In an update to her popular article The Orgasmic
Benefits of Habitual - Male Orgasm Denial, Aislin Acquati
explores the biological, psychological and evolutionary reality of routine male
orgasm and how limiting them can dramatically improve your intimacy in relationships.
Dominate His Brain Chemicals By Controlling (Harnessing) His
Male orgasm denial has numerous benefits, but do you know the
chemical reasoning behind them? Endorphins, hormones, neurotransmitters, and neurochemicals
(neurochemistry) affect how we ALL think and feel. By controlling your mans
orgasms, you can control their brain chemicals and condition (train)
them. Without any supervision or domination, men will masturbate and have as
many orgasms as they please – which creates chemical chaos as well as undesired
What are Endorphins?
Endorphins are a group of hormones that influence emotions and
minimize the sensation of pain. They attach to opiate receptors, mostly in the
brain. Pain and stress most typically influence endorphins to be released. They
operate similarly to codeine and morphine.
Women Can Enjoy Blissful Daily Orgasms – But Men Need
To Be Denied
It’s true – Orgasms affect men and women “Differently”.
It is empowering to know that you can relish multiple orgasms on
a daily basis while withholding them from your Virile Lover. Knowing there are
hormonal reasons behind the science, (making him stronger and healthier), is
just icing on the cake!
Endorphins and Other Chemicals That Control The Brain and
1. Endorphins: Natural painkillers that are
extremely more potent than morphine – producing feelings of euphoria.
2.Oxytocin - The Love , Cuddle and Bonding Hormone:
Decreases abstract cravings – diminishes stress – keeps couples together
– provokes passion, devotion, attachment and deep feelings of fondness –
strengthens sexual receptivity.
Normal/Raised Levels of Oxytocin: Devotion – a
feeling of being connected – feeling protective and responsible – health
benefits (reduces blood pressure and speeds up wound healing) – intense feeling
of attachment – increases sexual alertness – less addictions and
cravings – positive viewpoint and attentiveness. Low Levels of Oxytocin: Depression – low sex drive – reduced,
indifferent or no feelings of of attachment, connection or devotion – poor or
no feelings of protection and responsibility for another person – weakened
3.Dopamine, The “I have
to have it” Neurochemical:
Normal/Slightly Raised Levels of Dopamine: Generates feelings
of happiness – healthy sex drive – joy in completing tasks – motivated –
optimistic outlook – postitive feelings toward others – rational decisions –
yearning to bond with others. Low Levels of Dopamine: Ambitionless – despair – displeasure – idleness
– impaired judgement – low sex drive – remorseless of own behavior – social
anxiety – unable to feel love.
4.Serotonin (a neurotransmitter):
Too Much Serotonin: Anxiety – gastrointestinal disorders –
insomnia – sexual malfunction. Not Enough Serotonin: Decrease or increase in appetite – insomnia –
isolation – loss of libid – low self confidence – ongoing saddness – over
sensitive –– sore joints and muscles – stoamch pain.
5.Testosterone ( a hormone):
Low Testosterone: Anger – decreased motivation
and self esteem – decreased muscle mass and increased body fat –
depression – difficulty with concentration and memory – fatigue – low sex drive
– irritability .
6. Prolactin (a hormone): After orgasm, it may make one feel
sexually satisified and repress dopamine.
Excess Levels of Prolactin: Depression –diminished
interest in bonding with others – – lowered testosterone levels – low sex drive
– depression – infertility – irritibility – lethargy – pessimistic outlook –
This is how it works:
Men experience a rush of dopamine during orgasm that puts them
in a state of ecstasy. However – in most men – the blissful feeling disappears
after 5-10 seconds. Interestingly, the surge of dopamine triggers an almost
simultaneous burst of prolactin that causes dopamine levels to plummet. The
result is a dopamine level that is much lower than it was before sexual arousal
began. In addition, an above normal level of prolactin continues for up to two
Woman receive a peak in dopamine during orgasm, but (unlike in
males) it doesn’t crash drastically; rather, it subsides in a gradual sequence
of steps. Prolactin also increases to a level slightly above normal (upon
feminine climax) – staying there briefly while dopamine levels gently return to
their normal levels. Another recent discovery is that Women’s dopamine levels
vary throughout the month based on their menstrual cycle.
You may be wondering what all this means. It means that…
1. Male Orgasms Are Addicting
Have you heard a song about love or sex being a drug or
addictive and wondered if there were any truth to it? Consider the following
“Oh oh catch that buzz Love is the drug I’m thinking of Oh oh can’t you see Love is the drug for me” – Love Is The Drug by Roxy Music
“The perfect drug | the perfect drug | the perfect drug You make me hard when I’m all soft inside I see the truth when I’m all stupid-eyed The arrow goes straight through my heart Without you everything just falls apart” – The Perfect Drug by Nine Inch
Well – male ejaculations can definitely be addicting due to
dopamine, the “I have to have it” neurochemical. When comparing brain scans, Gurt
Hoistege, a Dutch Scientist found an astounding resemblance of male orgasm
to shooting heroin.
After they researched rats, scientists in Mexico City pointed
out that repeated ejaculations can very closely imitate the effects of abusing
2. Men Experience a Post-Orgasm Hangover
After orgasm, men experience a hormonal hangover similar to an
opiate or cocaine withdrawal due to low dopamine and high prolactin. Dopamine
levels fall while prolactin levels rise after orgasm and after stopping an
opiate or cocaine. It takes two weeks for prolactin levels to normalize after
During a post-orgasm “hormonal hangover,” men may look for new
highs, such as drinking alcohol – eating sweets – new sex partners – porn – and
drugs, to boost their dopamine levels. They may also feel disconnected from
their partner – experience depression – or become lethargic.
When dopamine levels are constantly bursting up and plummeting
down due to uncontrolled orgasms, it can wreak havoc on relationships. Your
relationships could feel like a never-ending roller coaster ride full of highs
and lows with no middle ground.
3. Too Many Orgasm Lead Him To Cheat
Once plighted, no men would go whoring. They’d stay with the one they adore, If women were half as alluring After the act as before – Ancient Greek Anthology Poem
Or we could phrase it:
Once married, no men would be cheaters. They’d be faithful to the one they adore, rather than acting a whore If women stayed half as enticing After orgasm as before
In any case – long before our time, humans knew that men cheated
on their wives because they were not as appealing after sex! Once again,
dopamine is the chemical responsible for men choosing to act in a way we ladies
Scientists found that after male rats partake in a frenzy of
sexual intercourse, they will lose interest in that female. However, if a new
female comes along, the male will have sex with her. They linked the phenomon
of mate fatigue to dopamine. When a male rat has intercourse repeatedly with
the same female, dopamine levels continue to drop. When a fresh potential mate
arrives, a surge of dopamine follows.
So – to keep your men feeling you are the most beautiful woman
on earth with a World Class “Sacred” Vagina – you must harness and resolutely control
4. Repeated Orgasms Decrease His Sex Desire
Male rats also experience a decrease in testosterone receptor
for up to seven days within their reward circuit. Hormones, such as
testosterone, and neurochemicals dock on the nerve cells, along with receptors.
In this instance, fewer receptors equals less reactivity to circulating
testosterone. As a result, the reward system releases less dopamine.
The first problem is that low testosterone, or a reduced
sensitivity to it, can cause anger and irritation. No woman wants to give a man
an orgasm and then receive annoyance in return!
Not only that – you don’t want to “Allow” your man to Ejaculate
if the undesirable psychological result is a lowered sex drive. This brings us
to the second problem, which is the fact that endorphin and serotonin levels go
up - in the reward system of the sexually satisfied rats. Endorphins and
serotonin are both neurochemicals that can produce happiness, but when they are
in this part of the limbic system, they bring things to a stop rather than only
generating good feelings. Think of it this way: Antidepressants, such as Zoloft
– Prozac – and Lexapro, that increase serotonin and narcotics, such as Vicodin
– Percocet – and Methadone that imitate endorphins, can cause sexual side
effects. When neurochemicals diminish the reward circuit for a period of time,
complications in your intimate relationship – both physically and emotionally –
can and will occur.
If you want your guy to have a low sex drive for several days to
a week, allow them to have orgasms whenever they chooses – or encourage them to
take an antidepressant or opiate! If you just thought or yelled – HELL NO – Then we’re on
the same page.
5. Uncontrolled Orgasms Make Him Fall Out of Love
In her book “Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in
Sexual Relationships,” Marnia Robinson points out the following: As
a cure for love, the Roman Poet Ovid cynically recommends pursuing orgasm until
it results in disinterest.
cruel Love presses your neck beneath his foot?… Go, and enjoy your girl, any time, nothing’s forbidden: let her steal away your nights and days. Seek loathing for your sickness: and let loathing end it. Now, too, when you believe you could be free, stay on, till you’re quite overwhelmed, and abundance destroys love, and disgusted you’ve no pleasure in her house. – Or Sate Yourself With
Her by Ovid
Due to a dopamine drop and prolactin burst after orgasm,
“eventually a man can develop feelings of indifference or slight repulsion for
his sexual partner,” according to Taoist Secrets of Love by Mantak
Oxytocin is the chemical that keeps love alive, and Ladies can magically
increase this baseline oxytocin level in their lives by cuddling – hugging –
holding hands – massaging as well as sexually “Edging” their males.
The Cure is Simple
The cure for the chemical chaos that uncontrolled orgasms
produce in males is simple – The Cure is Orgasm Denial. .
Are you ready to dominate and ultimately control your mans brain
chemicals – do you want to train him to respond to you with any “Conditioned
Response” You Desire ? or have you already learned to do so? Share your
experience with femdom relationships and male orgasm denial (Karezza) by visiting
the Tumblr Site Below.
These are the last ones I’ll post. The flood is over, haha. I just wanted to take a minute to say how thankful I am. I’m thankful to you guys. I’m thankful for this love. I’m thankful for my ability to embrace change. I really believe that it’s always darkest before the dawn. Scarlet and Bobby were my sunrise.
“I am grateful to have been loved and to be loved now and to be able to love, because that liberates.” - Maya Angelou