please talk about feelings

anonymous asked:

I feel so bad because I keep picking at acne and I know that's bad to do I just can't seem to control myself. I guess I just need to get myself a toy that requires both hands because if I have a hand free I always instinctively go for my acne. Sorry this isn't really a question.

You don’t have to ask a question, anon, or apologise for its lack. Sometimes you just want to express yourself. Sometimes you want to let us know you found something cool or that you’re rocking your new Tangle. Sometimes you want support. Sometimes you want a bit of reassurance, or just to know that you’re not alone, or talk about something to someone - especially if it’s something you can’t talk about offline.

Please do not feel bad for picking at acne. I mean, it’s a raised swelling on your skin. If some deity didn’t make that for picking, what did they make it for?

It’s doubly hard if for whatever reason our bodies decide to give us a constant supply of things at which to pick. (Especially since most of those conditions, like acne or dry skin, are difficult to manage.) You’re unconsciously picking before you realise that you shouldn’t. Society acts like we should just be able to decide not to do something bad for us and not do it, but if that were the case, well, I’d never be working myself into pain flares. Humans are more complicated than this idea that recognition and understanding results in behaviour change, especially when that trigger is always there.

Anon, it is really hard to not pick (or peel or pull). It’s often a stim that fits a need we have. It can be sensory-seeking, it can be an attempt to calm or manage emotion, it can be a kind of self-harm, it can be the removal of bad texture, it can be many different things. I like the feel of peeling dry skin off my lips, and while I don’t like the bleeding, I do like the pain. When I get a good sensory experience from it and the absence of the dry skin (bad texture) that annoys me, how do I stop? Especially when I’m doing it subconsciously?

(As a case in point, the entire time I was typing this, I was worrying free a cuticle beside one fingernail because the pain of pulling at it is pleasant in ways I can’t quite identify or articulate. I didn’t realise I was doing this until halfway through writing.)

It’s hard, anon. Know that it takes a lot of work to recognise when you’re picking, stop and redirect the behaviour elsewhere. Or, in my case, get up, cut away the cuticle, clean the wound and bandage my finger. This is a habit you might be a long time unlearning, and that’s normal.

We’ve discussed some replacement stim toys for picking and peeling (and we have a tag you might like to check out). Here’s some links to a few different posts for replacement stim toys that you might want to think about:

- Corks

- Peelable nail polish

- Painting a Tangle/snake puzzle/plastic stim toy in PVA glue (scroll to bottom of post)

- Painting hands/skin in non-toxic glue (think PVA or Clag)

- Painting back of hand/skin without hair in liquid latex

- Peeling the paper off crayons (dollar shop crayons are great for this)

- A whole range of stim toys (including Tangle Hairy, Koosh balls and puffer creatures) good for picking

I’ve also noticed (in playing with my mermaid sequin pillow) that when some of the sequins get pushed around the wrong way (so gold shows when they all face black) that I have the compulsion to grab the sequin and turn it, because I dislike that flash of a different colour. This is quite hand intensive (first I push back the sequins around the wrong sequin and then turn the wrong sequin over) and you might find grabbing and turning sequins to be a sufficient distraction.

Lastly, I’ll refer you to this post for a list of various stim toys that are good for keeping hands busy. You might find some good alternatives there if you don’t want to redirect to a similar stim, just a distracting one.

But please, please don’t feel bad. We’re cheering for you, no matter how well you do or don’t manage to accomplish the seriously difficult task of redirection!

By the way. Talking about something you’re struggling with? Thinking about ways to redirect it? They’re all pretty awesome things to be doing, anon. Please take the time to applaud yourself for doing the mature (and not easy) thing of acknowledging a problem and considering better ways to manage it.

- Mod K.A.

gay is not a bad word

lesbian is not a bad word

bisexual is not a bad word

pansexual is not a bad word

transgender is not a bad word

genderqueer is not a bad word

fat is not a bad word

chubby is not a bad word

heavy is not a bad word

autism is not a bad word

stop fucking treating groups of people like bad things that need to be said in hushed voices and not talked about

please feel free to make your own additions because I know I missed a lot of groups

why you should watch still star-crossed
  • it’s basically a show that continues the story of shakespeare’s romeo&juliet
  • so if you like shakespeare, you’ll pretty much adore this
  • the aesthetic!! boi, i swear, i’ve never seen something prettier than this tv show in a long time
  • this inclused the shots, the cinematography, the costumes and settings! all beautiful
  • great soundtrack too!! which all leads to the dreamiest, fairest, most authentic vibe ever
  • a diverse cast!! black people and white people filling up both positions of power and of servants! —>historical accuracy!!! 
  • so if you like period tv shows, again, this one is for you
  • you like fight scenes? plenty of fight scenes!!
  • you like romance? we have that too!!! 
  • you like political plots? checked. morally ambiguous character? yep. beautiful actors? oh dear, of course
  • greatly fleshed out characters!!
  • strong females that want freedom from patriarchal values, females that just want to be married, females that want power, peace!! and they’re all great and amazing in their own way!!
  • antagonists with actual background and reasoning, while not being apologetic and not having their deeds excused!!! 
  • if you like shonda rhimes shows (grey’s, scandal, how to get away with murder) i’m pretty sure you’ll like this one too
  • please please please do not let this show die!!! !!!
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#kdramawomensweek: day 8 // age of youth love-fest | happy international women’s day!

So I pretty much put together some of my favorite scenes from Age of Youth. They’re all scenes that really hit me hard emotionally or just personally resonated with me. When Jin Myung, whose feelings have slowly been bubbling underneath the surface, finally overflows with emotion, full of rage and agony. She finally demands the apology she’s been silently asking for. When she fell to the floor in sobs, I cried with her. I felt that grief. When Yi Na realizes she’s been holding herself back and finally lets herself go. Dammit, that scene just hit me. When Eun Jae blows up and just begs for the housemates to be nice to her I could personally relate to her pain and just how nervous she must have felt to finally let that out and tell these almost strangers how alienated they made her feel and how much it had hurt her. That’s not easy.

As you can see, most of my favorite scenes include the girls all together. The relationship that developed between these girls, different in pretty much every way, from being strangers just living in a house together to sisters that loved and protected each other in any way they could was really the main strength of the show. Even that hilarious scene when the girls beat up Eun Jae’s boyfriend because they think he’s some stranger out to hurt her shows just how willing they are to protect each other. I mean, they burst out of the house the second they heard Eun Jae scream. The girls immediately went to comfort Ye Eun when she finally broke up with a boyfriend she loved so much. And when Eun Jae finally comes home after being out all night, the girls just hug her, saying that everything is okay because she’s here and she’s safe. I’m tearing up just thinking of the scene. That love for each other that made them one of the best friendships of 2016 and just in general.

What I love about the girls individual stories is the journey they went through during the drama and where they ended up. They don’t end the drama suddenly complete and whole, but you know they’ve set themselves on that track. They learn to start forgiving and loving themselves. The ghosts they’ve lived with are never completely gone but they’re not held back and tortured by them anymore.

Anyway, what I really want to say is that I love these girls so so so so so much. There’s really nothing I can say that can convey the amount of love I have for this drama and the Belle Epoque girls. It warms my heart when I think of them and I’m just so happy there’s going to be a season 2.

IN MY OPINION, ABOUT YURI PLISETSKY...

Yuri Plisetsky is the definition of teenage rebel. He spends practice time on his phone, he’s a little brat to everyone except for the few people he likes, and he acts grumpy like it’s in style. Throughout the series, he’s had this cool exterior and has been dead set on not letting anyone in and even trying to end relationships before they begin (see: Yuuri Katsuki). He would do anything to protect his image of being the best, and this is clearly shown in the WTTM manga where he says he was upset Katsuki beat him in the free skate scores even if he ended up winning gold. 

Yuri Plisetsky wants to be the best and feels he has a lot to prove. 

When he saw Victor go on the ice during Yuuri’s exhibition and Yuri went wild, it was no surprise he would end up going wild and doing something to completely clash the feeling of Victuuri’s skate. Yuri not only wants to be the best, but he wants to be remembered. 

Which is why Welcome to the Madness makes sense. 

He seems to be showing off the signs of teen wanting to grow up too fast syndrome, which everyone goes through. This could be his breakthrough moment, showing that he can be the Eros he once desired in the beginning of the series. He choreographed it himself for crying out loud. 

His creation of WTTM could come from the fact that he is inspired by Victor Nikiforov, shown in how he wants him so desperately to be his coach in the beginning. Victor was always striving for a new angle, to surprise the audience, and Yuri could have picked up on that. He could have wanted something completely different than the purity of Agape and the beauty of Allegro and decided to do a 180. He wanted to show how good of a skater he was by skating to different types of music and expressing different emotions. He wanted the audience to feel something as he skated. 

I don’t feel that WTTM is out of character for him, in fact I was the opposite of surprised when he came onto the ice with his dark clothes and sex appeal. He’s just a boy who wants to prove himself and be as well versed as he can and I think the creators did an amazing job showing the dynamic of his character with the addition of his exhibition skate. 

Actual dad David headcannon

Okay but David would probably start buying Max things he knows Max likes, especially after seeing what Max’s parents get him. David wants to let Max know he cares about the kids interests, be it whatever, no matter how silly or strange it might be.

Imagine David buying Max comic books of Max’s favorite super hero or something cause he know’s that’s what Max likes, and holy hell, “the kid deserves more than just a hoodie!” David has probably said on more than one occasion.

anonymous asked:

i love your blog, your tags on that photo set from ITR "• tanger: sliding a hand up geno's thigh • geno: too busy flirting with sid to care •" give me life. i cannot believe these idiots, gazing adoringly at each other, making cute hand gestures, while tanger casually gets fresh. why are they like this it is Too Much.

I feel your pain, nonnie. Tanger made a valiant effort to steal Geno’s attention away from Sid, but those two get lost in their own world sometimes.

I mean look at them:

Boys…

…you do know there are other people around…

…don’t you?

Cover Letters

If you all don’t have a cover letter template written up so you can just fill in the blanks during a job hunt, you’re doing yourself a major disservice bc man does it look professional and it can be SO fast and easy if you do it beforehand.

This is what mine looks like:

Date

Your Name

Company Name

Company Street Address

City, State, Zip

Dear Hiring Manager/Hiring Department (pick 1 depending on how big the company sounds)

I am interested in applying for the (Insert job position here) that was (insert how you found the job here). My resume is included for your review.

My background includes extensive customer service experience in fast-paced environments (If you were in a lot of fast food/retail). Through those experiences I’ve developed a large focus on customer experience and satisfaction, that would easily fit within your company’s dedication to positive customer relations. Insert something specific to the company’s creed here. My skills include (relevant program/being eager to learn new skills), (a thing you can do), and (probably something like “reliable work pace”).

I would sincerely appreciate getting to meet with you to talk about this opportunity further. Please feel free to email me or call to get in contact with me. Thank you very much for your consideration.

Sincerely,

Your name again

Enclosure (it means a resume is attached too)

Short, sweet, to the point, and totally valid in p much any workplace. I wrote this up as a homework assignment for a business class and oh man it’s helped me out so much. 

  • If you wanna write your own just keep the general structure the same: 
  • 1st paragraph: what the job is, how you found it, you have a resume for them
  • 2nd paragraph: Your background, what you learned, how you would fit in, show you read a little bit abt the company, what you can do
  • 3rd paragraph: You wanna talk abt this in an interview, call or email you, thank them for their time

You can do this, cover letters don’t have to be intimidating!

‘Dionysus Loves You!’ is the name of a zine about trans characters in the riordanverse, and it’s looking for submissions!

Dionysus is the patron god of all intersex and transgender individuals so who better to name this zine after! it’s an often overlooked fact about him but not in any way less important. this is why we’re doing a zine including your PJO/HOO trans headcanons, to highlight the importance of headcanons in fandom next to canon. you can have headcanons about any of the campers, gods, or even mortal parents.. the list goes on, don’t be shy!

your submission doesn’t have to revolve around the transness of the characters, it can be them hanging with friends, fishing, fighting, going on a date, shopping, flying… anything..! being trans is not a tragedy so let’s keep this zine upbeat and a lovely experience to all participating and reading alike. 💖 but let’s keep it SFW!

we’re looking for 1 to 5 pages of content per contributor (5 in case you’re doing a comic for example!). just illustrations are also extremely very very welcome. this will be a free digital release with no profits, just for fun, so keep that in mind. both b&w and color submissions are welcome. dimensions should be that of an A5 (1748 pixels x 2480 pixels) at 300DPI.

the current planned deadline is april 10th, you can email your entries to dionysuslovesyou17@gmail.com!

feel free to message me for any questions or specifications. i’ll update this post if anything changes or there’s new information! thank you! 💖

Genderbent Hamilton, amirite?

I see people talking about genderbending Burr and Washington, which is freaking awesome, but why stop there? What if every character were changed to be a different gender from how they are in the original? How would that change the show?

Just imagine the possibilities:

  • Alexandra Hamilton, the orphan daughter of a Scotswoman and a Caribbean sex worker, who managed to move to New York at the dawn of the American Revolution, where she meets:
  • Erin Burr, the agender advocate for a peaceful, sensible resistance movement, and their girlfriend Theodosia,
  • Jen Laurens, the gender-fluid black rights advocate who starts a relationship with Alexandra,
  • and Elias Schuyler, one of the heirs to Philippa Schuyler’s vast wealth, and his brothers, Angelico and Johnny.
  • George (Georgia) Washington, the general in command of the revolutionary forces, ultimately hires Hamilton, who has managed to piss off
  • Samaya Seabury, and
  • Jane III, Queen of England.

Huh? Huh? Anyone?

“But here’s some advice, boy. Don’t put your trust in revolutions. They always come around again. That’s why they’re called revolutions.” 

Trying something new with my art style!

I finally started reading Discworld and oh my gosh, please talk to me about sam vimes, my bitter human espresso, my lawful good cop who is as angry as i am, the kind of person who /chooses/ to be good and kind and steadfast. 

//wheezes he’s the hero i didn’t even know i needed/was looking for but this is it, this is the character i’ve been waiting my entire life for, game over, my favourite forever and ever

one thing that bugs me on jtv? the complete lack of acknowledgement of what petra’s been through. petra is an abuse survivor. the one constant presence in her life is a mother who amongst other things has threatened her, belittled her, constantly gaslights her, all for her own selfish gains. struggles through post-partum depression. discovers she has a twin- who could have become the family petra so desperately needs who drugs her, assumes her identity and tries to screw her over. watches her husband who she really does love fall in love with another woman whilst said woman is carrying the child she wanted so much. not to mention being kidnapped, suffering a late term miscarriage and feeling inferior to jane. and like? there is barely any mention of petra’s past. the only thing they bring up are her mistakes- which yes are a lot, and yes she has done some terrible things, but geez. please let petra go to therapy!!!!! please let petra be happy!!!!!!

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I am still dating a wonderful young man and now the team knows whom! It’s changed things for the better, and that’s all y’all are getting out of me.