positive life tips

Become a priority in your life. You need to take care of you before you can take care of anyone else. Make YOU a priority! It’s not selfish or rude, it’s actually healthy to put yourself first at times.

5 Things To Do Every Morning
  1. Express gratitude
  2. Set your intentions for the day
  3. Take 5 deep breaths, in and out
  4. Smile for no reason just to flex the muscle 
  5. Forgive yourself for yesterday’s mistakes
20 HABITS OF HAPPY PEOPLE YOU SHOULD ADOPT IN 2016

1. Forgive more.

The Buddha once said,

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

Remember everyone is fighting their own battle, and everyone is trying their best. Learn to forgive other people and set yourself free.

2. Meditate daily.

Meditation is a beautiful way to still your mind – giving you a break from circling thoughts, worries and anxieties. Start with two minutes a day and build your way up to longer sittings.

3. See the world as awe-inspiring.

Imagine if you woke up this morning and saw the world around you for the first time. You would be absolutely amazed, fascinated and excited. Start seeing the world through fresh eyes and notice all the magic and beauty you may be missing.

4. Let go of things you can’t control.

When the bus is late, the queue is long or the café runs out of your favorite salad, take a deep breath and let it wash over you like water off a duck’s back. Don’t allow external events to steal your inner peace and joy. Master the art of letting go.

5. Experience the flow of things you love.

When you’re completely focused on doing something you truly love, you lose your sense of ego and time. It may be through dancing, cooking, writing, running, building, painting or something unique to you. Make this experience of “flow” a part of your weekly schedule.

6. Be more present.

When you worry about things going wrong in advance of them happening, you’re creating your own private hell in an otherwise peaceful and beautiful present moment.

Try bringing yourself back to the present moment throughout the day by noticing the sense of your body in your chair, the touch of the fabric against your skin or the gentle sensation of air on your face.

7. Spend time in nature.

Nature can have a calming effect and reminds us to slow down, take deep breaths and soak up the present moment. So make time for more bush walks, beach trips, picnics in the park and reading by the river.

8. Take up yoga.

Yoga is a beautiful way to align your body and soul – this in turn can increase your sense of wholeness and inner peace. It’s also the kind of exercise you can do anywhere, without equipment, once you’ve learned a few simple moves.

9. Spend time alone with yourself.

You need time alone to catch up on updates from the person you really need to stay in touch with – yourself. Spend time alone unpacking your worries and anxieties, and getting back in touch with your deepest desires and dreams. Schedule weekly or monthly solo dates in your yearly planner.

10. Keep an inspiration file.

Some days, you wake up feeling incredibly motivated and inspired to achieve your dreams. Other days, you wake up and the motivation has completely vanished.

That’s why it’s so useful to keep an inspiration file filled with your favorite quotes, stories and words of wisdom when your soul needs a boost. You can use a physical scrapbook or an album on your phone.

11. Practice gratitude.

There is a reason gratitude is being promoted everywhere lately – it’s one of life’s sweet shortcuts to happiness. By focusing your attention on all of the beautiful things and simple joys in life, you will notice and attract more and more of them.

12. Give without strings attached.

Giving and receiving are one in truth. When you give to someone with no strings attached – whether it be a physical gift, a compliment or your time – you are nourished as well as the receiver.

13. Embrace uncertainty.

Uncertainty is a natural part of life and an inevitable factor in making big life changes. Learn to embrace it, and know that you will always be okay at every moment in your journey, even if you can’t quite see the road to the finish line yet.

14. Write a soul journal.

Writing a soul journal is a bit like keeping a traditional journal, except that you ask your soul tough questions and seek guidance on things you’re struggling with. The key is to write your stream-of-consciousness without self-censoring. You may be amazed by the wisdom residing deep within you.

15. Replenish your well.

Life can feel so busy and fast-paced – before you know it, you’re running on empty. You don’t serve the world by burning yourself out. Take breaks. Schedule a day off for fun and laughter. Book a holiday. Don’t always cut short your lunch break.

16. Compare less.

Mark Twain once said, “Comparison is the death of joy”. Life would be pretty boring if every restaurant was the same, every romantic partner was the same, or every day was the same. Accept when things are not as you expected and appreciate that it makes life interesting.

17. Make time for friendship.

One of the top five regrets of the dying is not spending enough time with friends. Create a weekly or monthly ritual with your friends, like dinner at a local restaurant, trivia night or morning yoga session.

18. Trust yourself.

So often we make mistakes and bad decisions in life because we’ve ignored the inner voice of guidance inside of us. Trust your intuition. Your soul knows what is right for you.

19. Commit to living a life true to you.

When you live, work, date, play, eat, drink, create, dance, travel and dream in ways that feel right with your soul, you come alive, and the whole world benefits.

20. Be gentle on yourself.

You are perfect and complete exactly as you are. Even when you are striving to improve and grow, you are complete and worthy of self-love.

As the Buddhist saying goes,

We are all perfect as we are, and we could all use a little work.


Author:  Elyse Gorman from NotesOnBliss.com.

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The hardest battle you will ever have to fight is between who you are now and who you want to be.
—  Anonymous 
Life tips

Don’t procrastinate ANYTHING!

Wake up earlier every morning.

Exercise or go for a walk every morning. Watch the sun rise when you can.

Make your bed every morning.

Keep your bedroom organised and clean.

Do every piece of work like you’ve no choice but to get the highest grade.

Every time you eat you are either fighting or feeding disease.

If you don’t enjoy it, don’t do it. And don’t pretend to enjoy it.

Don’t bitch about people. At all.

Don’t pass up something that you know you’d enjoy.

Stop arguments before they get worse.

Dress however you like.

Make gratitude lists every day. Or in your head.

Meditate when you can. It DOES help! 

Remember people are just people and there is never EVER any need to be nervous or anxious.

Fake confidence.

Always save at least a small amount of any payment you get- either into a savings account or to put away.

Sell the clothes you never wear, or give them to a charity store- someone might be looking for that exact item of clothing.

Believe you can do anything, because you can.

Treat people exactly how you want to be treated.

Nobody is above you.

Read your books.

If you’re stuck, think about the advice you would give to a friend in your situation.

Instant calmer: Breathe in through your nose for 7 seconds. Hold for 4 seconds. Exhale through your mouth for 8 seconds.

love others, but be confident within yourself :))

10 RULES POSITIVE PEOPLE LIVE BY

There are several rules to live by. It is up to you to take one that aligns with your values the most. About a year ago I wrote 10 Rules To Live By For Those Who Lead a Life of Wisdom. This year I’d like to focus on positivity and happiness so I have come up with the absolute 10 rules to live by for those who want to live a life filled with positivity. 

1. Be comfortable in your own skin 

The first step to becoming happy is to feel comfortable in your own skin. Everyone was born with a flaw. No one is perfect. Accept yourself with what you’re born with whether it be your background, your skin, your nose, your eyes, your hair, your freckles, your breast, or the size of your private part. You have to accept yourself for who you are and LOVE YOURSELF. 

It is the number one happiness killer. Because if you are not comfortable in your own skin, this becomes your biggest concern that stays on the top of your mind everyday - it kills your self-esteem, your self-confidence, and the happiness that comes from within. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship of all and if you can’t make peace with it, it will keep bothering your mind. 

If you find it hard because other people discriminate or make judgements about you, distance yourself from people who are shallow and narrow-minded. You are better than that. Prove to them and to yourself that you are capable and talented in so many other ways. Surround yourself with people who value the same things as you and leave the people with bad attitudes behind. 


2. Appreciate what you have and never compare yourself with others

You will never be truly happy if you keep looking outside and wish you have what you don’t. The grass always seems to be greener on the other side but that does not mean it’s actually greener. If you keep wishing, hoping, expecting for something else and don’t feel happy with what you already have, you will always feel miserable and feel like something is missing in your life. Worse if you keep comparing yourself to others, wishing your life was like theirs; your face and body were like theirs; your family was like theirs; your partner was like theirs, you will feel the jealousy burning within you. While comparing yourself to others in a healthy dose as to set yourself a benchmark of success or accomplishment can be motivating, doing so with jealousy burning within is not. 

If you can live simply and appreciate what you have, acknowledge that everyone is different, and stop comparing yourself to others, you will experience joy and happiness in everyday life.


3. See the positive in every situation

You will always run into unfortunate situations in life that are outside of your control. You can choose to feel sad, annoyed, angry, or stressed about the situation OR turn it around and focus on the positive. You can choose to be stuck in a bad situation OR let go, move on, and start anew. Learn from a failure or a bad experience and never repeat the same mistake. Every setback and bad situation in life teaches you something. Growth doesn’t happen in comfort. Take it as an opportunity to train your mind to be stronger, more resilient, and more equipped to be able to deal with things life throws at you. 


4. Let go of your need to control 

Control makes you feel secure. But at the same time, with control you also lose freedom. Confusing isn’t it? When you try to control your life, situations, and sometimes others, you do so because you want to feel more secure. However, when you feel more secure because you take control of it, you lose control of yourself and very likely of those you try to control. This is because you become dependent on the feeling of having control. And it can drive you crazy because things don’t always go as planned. Trying to control things will not only drive other people away which will make you panic even more when that happens, but it also hinders you from achieving happiness from within.


5. Drop the resentment within

Most of the time you hold onto anger because you believe it would make the person you’re mad at upset and realize that they have done something wrong. But the fact is that you are actually hanging yourself up on something that’s burning you within. When you’re mad at someone, the pain is onto yourself more than it is onto the person you’re mad at. When you hate someone, the fire is within your own mind.

No matter what one does to you - hurt you, look down on you, underestimate you, backstab you, abuse you, or cheat on you - when you hold the hatred, you hold the hurt. Only when you learn to let go, you let your soul free from the pain. No matter what it is that caused them to do certain things to you, the best thing you can do is to let go. 

It will be hard to do if you’ve never done it before. But slowly, one day at a time, be patient, let it go, forgive those who’ve done you wrong, you will feel that each day you get stronger and more powerful. 

If you’re struggling to let go, start with meditation. Even meditation is hard because you need to control yourself not to think about anything while meditating - but that’s the key! Being able to control one’s thoughts and focus, and keep one’s mind at peace strengthens the mind’s muscles - this is the secret power of meditation. 

The fire is only within you.
 The person you hate doesn’t feel your hatred. Let it go. Let it go.


6. Live in the moment

I believe that one of the reasons little kids and happy couples on dates are happy is because they live in the moment. They focus on what is happening in front of them and pay attention to the person they are with. When you live in the moment and do your best, you just feel happy. Why wouldn’t you? You don’t worry about the future, neither do you feel sad about the past.

Take every waking hour as it comes and do what you are supposed to do and complete what you’re supposed to complete. Stop overanalysing or trying to predict and plan things too far. The only constant in life is change. Just live in the moment and do your best.


7. Avoid overanalyzing

This is what a lot of us do - overanalyzing things from relationships to career and finances. Overanalyzing is dwelling on the thought about something, thinking about it over and over, trying to dig deeper and deeper, because somehow you believe it could end up giving you a way out. When in doubt, overanalyzing somehow gives us comfort. Most of the time, we never actually get an answer but a set of worries. 

In order to avoid overanalyzing, we need to be more outspoken with people whom we have doubts about, take things as they come, and listen closely to our intuition. 


8. Stop worrying about the future 

Many of us worry. We worry about our future - about our career, health, living, finances, and about the people we love. We worry because we are scared. However, worrying doesn’t make anything better unless we stop worrying and start taking actions towards our goals. If you’re worried about your health when you get older, then you should start eating healthy and exercising regularly. If you’re worried about your finances, then you should start saving up for the rainy days. If you’re worried about your kids, then encourage them to take actions to help you ease your worries. Remember that worrying about your loved ones doesn’t actually make them better. It only affects your health and your blood pressure. Your loved ones will need to take actions themselves. All you can do is to encourage them and help them move towards the right direction.  


9. Drop your ego and be true

We have our ego as our security guard that protects our self-esteem from being attacked. However, sometimes we become a victim of our own ego. This is when the ego takes control and we become too arrogant and act above ourselves. We distort the reality about us. We live in an illusion. Sometimes we do so because we believe it will take us somewhere. Sometimes we do it because it makes us feel good about ourselves. 

Whatever it maybe, letting your ego become your front shield actually hurts you more on the inside because you can’t be your true self. You just live with lies. In the end, you just can’t take it anymore because you are just faking it and are attracting people who are also faking it. Over and over, you will become tired of it and feel like no one really understands you. This is when you will realize that you will never be truly happy unless you stay true to yourself and others. 


10. Have an open mind

Having a narrow mind can hurt you more than you think because naturally we as humans don’t like being disapproved of. We don’t like feeling like we’re wrong because it makes us feel rejected and unaccepted. 

So if you don’t have an open mind which means you stand firmly on your beliefs and ideas and oppose others who think otherwise, you will feel extremely agitated and uncomfortable when people with different beliefs and ideas are presented in front of you. On the other hand, if you have an open mind, you wouldn’t mind hearing about the different beliefs. In fact, you would embrace the difference, want to understand it better, and become adaptable and flexible in your approach. You wouldn’t have to fight with yourself in accepting others. You’d feel at ease with differences and feel positive about change.

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