I refuse to organize with people who take more than they give and who only offer help when it involves being in the spotlight.
I refuse to organize with people who project their issues and trauma onto me and are in denial about how this plays out in harmful ways.
I refuse to organize with people who aren’t capable of discussing complex topics in real life or (at the very least) by phone with others before they go online or into real-world communities and participate in slander.
Some might think that making these choices would limit my opportunities or shut me out from community. Nope! It has been the opposite experience for me; by removing toxic people from my personal & organizing networks, my life has improved dramatically and I’m able to more effectively organize.
- I attract people who aren’t afraid to work on themselves
- I attract people who support my self-care practice in tangible ways
- I attract people who operate from a basis of trust, who don’t define their self-worth through attempting to tear others down
- I attract people who left “cool kids” exclusionary bullshit back on the playground and are interested in authentic relationships
I set a high standard and I’m better off because of it. I wish the same for you all in 2015 and beyond.