And suddenly it all makes sense

There’s a fire in all of us. That fire comes in different forms (negative or positive), its what you choose to do with it that gives it that power. Make it positive. You’ll be unstoppable.
—  Dannnijay (via OptimisticallyAstray)

Anderson Cooper: Thank you, Mr. Trump. The question from Patrice was about are you both modeling positive and appropriate behavior for today’s youth? We received a lot of questions online, Mr. Trump, about the tape that was released on Friday, as you can imagine. You called what you said locker room banter. You described kissing women without consent, grabbing their genitals. That is sexual assault. You bragged that you have sexually assaulted women. Do you understand that? 

Donald Trump: No, I didn’t say that at all. I don’t think you understood what was – this was locker room talk. I’m not proud of it. I apologize to my family. I apologize to the American people. Certainly I’m not proud of it. But this is locker room talk. You know, when we have a world where you have ISIS chopping off heads, where you have – and, frankly, drowning people in steel cages, where you have wars and horrible, horrible sights all over, where you have so many bad things happening, this is like medieval times. We haven’t seen anything like this, the carnage all over the world. And they look and they see. Can you imagine the people that are, frankly, doing so well against us with ISIS? And they look at our country and they see what’s going on. Yes, I’m very embarrassed by it. I hate it. But it’s locker room talk, and it’s one of those things. I will knock the hell out of ISIS. We’re going to defeat ISIS. ISIS happened a number of years ago in a vacuum that was left because of bad judgment. And I will tell you, I will take care of ISIS.

Anderson Cooper: So, Mr. Trump… 

Donald Trump: And we should get on to much more important things and much bigger things. 

Anderson Cooper: Just for the record, though, are you saying that what you said on that bus 11 years ago that you did not actually kiss women without consent or grope women without consent? 

Donald Trump:  I have great respect for women. Nobody has more respect for women than I do.

Anderson Cooper: So, for the record, you’re saying you never did that?

Donald Trump: I’ve said things that, frankly, you hear these things I said. And I was embarrassed by it. But I have tremendous respect for women.

Anderson Cooper: Have you ever done those things?

Donald Trump: And women have respect for me. And I will tell you: No, I have not. And I will tell you that I’m going to make our country safe. We’re going to have borders in our country, which we don’t have now. People are pouring into our country, and they’re coming in from the Middle East and other places.We’re going to make America safe again. We’re going to make America great again, but we’re going to make America safe again. And we’re going to make America wealthy again, because if you don’t do that, it just – it sounds harsh to say, but we have to build up the wealth of our nation.

Anderson Cooper: : Thank you, Mr. Trump.


Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.

Dalai Lama (via OptimisticallyAstray)

>> Remember, you control you & no one else. Stay positive, stay beautiful & stay strong

Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.
—  Mahatma Gandhi
A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.

Hugh Downs (via OptimisticallyAstray)

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A behavior modification aftermath

Content note: This post is written with parents and professionals in mind. It’s about a common way that rewards-based behavior modification hurts people, and the importance of being aware of that effect in work with people who might be ABA survivors.

I’ve seen a lot of well-meaning people who are trying to fix special education and adult disability services say things like “you have to find out what they’re interested in and incorporate it.”

This can be good advice. It’s also important to realize that this is loaded, and that not all disabled people are going to be willing or able to show you what they’re interested in.

For people with disabilities, “what do you like?” can be a deeply intimate personal question. It can be very dangerous to let people know what you are interested in.

Autistic people (and others with intellectual and developmental disabilities) are often subjected to intense behavior modification. This is often aimed at silencing them, getting them to pretend to be non-autistic, or otherwise change in ways that deny fundamental things about who they are.

You have to take some pretty extreme methods to get someone to comply with that kind of behavior program. One traditional way is to use painful punishment like starvation and electric shock. These days, that’s considered distasteful, and most therapists prefer to use positive methods.

In practice, what that often means is that anything a disabled person expresses interest in will be taken away and used as a reinforcer for a behavior plan. The more they care about something, the more their access to it will be contingent with compliance with what powerful people in their life want.

Even if the thing they care about is something like math. Or books. Or access to fresh air. Or their teddy bear.

People subjected to this kind of thing learn quickly that when they express interest in something, it will probably be taken away.

And beyond that, they learn that when people know what you care about, they will use it to manipulate you into doing awful things to yourself. In many cases, this includes being manipulated into maintaining a grateful affect and praising the therapist.

When people have experienced this type of violation, sharing their interests with anyone is a big risk. Particularly if that person has power over them. Particularly if that person is a member of a professional culture that largely approves of what was done to them. (And if you’re a teacher, therapist, direct support professional, or similar, you have power over them and your professional culture approves of misusing it.)

It’s important to keep in mind that people you work with have every reason to believe that it is dangerous to tell you what they care about. They don’t know what you will do with that information, and have every reason to believe that you will use it against them. (Or that information they give you will get back to people who will do so.) It might take a long time before some people are willing to share their interests. Some people may never trust you. The way you teach and offer support needs to take this into account.

tl;dr It’s important to be aware of the loaded nature of asking disabled people to express interest in things. It’s important to make space to incorporate interests; it’s also important to allow people to keep their interests private.


If you didn’t pick today, go you, I’m so proud of you

If you didn’t pick as much as you usually do, I’m so proud of you

and if you picked liked crazy, couldn’t even try to stop, then regardless,

I’m still so proud of you, people have bad days and you got through, so I’m still proud regardless.

Shout-out to bi folks who didn’t discover their orientation until after committing to monogamous relationships

Your identity is valid even if you’ve only had relationships with one gender. You don’t have to risk your relationship in order to confirm your attractions to other genders, if that’s not the right decision for you and your partner. You don’t need to prove anything. Orientation =/= behavior.

You are valid and part of the bi community. 

actual mental illness positivity: educating yourself on mental illnesses, their treatment and coping methods, constantly working on your self-awareness, broadening and improving your self-help methods, accepting yourself in order to move forward and grow as a person, knowing your weaknesses, seeking to achieve a comfortable, stable condition in order to live happily with yourself and surrounding people

tumblr mental illness positivity!! ☆ : these toxic behaviors and shitty traits are ~~totoes alrighty~~ if you self-dxed with these mental illnesses! don’t forget to prove everyone you’re mentally ill by publicly showing off those symptoms you read about on wikipedia that you might not even actually have. this post i made is about anime but i myself have 20+ disorders so if you don’t have those don’t reblog uwu

Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.
—  Mahatma Gandhi (via OptimisticallyAstray)