what do u think about bob's comments on belarke? although i'll never agree on sending Eliza hate this time I can understand why blarkes defend bob and they hate Eliza. I'm far from being his fan but this time I have to give it to him, not bc he said everything is platonic -we all knew that- but I really liked the way he explained the relationship between belarke. And also I liked that he said he wish the ships war ends, maybe his fans will listen to him.
First off, “I can understand why blarkes defend bob and they hate Eliza” There is NOTHING to understand. You don’t treat another human being the way Blarkes attacked Eliza due to her ONE less than stellar word choice when referring to ‘romantic Belarke stuff’. You don’t send hate to anyone, especially for saying they like a fictional platonic relationship over a super fictional romantic one.
Second, Bob and Eliza have BOTH been consistent about what Bellamy and Clarke are to each other and how they portray that bond. Eliza and Bob have BOTH in the past have addressed their ‘distaste’ for this constant asking about Belarke in a romantic light. The only thing that Eliza said that was controversial was saying “belarke shit”, which if anyone with a functioning brain will realize is slang for ‘stuff’. Like watch this video below and you will see how Bob’s facial expressions to the mention of belarke say a million things he isn’t saying. And when Eliza said “belarrrrke” Bob said, “you’ve awoken the beast”…Bob called the fandom a ‘monster/beast’, right? I bet you anything if Eliza said that she would get hate. Anyways this is just a compilation of things said and done when ‘Belarke’ has been mentioned….
Getting back to Bob and Eliza loving the platonic bond of Belarke…which is actually revolutionary if you think about it. How many deep-seeded friendships between a man and a woman (that are the leads) have been portrayed that have never turned romantic? I can’t list one that is how few they are. This is something I think both Eliza and Bob want to represent. Bob and Eliza are friends with people of the opposite sex and they are probably also tired of people constantly thinking men and woman can’t be just friends and have a close emotional bond. I know I’m sick of it.
Many many Clexa people also love the bond Bellamy and Clarke have and the m/f close platonic friendship they represent. That you can love someone, trust them, open up to them, and it NOT be romantic. Think about f/f friendships that are like this….many people would just call the girls best friends. However, when it comes to m/f, due to heteronormativity, people want and expect these people to be a romantic item. This is actually something I have written in one of my posts about why I understand why people ship Belarke (x). This is something Bob said at a panel. This is what I believe is being referred to in the ask above. I completely agree 100% with Bob as to WHY people want Belarke together. Bob is basically saying in his speech that is due to heteronormativity of society that people think men and woman can’t be best friends and nothing more. (This is actually something I have written in one of my posts about why I understand why people ship Belarke (x).)
BOB: Oh, Belarke. You know, I understand people’s gravitational pull towards Belarke and the truth is, i love working with Eliza and most of the scenes where Bellamy is at his emotionally vulnerable are with Clarke. He shares a lot with her, so i understand why people want to see those two together. She makes him a better person or she makes him believe in himself, or…did. So I get it, I completely get it. HOWEVER, from my standpoint AS BELLAMY, I don’t think it’s a romantic relationship. But there’s definitely deep feelings there, that they need each other, that they rely on each other. And for some reason or another, he feels compelled to be open with her. And openness and being trustworthy are some of the most important things when it comes to relationships and those two. For some reason or another, they do open up and trust eachother…so yeah, i don’t blame people for “shipping” Belarke, but I don’t think it’s necessarily a romantic thing.”
I have not looked at the Belarke’s fandom’s reaction to this but I believe many of them are just dismissive of what Bob said. They say things like, “Sure Bob, the way Bellamy was looking at Clarke was completely #platonic” Which just makes me like?????????? Bob is the one portraying Bellamy!! His face and the emotions behind his portrayal are CANON. And what is he portraying??? An amazing platonic friendship between a man and a woman. AND if that is not enough…there has also things written into the script to show the comradery between Bellamy and Clarke. Like this is CANON for the belarke hug.
Now, even though Bob and Eliza have basically been saying the same thing… why are so many people so quick to demonize Eliza? well…other than just being shitty people? I think it is internalized misogyny and a believing woman should “keep their mouth shut” while if a man says something they don’t like they just say “they’re problematic and are just not in tune to human emotions so they ‘don’t get it’ or see it. Oh a typical man, amiright? lol.” Many blarkes think Bob is basically a ‘god’ and can do no wrong. And you know what…it isn’t because Eliza is ‘pro clexa and lexa’ and vocal about it that is why she is demonized. Becuase there is another person that has been vocal about their love for Clexa and seeing the chemistry…someone that was actually one of the first Clexa shippers…
Honestly, it sickens me to see how many Blarkers have such a double standard when it comes to Bob vs Eliza and their distaste for ROMANTIC Belarke. Do they not realize how anti-feminist it is and is rooted in misogyny? It is quite sad if you think about it. Gosh, what pisses me off too is how upset Belarkers get at Bob & Eliza saying that they enjoy the platonic relationship but don't’ necessarily like it in a romantic way. Like….many Clexas say this too! …and then the Belarke shippers get angry at us for loving the platonic bond and not seeing it in a romantic way, and wanting that m/f friendship rep? Now, I do think that what Bob said at the panel does help make Belarkers feel validated in their feelings. It is due to these attributes for amazing friendships often are in romantic relationships that Belarkers ship Bellamy and Clarke. The reality is that is also due massively in part by heteronormativity that people see Bellamy and Clarke’s friendship as a romantic one. Make Bellamy a Bella that has these same attributes of trust, loyalty, opening up to Clarke and I bet you anything Belarkers would only see it as platonic. A concept Belarkers don’t seem to get is that you can have deep feelings for someone and them not equate to romantic ones.
So do I think the Belarke fans will listen to Bob? No, no I do not. I don’t have a problem with them shipping Belarke, but as soon as they demonize Lexa or Clexa to legitimize their ship that is what I have issues with.