positive-behavior

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so a while back I mentioned that I was offered a position as galapagos tortoise trainer and I finally got some pictures! this is my girl Moe and I love her dearly

what we do is a lot of voluntary and natural behaviors with positive reinforcement. no punishment ever. we also never withhold food. all the food reinforcers we use are extra treats that they get for training.

the third picture is a “lift” behavior where we tap their foot, and once they lift and allow us to hold, we reinforce. this is a great behavior for getting a good look at the tortoise’s legs since you can’t lift the whole tortoise to get a better look at their feet.

To deter crime and promote positive behavior, all citizens are wired with ocular and aural recorders. During a routine bulk data analysis, it’s discovered that an entire small town has “gone dark”. You’re sent to investigate.

Kin without Ableism

Identifying as otherkin or having kintypes can be a fantastic coping mechanism or a spiritual belief, however, neither coping nor spirituality are exempt from potentially being ableist.  

Please don’t:

  • Use the word “system” to describe your collection of kintypes. This is a word used by people with Dissociative Identity Disorder to describe the collection of identities severe childhood trauma split off. This is not appropriate to use for kin. This especially goes for alter- alters are trauma-split identity fragments in DID, not kintypes. I’d prefer you not use “headmates” either, regardless of what kin experiences you’re using the word to describe, there’s probably a better word to use.
  • Use the word fronting to describe kinshifts. Instead of, “Keith is fronting right now,” please try “I’m kinshifting Keith,” “I’m really feeling Keith right now,” etc. Fronting is related to alters and DID. It’s not appropriate to use for kin. 
  • Claim amnesia between kinshifts. Kinshifts are shifts of your identity, how you feel, how you react to situations. You shouldn’t have memory issues or a different core identity between kinshifts, and if you do, you need to seek professional help because you could be having seizures or another serious issue. 
  • Intentionally fracture off parts of yourself or treat specific kintypes as “not you.”
  • Diagnose your kintypes with mental illnesses and claim to have those mental illnesses because of kintypes. If you feel like you might have a severe mental illness, it’s up to you to cope with that and work on feeling better. 
  • Equate kin memories to repressed memories or “true” body memories. If a part of your spirituality is believing in past lives and you have memories of your kintypes, that’s great! However, equating it to recovered trauma memories, body memories (things you’ve experienced in this lifetime), etc is ableist. 
  • Don’t take up trauma survivor’s spaces based on kin memories of trauma. If you have a kintype that’s survived CSA, you may not claim space as a CSA survivor unless you’ve experienced that trauma in this body/life. If you have repressed trauma, it could present as nightmares and you could misinterpret that as kin memories. If you have nightmares of trauma or think you have traumatic kin memories, it’s definitely worth looking into with a therapist. You could be recovering memories and it would be damaging to cast them aside as kin memories. 

Please do:

  • Seek professional help if kintypes make you feel worse. If you feel out of control, if you feel like kintypes are controlling you or hurting yourself/others, if you feel disconnected from reality, if you have vivid or traumatic kin memories, if you have hallucinations/delusions, if kintypes make you feel worse instead of better at any point, please seek professional help. There could be something else going on.
  • Do educate yourself on the differences between tulpas, soulbonds, kintypes, etc and alters. Fictives (fictional introjects) are a type of alter, which again are specific to DID. Alters are split off from severe childhood trauma, and fictives are just alters who have similar grounded identities to that of fictional characters. This is not equatable to kintypes, IDs, soulbonds, etc. 
  • Listen to members of marginalized groups and keep your coping and spiritual beliefs free of ableism, racism, transphobia, etc!
  • Use your kintypes to make yourself a better person! It can be a powerful coping tool and a powerful tool for spirituality! If you’re using kin to cope with trauma, mental illness, everyday life, etc, that’s great. I’m pro-kin, just not pro-ableism and silencing of trauma survivors!


Kintypes are not the same as alters. The core difference is that kintypes are you, whereas alters are split from severe dissociation and trauma and are not you. It’s disrespectful and ableist to equate these. 

Most of the time, kintypes and related beliefs and behaviors can be changed and directed. If your behavior is ableist, racist, or unhealthy for you, it can be changed for the positive! Coping behaviors and spiritual beliefs are not exempt from criticism. 

updated sunny ref

she’s actually based off one of my middle school sonas i managed to salvage bits and pieces of. she’s kind of a way for me to put a positive spin on traits/behaviors i have that i have difficulty dealing with. i never really made different outfits or even different palettes for her different moods (there’s obviously a lot more than those on-the-spot examples) but! they can be anything from storms to sunsets to seasons. idk if i’ll incorporate it much in the future but it gives me opportunities for coloring practice!

Unique Russian words

почемучка: (n) one who asks too many questions
Often used by parents as a term of endearment, ‘pochemuchka’ is a unique Russian word that denotes a curious kid who wants to know everything in the world and keeps asking ‘why?’ (‘почему?’).

_переподвыподверт: (n) sth. done in a complex, incomprehensible way
The word ‘perepodvypodvert’ kind of embodies itself, as it has four prefixes including one that repeats itself twice.

недоперепил: (v) under-over-drunk
To say that someone ‘nedoperepil’ is to say that they drank more than they should have, but less than they could have.

тоска: (n) ache of soul, longing with nothing to long for.

Vladimir Nabokov, the famous Russian-American author of ‘Lolita,’ put it best: “No single word in English renders all the shades of ‘toska.’ At its deepest and most painful, it is a sensation of great spiritual anguish, often without any specific cause. At less morbid levels it is a dull ache of the soul, a longing with nothing to long for, a sick pining, a vague restlessness, mental throes, yearning. In particular cases it may be the desire for somebody of something specific, nostalgia, love-sickness. At the lowest level it grades into ennui, boredom.”

пороша: (n) fresh powdery snow that fell at night .

A pristine layer of snow that fell on a windless night or towards the evening, untouched outside of the occasional footprints of birds and beasts.

попутчик: (n) stranger you connect to on a trip .


Unlike a travel companion you’ve known before, a ‘poputchik’ is a complete stranger who happens to travel in the same direction and share your coupe on a train. You are free to open up completely to your best friend pro tempore, because you know that the person will get off at a far away stop, never to be seen again, taking your secrets safely with them… …unless you become lifelong friends from thereon!

заводила: (n) so. who often starts up something
Someone is said to be a ‘zavodila’ if they can motivate everyone around them to do something, without blackmail or aggression, but through pure goodwill, confidence and by setting an example. A ‘zavodila’ can incite both positive and negative behavior.

Why I Don't Like Kacchako

My post is going to get hate. I like venting my opinions.

I personally don’t like Kacchako because it reinforces the “All Girls Want Bad Boys” trope, a trope I HATE so much. I prefer seeing the nice guy get the girl because nice guys should receive positive consequences for good behavior. Nice guys deserve love more than the bad boys. If you want people to like you, be nice. It’s a simple concept.

Also, Bakugou has bullied Midoriya, Uraraka’s close friend, for most of his life and shows less respect towards her because of her friendship with Midoriya. That should be a big turn off for Uraraka. Bakugou reluctantly respecting her shouldn’t be enough for her to overlook Bakugou’s bullying. Sure, Bakugou and Midoriya’s relationship has gotten better, but that’s not enough considering Bakugou hasn’t had any nice moments with Uraraka for over one hundred chapters. It doesn’t even seem like they’re friends, just people who tolerate and respect each other. One doesn’t care much about the other.

I also find it annoying how people ship them after only a couple scenes when Uraraka has so much chemistry and development with other characters throughout the series, like Midoriya, Iida, and Tsuyu. The Bakugou and Uraraka fight is for individual character development rather than relationship development. Uraraka and Bakugou barely interact after their fight, and their relationship plays no significant role and gets very little development, if any, in future chapters.

Uraraka and Midoriya have had a lot of moments leading up to the fight and after the fight. They’ve been so sweet to each other. They’ve been each other’s number one fans. Uraraka was even trying to be more like Midoriya and was thinking about him while fighting Bakugou. It’s crazy how people can dismiss their close companionship and favor the very few moments Bakugou and Uraraka have. Midoriya being Uraraka’s number one supporter and close friend should be more important than Bakugou’s reluctant respect towards Uraraka.

Again, sorry about this post. I don’t normally care too much about ships. There’s just something about the overwhelming support for Kacchako that rubs me the wrong way. Since Bakugou barely interacts with any of the girls, it feels like people are desperate to ship him with some girl, so they ship him with Uraraka because she’s the only girl he has important moments with, albeit VERY FEW, and the moments they have are over 100 chapters ago.

Sorry if you’re a Kacchako shipper and you read this post. You can ship whatever you want. Don’t worry. I’m only one person with an opinion.

The Ascendant

The ascendant is the sign that was rising on the horizon at the exact moment that we were born. Also known as the rising sign, it is our persona and operates as a mask that we reach for when we’re entering new situations, meeting new people, etc. It is the set of behaviors that we learned growing up that could help us navigate the world, and the lens through which we greet others. Often times it is related to the type of child our parents wished us to be.

Aries ascendant – The learned behavior is fiery and take-charge, the native was taught to lead with their passion.

Taurus ascendant – The learned behavior is steady and serene, the native was taught to remain calm in all circumstances.

Gemini ascendant – The learned behavior is bubbly and energetic, the native was taught to engage with their environment in order learn about their surroundings.

Cancer ascendant – The learned behavior is protective and emotional, the native was taught to enter cautiously and trust their instincts.

Leo ascendant – The learned behavior is boisterous and warm, the native was taught to lead with a smile and their ego.

Virgo ascendant – The learned behavior is cool and analytical, the native was taught to dissect their environment in order to learn about their surroundings.

Libra ascendant – The learned behavior is charming and approachable, the native was taught to engage by being inquisitive and lighthearted.

Scorpio ascendant – The learned behavior is calculated and intense, the native was taught to read between the lines in any situation.

Sagittarius ascendant – The learned behavior is positive and upfront, the native was taught to be forthright and believe in themselves.

Capricorn ascendant – The learned behavior is careful and considered, the native was taught to put their best face forward in all situations, and to be wary of showing undesirable traits.

Aquarius ascendant – The learned behavior is erratic and intelligent, the native was taught to shake up their surroundings to get a feel for what’s genuine.

Pisces ascendant – The learned behavior is nebulous and changeable, the native was taught to adapt to any environment in order to fit in.

Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.
—  Mahatma Gandhi

I think people should consider Tweek’s role in the Creek relationship more. We know Craig has a very calming effect on Tweek and is the more down to earth of the two. But Tweek also provides balance to the relationship by being much more outwardly emotional and empathetic than Craig is. As shown in Tweek x Craig, he’s great at understanding and communicating feelings and I think this side of him is a major reason he’s such a good actor. 

Craig is the exact opposite. He’s apathetic, deadpan, poor/uncomfortable with communicating his feelings, far from affectionate, blunt, and dismissive of most people and their feelings. When he’s NOT being completely apathetic, he’s probably being aggressive. These traits most likely come from his dad encouraging masculine behavior in Craig since all of these traits are stereotypical masculine behavior and we know, from Tweek x Craig, masculinity is important to Thomas and probably Craig as well. 

Despite these traits being learned behavior, I also think they are a part of who Craig is and unlikely to change. Being outwardly uncaring comes naturally to him (something I can relate to). While this may sound like an unappealing attitude in a partner, Tweek appreciates Craig for who he is and enjoys the positive sides to Craig’s behavior: he’s calm and unlikely to panic or end up in dangerous situations in the first place. 

Tweek is empathetic and understanding enough to not need or demand that  Craig be more affectionate. Tweek knows Craig cares about him regardless of what Craig shows on the outside. When Tweek gave Craig a speech about how much he means to him, he didn’t expect something similar in return and was satisfied with Craig silently joining hands with him in the end. When there is something related to feelings that NEEDS to be communicated between the two, Tweek is good enough at doing so that he can compensate for Craig’s emotional constipation and encourage Craig to be more open when the situation demands it. 

This is how I interpret their relationship at least. They work in a way that’s much deeper and more endearing than “Craig calms Tweek down so they’re in love”. 

Rickmorty Maleficent AU

I watched Maleficent lately and I thought that a RickMorty AU of it would be absolutely great. I mean:

Imagine Rick as Maleficent, a spirit of the forest with majestic black wings, wickedly curved horns and the strongest magic the realm has ever seen. Imagine he was a force to be reckoned with, a god with no equal, being able to weave thunderstorms and will beasts into submission with only a flick of his finger.

Rick was the lord of all the fairies and monsters and magical creatures who presided in the forest, thousands of years old and eternal. He flies high over the cliffs and mountains of his forest, seeing the rise and fall of numerous generations of his subjects. They worship him, adore him, idolize him, but they were ever wary and never got too close. In the safety of the quiet night sky, he soars, ever watchful and waiting but growing bored of the monotony of being an unwilling guardian to a realm too used to his presence.

So he wanders the borders of the forest for the very first time, forced to fly alone, both figuratively and literally. He glances down and finds himself wondering if there was anyone else who could look at the forest the same way he did and see how utterly insignificant it truly was.

And that’s when he sees his first human.

Her name was Beth, and if he was a lord of the sky, she was the sweet child of the Earth. She was soft, kind and  brimming with a realism that he has never encountered. She was a young daughter of a nobleman, only sixteen years of age, and she spoke of fantastic things: a land beyond the forest,  homes studded with stars, tall castles that loomed over everything that surrounded it, and a strange concept called love.

[What is love? Rick knew nothing about it.]

Rick cared for her like a father, teaching her the secrets of the forest, of its inhabitants and its magic, encouraging her to meet him in her past time and swearing her to secrecy. Years and years go by, which usually felt like weeks to Rick but now felt like mere moments he watched Beth grow up.

But then, just when Rick thought he had a chance of finding that ever elusive thing that was his happiness, a man named Jerry quickly comes and steals her away from him, monopolizing her time, and eventually, her heart. And at the disbelieving look of Jerry, who couldn’t fathom the existence of magic, Beth shows him proof. She takes him to the forest and, hidden behind the thick undergrowth, shows him the very being that had taught her everything she knew.

Jerry, terrified at the prospect of a powerful and immortal spirit hanging around his Beth, watches and waits until the monster called Rick gets drunk on sunwater brew. He cuts off Rick’s wings to show an anguished Beth the appendages of her beloved guardian and trick her into thinking he was dead. She gets pregnant, agrees to marry him and they move to her castle, eventually becoming the rulers of her kingdom.

In the forest, Rick wakes up to find that his wings, the only things that ever gave him any joy, freedom or peace of mind, has been stolen from him. He screams in rage, vowing revenge on the human thief that he remembered in one fleeting moment of clarity.

Months pass and Beth dies giving birth to her one and only child, Morty, leaving her inept husband to rule alone. And at the party celebrating Morty’s birth, an uninvited guest turns up.

It was Rick. In all his anger and pain and misery, he has been waiting all this time to inflict the most pain on the man who took everything from him. He curses baby Morty to prick his finger and fall asleep on his 18th birthday. Unless he kissed his true love, he would fall into an eternal slumber. Rick leaves, never knowing it was his beloved Beth’s son, who had disappeared without a trace all those months ago.

[Love is corrosive, poisonous and detrimental to individuals and society in general. It encourages irrational behavior.]

Morty grows up sheltered and estranged from his father, who had sent him off in a tiny cottage in the middle of nowhere in fear that Rick would find him. But Rick had already found Morty: Rick was determined to see his curse come to fruition, and nothing would stand in his way, not even the prospect of Morty dying before his 18th birthday.

So Rick reluctantly protects him, using just the barest smidge of his magic to scoot Morty away from danger. He watches over him, seeing the little shit grow up and retain the sort of naivety that should have annoyed Rick but only made Morty all the more endearing. He grated on Rick’s nerves, but a toothy smile from the toddler never failed to stir something in his centuries-old heart. There was just something about Morty that reminded him of the kindness of humans that made Rick want to mess with him a bit.

Like the time when Morty was playing out in the gardens and  a rabid wolf appeared behind him. Instead of crying, Morty reached up and hugged it. The maid would swear up and down that she had seen a horned devil beside the wolf. A stablehand would later tell Jerry the story of Morty happily playing with a flock of ravens and crows. Another visitor to the cottage would say that Morty would giggle and float in midair at random times.

[Love doesn’t exist. What they call love is simply a primal instinct that evolved in so-called higher-order animals to encourage positive social behavior.]

 One day, everything changes. 15-year-old Morty looks at Rick straight in the eye, through all the charms and magic spells he used to disguise himself, and says, “I-I know you’re watching me, don’t be scared. I-I-I wouldn’t hurt nobody, I promise.”

So Rick replies,  "I-I’m not hiding. I’m not a ‘lil pussy like you, M-m-morty,“ and steps out of the shadows.

And from then on, it was different. No more hiding and waiting in the distance for Rick. From then on, he showed himself to Morty and made no effort to hide who he was. For the first time in years, Rick used his magic for a human.

 Every day was a new adventure and a new thing to teach the young boy. It reminded Rick wistfully of his days with Beth, but with Morty, it became so much more because of his eagerness to learn and his rapt wonder at Rick’s magic and knowledge. If his time with Beth made time fly by faster, then his time with Morty was a slow crawl; where every moment he spent with the boy was akin to a soothing fire that warmed him to his very core. It made him want to etch his memories of Morty on his bones.

They grow closer throughout their adventures, and Rick and Morty never leave each other’s side for very long. When Morty’s honey-amber eyes widened in delight when he showed him his magic, it made him want to show off even more. When Morty’s cheeks glistened with fresh tears, it made him want to set hellhounds on whatever had saddened him. It was addicting and exhilarating for Rick, and he couldn’t get enough of his smiles, his laughter, his company.

[But no, Rick wouldn’t call it love. He never believed in the existence of love, not even when he still had Beth.]

Rick didn’t even realize that it doesn’t take his wings being ripped out to fall for Morty.

Each day brought Morty closer to his own end and a new sort of despair for Rick. His curse could not be undone without true love’s kiss. Torn between protecting the one human he learned to truly care for, and finally fulfilling his revenge, he chooses to sacrifice his revenge and tells Morty the truth weeks before he turns 18. Heartbroken, betrayed, and distraught, Morty runs away from the cottage, away from Rick’s  revelation and into the safety of his mundane father.

When the inevitable finally happens on Morty’s birthday, all the kingdom mourns. Noblewomen and commoners alike line up to see if they could break the curse with their kiss. Rick only watches, helpless and hoping that anyone would be able to undo the fatal mistake he had made.

When the last hopeful, Jessica, leaves the room in disappointment, Rick stands up wordlessly, sits by the bed, and takes Morty’s limp hand in his. He memorizes the curve of his mouth, his soft brown curls, and the sound of his snore as he slept his life away. And he finally realizes that Morty, who so resembled the girl who had first taught him love in appearance and demeanor, must have been her son. So Rick cries, for the first time in his entire existence, at the loss of the only two people he considered his family.

[Love is painful, like glass shards in your chest, slowly cutting you up on the inside until there is nothing left.]

As the clock tolls midnight, he looks at the one person he cared for– no, lovedand runs a hand through the boy’s head. He presses a kiss on his soft and pliant mouth as his final goodbye. As Rick get up to leave, a hand suddenly shoots up and yanks him back down by the bed.

Rick and Morty stare at each other dumbfoundedly; Rick because Morty had finally woken up and Morty because never had he ever expected to see Rick with tears running down his cheeks. Rick was crying for him. For him.

"Y-you kissed me Rick. Y-you broke the spell with true l-l-love.”

Morty was wide awake and his eyes were filled to the brim with something utterly alien and yet familiar to Rick. He could barely process the fact that he had just woken the boy up with his kiss before Morty mumbles, “It felt like I was wai-waiting forever for y-you to do that,” and pulls him down for another one.

This time it was all teeth and tongue and inexperience, so Rick settles himself on top of the boy and deepened the kiss with the expertise only he could accomplish. When they finally break apart, their lips swollen and breaths ragged, Rick gives Morty a rare genuine smile.

“L-l-et’s be together fo-for a hundred years Rick, l-l-et’s run away together.”

“A hundred years i-isn’t enough for me Morty, I-I think I waOOUGHHnt to keep you around forever.” Rick dives back onto Morty’s mouth, heart singing and his soul in the heavens.

[Love exists, and Rick knows what it is.]

Jerry can keep his wings. He doesn’t need it to soar anymore.

The Freudian Theory of Enneagram

I. OVERVIEW

My interest in enneagram is not the behaviors associated with these core personality features, but why these fears and desires came into existence in the first place. In other words, which elements of personality determine a person’s type?

Many newcomers to enneagram reject it because it seems almost arbitrary. For example, wing theory is supported by extensive observation but the actual reason for wing theory is nebulous at best. That’s a theme in the enneagram: there’s a great deal of accurate observational evidence, but there’s no lynchpin to tie it together. My position is that the enneagram is not arbitrary at all: in fact, it’s entirely internally consistent. This is achieved by looking at the enneagram through the lens of Freudian psychoanalysis.

Sigmund Freud developed the structural model of the psyche: he posited that there was an id, ego, and superego, existing at different levels of awareness within the mind. I’m going to explore the connection between the nine enneatypes and the id, ego, and superego agencies.

Freud proposed that a libidinal energy exists, which represents all psychic (mental) energy. Every mental process takes some amount of this energy. There is a finite amount of libidinal energy, and someone who invests their libidinal energy into their id will likely be very different than someone who invests this energy into the superego. My theory is that each enneagram type spends their libidinal energy in different ways, and this can be explained through Freudian psychoanalysis.

II. INTRODUCTION TO THE FREUDIAN AGENCIES

Almost everyone is familiar with the concepts of the id, ego, and superego. Collectively, they are called the Freudian agencies. Don’t confuse these with the Freudian drives. The drives are Eros and Thanatos (Love and Death, respectively.) The drives are not discussed in my post.

Here’s a brief summary so we’re all on the same page. If you already know this, then skip down to the next section. (Even if you think you know this, you may want to give it a quick skimming!

You can visualize the human mind as having three levels: conscious, pre-conscious, subconscious. The conscious level is where you are right now. The pre-conscious exists just under the surface of the conscious mind. You can access the pre-conscious but it’s a challenge. Accessing the subconscious is even harder, and Freudian psychoanalysis relies on clues to figure that level out. (You may have heard of Freudian dream analysis; the purpose of it is to plumb the subconscious.)

The id, ego, and superego exist across these levels. Here’s a great diagram for illustration purposes:


Keep that in mind as we discuss the id, ego, and superego.

  • Id: The id is a reservoir of psychic energy and the only component of the personality that’s present at birth. It wants immediate gratification; it’s impulsive, desirous and chaotic. As you can tell, the id is very troublesome; it’s not rational. It doesn’t consider the consequences of its actions. It utilizes what Freud called “primary process thinking”; when the id cannot be satisfied, it generates a mental image of what it wants to satiate it. (Keep this in mind when we discuss Type 3.) It’s considered “primary” because it exists before all other processes. The id is entirely subconscious.
  • Ego: The ego is your interface to reality. It exists in both the conscious mind and the pre-conscious mind. This is the part of your mind that’s responsible for rational decision-making. It utilizes “secondary process thinking”, which acts to rationally get what you want. Instead of imagining the pizza in your id with the “primary process”, the “secondary process” is what induces you to call up the pizza place.
  • Superego: The superego develops over time, and it’s the last to form. It contains all your standards of right and wrong. Contrary to popular belief, this isn’t just the conscience. It contains the ego ideal and the conscience, and they’re two sides of the same coin. The ego ideal is the summation of all positive behaviors. A good example might be “sharing” or “being helpful.” The conscience is the flipside; it only comes into play with negative behaviors. It makes you feel bad when you do something against your ego ideal. (Keep this in mind when we talk about Type 6.)

As you can see, there are some themes here. You can see how the id and the superego are going to butt heads with the ego acting as an intermediary. This is important when analyzing the types.

Lastly, Freud developed the concept of the libido. The libido is a pool of energy that you can spend on mental tasks. It’s conceivable that you could spend more libidinal energy on your superego desires than your id desires (or ego instead of id, or so on), and thus, enneatypes are born.

III. THE FREUDIAN ENNEAGRAM

Each enneagram type is distinct because of their unique set of fears and desires. These fears and desires are the core components of each type, and they can be explained using a Freudian model.

My theory is that every type is associated with libidinal energy expenditure on the id, ego, or superego. This means that an id type would prefer id motivations in their daily life, while a superego type would look toward their superego. This doesn’t mean that id types don’t have a superego, it’s just less used than a superego type, for example.

A) ID AGENCY (Desirous/Energetic/Aggressive)

ENNEATYPE 3: ID ACHIEVER

Basic Fear: To become worthlessness.

Basic Desire: To become usefulness and to have value.

Agency: Id

The Type 3 is a motivated, goal-oriented achiever. They are part of the Image triad in Enneagram, and many people associate the Type 3 with “ostentatiousness”; but that there’s far more to Type 3 than status seeking. Healthy threes are often industrious and highly successful, and that’s because of their id.

The id is the source of the libido drive. But the libido doesn’t just mean sex! It means all psychic energy. Type 3 is so industrious because they channel their libido into productive pursuits. At the same time, they get a deep id gratification when they accomplish something. They don’t put their energies into serving a higher cause, like Type 1 or 2. Instead, their energy is directed back at themselves. This isn’t a bad thing: it makes Type 3 one of the most dynamic and proactive types in the enneagram.

To Encourage Integration:

Don’t let your id convince you that you are completely responsible for all your successes. Appreciate the contributions of others. Not everything is a competition; you can allow people into your life, even if they steal the spotlight from time to time. As you integrate, you’ll begin to cultivate a 6-like trust of other people.

To Avoid Disintegration:

An unhealthy 3 may fall into the trap of focusing on their own failures and creating more and more apathy. This forms into a downward spiral that can be dangerous. Try not to lose sight of your goals.

Type 3 Wings:

  • Type 3 with a 2 Wing (Id-Superego): A 3w2 focuses their libidinal energies on themselves, but they are much more likely to seek the interaction of others in this process. Nothing would fulfill the 3 id and 2 superego more effectively than bringing some people along for the ride on the Type 3 success train. As a result, 3w2s are often more comforting and energetic than 3w4s.
  • Type 3 with a 4 Wing (Id-Ego): A 3w4 has all the id desires of a 3, but it’s tempered with the withdrawn nature of the 4. The 3w4 is often more detached from others, choosing to cultivate their image from afar. 4 is an ego type, and one coping mechanism for the ego type is to withdraw into itself to avoid the conflict between the id and superego. You can see this in the 3w4: they’d rather build themselves up behind closed doors first, then present themselves to others.

ENNEATYPE 7: ID GRATIFICATION FOCUSED

Basic Fear: To be deprived and to be in pain.

Basic Desire: To have their needs and wants met.

Agency: Id.

The id is the home of the “avoid pain/seek pleasure” principle that seeks the instant gratification of desires and the immediate end to pain. A Type 7 individual focuses their libidinal energy on this principle, producing a dynamic and motivated personality.

Type 7 individuals are truly powerhouses and are perhaps the most energetic type in the enneagram. This energy can make them quite aggressive, although in a less “in your face” way than Type 8. When a Type 7 is doing something they really love, it’s like there’s no stopping them. That’s why Type 7 is often called “The Generalist”; they usually have a wide range of things they like, and they can be enthusiastic about all of them.

Like 8 (another id type) they tend to overdo it when it comes to things they like. This is a classic function of the id.

To Encourage Integration:

Type 7 integrates to Type 5, an ego type. Once the id desires are consistently satisfied, they move some libidinal energy to the ego. As the Type 7 becomes secure and positive in their lives, they are likely to adopt the contemplative and inquisitive nature of the Type 5.

To Avoid Disintegration:

Type 7 disintegrates much like Type 8 and Type 3; all id types share the pattern of lashing out as they disintegrate. The id is not a rational agency and if it’s not satisfied, it can end up self-destructing more easily than you expect. One way to avoid this is to not set unrealistic expectations for life; you don’t want to make your goals unattainable.

Type 7 Wings:

  • Type 7 with a 6 Wing (Id-Superego): The superego elements of Type 6 make Type 7w6 more society-oriented than 7w8. A 7w6 has the characteristic 7 enthusiasm, but they are also aware of what others consider positive because of the superego 6 wing. 7w6s are more like entertainers, directing their energy toward socially exciting activities. The 7w6 is often the life of the party.
  • Type 7 with an 8 Wing (Id-Id): 7w8 combines an id core type with an id wing and this creates a very assertive personality. They direct their incredible energy almost entirely on their id, making them extremely passionate. No type is likely to be adventurous like a 7w8.

ENNEATYPE 8: ID POWER FOCUSED

Basic Fear: To be harmed or controlled by others.

Basic Desire: To be in control of their own life.

Agency: Id.

A Type 8 individual has a well-developed id, which motivates them to be independent and resourceful. A Type 8 knows what they want - and they know that the most direct path is the quickest way to get it. For that reason, Type 8s are straightforward, assertive, and direct. The id tends to push to get to what it wants, so it won’t back down when confronted with resistance. In fact, resistance only makes the Type 8 amp up the aggression; they are going to get what they want.

The vice of Type 8 is often called “lust”, and that makes sense. They want what they want, and they want lots of it.

This is why conflict energizes an 8: it satisfies their id desires. In fact, some 8s may pursue conflict simply because it’s so satisfying to the id. Contrast this with counterphobic 6: a cp6 is aggressive to deal with fear, an 8 may be aggressive because the aggression itself is satisfying.

However, the id has a side to it that’s more playful, and this comes out with the 8 in private. The 8 ideal is magnamity; the ability to use their power in an equitable and just way. This tends to develop as an 8 grows older.

To Encourage Integration:

Understand that there’s a higher power in not using your power at all. The ultimate test of power is whether you can control yourself or not.

To Avoid Disintegration:

Use your energy in a just way. Not everything is deserving of aggressive confrontation. Understand that not everyone sees conflict the way that you do.

Type 8 Wings:

  • Type 8 with a 7 Wing (Id-Id): The id qualities of 8 and 7 stack in the 8w7. Because of the enthusiast 7 wing, they 8w7 is often very adventurous and intense. 8w7 is also the most likely type to seek conflict for the sake of conflict alone. 8w7s are often unaware of their own strength and may push much more than is necessary to get what they want.
  • Type 8 with a 9 Wing (Id-Ego): The ego element of Type 9 makes the 8w9 more aware of their impulses. An 8w9 is less likely to underestimate their power, like an 8w7. This awareness gives the 8w9 better impulse control than 8w7, so the 8w9 is less likely to strike out at others without being provoked first. They are much more likely to draw a line in the sand and dare you to cross it. However, 8w9s run the risk of bottling up their aggression and having it explode at inopportune moments.

B) EGO AGENCY (Withdrawn/Identity Focused)

ENNEATYPE 4: EGO IDENTITY  

Basic Fear: To lose their identity.

Basic Desire: To be unique and authentic.

Agency: Ego.

The ego is in a tough position: it’s the mediator between the id, superego, and the outside world. It takes a great deal of libidinal energy to juggle this many factors at one time: so, to compensate, Type 4 withdraws and constructs a unique image inside themselves to rise above the stresses caused by their most basic impulses. Indeed, according to enneagram theory, the Type 4’s highest virtue is “equanimity”, which means balance under stress.

Consequently, Type 4s are artistic and unique individuals. They are inherently romantic, relishing in the bittersweet separation they feel from the rest of the world. On one hand, it’s bitter because they’ll never see themselves as integrated into the rest of the world. But it’s also sweet, because it confirms how unique they are, thus alleviating the identity confusion that inherently comes with the id-superego tension. Instead of bowing to the id, or the superego, or the outside world, they take a fourth path - that is, withdrawal from the world. This makes Type 4 possibly the most creative enneatype.

Type 4s often favor esoteric ideas, but not always. Concepts that are just as unique as they are often appeal to them. Their ego is constantly filtering, deciding what to integrate and what to discard. The Type 4 identity snowballs, growing more expansive as they gain more experiences. Eventually they integrate to Type 1 as their identity solidifies.

To Encourage Integration:

You have to acknowledge that your identity is a work-in-progress at all times. If you’re putting something off because you think you’re not ready… well, stop putting it off!

To Avoid Disintegration:

Be careful: negative emotions can distance you further and further from other people, possibly resulting in depression. Don’t let your ego drive to be unique spiral out of control.

Type 4 Wings:

  • Type 4 with a 3 Wing (Ego-Id): A 4w3 is more in touch with their id desires, giving them a greater outward intensity than the 4w5. 4w3s are often very passionate and active.
  • Type 4 with a 5 Wing (Ego-Ego): The withdrawn traits of 4 and 5 combine here to create a more cerebral 4. 4w5 is usually more esoteric and mystical, and is more likely to withdraw from the world to explore their inner selves. 4w5 may be one of the most contemplative types in the enneagram.

ENNEATYPE 5: EGO KNOWLEDGE

Basic Fear: To be useless or helpless.

Basic Desire: To be competent.

Agency: Ego.

Type 5 is an ego type, and like the Type 4, the Type 5 feels the stress caused by balancing the id, superego, and the outside world. However, they deal with it in a different way than the Type 4. The Enneagram Institute describes the key motivation of five: “To understand the environment, to have everything figured out as a way of defending the self from threats from the environment.” This “defense of self” aspect can only exist in the ego sphere.

The Type 5 is the most likely to declare that knowledge is power. And this makes sense: in an ideal world, the Type 5 would be all-knowing and thus able to handle any problems the ego might face. As the Type 5 becomes more confident in their knowledge, they become assertive like a healthy 8. If they feel that they are useless, they can stop caring and become apathetic like an unhealthy 7.

The cerebral nature of the Type 5, combined with the Type 5 tendency to withdraw into one’s self, creates a rich inner world that’s often inexplicable to other people.

To Encourage Integration:

Recognize that you can do a lot of good with your knowledge; it’s not just for your own mind alone. Feel free to be assertive but magnanimous with what you know.

To Avoid Disintegration:

Don’t over-think things. Type 5 is probably the most likely type to over-analyze and end up never taking action. This can lead to feelings of helplessness. As a 5, you’ll have a tendency to pull away from your emotions. Don’t let this alienate you from yourself.

Type 5 Wings:

  • Type 5 with a 4 Wing (Ego-Ego): 5w4s have the motivation of a 5 with the strong ego identity of a 4. The identity-focused four wing makes the 5w4 more iconoclastic and artistic, as they use their knowledge to drive their own path through the world. A 5w4 is likely to be more in touch with their emotions than a 5w6, although they’re still not comfortable with them. 5w4 often resist the influences of others and can sometimes be mistaken for a Type 8 because of it.
  • Type 5 with a 6 Wing (Ego-Superego): The superego wants to create structure. Type 6 is a superego type, and so a 5w6 will be a more concrete thinker than 5w4 because of it. 5w6s are more likely to be scientific than a 5w4 - instead of using their knowledge to form an identity, they use their knowledge to make all the pieces of the world fit. This means that a 5w6 is less likely to be iconoclastic as they would favor logical systems; for example, the scientific method was probably formulated by a 5w6.

ENNEATYPE 9: EGO MEDIATOR

Basic Fear: To be lost, to be annihilated.

Basic Desire: To have stability and peace of mind.

Agency: Ego

The ego is the rational mediator between id, superego, and the outside world. Type 9 individuals focus their energy on this ego function, making them the regulators of their own mind. They want every facet to mesh well, and their ideal state is one of inner harmony as the id, superego and outside world coexist within them perfectly.

You could think of the Type 9 as loving balance: they want to make sure their id is not too pushy, and their superego isn’t demanding too much, and the outside world is minding their place. If one or more elements becomes out of balance, the Type 9 can get paranoid and suspicious like an unhealthy 6 because they lost the harmony that they invested so much in.

The Type 9 is often called “the mediator” because they seek to eliminate threats to their harmony within their universe, and this sometimes entails settling disputes with other people. But look at the word “mediator” in a broad sense: they want to mediate their inner world, and sometimes they mediate things in the outer world because of it.

The Type 9 is probably the best representation of the ego in the enneagram. It’s my opinion that the purest form of love is created by the ego, and that shines through in the Type 9.

To Encourage Integration:

Be selective about what you do; don’t put yourself in situations that will unbalance you. You want to meet and maintain your ideal inner harmony.

To Avoid Disintegration:

In tough situations, don’t let the stress paralyze you. Because Type 9s are constantly mediating their id, superego and the outside world, they may succumb to simply “shutting down” when it gets too hard. Don’t withdraw like that; power through it.

Type 9 Wings:

  • Type 9 with an 8 Wing (Ego-Id): The 9w8 has a slight id edge that makes them assertive and powerful like a Type 8. However, their aggressive tendencies are looked at in the light of maintaining harmony: they are only going to act like an 8 when it’s to maintain the inner peace. Type 9w8s in difficult situations can often mistype as Type 8s because of this.
  • Type 9 with a 1 Wing (Ego-Superego): The 9w1 has elements of the superego Type 1 in their personality. They embrace the ego ideal of being calm and collected and tend to back off in a conflict. They are more likely to solve a situation by withdrawing instead of fighting, like a 9w8 would. This makes the 9w1 generally more apt to solve interpersonal problems between other people than a 9w8.

C) SUPEREGO AGENCY (Moralistic/Rule Oriented/Structured)

ENNEATYPE 1: SUPEREGO “EGO IDEAL” FOCUSED

Basic Fear: To be corrupt or defective.

Basic Desire: To be good and to have integrity.

Agency: Superego.

Type 1 is the perfect embodiment of the “ego ideal” described by Freud as a part of the superego. Freudian personality theory holds that the superego strives against the id and the ego, and similarly, a Type 1 individual strives to uphold their moral principle. Whatever that principle happens to be, it’s a very real part of the Type 1 lifestyle because the Type 1’s influences often flow from their superego.

Type 1s have a strong ability to determine what is right and what is wrong, and can be judgmental of both themselves and others if they don’t uphold what’s right. They not only have a strong superego, but they are confident in it; enough to present it to the outside world in an often-assertive manner.

If you are a Type 1, you’ll notice that hypocrisy may be an issue for you. There probably have been times in your life where you failed to live up to your ideal, and this may give you some degree of primal satisfaction but you still feel guilty. This is your superego doing battle against your id. A force always takes the path of least resistance - so you are likely to try to justify your actions within your existing rule-set than revise your rules. That’s because you have a very strong superego and it’s difficult to assail directly.

To Encourage Integration:

Allow your id more room to breathe. Fulfill your desires occasionally; take the time to assess the realistic concerns behind your moralistic drives.

To Avoid Disintegration:

Don’t let your superego dictate everything you do; your internal rules may be fallible. Keep in mind that your superego is not rational: it will come up with perfectionist standards that may be completely impossible to follow.

Type 1 Wings:

  • Type 1 with a 9 Wing (Superego-Ego): The link to the ego drive softens the 1w9 in some respects, making them more relaxed as they are more able to temper the will of their superego. This type probably finds it easier to integrate to 7.
  • Type 1 with a 2 Wing (Superego-Superego): This wing doubles-up on superego aspects, making the 1w2 more incorruptible and aggressive than the 1w9. 1w2 is often more confident in their superego ideals and are more likely to be confrontational about them. However, this type is more likely to suffer stress because the superego is not rational and will likely generate unrealistically perfectionist standards.

ENNEATYPE 2: SUPEREGO HELPER

Basic Fear: To be undeserving of love.

Basic Desire: To have unconditional love.

Agency: Superego.

Type 2 is called “The Helper” because this type is associated with a concern for the well-being of others. Any type can care for others, but for Type 2, it’s a core motivation. There’s a tension within Type 2: they help out of the goodness of their heart, but they also want to be loved. This is a typical function of the superego: their superego sees “helping” as a laudable ideal, and the superego reward is love. The id understands love, but not unconditional love; love that extends beyond the present moment is not consistent with the instant gratification drive that the id possesses. Instead, this resides in the superego, and helping others allows the Type 2 to achieve their ego ideal.

There is a darker side to Type 2. Unhealthy Type 2s can be manipulative and fall in love with their own goodness. As I’ve stated before, even though Type 2 is a superego type, a Type 2 individual still possesses an id. For the world to make sense, the Type 2’s ego has to rationalize the conflict between the id and the superego. They do this by turning their instincts into something that they would find morally laudable. This allows them to retain their superego’s integrity while fulfilling id desires.

To Encourage Integration:

Avoid the temptation to only look at your positive elements. Honestly confront your shortcomings, because you can’t deal with them unless you do. This may be psychologically stressful, but it helps you understand your limitations so that you don’t overextend yourself. Once this self-certainty has been attained, the Type 2 gains some assertive characteristics of the Type 8. But instead of being assertive to fulfill their id desires, they become assertive to accomplish their superego’s goal: to help others.

To Avoid Disintegration:

Recognize where your desires are coming from: are you doing things to satisfy some base impulse (id), or are you actually trying to help others (superego)? Try to channel your less altruistic desires into pursuits that don’t put you at risk of manipulating others.

Type 2 Wings:

  • Type 2 with a 1 Wing (Superego-Superego): This wing doubles-up on superego elements, making the 2w1 very moralistic. A 2w1 can appear more “uptight” than a 2w3 in many ways, since the id seems like a foreign force to them. They are more likely to be blindsided by their id desires because of that.
  • Type 2 with a 3 Wing (Superego-Id): A 2w3 is more in touch with their basic id desires, making them more spontaneous and energetic than the 2w1. Some of the 3 image focus bleeds through, making the 2w3 more concerned with how they appear to the outside world than the 2w1. A 2w3 would be more in touch with their primal desires than a 2w1. This is exactly what you would expect out of a Superego-Id connection.

ENNEATYPE 6: SUPEREGO “CONSCIENCE” FOCUSED

Basic Fear: To lack security.

Basic Desire: To have security.

Agency: Superego.

Type 6 is the most misunderstood type in the enneagram. Type 6 qualities are often perceived as contradictory: they like structure, but on the other hand, they can also rebel against it. This is actually perfectly consistent: as a superego type, a Type 6 individual wants to create a set of concrete rules for the world.

Contrast this with Type 1 (another superego type): the Type 1 loves principles, but the Type 6 is about rules. The 6 is always striving to perfect their rule-set; whether that means going their own way in the world or adopting someone else’s set of rules. This explains why Type 6 can be both rebellious and cooperative.

Type 4 and Type 6 are analogous: the Type 4 wants to perfect their identity, and the Type 6 wants to perfect their superego. This is why 6s are seen as troubleshooters: they’re good at sorting through problems to find the answer that their superego seeks.

They are highly aware of what doesn’t fit within their established rule-set, and often focus on the “conscience” aspect of the superego. This is why Type 6 individuals have a very attuned sense for the negative consequences of an action, which reinforces their troubleshooting ability.

As you can see, this constant back-and-forth within the superego creates anxiety. A Type 6 individual puts their libidinal energy into their superego, but there’s always uncertainty for them. There are two ways for a Type 6 to deal with it: by being phobic or counterphobic. A 6 can be phobic at some times and counterphobic at others: they represent two ways of dealing with a fear.

To Encourage Integration: 

You’re a superego type, so you may end up neglecting your id desires. Try to balance yourself like a 9 would. Type 6 integrates into a healthy Type 9, and upon reaching that, you’ll feel much more calm.

To Avoid Disintegration:

 Watch out for pessimism. Self-doubt is your downfall: feel free to doubt the rest of the world, but have faith in yourself.

Type 6 Wings:

  • Type 6 with a 5 Wing (Superego-Ego): A 6w5 combines the troubleshooting nature of a 6 with the cerebral and investigative nature of the 5. A 6w5’s ability to detach from a situation like a 5 can help alleviate some of their anxiety. They have a sense for very precise details in a situation and can be a very concrete thinker. I’d imagine that many highly technical professions are filled with 6w5. 6w5s are usually emotionally stable and can appear to be aloof because of the 5 tendency to withdraw.
  • Type 6 with a 7 Wing (Superego-Id): The 6w7 is more energetic than the 6w5, since they have a stronger connection with their id. A 6w7 is often more impulsive than 6w5 and is much more likely to go out into the world to fulfill their desires. They’re also more oriented toward others, and would likely base their internal rule-set on their interactions with other people. This is a very expressive type; there’s an element of chaos to 6w7 that’s not present in 6w5.

IV. SUMMARY

Id Types: 3, 7, 8 (Desirous/Energetic/Aggressive)
Ego Types: 4, 5, 9 (Withdrawn/Identity Focused)
Superego Types: 1, 2, 6 (Moralistic/Rule Oriented/Structured)

Model fat positive behavior for kids. Don't engage in negative talk about fat bodies, especially your own. Teach kids that it's ok to be fat

Since making them TOO much isn’t really a positive behavior, their reactions might be a bit more serious than you think, so I hope you don’t mind;;

~Admin Kei

Yoosung

  • When you first joined RFA, he found himself constantly agree on your self-deprecating jokes
  • Even though he might find them funny occasionally, he actually felt somewhat sentimental on the inside
  • He knows he isn’t good enough and couldn’t change the fact that he’s weak
  • But well that took a dramatic turn after he saved you from the bomb threat
  • He’s supported by everyone in the RFA and realizes how he will be strong enough to protect you from any situation
  • He wouldn’t think less of himself anymore
  • So no matter if you make the jokes cheerfully or not, he would constantly remind you for what you did
  • “It is you who brought the change in me, MC. Try to value yourself more, okay?”
  • Will always hold your hand and gives you hugs to further reassure you

Zen

  • He was honestly taken aback when you made your first joke in the chatroom
  • Unlike Seven’s jokes yours were a bit more depressing than expected?
  • Even if he’s quite a bit insecure of himself, he would always try to think positively which results to his endless narcissism
  • He wouldn’t find them funny as long as they’re a form of self-deprecation
  • So when you made them out of habit while you’re together, he simply took ahold of your hand and kisses it
  • that successfully shuts you up for good tho
  • “Would you like me to show how much you’re worth to me, Princess?”
  • He said it in such an innocent way that you almost swoon
  • He would either trap you into a cuddle or…the other way around ;)
  • Makes sure you would never felt the need to belittle yourself

Jumin

  • “Are these…supposed to be funny?”
  • Being the director and corporate heir to the C&R Company, he obviously thinks highly of himself
  • But never expressing in a way that annoy people
  • He actually enjoys making jokes from time to time and they’re never in this kind of form
  • Kind of confused at first but eventually gets the meaning behind them
  • In order to let you tone them down, he ordered a necklace that specifically has a pendant with your name in cursive form and gave you a bouquet with exactly 11 blue roses
  • “Blue rose’s stands for how I think you are; honest, sincere and kind. The reason why I bought 11 of them was simply because you are the only women I wanted to have a commitment with, so you shouldn’t think too low of yourself from now on.”
  • <crossline>he looks away in embarrassment while you’re touched from his heartfelt comment
  • Both of you ended up with a very sweet night, as you promised not to say them aloud from now on

Jaehee

  • *inserts awkward emoji here*
  • Tbh we could probably see that she isn’t really a fan of making or even listening to jokes
  • Her self-confidence level would be at average, considering how she got the chance to be Jumin’s assistant for quite a long time
  • She would be a bit upset to see these self-deprecating jokes being told around, especially if they’re from you
  • If you went too far with them, she’ll simply tell you directly about it
  • “You shouldn’t compare yourself like that. Without you, we wouldn’t have been able to hold a party and I would probably never find what I actually wanted to do. It is your appearance that made RFA and I feel more alive than ever.”
  • In order to ease the atmosphere, she would have drag you into hanging out with her in different places to let you know how important she thinks you are
  • Loves wrapping her arms around your shoulder to comfort you!!

Seven

  • Ohhhhhh boi….
  • He would have put a surprised sticker in the chatroom
  • Didn’t really expect that you’re also that kind of person; he simply laughed for a bit in misery in response to your ‘jokes’
  • It haunts him on how much he agrees to all of them
  • Until all that fiasco related to Mint Eye is completely solved, which he realizes how he’s still a normal human being that needs someone by his side
  • So if he happens to hear you saying these awful jokes constantly in his apartment, he would simply tackle you out of nowhere
  • “It is you who brought Saeran and I back from the happiness we never thought we deserve to have. Can you see how much of an impact you are to us, to the RFA?”
  • Oh and you should be ready for the double amount of jokes and puns from him
  • Because he ain’t gonna accept all that negativity from you
  • Stop following me around omg I understand how beautiful I am now
Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.
—  Mahatma Gandhi

anonymous asked:

I just think it is inherently antifeminist to minimize my struggle to feel happy and healthy in my own body to something that is a product of internalized fatphobia and self-hatred. Weight loss in many cases is a SIDE EFFECT of positive behaviors like managing an eating disorder or exercising. Instead of criminalizing women who have lost weight and feel they have improved their lives as a result, do you think it would be more productive to support ALL women in the complex path towards wellbeing?

“When people who buy into a weight loss paradigm insist that they should get to use every fat positive space (especially those that have made it clear that they are fat positive spaces where weight loss talk is not welcome) to talk about weight loss, or the idea that a smaller body is better, that is an act of oppression. It is a victimization of a systemically oppressed group of people who have chosen to be in that space so that they can experience a few moments without messages that their bodies are wrong. 

“There is endless support in our sizeist culture for the idea that fat is bad. There is endless support for people who want to try to become less fat or not fat. Fat people are incessantly pummeled from every direction with the message that being fat is the problem (no matter what the problem actually is) and becoming thin(ner) is the answer. I think that’s bullshit (profitable bullshit, if you’re the diet industry, but bullshit nonetheless) and I create spaces where people get to have a moment’s respite from that, and I don’t apologize for it.”

— Ragen Chastain, Our Spaces, Our Rules

anonymous asked:

one of the girls said She hit me first about Eleanor

I obviously wasn’t there and don’t know exactly how things got started, but they had her backed against a wall - she was in a defensive posture with nowhere to go, whereas they could have turned around and walked away. So I’d say that doesn’t exactly reflect positively on the girls’ behavior AT ALL.

Re: shag carpets and study buddies

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+ “You know I dream of you.”
+ “Are you trying to turn me on right now? Because it’s working.”

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Genre: Smut, smut, smut
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