neurotics have perverse fantasies. One can see very well that it is not the same as perversion.
The fantasy the neurotic makes use of is what serves him best in defending himself against anxiety, in keeping a lid on it. … This objet a that the neurotic makes himself into becomes him much like gaiters do a rabbit. Thatswhy the neurotic never makes much of his fantasy. It succeeds in defending him against anxiety precisely to the extent that it is a postiche a.
that he doesn’t want to give anything bears a certain relation to the fact that his difficulty belongs to the realm of receiving. … What you have got to teach the neurotic to give is the thing he doesn’t imagine, it is nothing, it is precisely his anxiety.