‘Detestable / Detested’

(WOLF Series #074)

If you must hate anyone, I pray
do not hate me
cold once more, I
long to be any place but where
I am

anonymous asked:

I find it really hard to pray. I'm the person who knows a lot about Islam and rulings and come from a religious family with religious education. I am adamant about helping others and guiding others but I myself have strayed. When I start praying my legs get tired, my tongue twisted and when I bring myself to finish I find it hard to continue and cry instead because I want to pray but for some reason I cannot. Do you have any advice?

Assalam Alaikom love,

First & foremost, you need to realize this is an issue with your iman. I have written a lot about increasing your iman - check it out here.

I feel like there are times when we feel broken and numb, where our motivation for salah is gone. This could be due to a number of reasons

  • We are going through a lot in life
  • We haven’t devoted ourselves to our deen in a while
  • Our ego/character is not on point
  • We have been sinning a lot and fear facing Allah
  • There are so many more

However, if we do not pick ourselves up and bow down to our creator, can we ever expect anything to get better? We will not fix what is broken without salah. There is nothing more crucial than working on establishing salah. 


Pray. Obviously you’re having a tough time, but you have to keep going. Allah is testing you and preparing you for what is better. In those moments of tired legs, tongue twisted, and tears brimming your eyes - nothing is better than salah. Continue. That feeling of “I cannot” is from the devil, not from you. If you are sobbing through your whole prayer, fine, but pray.

Increase your Kushoo. Concentration in salah can aid you to produce a more firmer connection with the salah itself, and then make you crave that feeling more

Make a lot of dua in sujood. Cry if you need to, but cry to Allah.

Make tawbah - repent. Whatever sins you’ve committed, they may be keeping you from salah

Realize that Allah forgives. Don’t think Allah will not forgive you and so you are not worthy enough to bow down to him.

Go easy if you have to. If nothing is working, start with one prayer a day and build it up.

Change your mindset. Look forward to salah. Feel blessed to have the opportunity to stand in front of your Lord in worship, while others did not. Make salah a moment of reflection and self care.

Remember this is the dunya. We want jannah, not naar. If we expect to get to it, we have to pray

Do it with a loved one. Your sister, mom, dad, grandma. At the masjid with friends. Do it with people in jamaa’ to motivate yourself


May Allah guide you in salah

Do not go gentle into that good night

Do not go gentle into that good night
Old age should burn and rave at close of day
Rage, rage against the dying of the light

Though wise men at their end know dark is right
Because their words had forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that good night

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way
Do not go gentle into that good night

Grave men, near death, who see the blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay
Rage, rage against the dying of the light

And you, my father, there on the sad height
Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray
Do not go gentle into that good night
Rage, rage against the dying of the light

Do not go gentle into that good night
Dylan Thomas, 1914-1953