Bhat Boy

"Bhat Boy was born in London, England somewhere in the latter half of the 20th Century. He immigrated to Canada on a steam ship in 1966, and became a naturalized Canadian and grew up in the Nation’s Capital with his parents - a cleaning lady and a spy." (Website)

"I am always being asked questions about my paintings. What does it mean? What is the story you are trying to tell? For my part, I enjoy engaging the imagination of spectators. The very fact that my painting inspires questions underscores its value as a work of art. Some of the characters that inhabit my works are deliberately designed to raise questions. I paint Nuns because people have so many preconceived ideas about who they are and what they should be doing, as a result they make an excellent counterpoint in my paintings to contrast with other elements. Dragons usually represent the darker side of the male psyche in my painting, while goldfish represent our relationship to the environment in the scenes that unfold on my canvases."

liking someone you barely know is really hard cos it’s not even that you like that person you just fell for it’s preconceived idea of them and that’s really unfair to the person you think you like and if you do get to know them you’ll more than likely be disappointed because you’ll be holding them to this predetermined, most likely idealistic, notion of who you think they are and they’ll never reach that pedestal you put them on

It’s frustrating trying to talk to some people who have it in their heads that females are always dramatic and over the top about nothing. Because they have a preconceived idea and (this is true of all people for a lot of different preconceived ideas) they will perceive me as that stereotypical view no matter what I say or do because people see what they expect to see.
So we’ll be talking about something and they’ll be like “I’m kidding” and of course I knew this and they thought I was taking them too seriously so I’ll be like “I know”
They’ll be like “stop overreacting” and I’ll be like “I’m not lol” and at this point it’s starting to get awkward because I’m not doing anything it’s like telling someone who’s whispering to stop shouting
So they’ll say something about how I’m being sarcastic and throw out some slur about women being idiots and I’m just like “ok done bye” and they’re saying something like “women always being so dramatic”

What do you see?

This is not a hamburger

I have just made my first tofu burgers.  Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against eating meat.  As a matter of fact bring it anytime: tartar as in our local goat kebbeh dish, or medium rare for a juicy steak.  But I find it interesting to always try new recipes in the kitchen, especially when they are healthy.

My tofu burgers did not look much like regular hamburgers.  But they sure tasted the same.  Funny enough, when placed inside a hamburger bun with some mayonnaise, ketchup and pickles, my kid nephews did not even realize that they were eating soy beans for meat…

Clearly, Magritte’s treachery of images combines well with our treachery of programmed beliefs and senses.

This is not a pipe.

This is not a paisley.  

And this was not handmade by people with special needs.

Such is Morus.  One step beyond preconceived ideas.





Photographers We Love: Jose Antonio Contreras

This project, which I’ve been calling “Molto Burlesque” is a documentary series on New York burlesque artists photographed at home. My intention is to look at the juxtaposition of performers against their home environments in an attempt to get a glimpse into their lives. Sometimes there is a clear relationship between the at-home background and the subject, but sometimes there’s very little or no overlap between personal life and on-stage persona. 

An aspect I really enjoy about the at-home experience is the different life stages in which I catch my subjects. Some are starting out in the city, so their furniture and decorations are sparse. Others are more settled, and their homes reflect this domesticity. 

Living spaces in New York are as diverse as New Yorkers themselves, but for the most part, apartments are often small and their lighting conditions unpredictable. I rarely see a performer’s home before the shoot, so there’s no preconceived idea going in. I like thinking on my feet and keeping the session spontaneous. It’s a challenge I find stimulating. 

Connecting and collaborating with members of the NYC burlesque community has been a very rewarding experience. Molto Burlesque is an ongoing project, and I’m hoping to add more portraits of performers of all levels of experience.

Post created by Coco Te Amo, 2014.

To find out more on Jose and Molto Burlesque, visit

It's What is on the Inside That Matters Most

Acts 10:34-35

Then Peter began to speak: “I now realize how true it is that God does not show favoritism but accepts men from every nation who fear him and do what is right.”

Thoughts for Today:

What an incredible revelation this must have been for Peter — after all the Old Testament is filled with God stating to the Jews, “You are my chosen people.” Peter now understands that being God’s people has nothing to do with a person’s nationality but rather those “who fear Him and do what is right.” Why is that so hard for us to understand — God does not show favoritism — it’s what is on the inside that matters most?

If you knew you were going to meet Donald Trump today — what would you do differently? Would you choose your clothes a little more carefully? Pay closer attention to your hair style? Think more about what you are going to say? What if instead you were going to meet a homeless man? Would you prepare in the same way? Whether we want to admit it or not we all show some degree of favoritism based on what we see on the outside of a person — I am thankful that God does not show the same favoritism.

Questions to Ponder:

We all have a tendency to judge a person by what we see — what is your first reaction to long hair, lots of tattoos, a leather vest, and boots? Peter now realizes that Jesus is for everyone and he immediately begins to apply this new information. If you were to do the same thing, what thoughts or attitudes about certain groups of people would you need to change? What could you do today to reach out to those that are different than you? How could you start to see people as God see’s them?

How often do you have misconceptions or preconceived ideas about things?

For me, it’s all the time. Even things like spotting a dress hanging up in a shop window. Then, from walking in, picking it up  and getting it into a fitting room, you’ve planned in your mind what it will go with, how you will wear your hair, what jacket would look best layered over the top and how you will pay for it. For me it won’t even cross my mind that it might make me look like an insipid tub of gelatinous shite.  You pin all your hopes on this one thing that you spotted at a passing glance in a shop window, to solve your wardrobe crisis. It’s a risk, it will or it won’t. Or it will fit ok, not knock your (or someone else’s) socks off like you were hoping, but you buy it anyway - maybe in the hope that when your try it on at home, with all your accessories and the right underwear it will look how you envisaged. In my experience it usually doesn’t.

I think this applies to other things. Not just dresses.

March 1st is Self-Injury Awareness Day and will someday become, I hope, just another day in the year-round discussion of self-harm and mental health. The goal of today is to check your preconceived ideas of who cuts or why or how and actually listen to people tell their stories, and read up on medical information to educate yourself. It’s funny that in the ten years I’ve been dealing with cutting, scratching, and disordered eating people’s perspective on self-harm have stayed pretty much the same. We’re all seeking attention and causing drama, is the big one. We’re all suicidal is another one. Misinformation and the sheer choice to remain ignorant is rampant too and while it’s extremely frustrating I can’t entire blame individual people for this; information on self harm (aka self injury [si), self mutilation, etc.) is increasing in quantity but not in visibility. Reports and articles are published but not disseminated, and no one talks about it. This directly contributes to the shame and fear people like myself have in speaking up about our struggles. We also don’t always have an adequate vocabulary to talk about what we’re dealing with because this information—these reports and articles—don’t always reach those who need them most.

As I mentioned I’ve been dancing this stupid dance for ten(ish) years. I started when I was 14. Life was pretty bogus for a young, queer, goth black girl from even before I hit high school and there’s only so long you can trudged through the crap before you have to find some way to reclaim a part of yourself. So I began to cut up my skin and restrict my eating. I bonded with other kids who were also damaged and, in turn, damaged themselves in similar ways. We also hurt each other, an ongoing cycle that I’m still seeing in myself and that I am desperately working to stop.

I’m 25 now and haven’t cut in at least…a month? Three weeks? I honestly don’t remember the last time but I do know I’m not doing it every day anymore. I’m not excusing myself to go to the bathroom at work or hiding razors in my purse anymore so I’m fine with not remembering exact dates. I do know that it’s a conscious decision I make every day not to harm myself and most days I come out on top :)

In the interest of spreading information, here are some links to resources so y’alls out there can educate:
National Institute of Mental Health
Psych Central's article on self-jury
Safe Haven ( *I essentially ‘came-of-age’ on this website and forum back in the early 2000s. I can’t vouch for the forum now but the info is solid.
S.A.F.E. Alternatives (
Trans Lifeline Hotline for trans people, run by trans people. USA and Canada phone numbers. Considering the statistics for self-harming behavior and suicide drastically increases among trans folks I’d feel remiss to not include this link since I have it.

My ask box is always open if you want to ask me a question or vent or anything, too. Thanks for reading :)


Thought must never submit, neither to a dogma, nor to a party, nor to a passion, nor to an interest, nor to a preconceived idea, nor to whatever it may be, save to the facts themselves, because, for thought, submission would mean ceasing to be.
—  Henri Poincaré

"We have no past to those we haven’t met. when people don’t have a preconceived idea of who we are, we can let go of who we don’t want to be and become whomever we intend on being"

- Mod Sun