Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices - today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.
1. Seek to focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want: A mistake we tend to make when we’re faced with a problem is to think and talk about it all the time - instead of focusing our thinking on what we want instead.
2. Recognise that every problem comes with a lesson: There’s a lesson to be learned from all that happens to us. We can become a better person - even when things have gone wrong.
3. Don’t believe everything you think: Our problems aren’t as big as the mind tries to convince us. Don’t believe all those negative and self-defeating thoughts.
4. Choose to be grateful in everything: Although it’s hard to be grateful when things are going wrong, we can usually find something we can be grateful for - and the more we choose gratitude, the happier we’ll feel.
5. Let go of your need for perfection: If you try to be perfect in everything you do, you will always feel you’re failing, and you’ll live with constant stress. Do you best – as perfection’s not a realistic goal.
6. Let go of your resistance: Accept things as they are - you don’t always have to change them. Life’s not meant to be a struggle, or a constant battle ground.
7. Seek to be present in everything you do: When you give yourself completely to living in the moment, you’ll find that life is easier - and you feel much more relaxed.
I know, it’s easier said than done. But it is going to be hard for the first 15-20 minutes, maybe even the first hour, but make yourself some coffee, and get the fuck out of that bed.
2. Do 3 useful things right after you get up.
This doesn’t have to be ‘cram one lesson’ or ‘take 500 pages of notes’. No. Brush your teeth, make yourself something nice to drink, comb your hair. Wash your face. Literally whatever you find useful, do it. It may take 10 minutes, but you will feel instantly better when you see you’ve done something.
3. Organize your study space.
I don’t mean organize all your highlighters by color. I mean arrange everything so it is within your reach. That means when you sit down to finally study, there won’t be any need for you to get up and get something.
4. Take breaks.
It’s easy to start scrolling through instagram, or facebook when you sit by a 200 page book. Trust me on this. But set an alarm when you plan on taking a break. Make the break your instagram time, or facebook time, or just chill time. Whatever you do, organize your time so you don’t leave anything out.
5. Divide your shit.
So you have a 300 page chapter to read. Or a 30 page paper to write. Divide it into smaller parts. For example, I will read through the first 30 pages and then take a break. Repeat. Or, I will write 3 pages and then relax. Repeat. Literally whatever shit you have, divide it into smaller chunks and then just tackle the chunks.
6. Don’t listen to music with lyrics.
There are a ton of ‘study music’ or ‘motivational music’ playlists on Youtube. Blast that. That way, you won’t find yourself mouthing the perfect lyrics to Shape of you, and not knowing shit about what you’ve been reading. I’ve been there one too many times and it’s just wasting time.
7. Don’t feel bad about not responding to texts, or not hanging out with friends.
There is time to study and time to play. No between. By all means you should go out and have fun. But your work time can only be your work time. That text can wait, that coffee date can wait. During the break you will have more than enough time to catch up. And your friends should understand that, after all, this is important to you so it should be for them too.
8. Drink water! ! !
This is the most used tip, but trust me, you get tired much quicker if you’re not hydrated. Get a nice ass bottle of water and fill that shit up. Everytime you finish a paragraph take a sip. (At least!)
9. Don’t worry too much.
I’ve lost countless hours by panicking and trying to reason with myself why I should just quit. And let me tell you, it’s very easy to get stuck in that vicious circle. But when you begin to worry, take a deep breath, drink some water and just do. Read that sentence. Write the opening line to your paper. Underline that unknown word. Just do. It will not go in vain. No effort is ever useless.
You are not the first one to have trouble with this. You are not the only one struggling with this material. But you can do it. It is possible. In 10 years you won’t remember that godawful task or chapter. But you will remember taking shit into your hands. And that feeling when you accomplish your goal is going to be worth all the while.
That’s about it, worked for me. Just be real with yourself. Good luck and may the odds be ever in you favor!
Walk More: Studies show that simply walking every day can strengthen your heart, lower your risk for diseases, increase happiness, and give you more energy.
Read Everyday: Get lost in a good book! Reading daily will make you smarter, more informed, reduce your stress levels, and improve your overall memory.
Learn to Cook: Want to diversify your skill set? Learning to cook improves your health, saves money, and helps you to eat more nutritious food.
Drink More Water: Drinking more water will give you more energy, kickstart your weight loss plan, and improve your overall mood.
Drink Less Soda: Scientists have learned that drinking less soda will reduce sugar intake, reduce those 2pm sugar crashes, and keep you from consuming unnecessary calories. Now you know, too!
Eat More Fruit: Grab an apple! Increasing your fruit intake will boost your immune system, strengthen your heart, and help you keep off those extra pounds.
Stretch Every Morning: Stretching every morning will help increase flexibility, improve your mood, give you a stamina boost, and improve energy levels.
Eat Breakfast: Eating breakfast is an important part of a healthy lifestyle. It will fire up your metabolism, reduce your impulse to snack, and give you more energy throughout the day.
Floss: You deserve a million dollar smile. Flossing will improve gum health, reduce/eliminate bad breath, fight against tooth decay, and give you a smile that’s worthy of you!
Start Gardening: Gardening is a fantastic replacement for traditional exercise. Getting outside and working a bit can do wonders for your mood, health and energy!
Wind Down: Whether it’s meditation or yoga, taking time to wind down has numerous benefits which include reducing stress/anxiety, increasing focus and enhancing decision making skills.
Start a Journal: Take a few minutes for yourself. Regularly journaling can help build honesty, aid in decision making, and release stress.
Schedule Relaxation Time: It’s important to take some time away from your busy life to just chill out. Relaxing will help to reduce blood pressure, decrease muscle tension and balance your emotions.
Reflect: Reflecting on the past day/week can be highly beneficial. It puts your life in perspective, helps you to process your feelings and thoughts on life events, and keeps you on track toward your goals.
Communicate With Those You Love: Talking to those you love can help to strengthen those relationships along with helping you to work through issues in your life with an honest, open listener.
Experience Nature: Aside from getting some fresh air and vitamin D, going outdoors will reduce stress, help you sleep better, and improve your overall mindset.
Volunteer: Getting out and helping your community is a great way to boost your self esteem, develop new skills, and build memorable experiences.
Smile More: Research shows that smiling more will boost your self-confidence, make great first impressions, and build better relationships with others.
Go To Bed Earlier: Let’s face it, none of us get enough sleep. Grabbing an extra 30 minutes per night can massively improve your outlook and your mood.
Listen to Music: Turn up those tunes! Listening to music has been shown to significantly improve your mood. Just make sure it’s not too loud!
Create a Routine: Give yourself a bit of structure by creating a routine. It will help build efficiency, momentum, and productivity throughout your day.
Create A To-Do List: Similar to creating a routine, putting together a to-do list will help you set your priorities, coordinate tasks, and track your progress.
Wake Up 15 Minutes Earlier: Wake up early for a healthier, more productive you while improving your sleep and mental health. And, by the end of the week, you will have gained over an hour of extra time, just for you!
Don’t Snooze: Hitting the snooze is a complete time waste. Get more out of your day by waking up with the first alarm!
Track Your Accomplishments: Understand your progress and increase your drive and motivation for future tasks by tracking your accomplishments. It will also significantly improve your self esteem!
Take Breaks: Want to increase your creativity, reduce stress, and keep a positive mindset? Take a 15-20 minute break to reset your mind and carry on refreshed!
Continue Learning: Continuing your education will keep your mind sharp, could help you become better at your current job, or improve your skills for a potential career change in the future.
Get Organized: Becoming more organized can provide a number of benefits, including better health, less stress, and more downtime.
Plan Your Meals: Weekly meal plans can be a huge time-saver, along with helping you spend less money and make healthier choices. Try prepping several meals on Sunday to set you up for success for the rest of the week!
Collaborate: Working with and around others can give you a huge boost in productivity, creativity and general well-being. Get out there and share your ideas!
You’re going to be okay, I know you are. You’ll make it through this and come out on the other side even stronger. You are incredibly persevering and your determination is so admirable. You’ve got this, you’re gonna make it through.
Humans are by nature too complicated to be understood fully. So, we can choose either to approach our fellow human beings with suspicion or to approach them with an open mind, a dash of optimism and a great deal of candor.