positive outlets


“I’ve learned that I must find positive outlets for anger or it will destroy me. There is a certain anger: it reaches such intensity that to express it fully would require homicidal rage–self-destructive, destroy the world rage–and its flame burns because the world is so unjust. I have to try to find a way to channel that anger to the positive, and the highest positive is forgiveness.”
Happy 90th Birthday Sidney Poitier (February 20, 1927)

hula-hoopist  asked:

(If you have the time) you should do a book rec list!!

$Definitely!! I’m just going to include the ones that I’ve read that have resonated with me personally, so please feel free to message me for specific recs (Scifi, romance, wlw, etc) and i’ll look into making a more refined list for you.  Reading is truly such a positive outlet, regardless of age, and I really hope there is something on here for everyone to love as much as I did.

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Saenz.  Aristotle is an angry teen with a brother in prison. Dante is a know-it-all who has an unusual way of looking at the world. When the two meet at the swimming pool, they seem to have nothing in common. But as the loners start spending time together, they discover that they share a special friendship—the kind that changes lives and lasts a lifetime. And it is through this friendship that Ari and Dante will learn the most important truths about themselves and the kind of people they want to be. 

This book is so important.  It follows two Mexican-America boys, through the 80s in Texas, and at the very heart of all of it, is a love so pure and intense, it made me genuinely choke up with how intimate it was. (Try not to fall in love with Dante, I dare you, you will fail, just as hard as Ari)

Girl Mans Up  by M-E Gerard. All Pen wants is to be the kind of girl she’s always been. So why does everyone have a problem with it? They think the way she looks and acts means she’s trying to be a boy—that she should quit trying to be something she’s not. If she dresses like a girl, and does what her folks want, it will show respect. If she takes orders and does what her friend Colby wants, it will show her loyalty.But respect and loyalty, Pen discovers, are empty words. Old-world parents, disintegrating friendships, and strong feelings for other girls drive Pen to see the truth—that in order to be who she truly wants to be, she’ll have to man up.

Girl Mans Up is such a great book about gender identity for queer girls.  Pen is amazing narrator, and having it in the first person perspective is perfect for seeing just how frustrating it is to be a girl that doesn’t fit the gender role she’s expected to. (She also has a girlfriend who she stays with in the entire book and they have a wonderful relationship, no one dies 10/10)

Whatever: or how junior year became totally f$@ked by S.J. Goslee @pantstomatchJunior year is about to start. Here’s what Mike Tate knows:His friends are awesome and their crappy garage band is a great excuse to drink cheap beer. Rook Wallace is the devil. The Lemonheads rock. And his girlfriend Lisa is the coolest. Then Lisa breaks up with him, which makes Mike only a little sad, because they’ll stay friends and he never knew what to do with her boobs anyway. But when Mike finds out why Lisa dumped him, it blows his mind. And worse―he gets elected to homecoming court.With a standout voice, a hilariously honest view on sex and sexuality, and enough f-bombs to make your mom blush, S.J. Goslee’s debut YA novel Whatever. is a fresh, modern take on the coming-out story.

I’m honestly 100% certain there isn’t a summary that could do Whatever justice. I read this book because another librarian I work with suggested it to me, and I haven’t laughed out loud so much at a book since the Georgia Nicholson Diaries.  Mike is a bisexual teen who frequently doesn’t shower and hangs out with the most endearing group of straight boys you could possibly conjure up.  This book also has incredibly refreshing male/female friendships and the sweetest sibling relationship between Mike and his eccentric little sister, Rosie.

Carry On by Rainbow Rowell. Simon Snow is the worst Chosen One who’s ever been chosen.That’s what his roommate, Baz, says. And Baz might be evil and a vampire and a complete git, but he’s probably right.Half the time, Simon can’t even make his wand work, and the other half, he starts something on fire. His mentor’s avoiding him, his girlfriend broke up with him, and there’s a magic-eating monster running around, wearing Simon’s face. Baz would be having a field day with all this, if he were here–it’s their last year at the Watford School of Magicks, and Simon’s infuriating nemesis didn’t even bother to show up.

It’s Harry Potter but funnier and Harry and Draco end up together!! Actually, it’s Simon and Baz, but honestly it’s what all of our thirteen year old selves were starved for, like junkies of fanfiction.net, just looking for a fix.  I’m always a little hesitant of YA romance novels with vampires (For good reason, I think we’re all a little jaded still), but Baz is my Favorite Vampire™.  He’s funny and sarcastic and moody and just a little bit lonely, the poor thing. 

The Raven Boys by Maggie Stiefvater @maggie-stiefvaterEvery year, Blue Sargent stands next to her clairvoyant mother as the soon-to-be dead walk past. Blue never sees them–until this year, when a boy emerges from the dark and speaks to her.His name is Gansey, a rich student at Aglionby, the local private school. Blue has a policy of staying away from Aglionby boys. Known as Raven Boys, they can only mean trouble.But Blue is drawn to Gansey, in a way she can’t entirely explain. He is on a quest that has encompassed three other Raven Boys: Adam, the scholarship student who resents the privilege around him; Ronan, the fierce soul whose emotions range from anger to despair; and Noah, the taciturn watcher who notices many things but says very little.For as long as she can remember, Blue has been warned that she will cause her true love to die. She doesn’t believe in true love, and never thought this would be a problem. But as her life becomes caught up in the strange and sinister world of the Raven Boys, she’s not so sure anymore

This sort of sounds like a lovey dovey romance novel right? It’s not. There’s magic, and psychics, and dead Welsh Kings (this medieval lit major was shook), and the most fleshed out characters I’ve read in a series in about 8,000 years. I didn’t think I could fall in love with a group of spoiled prep school boys, and neither does the main character Blue, but here she is with her four husbands. 

Timekeeper by Tara Sim. In an alternate Victorian world controlled by clock towers, a damaged clock can fracture time–and a destroyed one can stop it completely. It’s a truth that seventeen-year-old clock mechanic Danny Hart knows all too well; his father has been trapped in a Stopped town east of London for three years. Though Danny is a prodigy who can repair not only clockwork, but the very fabric of time, his fixation with staging a rescue is quickly becoming a concern to his superiors. And so they assign him to Enfield, a town where the tower seems to be forever plagued with problems. Danny’s new apprentice both annoys and intrigues him, and though the boy is eager to work, he maintains a secretive distance. Danny soon discovers why: he is the tower’s clock spirit, a mythical being that oversees Enfield’s time. Though the boys are drawn together by their loneliness, Danny knows falling in love with a clock spirit is forbidden, and means risking everything he’s fought to achieve.
But when a series of bombings at nearby towers threaten to Stop more cities, Danny must race to prevent Enfield from becoming the next target or he’ll not only lose his father, but the boy he loves, forever.

I didn’t think steampunk was my thing, but I see maybe I was wrong.  Or maybe I just really love this one particular steampunk book.  Danny is so full of moxie and sarcasm and nervous sweating and tea it’s easy to see why Colton falls for him.  This book also tends to tackle really heavy subjects without you realizing its done just that.  

“Five years ago I found myself submerged in an online fetish and kink community. This exposure really affected my relationship with the human form, and my relationship with my own body. Over time, I have found outlets for positive exhibitionism both online via instagram and in real time. There’s a real community for this type of image sharing. It is empowering. Documenting and displaying my body and my sexual freedom has become complicated as it confuses the male audience. They see my body as an invitation for approach and imposition, and my interest in the body’s self expression, has become a platform for unsolicited, and uncomfortable remarks.
I receive messages like, “U ARE SO HOT,” “Ur body is perfect,” “Are you looking for a boyfrennn?” or “Are you a lesbian?” On the off-chance, I’ll receive messages from strangers with nothing but an image of their erect penis enclosed. I want to be clear: though this is content that I share publicly, it is not material for onlookers to take ownership of. My posts, no matter how revealing, do not imply or give consent. I don’t think it’s shocking to hear that the community is quite divisive when it comes to the participation of men and women. I was recently at a kink event where a male stranger confided in me that, “consent is half the battle.” I’m constantly wondering where we draw the line on what is and isn’t sexual assault. Where along the line did the female body become an open invitation for unsolicited remarks and behaviour from men who have been socialized to believe they have ownership over our bodies? For instance, in other public arenas such as strip clubs and casinos, there are very clear rules about touching and exposure. Other anecdotes that come to mind are the countless times clothing is blamed for sexual assault. “She was asking for it,” and “What were you wearing?” have become go-to scapegoats in assault cases, leaving us completely arrested in our own bodies, regardless of how we identify ourselves sexually.” #HERstories #makeportraits

Project/Photography by Erika Altosaar @ealtosaar

not to sound fake deep but please protect your spirit. the company you keep and the environment you chose to be in can change you into an entirely different person than you really are. i know some of us are forced to stay in toxic environments but find positive & healthy outlets. when hate builds up inside you, its only hurting you. the people youre (rightfully) hating are unaffected. they get to be happy while youre bitter and thats unfair. i know its not always easy but live happy, laugh, brush certain things off. in these are hard times and you need to do more than just survive, you need to live you deserve it. you dont always have to be Woke™ . you dont always have to call others out. sometimes you can just chill & be happy and you deserve it heres a rilakkuma gif

Originally posted by littleblackbabyprincess

Deducing Handedness

Originally posted by frosya

There are , I’m aware many way’s of doing this so I shall cover what I find most reliable in the duration of this post … 

Plug sockets

More often than not people will have put plugs on the side of their dominant hand , this I have found is especially true in the case of an extension lead ~

(( This also is the same for USB ports on a laptop ))

take this for example , acknowledging the positioning of the outlet relative to the room - If to the left of it was a bed or a desk , it is likley that the person chose this side because of this , not because they had a choice and placed the plug on their dominant side out of ease - ( so just be careful and consider the context with your reasoning’s )


how one leaves their objects is also very telling , for example the placement of a mug , or how cutlery has been left on a plate can reveal all .Often , in cases like this the item in questioning will be left angling towards the dominant side ( mug handles , cutlery and writing utensils generally follow this rule )


mostly , people will keep more in the pockets on their dominant side , or if the distribution is fairly even , more frequently used items like phones will be found on the dominant side in most cases . If a blazer is worn or any other clothing with inside pockets for that matter - the hand used to access the pocket is the dominant hand or the side with the most amount of things kept , generally speaking is dominant 


with watches and bracelets , they will be generally worn on the ‘non-dominant side’ although this is more of a personal thing ,  as conventionally the watch is worn on the left , so many left handed people choose to do this too - so always deduce in context and have more than one piece of evidence for it

A small observation ~

most people on things like buses and trains , will sit on the right side more times than not , perhaps due to their handedness ?

I am likley to update this later , but that’s all for now…


Today was the day we passed out the notes from our “Positivity Week”! I got to see all of them and they were to/from all grades 9-12 and from many different groups within the school. There were also a lot of adults in the building that had notes sent to them–including the office secretary!

Pictured above are the notes I personally received.

This was something our school really needed. All of the adults, and students, were very supportive and they have asked that we do it again in the future. More than one person asked about having this type of event every month.

I have been really negative lately. It has been difficult to go into work and be the sunshiny teacher I am meant to be, but this has helped. Students need an outlet for positivity and sometimes we need to provide that outlet for them.

Hello everyone!!! I actually can’t believe that this bloggo has already gotten to the big 500. This means more than anything to me and I honestly can’t believe it. ah. I have been drawing for years and this is the first time I have ever had such a positive outlet. Everyone, including followers and other ask-bloggos, have been really nice and supportive and just great. Even though I am not able to draw as much as others and keep up with everything, you guys still support me and that means alot! There is a lot I want to say but I am not sure how to word it so I hope that is okay!

Onto other important info that I wanted to tell everyone.. Very soon I’ll be making a online shop! I plan on making kpop themed keychains and even stickers! Prices and mock up will be posted soon! The groups that will surely be included are Got7, Mamamoo, and SVT! and more will come in the future if it all works out well!

I hope I can continue to draw for all my followers and more!Srry for any typos or weird wording!! Thank you all for all the support!!!!!


Dress: Macy’s Women’s Apparel
Price: 23.99$
Size: Large (It’s probably supposed to be loose, but I turned it into a body con, lol #biggirlswag)

Blazer: Torrid
Price: 54
Size: Up to 4X

Necklace: Bealls Outlet
Price: 4.99

Scarf: Rainbow Store
Price: 5.99$

anonymous asked:

You might get this question a lot but how do you get over someone you weren't even in a relationship with?

Give yourself time to heal and let yourself feel what you’re going to feel. Don’t try to pretend that it’s not there and don’t try to push it down and avoid it. Let yourself feel the anger, sadness, frustration, whatever it might be and once that happens, work on yourself. Put all the shitty and negative emotions into something positive, basically find an outlet. Overall, just give yourself time. Surround yourself with positive people if you have them in your life, also be that positive influence to yourself. Just keep reminding yourself that you’re going to get through it, because you will!! Remember, self love is a very important love. Learn to love alone time, find things you love to do and just keep on keeping on. x


So guys, since it’s been a couple months since I’ve been active on here (but what’s new lmao), I figured I’d update you all on how my life’s going. It’s been pretty up and down, so I’m gonna start off with the negatives and end on a positive note.

My year started off pretty awful. My depression, anxiety, and dysphoria all hit hard right from the start of January, and have carried through into February. I underwent some trauma that I’m still trying to work on and get through, but it’s been a really difficult time. I also lost my license and my car broke down and cost me about 1300, so that’s not too fun. It’s been pretty hard to feel motivated to do much of anything, even talking to the people I love…not too good.

But on the upper hand, I’ve been working more on my traditional art, and I’ve been working hard to find some more positive outlets in my life. I also quit one of my jobs, so I’m back to working one instead of two (thank god, my sleep schedule was a nightmare). And I got my first acceptance email for college! It’s one of my top two choices, so that’s pretty cool.

I just thought I’d fill you all in! Since I only have one job, hopefully I’ll be on here more often. I know that I say that every time, but this time, I really mean it.

Love you guys ❤︎❤︎❤︎

- Autumn

Anti-shippers worry me...

They really do. They dedicate so much time to picking fights with people, and they purposefully spend time talking and thinking about things they say they hate. Their actions are just so unhealthy. I really hope they can find some positive outlets instead of being so hateful. If you’re an anti-shipper and you’re reading this, best of luck to you and I hope your life becomes more fulfilled in the near future! 

dxtectiveinheels  asked:


 // I love you too, random citizen. I also write an ‘89 Batman, but–
Writing this blog lets me go back to the roots of the character and focus
on the truest aspects of being a hero, explore plots of good old fashioned
fun & mystery, and provide a positive outlet where the Batman explicitly
believes in people just as much as people believe in him, actively seeks
out to help and reform his enemies, and inspires this city to be a bright
place of hope built on a long history of family. 

Hate that patriarchy teaches men that asking for helps makes us weak. Deconstructing that feeling and re-learning positive outlets for pain instead of violence, shame, and self-loathing takes a lot of time and energy. It means going against everything this culture teaches us as young boys. It means learning that allowing ourselves to be vulnerable is not what makes us weak, it’s the constant internalization and projection of patriarchal masculinity that creates a sort of precarity where our value and coherence as human beings depends upon vigilant performativity that makes us weak – and we are so terrified of not meeting these oppressive standards, of looking/feeling weak, that we do terrible things to other people and ourselves.


There is so much anger and hate inside me I haven’t the slightest clue what to do with it. I have no positive outlets. All the outlets I have don’t seem to work because it’s still in me. It’s like a deep self sustaining fire. I literally could just be calmly sitting somewhere with a calm demeanor. But my fucking soul is set ablaze. That’s what it feels like. Fire. Like I’m burning inside all the time. But I have to hide it because I don’t want to be evaluated or what ever. I’m already in fucking therapy for fucks sake.

The fact that I am more aware of what it is to struggle as a darker skin black woman doesn’t help. I’m not angry that I am any of those things. I’m fucking angry because of the people who constantly MAKE IT an issue, due to their unjust and idiotic biases. I often feel these people should be eradicated, and if it were not for the current laws set to protect them, I would happily eradicate them myself.

That’s my fear. That I think that way.

But that’s not what I wanted to get at. I literally feel a great deal of pinned up hate inside me. It keeps me up at night. I can’t sleep because all I can think about is vengeance from those who’s wronged me. But I know I’ll never get that satisfaction. Ever. And that makes me angrier. It also doesn’t help that black women aren’t entitled to having emotions. Let alone being entitled to being angry. Else all the fucking stereotypes and what not starts flying.

But this anger and hate I feel is not your sassy black woman stereotypical bullshit. This is deep rooted, primal and often disturbing and I need to find a way to handle it. I shouldn’t be so consumed with hatred that it literally makes me sick to my stomach and keeps me up at night. The only time I can sleep well is when I’m buzzed or drunk because my head isn’t racing with a million and one thoughts. And my hate is tamed. I seriously need help.

And Unfortunately for some, I consider those my ballet flats…


Top: Bealls Outlet Women’s Apparel
Price: 11.99$
Size: Up to 3X

Overalls: Torrid: 
Price: 48$
Size: Up to 28

Flannel: Bealls Outlet Women’s Apparel
Price: 13.99$
Size: Up to 3X

Cyndago day - still going ahwad

I know not everyone will have seen it, but just before I went away I made a post in which I said that I would be doing another ‘Cyndago appreciation day’. It was going to be a celebration of them moving with Mark and the fact they had a new member. Truthfully, I had planned this for the forth coming weekend.

When I saw the news this morning I thought of cancelling. But then I realised that I was being massively premature and that it should still go ahead. But for different reasons. So, this coming weekend, ALL WEEKEND, we will be celebrating Daniel and Cyndago on this blog. Why?

1. A celebration of Daniel, his life and achievements.
2. As Cyndago will not be producing further videos it will be a look back at their wonderful creative moments they have graced us with over the past 3 years.
3. I think that the initial shockwaves will be starting to subside and people will want a positive outlet for their grief. I’m not saying that everyone has to be happy go lucky and over what’s happened. Not at all, far from it. Instead I’m saying that we will probably be in more of a position to look back and smile with tears in our eyes.

Over the coming week lets grieve and support those who need it and at the weekend lets all come together and remember Daniel as he would want to be remembered.

The tag will be #Cyndagoforever

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