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Personal responsibility

So someone messaged me to ‘take down’ a post I’d reblogged and said it was “weird I was 4 years back into their archive”…  I wasn’t in their archive.  I had simply done a search for a funny imgur post, and their post came up.  They messaged me, very curtly, to remove it and explained why…  After hearing why, I understand, however, if this video poses such a threat, why is it still viewable and rebloggable by the general public?  This seems like a thing that should have been taken down ages ago.

There seems to be an ongoing pattern of behavior here that’s worrisome. People are holding complete strangers responsible for every trauma that has happened to them.  There’s no way we all can read each other’s minds and pasts.  Most of us are just here for fandom, jokes, cats, and general escapism.  Hell, we all have our own traumas, every last one of us.  If someone misunderstands a post you made, or reblogs a photo or video that brings bad memories for you, we have literally no idea.  You can either continue to message people (in not so nice ways) to alert them to your discomfort, or you can simply remove the thing, block it, blacklist it, etc.  That ensures your well being a lot more than continuing to expect everyone else to simply ‘know’ about your pain.

We can’t hold everyone else responsible for our own troubles, memories, traumas, etc.  Take your own well being into your hands as much as possible, as really that’s the strongest defense you have.  The rest of us might be willing to help, but it’s not a burden that should be forced onto us without us even knowing.

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“Everything is ‘terrible?’ Don’t make me laugh. So what about me…for me, it’s been terrible since I was born.”

Of Headbands and Hurt Feelings

based on this post by @fistatfirstklance + yours truly. also @wittyy-name asked me to tag her in this (haha im still screaming) so here we go

It starts as a one time thing.

Pidge had looked down one day, Lance’s older brother instinct had kicked in, and he’d ended up spending twenty minutes trying to string a pretty green stone he’d picked up on a piece of string. Any normal person would’ve just given it to Pidge directly, but Lance thought it’d be more fun to hide it somewhere and wait for Pidge to find it. She’d walked out of Green’s hangar the next morning with the stone around her neck and a smile on her face, and well. It spiraled from there.

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i’m really happy tanaka seems to be getting his own (VERY LONG OVERDO) arc & i’m also happy he’s finally being seen as a romantic interest in someone’s eyes bcuz i’ve never quite understood why girls didn’t flock after him bcuz he’s SO AMAZING??!

but… i’m also annoyed about everyone saying shit like “WOW we can finally ship tanaka with someone!” cuz like…. you could’ve been shipping him with a bunch of people? nishinoya, ennoshita, sugawara, hinata, etc… the only reason you didn’t is bcuz this fandom seems to have a very shallow view of his character, especially when it comes to his appearance. the majority of you see tanaka as the ~token straight character~ amidst a bunch of non straight characters, most likely influenced by the way that he looks (whether you realize it or not). take nishinoya, for example. noya, like tanaka, has shown interest in women before AND he has a very similar personality to tanaka. yet why is it acceptable to ship nishinoya w/ other male characters (most popular being asahi, obviously) but not tanaka? what makes them so different? (hint: it’s bcuz he doesn’t look like your typical pretty anime boy).

another example is bokuto. here we have another wild, rambunctious character, much like tanaka, who is often shipped with other male characters (the most popular being akaashi, & to a lesser extent from what i’ve seen, kuroo). again, only difference between the two cases is their looks.

now if we’re putting personality characteristics aside for a second. maybe you view tanaka as a straight dude bcuz he’s shown to be attracted to girls on numerous occasions, right? however, as is the case with nishinoya (which i already mentioned above), MANY other main characters have shown the same? some examples: daichi is heavily implied to be interested in yui & sugawara seems to have a crush on kiyoko. yet the heavy majority of the fandom ships those two with other male characters (especially each other??)

so like…. none of these reasons make sense. tanaka has been shown to have very close & deep relationships with so many male characters in haikyuu & the fandom isn’t usually very shy when it comes to multishipping, so i really do think it all boils down to shallow fans who don’t find him handsome enough to really ship him in any serious relationships.

i’ve said this on numerous occassions but i firmly believe that, if tanaka wasn’t bald, not only would he not be as ignored as he is by the fandom (which is another thing altogether lmao), but he would be shipped with other characters a LOT more frequently. it may sound ridiculous & you can argue with me if you wanna, but this really is the only explanation me, and many other tanaka stans, have come up with.

in conclusion, my bisexual king tanaka has always been shippable with other characters, you were all just too weak & too boring to see it BYEEEE~

As a little girl, Lily had never particularly liked her name for three very important reasons.
For one, the idea of everyone in the family being named after flowers, while seemingly a good one from the outside, got a little boring when she had to write out Christmas letters to Aunt Daisy, cousin Daisy, and second cousin once removed Daisy; or when someone yelled Rose at a party and four women answered.
Secondly, Lily didn’t even particularly like lilies. Her favorite flowers were sunflowers, thank you very much, and when boys tried to flirt with her by giving her lilies she usually just got annoyed.
Lastly, and most importantly, lilies were a funeral flower, and Lily Evans was anything but a funeral. Lily Evans was, as a matter of fact, brimming over with life.
In her third year Lily sat next to Sirius Black in Charms, as he had to be separated from his mates due to misbehavior and Flitwick thought she would be a good influence, and during class she learned three very important things about him.
Firstly, he wasn’t as bad as Severus made him out to be, and neither were his friends, as long as they were away from Severus. Often times she could depend on them to make her laugh after a long day, and also hanging about Sirius and his mates enabled her to team up with Peter Pettigrew at cards and trick James Potter out of his “vastly over the top riches”, as Remus Lupin liked to call them.
Secondly, he was immensely posh, and also a pureblood, both of which Lily had known before but never really realized the consequences of, and also was most assuredly not, and so the two of them spent particularly boring classes swapping stories about their upbringings, which culminated in Lily giving Sirius several toy cars for his birthday, which he Charmed to drive through the air and deliver messages to and fro in the Gryffindor common room and dorms.
Lastly, and most importantly, his family also named children according to a theme, in his case stars, and so he partially understood the absurdity of it all. The two took to calling each other by different names every time they saw each other, to the rest of the school’s bemusement, Lily’s favorite for Sirius being Adhara, as it meant virgin and so made Sirius mad, and Sirius’ being mushroom, for no particular reason other than when he called Lily it she would clench her jaw every time without fail and he thought it was hilarious.
In her fifth year Lily did patrols with Remus Lupin, as they were the two fifth year Gryffindor prefects, and also friends, and so she learned three very important things about him.
Firstly, he wasn’t as prim as Sirius made him out to be, and the two spent many happy hours cursing anything that was troubling them while on their patrols, including but not limited to extra long essays, strange chocolate shortages (because Peter kept stealing it) and Sirius’ tendency to wear Lily’s socks, because the two were the same foot size and he insisted her socks were the best for flying in.
Secondly, he was absolute disaster, for all he appeared to be neat and clean, and as Lily was near disaster levels as well, they both had to accept James fussing over them as much as he was allowed, especially the time they came back from patrols with a total of one broken nose, three black eyes, six bruised ribs and two senses of extreme cockiness because they had actually won the fight, no matter their injuries.
Lastly, and most importantly, he was a werewolf, but that wasn’t the really important part. The really important part was that his mates had become illegal Animagus in order to help him, which not only helped their nicknames to actually make some fucking sense, it was also very fucking amazing and gave Lily a new respect for the four boys and their oddly codependent friendship.
In her seventh year Lily dated James, as always had rather liked him, and his head had deflated quite a bit, and in the process she learned three very important things about him.
Firstly, he liked to give her lavish bouquets, but fortunately was a very good listener and so remembered the time she had complained about boys giving her lilys all the time. Instead, James gave her roses on Valentine’s Day, poinsettias and mistletoe on Christmas, violets and buttercups when she was feeling down, and sunflowers for her birthday.
Secondly, he was horrible at understanding the value of money and how to save, as he really was disgustingly rich and didn’t have to. Lily ended up with quite a few beautiful necklaces she didn’t know what to do with until she finally cracked and told James that if he had to buy her something, it may as well be something she needed, and that he could go shopping for clothes with her the next time they went into the village.
Lastly, and most importantly, he loved her quite a lot. Enough, actually, to propose to her, and also to agree to name all their daughters after flowers, because even though Lily hated her name, she intended to pass on the tradition, and James didn’t really care what the kids were named as long as he had enough to put together a full Quidditch team.
In her last year Lily raised her son, as she loved him with all her heart and was in hiding to protect him, and learned three very important things about herself.
Firstly, she was restless in the house they were hiding in, and actually couldn’t stand being inactive. She started brewing potions for the Order with all her spare time, and would send them to Dumbledore every time someone visited.
Secondly, she really did enjoy being a mother, and dreamed of seeing her Harry going off to school to get up to his own mischief, and although she still thought an entire Quidditch team was a rather tall order for children, she would quite like a few more.
Lastly, and most importantly, her name may have been an omen from the start. Because Lily Evans was full of life, but she died too soon, all for the love of her son and her fieriness in standing up for what she believed in.

A/N
Hey babes! Here’s some new writing (finally lol) and also the reason I was on the star name wiki earlier this week! I’m not sure about the format of this tbh but I felt like I needed to get something out cause I’ve been bored with myself frankly. AP tests and finals are coming up quick so don’t expect anything new too soon but I do have a couple things in the works and I’m hoping to get one of my classic bullet point posts done before I go on vacation in June. Ty for reading!

The signs as slightly depressing #JustAustrianThings

Aries: When you’re abroad and people tell you your accent sounds just like Arnold Schwarzenegger’s

Taurus: That culture shock™ when you are used to Gürtel and go to 1. Bezirk

Gemini: Those fundraiser people on the MaHü who talk to you all “friendly” even if you are wearing headphones

Cancer: Carinthia

Leo: Laughing at Tagespresse articles, then realising you actually reading the Kronen Zeitung

Virgo: The declining quality of Schnell Ermittelt

Libra: Wir sind Kaiser guests who aren’t Austrian and don’t really get the show which makes things hella awkward

Scorpio: Ingrid Thurnher’s empty stare when moderating debates and you can just feel her suffering inside

Sagittarius: That fucked up Aida that tries so hard to keep the illusion of class and tradition you have to walk past every day

Capricorn: The danube isn’t even remotely blue and the waltz is so overplayed it’s just cringy also that’s the reason flying with AUA is slightly aggravating

Aquarius: When Maschek cheered you up for exactly 2.54 minutes but now you have to face the reality of not-so-funny politics again

Pisces: Drunk af fans rioting during Football Championships when we lose… again… unsurprisingly

does anyone just tear up thinking abt yoongi’s squishy cheeks and his adorable nose and his cute lil :| face and his soft lips and his soft tummy and his small build and his bright gummy smile and his pure laughter and his pouty face and the way he talks and his rapping and love for music and his quiet genuine love for members, fans, family? does anyone just tear up over yoongi in general?

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 🍉 It’s time for my 2nd giveaway!! 🍉

Greetings everyone! 🍒 I know it ain’t much but I want to say thank you for over 1k followers :-) I will add something extra to the list for every [insert undetermined number] reblogs this gets after 1000. 🌵 Also, I think it’s time I started tracking a personal tag, so tag your posts #yourlovelymonstrosity – I love seeing everyone’s oc! 🌻

Rules:

💣 Mbf yours truly

💣 Only reblogs count as entries

💣 If under 18 must have guardian’s permission to disclose delivery address

💣 No giveaway blogs or bots

💣 Do not tag as ‘giveaway’ or similar

💣 Have a gander at my Archive and/or OC

Prizes:

📷 Pad of sketch paper

📷 Lined notebook

📷 Mindfulness coloring book

📷 Pack of 40 scoubidou strings

📷 Stickers

📷 2-pack of Fujifilm Instax Mini film

📷 Fujifilm Instax Mini photo album (pink)

📷 5 Redbubble stickers (if you don’t like Studio Ghibli or Scott Pilgrim I will get       different ones to those in the photo)

📷 Some extra little bits and bobs

📷 A new pen-pal (if you want)

📷 Your choice of 1 of the following DVDs: Pretty in Pink, Scott Pilgrim vs the World, Donnie Darko, Adventureland, Empire Records, Beetlejuice, The Kids Are All Right, Harold and Maude, 10 Things I Hate About You, Moonrise Kingdom, Howl’s Moving Castle, The Royal Tenenbaums, The Breakfast Club, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off

📷 2 of these 4 pairs of art socks

📷 This rainbow hat

📷 Ideas for additional prizes: LUSH bathbomb, gel pens, pencils, Qwertee.com giftcard, other giftcards, temporary tattoos, incense….. Let me know your ideas!

For extra entries:

🌈 Reblog from my mine & moi tags

🌈 Check out pizza-and-pot

🌈 Follow me on Twitter and/or Instagram

🌈 The 4 blogs listed under ‘biggest fans’ on my Activity page when the giveaway ends will have their number of entires doubled…

🌈 Alternatively/in addition, if I see your blog in my Activity/Inbox often enough to make an impression, I’ll double your number of entries

🌈 Check out and follow my current favorite blogs

🌈 Tag me in stuff ‘cause I love seeing everyone’s oc :-)

Let me know if you do any of these things so I know to give you extra entries !!!

🌵 My Snapchat is bluejules528491 if you’re interested in that; just let me know if you add me so I know who you are on Tumblr too 🌵

The boring stuff:

⭐️ I will ship internationally and try my best to acquire the appropriate region DVD for the winner

⭐️ Winner will be chosen using a RNG

⭐️ If there are enough notes, this ENDS >>15th MAY 2017<<.  If not, I’ll extend it a bit.

⭐️ Keep an eye on this post as I might make changes

And don’t forget to tag your stuff with #yourlovelymonstrosity !! Happy Reblogging! 🍒 [This is in no way affiliated with Tumblr or any other branded items included in the prizes]