You never regret waking up early, so take that summer job that calls for an 8am wakeup every day, by the end of it all you’ll be glad you didn’t sleep until noon.
If you’re friends with someone, make sure you take a picture with them at the earliest possible convenience, preferably the first day you meet.
The ‘mute’ option on twitter and ‘unfollow’ option on facebook are your most viable resources. They allow you to stay at peace while your aunt posts Donald Trump support memes.
If you ever notice one of your friends has started to talk more about themselves than usual, find out what’s wrong. Usually their trivial complaints have a much deeper root.
Try your best to stay calm in every fight you get into. It doesn’t matter if it’s via text or in person, people will remember you as the rational one and your opponent will be embarrassed.
Your friends are going to change, but you’re not the same person you were at 14 either.
If it doesn’t feel right, do not do it.
Force yourself to leave your laptop and phone in a different room and open up the book you bought 3 years ago that you never started. Rediscovering reading is one of the greatest feelings on earth.
Talk about and focus on what you love. Do not talk about and do not focus on what you hate. You will realize instantly how much happier you can be.
The best day to take off from work or school is ALWAYS Tuesday.
You always look good in a white t-shirt.
Cut off the friends that suck and cling to the ones that make you happy to exist.
Sometimes all you need is a drive to the beach and a vanilla milkshake. Instagramming the sunset won’t make it any less beautiful.
Drop everything and spend time with your family.
Lists honestly suck don’t make lists they put a lot of pressure on you.
Don’t feel obligated to have a good time just because everyone is telling you to. Odds are they’re faking it too and you shouldn’t have to. Try your best to be 100% authentic 100% of the time.
Pick someone, once every month, to give a gift to. (Hint it can definitely be yourself)
Allow yourself to have fun with things that the general hivemind goes against. Except mustaches PLEASE stop I’m not even mad anymore just tired.
Never settle for anything below you. Always push outside of your comfort zone. Cherish every single moment you share with your friends that makes you forget you’re young and stupid and have shit to deal with. Those fractions of a second where you catch yourself completely enamored by your best friends laugh in their car on the way to the movies or the song playing in your backyard while your friends all talk about nothing are the best moments in your life. Fuck off if that was a run-on sentence everything is perfect.
‘Life is spectacular. Forget the dark things. Take a drink and let time wash them away to where ever time washes away to.’
I know I haven’t made any follow forever since I made this blog not because I don’t want to but because I find it hard to choose which blogs to include without having to put every single blog I follow. But because it’s my blog’s second birthday and the end of the year, I think it’s time to make one.
I want to make a post about this because it’s important that this is cleared up. I left it a bit open ended the last time and I don’t want to do that again. Before you read this, please understand I really regret what I did, that I was horribly ignorant, and I would never do anything like this ever again.
A while ago, back in the clexa days, I popularized a type of headcanon called “g!p lexa” which is essentially lexa with a penis. In these headcanons, she is either trans or intersex. Multiple trans women messaged me and told me they were uncomfortable with this type of fic because it was extremely fetishizing. I ignored their messages, justifying in my head that it was okay because I was questioning my gender, and that it was helping other people who were questioning theirs. This was wrong and harmful and I know it doesn’t mean much at this point, but I sincerely feel awful and I am so sorry. Please don’t make the same mistake I did and LISTEN to people when they tell you they’re hurt by something you’re doing. Put aside your own selfish reasons and just listen. I wish I would have.
I wish I could say it stopped there, but it didn’t. I figured if it was hurting trans women, I would headcanon her as intersex instead despite knowing NOTHING about the intersex community. The way I portrayed Lexa in these headcanons did not align at all with what it means to be intersex. The intersex community already has so much misinformation circulating, and this added to that. It is extremely rare that an intersex woman will be born with a penis, let alone a fully functional one, and slapping the intersex label on g!p lexa was not only offensive, but inaccurate. The intersex wlw community in the fandom was too small to retaliate against this headcanon, meaning it was popular for a really long time, spreading misinformation and alienating an already marginalized community.
There is a wonderful blog, http://intersex-ed.tumblr.com/, that has a lot of info about being intersex. Please check this out if you have any questions about being intersex or the community.
To sum it up, the popularization of g!p lexa fetishized not one, but two communities and I somehow justified this in my head as doing the right thing. If you want to unfollow me for this, I understand. If I could go back and stop myself from doing this, I would do it in a heartbeat.
I am so fucking sorry to the trans wlw and intersex wlw in the fandom that I alienated with this horribly ignorant headcanon. Please, if you see g!p lexa fic or headcanons circulating, do not support it. Please only support actual trans lexa or intersex lexa headcanons, ones that do not fetishize her for a body part.
If you would like me to clear anything up, I am going to turn on anonymous for a while for questions. Please let me know if you would like me to reblog or post anything that would help spread correct information.