please dont get at me

anonymous asked:

Short chubby boys are literally brilliant 😍👌 (certain Frank eras just make my heart skip because of how small and chubby he is)

leathermouth frank was so cute and hot dont get me started on him please!! i have so many emotions about fat frank hes a good boy!!
(putting a disclaimer for you diaper babies out there: fat isnt a slur or inheritly insulting because being fat isnt a bad thing jsyk)

Send me a number (song edition!)
  • 1. Your current favorite song
  • 2. A song that used to be your favorite, but now you don't like
  • 3. A song that used to be your favorite that you still like
  • 4. A song that you're embarrassed to like
  • 5. A song that reminds you of another period in your life
  • 6. A song that reminds you of a place you've been
  • 7. A song from a genre you don't usually listen to
  • 8. A song you loved when you were a little kid
  • 9. A song you loved 5 years ago
  • 10. A song that reminds you of your childhood
  • 11. A song that reminds you of your best friend
  • 12. A song that reminds you of someone you hate
  • 13. A song that reminds you of your current partner/crush
  • 14. A song that reminds you of an ex
  • 15. A song that makes you want to fall in love
  • 16. A song that makes you want to cry
  • 17. A song that makes you want to slay your enemies
  • 18. A song that you work out to
  • 19. A song that you've seen performed live
  • 20. A song that you've listened to on repeat recently
  • 21. Your top most played song on iTunes
  • 22. A song that motivates you to work/helps you focus
  • 23. A song from the soundtrack of your favorite video game/movie/TV show
  • 24. A song that you think is really overplayed
  • 25. A song that you listened to ironically, but now you genuinely love
  • 26. A song that reminds you of your favorite fictional character
  • 27. A song that best describes your personality
  • 28. A song that represents "your aesthetic"
  • 29. A song that cheers you up when you're sad
  • 30. A song from a band that you've grown up loving
  • 31. A song that you want to cover (regardless of how much talent you have)
  • 32. A song that you think has an important message
  • 33. A song whose message you don't like
  • 34. Your favorite song that's a cover of another song
  • 35. A song that sends chills down your spine
  • 36. A song that best describes your current emotion
  • 37. A song that helped you through a difficult time in your life
  • 38. A song that you think is underrated
  • 39. Your favorite instrumental (no lyrics/singing) song
  • 40. A song by a band from your hometown
  • 41. A song from the year you were born
  • 42. Your favorite "old" song (pre-90s)
  • 43. A song that makes you laugh
  • 44. A song from your favorite musical
  • 45. Your favorite Disney song
  • 46. A song that you wish more people knew about
  • 47. A song that you love to dance to
  • 48. A song that you can't help but sing along
  • 49. A song whose lyrics you have memorized
  • 50. Free slot! Any song you want to share!
A story from the line at McDonald's
  • Me: okay so my sexuality's a complicated deal so let's just call me queer as hell
  • Friend: nono I wanna know can't you explain it
  • Me: well ok mainly I am asexual which means I don't want to do the do nor do I long for it, so it has nothing to do with lack of confidence or anything like that, I simply don't find anyone sexually attractive
  • Friend: right right
  • Me: but I'm also bi romantic. The sexual and romantic attraction are different, and I still fall in love and want to have physical contact with my partner, I just don't need the hanky panky
  • Friend: right cause you have a girlfriend that's pansexual right
  • Me: exactly and as long as we're both happy with not doing the rumba naked, that's a valid relationship
  • Friend: I get it, I get it... I didn't know the entire sexual and romantic orientations were different
  • Me: yeah I know it was an eyeopener for me when I found ou-
  • Lady behind us in line: excuse me so sorry but I couldn't help but overhear but I didn't know half of what you just said and I was just wondering what that thing your girlfriend was is, pansexual?
  • Me: *awkward glance at friend* oh uh I'm not an expert or anything and uh ok so basically it's similar to being bisexual, but there's less value in what gender the one you're attracted to is, at least as I understood it. So a bisexual would be attracted to a person despite their gender, a pansexual wouldn't really care at all in a way uh I'm sorry I'm bad at explaining
  • Lady behind us in line: that's alright I can look it up myself later you gave me a general idea! So where did you find out these things, you're pretty young?
  • Me: well, Internet. Once you're a bit confused about what you might be you usually go looking for explanations...
  • Lady behind us in line: so uh in theory... It's fine if you don't know, I just want to check with you... Is there a thing called aROMANTIC? like you're asexual, is there a equivalent to the romantic orientation you mentioned?
  • Me: oh yeah, absolutely! You can be both asexual and aromantic, or aromantic and heterosexual, literally all combinations are possible!
  • Lady behind us in line: *smiles LIKE REALLY GODDAMNED GENUINELY* thank you so much, I did not know that. *fishes up phone from pocket* now if you excuse me, I'm going to call my mother and tell her I'm not crazy for never having been married or stayed with one guy for long despite being 50+ but still has three children! *steps out of line and walks off while dialing*
  • Friend: wow that was... Amazing
  • Me: see how happy she got? That's the power of right information.
  • And that's why I've been smiling since this happened.

hey hey i didn’t cause the sudden spike up of the popularity of heathers why r ppl saying i did that

Produce 101 asks
  1. Who’s your bias?
  2. Who’s your bias wrecker?
  3. Do you have the same bias from the beginning?
  4. Who’s the cutest trainee?
  5. Who would you let do your makeup?
  6. Who’s the first trainee you think about when you see ‘😲’?
  7. If you could save one eliminated trainee (not problematic one’s ty) who would you choose?
  8. Who do you think is most similar to you?
  9. If you could date 1 of them who would it be? (mind the ages)
  10. Is there someone you wouldn’t get along with? (be respectful)
  11. If you could make 1 trainee collab with an idol who would it be and with whom?
  12. What’s your top in vocals, dancers and rappers?
  13. Who are the nicest trainees?
  14. Who do you admire the most?
  15. What’s your favourite brotp/ship?
  16. What’s your favourite team?
  17. Would you stan the current top 11?
  18. If you could say 2 words to your bias what would you say?
  19. If you could say 2 words to mnet what would you say?
  20. I which my bias was better at…?
  21. Who’s the most underrated trainee rn?
  22. 3 emojis to describe your experience watching p101?
  23. We all have strong opinions about the show. Do you usually share them or keep it to yourself?
  24. Tag some p101 tumblrs that you love

Me: college isnt that bad

English teacher: we’re going to study fanfiction and it’s correlation with academic writing

Me: … I-I… okay I can get through this… college is still not that ba-

English teacher: :^) watch and reply to this in 4 pages

Me:

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a glimpse of ChenBenny on his first musical “In The Heights”

cant we just agree that every band member is equally important to the band

anonymous asked:

Hi! I'm a nt singlet trying to learn about neurodivergence (and systems) so I can be a better ally. If you don't mind me asking, what do you think I should know about bpd (and anything else you have, because a lot of people seem to have multiple diagnoses)? Like the basics of what it is, how I can be an ally, and how I can be a good friend if I meet a borderline irl? I hope this wasn't invasive or rude, also feel free to correct my terminology because I'm really new to all this ❤

do my eyes deceive me??? a nice neurotypical in my ask box??? of course i will help u….(besides im bored and have nothing better to do)

firstly, being in a system is neurodivergent. you sort of separated the two, idk if u meant to do that.

i think u what should know is that borderlines are people too. people love to condemn us and say we’re manipulative, abusive. in reality, a lot of borderlines have high empathy for others (to the point where it hurts us if we see someone else in pain). we’re not bad people by default.

even doctors and psychiatrists call us abusive and manipulative. the belief actually comes from them. back when bpd was first coined as a disorder, it was seen as “the borderline between psychosis and non-psychosis” hence the name borderline. doctors back then couldn’t understand why borderlines kept ending up back at hospitals treatment after treatment, how we were so driven by emotion, why regular therapy would not work. they concluded that borderlines were manipulative, sought attention, and were on the borderline of psychosis and non-psychosis, deeming us “hard to deal with.”

ive heard so many stories about borderlines being treated extremely negatively back then, to the point where doctors and psychiatrists would give up on their cases, tell them they were unfixable and manipulative. if they wanted help, they wouldve worked for it by now.

thing is, borderlines don’t respond to cbt/talk therapy. psychiatrists failed to see that we weren’t failing on purpose. their treatment was not up to par. from the cbt i’ve worked with, ive noticed that cbt assumes one has a stable identity and is always aware of themselves. borderlines are not.

dbt was created by marsha linehan. dialectical behavior therapy was made specifically for borderlines. it combines elements of cbt, behavioral science, and zen buddhism. and serious…this stuff is amazing. it works. dbt is split up into four modules: mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, distress tolerance, and emotional regulation.

mindfulness is the teaching of always constantly checking if youre in the present. it is by far the hardest module to master, but it’s extremely rewarding once you understand it.

interpersonal effectiveness is on interpersonal relationships. y’know, because abandonment.

distress tolerance teaches you what to do in a crisis. and it isn’t cbt crap docs hand you and expect you to master in a day. whereas cbt tells you “just breathe, count to ten” when you’re distressed, distress tolerance teaches you three steps: distract, relax, and cope. distract yourself from the situation, relax using your five senses, and cope with the situation by weighing the pros and cons. i use this nearly everyday.

emotional regulation teaches you to do the opposite of what your negative emotions tell you. it teaches you that you are more than your emotions. while you may not be able to control them, you can certainly stop the snowball effect of emotions that trigger thoughts, which then trigger more complex emotions, and more complex thoughts, and so forth.

being a good borderline ally is simple: dont spread needless hate about our disorder, don’t infiltrate our spaces, and advocate for fair treatment.

if you meet a borderline in real life and you are even just a smidgen nice to them, congratulations: that borderline is your new friend. also in retrospect, don’t be mean to them. they will hate you very much.

if you ever become the fp of a borderline, always try to be there for them when they need you. encourage them to talk to you about their emotions. some borderlines are quiet and won’t talk about their negative emotions, even if it hurts.

also, they are constantly afraid of you abandoning them, it is a constant fear. reassure them as often as you can that you do not have plans to. also, don’t ever tell them they’re a handful, or “a lot,” even in a joking manner. they most likely have heard so many borderlines like them being called “abusive” and will wonder if “they are too,” because of their emotions.

well, that’s what i have to say. i might do another thing like this on systems. maybe. depends.

i get why lovelace and hera (and even maxwell to a lesser degree) are the most popular ladies of wolf 359 but i truly and deeply believe renee minkowski deserves more attention and love than she gets 

im doing my listen-through again and the thing that gets me, REALLY gets me, REALLY REALLY GETS ME, about minkowski is how much she loves and how much she wants a family. not to be embarrassing but one of the most powerful passages of literature i have ever read, one of the literary passages that has stuck with me for years, is that scene in the first warriors series where firestar is getting his nine lives from starclan, and one of the she-cats, i dont remember who, gives him a mother’s love, and he thinks hes going to get “~fluffy gentle feelings~” and instead he gets a BURST OF PROTECTIVE BLOODTHIRSTY RAAAAAAGE and i dont think anything has ever summed up my (admittedly limited) understanding of minkowski better than that 

renee minkowski loves so much. she is so strong in her love. she does her duty - she does her job - she throws herself into every hard part about it - she does the talent show, she wants eiffel and hilbert to be there, she wants christmas to be something good for them all. she loves and that doesnt just mean people, she loves doing what she’s expected, she loves doing a good job, before everything goes to hell she just loves to do that. which doesnt mean there are necessarily or frequently ~warm gooey feelings~ about what she does, she has the kind of love that throws you against every brick wall until you get through broken and bleeding. does she maybe do it all to make up for some perceived lacking on her own part? maybe, maybe cutter and hilbert were right, to puncture holes in her confidence. i dont know i havent listened to the show that much. do i still think that love - ferocious and ruthlessly unsentimental and primal and surely selfish - is at least one of her primary motivations, if not the primary? yes yes i do

(side note: minkowski’s a frickin slytherin BITE ME. minkowski loves eiffel so much. minkowski loves hera so much. i think minkowski still loves hilbert on some level. but minkowski doesnt love everyone. she doesnt love kepler, or maxwell, or jacobi. she loves her crew. sometimes that includes lovelace, sometimes it doesnt - it depends. but her core crew is eiffel and hera. she will do anything for them. she throws away her own morality, her own soul for them. she sacrifices herself again and again for them. she makes the tough calls for them. she wants, she needs, she has to protect them all. if “minkowski commanding” didn’t prove that i dont know what does - theres ambition in that, unstoppable and brutal, intransigently moral and savagely amoral at the same time, her love for doug eiffel and hera. what will renee minkowski not do for doug eiffel and hera?)

i hate that i feel guilty for “”reducing minkowski to a mother figure”” but if i have permission to speak freely then im going to freely tell those guilty feelings to shove it because renee minkowski is not reduced by her bone-deep protectiveness or her capacity for love; she is not dishonored or insulted by my seeing her in the unspeakably resilient role of female protector, mother, unceasingly self-sacrificial, going on and on and on just to keep her people, her family, alive

so to conclude renee minkowski is my space step-mom and i will stand up for her and her incredibleness until the undoubtedly bitter end thanks and good night