancy, or eccysis, is a complication of pregnancy in which the embryo implants outside the uterine cavity. With rare exceptions, ectopic pregnancies are not viable. Furthermore, they are dangerous for the mother, since internal hemorrhage is a life-threatening complication.

Most ectopic pregnancies occur in the Fallopian tube (so-called tubal pregnancies), but implantation can also occur in the cervix, ovaries, and abdomen (nontubal pregnancies). In rare cases, there may be two fertilized eggs, one outside the uterus and the other inside (heterotopic pregnancy).

Up to 10% of women with ectopic pregnancy have no symptoms, and one-third have no medical signs. The symptoms are often non-specific and difficult to differentiate from those of other genitourinary and gastrointestinal disorders, including appendicitis, salpingitis, rupture of a corpus luteum cyst, miscarriage, ovarian torsion or urinary tract infection. Early signs include:

  • Vaginal bleeding;
  • Abdominal pain, which is often a late or even absent.

Less common features of ectopic pregnancy include nausea, vomiting and diarrhea. An ectopic pregnancy is a potential medical emergency, and, if not treated properly, can lead to death.

(Picture from:

The Character Assassination of Black Widow in “Age of Ultron”

***SPOILER WARNING***  This post contains spoilers for Marvel’s Age of Ultron.

All Black Widow really wants is a family and babies. 

That’s right, one of the most interesting characters in the MCU so far has now “come out” as just wanting to put this whole crime-fighting scene behind her and settle down. 

And so thus with Age of Ultron Natasha Romanoff is reduced to a million other tropes related to strong female characters who deep down just want to be a Mommy.

In the movie, Natasha explains to Bruce Banner that in the Red Room, the “graduation ceremony” includes sterilization.  This in and of itself isn’t all that troubling:  after all it makes complete sense.  The Widows are expected to use their sexuality as much as their guns to complete the mission: whatever is necessary.  Birth control fails.  Pregnancy would mean complications.

But Natasha describes it as preventing them from being able to have “the one thing that may be more important than the mission” - which means that Widow’s also can’t just ditch their role to be Mommy when the biological clock starts ticking.

So, while the concept his sound, the way its presented is troubling.  For one, its presented as the ULTIMATE sacrifice a woman can make.  Its the GRADUATION CEREMONY of the Red Room program: you know, the program that trains young girls to be assassins and includes having to kill not only masked men at a command but also your other classmates to “weed out” the stragglers (at least, in the 1930′s when Dottie was going through the program).  But despite having to have learned to be an effective murderer, the FINAL AND MOST TERRIBLE THING you must endure  is sterilization.  Really?  I get it, it makes sense that sterilization is part of the Black Widow program but wouldn’t that just be like… a Tuesday?  Not the FINAL TEST of their meddle?

What’s even worse is that we see in flashbacks that Natasha was trying to get out of it by FAKING her abilities.  That’s right: having gone through the whole program since she before puberty and probably having killed some of her other classmates and random men - she started faking her skills and abilities so she wouldn’t graduate because she didn’t want to give up her chance at babies. 


I get that forced sterilization is scarey; the loss of bodily autonomy is nightmarish.  But that’s the whole M.O. of the Red Room: the lack of freedom, turning these girls into objects over women.

Beyond that, the whole concept that Natasha just wants to run away with the man she loves and have a family and ditch the Avengers MID-MISSION just blows my mind.  If she was done with the assassin’s life, she could have fled after The Winter Soldier.  But sometime between that movie and this one, she has fallen in love with Bruce Banner and just wants to run away with him; leaving the other Avengers to deal with that pesky Ultron problem going on. 


Look, I’m not against Bruce and Natasha as a potential couple.  To be honest, it makes a lot of sense to me because I headcannon Natasha as asexual, and being able to be romantic with someone who also can’t have physical sex anymore could be comforting to her.  But the whole ‘relationship’ was so out of left field.  Whedon failed completely on directing 101: Show Don’t Tell.  We have to rely on all the other characters going “Wow, they have so much chemistry.  When did they start dating?” because there’s hardly any evidence of it shown to us. 

But is there hope?  Natasha’s little talk with Nick Fury at the end of the film leads me to believe it may have all been a rouse.  She asks Nick if he knew what was going to happen form the beginning when he picked her to bring him into the Avengers.  Call me crazy, but Nick Fury doesn’t seem like the guy who likes to play Matchmaker.

It’s my theory that Natasha was actually just trying to isolate Bruce Banner.  To be his long-term handler (and lover) to get him out of the public eye.  She was the only one who was good at controlling when he Hulked out, or bringing him back when he was already green.  So it makes sense to me that Fury wanted Banner out of the picture - but just in case they needed him again Natasha could bring him in.

At least, that’s what I’m going to tell myself to help me sleep better at night. 

A Guide to Pregnancy Complications

This post is in response to this. Ectopic pregnancies are awful but not the only condition that can lead to complications during a pregnancy and/or life-threatening situations.

The following text is from Discovery Health:

  • Pregnancy Complications in Older MothersIn recent years there has been a trend toward having babies later in life. But more pronounced chronic diseases in the mother, among other conditions, can have an adverse affect on the developing fetus. Fortunately, prenatal care is similar for women of all ages, but this page will tell you some symptoms that women older than 35 should watch out for.
  • Pregnancy Complications in Teenage MothersMost teenagers are not ready – physically or emotionally – to have children. As a result, birth weight is typically lower and babies of teens are more susceptible to certain illnesses. It will take an effort on the part of the teenage mom to ensure the health of her baby. This page tells you how to do it.
  • Preterm BirthAbout 11 to 12 percent of deliveries in the United States are classified as premature, which is a birth that occurs between the 20th and 36th weeks of pregnancy. This is a dangerous condition for the baby, which might not be able to survive outside of the womb. But modern medicine has helped many premature babies survive and grow up normally. On this page you’ll learn why you must go to the hospital immediately if you suspect you’re going into labor prematurely.
  • Postterm BirthIf a baby still has not arrived two weeks past its due date, it may be in danger of malnutrition or even pneumonia. There is no danger to the mother, but a doctor may choose to induce labor for the baby’s health. This page will tell you what happens in that case.
  • Ectopic PregnancyAn ectopic pregnancy is one in which the fertilized egg settles outside the uterus. This can be a very painful, and dangerous, condition for the mother, and if an ectopic pregnancy is detected the mother will be hospitalized immediately. This page will show you how to tell if you have an ectopic pregnancy, and what your doctor will do.
  • StillbirthsStillbirth, the death of a baby before it is born, is becoming rare thanks to improved prenatal care. However, this tragic outcome of a pregnancy can happen, usually when the flow of nutrition from the placenta is cut off. This page will tell you how a doctor will detect a stillbirth.
  • MiscarriagesAbout 15 percent of known births end in miscarriage, when a baby is born too early in the pregnancy to be viable. Although many doctors prescribe bed rest if they suspect a miscarriage is possible, most believe there is no way to prevent one. This page will tell you the different types of miscarriage and the factors that contribute to them.
  • Multiple BirthsTwins can double the joy of being a new mother, but they can also present health risks. The most common risk of a multiple birth is premature labor, and a breech birth – with the baby coming out feet first rather than head first – is common as well. Although the reasons for multiple births are not fully understood, this page will tell you what do to if you’re carrying more than one fetus.
  • Placenta ComplicationsA woman shouldn’t experience any vaginal bleeding during pregnancy. If you do, it may be a sign of placenta previa or placental abruption. These are two conditions in which the placenta does not behave normally, and they almost always lead to a cesarean section. Find out more about these abnormalities on this page.
  • Cesarean SectionAbout 30 percent of U.S. babies are born via cesarean section, in which a baby is removed through an incision in the mother’s abdomen. There are many reasons why this procedure would be necessary, but it’s always for the health of the baby or the mother and it’s extremely safe. This page goes over the reasons and explains the two types of cesarean section.
  • Birth DefectsBirth defects can affect the head, face, eyes, mouth, hands, feet, and internal organs. Some minor birth defects can be corrected and leave no trace, but others are more severe and stay with the baby for life. This page details numerous birth defects, from cleft palate and clubfoot to spina bifida and Down syndrome.
  • Rh IncompatibilityIf a mother and fetus don’t have compatible blood, there can be severe complications for the fetus. Furthermore, any fetus the mother carries in the future is at risk, too, unless a doctor takes the proper steps to sensitize the mother. Find out what Rh is, how it affects your pregnancy, and what your doctor will do about it on this page.
  • Deseases During PregnancyThe baby isn’t the only one who’s at risk. Pregnancy can cause health issues for the mother too, from simple swelling of the hands and feet to increased risk of heart and kidney disease. And existing conditions in the mother, such as diabetes, can endanger a fetus. Most mothers are healthy throughout their pregnancy, but this page will tell you how to stay that way.
  • Abnormalities of LaborLabor is a complicated process that can become difficult in several ways. If the baby and the umbilical cord are not positioned correctly, for example, the doctor may have to perform a cesarean section. Here you’ll see what your doctor will be looking for and what he or she will do to correct anything that goes wrong.

Information on Heart Problems from Mayo Clinic:

How does pregnancy affect the heart?

Pregnancy stresses your heart and circulatory system. During pregnancy, your blood volume increases by 30 to 50 percent to nourish your growing baby. The amount of blood your heart pumps each minute also increases by 30 to 50 percent. Your heart rate increases as well. These changes cause your heart to work harder.

Of course, labor and delivery add to your heart’s workload, too. During labor — particularly when you push — you’ll experience abrupt changes in blood flow and pressure. When your baby is born, decreased blood flow through the uterus also stresses your heart.

What are the risks?

The risks depend on the nature and severity of the underlying heart condition. For example:

  • Heart rhythm issues.Minor abnormalities in heart rhythm are common during pregnancy. They’re not usually cause for concern.
  • Heart valve issues.If you have an artificial heart valve or your heart or valves are scarred or malformed, you might face an increased risk of complications during pregnancy. If your valves aren’t working properly, you might have trouble tolerating the increased blood flow. In addition, artificial or abnormal valves carry an increased risk of endocarditis — a potentially life-threatening infection of the lining of the heart and heart valves. Mechanical artificial heart valves also pose serious risks during pregnancy due to the need to adjust use of blood thinners and the potential for life-threatening clotting (thrombosis) of heart valves.
  • Congestive heart failure.As blood volume increases, congestive heart failure can get worse.
  • Congenital heart defect.If you were born with a heart problem, your baby has a greater risk of developing some type of heart defect, too. You may also be at risk of premature delivery.

Other conditions that can lead to serious complications during a pregnant:

A few more sources:

You are a male. You have a penis. You do not bleed every month. You do not experience painful menstrual cramps. You do not get called a “bitch on her period” when you’re upset about something- by your boss. You do not have a 1 in 5 chance of being raped. You will never experience pregnancy. You will never die from pregnancy or childbirth complications. You will not ever walk into a planned parenthood and be bombarded by pro-life activists telling you you are a murderer. You won’t be tricked into going to a crisis center instead of an abortion clinic. Your body is not regulated by the law. You are not seen as an object by society as well as the government. You are viewed as a person. You do NOT know what true womanhood is.
You are NOT and NEVER will be “my sister”. Save your sympathy for someone else because you ain’t getting anything from me.


Awareness: Too Young To Wed - Every two seconds, a girl is forced to marry against her will—yet another reason why poverty is sexist. The younger the bride, the more likely she will experience domestic violence, contract HIV, develop complications from pregnancies, or even die during childbirth. Child brides are robbed of the potential and education they deserve, preventing them from achieving their fullest potential.

Stephanie Sinclair, photojournalist and Founder/Executive Director of Too Young To Wed, is on a mission to change this phenomenon. The organization’s mission is to provide visual evidence of the human rights challenges facing women and girls. Too Young to Wed supports local organizations making a difference in the lives of the children who are affected by the harmful practice of child marriage. By documenting the harsh realities of child marriage, Stephanie is raising awareness and affecting policy and change through photography. These are just a few of the photos by Stephanie’s series, view the site to see them all, and read the stories of the girls in the photos above.

Follow/Like the Facebook

This photo was taken about 30-45 minutes after Kaleb was born. He on life support. His body couldn’t breath on it’s own or keep itself warm. This was the second time I had seen him. This picture. I wasn’t even there when the photo was taken. this photo was literally the second time I had seem. ( I wasn’t allowed to leave the hospital bed until Kaleb was 2 hours old due to stitching being done) The first time I seen him he had no heart beat and didn’t until he was 12 mintues old.

Today Kaleb is a very healthy, very smart 23 month old. God has His strong, healing hands all over Kaleb long before my hands got to hold him at all. I get sad when I think that my baby didn’t get to feel his mother’s arms the moment he was born like so many other babies have gotten to. But instead he got to feel The Father’s hands first.

We are very lucky parents, and Kaleb is a lucky little boy. And God is ALWAYS good