please dont get at me

Send me a number (song edition!)
  • 1. Your current favorite song
  • 2. A song that used to be your favorite, but now you don't like
  • 3. A song that used to be your favorite that you still like
  • 4. A song that you're embarrassed to like
  • 5. A song that reminds you of another period in your life
  • 6. A song that reminds you of a place you've been
  • 7. A song from a genre you don't usually listen to
  • 8. A song you loved when you were a little kid
  • 9. A song you loved 5 years ago
  • 10. A song that reminds you of your childhood
  • 11. A song that reminds you of your best friend
  • 12. A song that reminds you of someone you hate
  • 13. A song that reminds you of your current partner/crush
  • 14. A song that reminds you of an ex
  • 15. A song that makes you want to fall in love
  • 16. A song that makes you want to cry
  • 17. A song that makes you want to slay your enemies
  • 18. A song that you work out to
  • 19. A song that you've seen performed live
  • 20. A song that you've listened to on repeat recently
  • 21. Your top most played song on iTunes
  • 22. A song that motivates you to work/helps you focus
  • 23. A song from the soundtrack of your favorite video game/movie/TV show
  • 24. A song that you think is really overplayed
  • 25. A song that you listened to ironically, but now you genuinely love
  • 26. A song that reminds you of your favorite fictional character
  • 27. A song that best describes your personality
  • 28. A song that represents "your aesthetic"
  • 29. A song that cheers you up when you're sad
  • 30. A song from a band that you've grown up loving
  • 31. A song that you want to cover (regardless of how much talent you have)
  • 32. A song that you think has an important message
  • 33. A song whose message you don't like
  • 34. Your favorite song that's a cover of another song
  • 35. A song that sends chills down your spine
  • 36. A song that best describes your current emotion
  • 37. A song that helped you through a difficult time in your life
  • 38. A song that you think is underrated
  • 39. Your favorite instrumental (no lyrics/singing) song
  • 40. A song by a band from your hometown
  • 41. A song from the year you were born
  • 42. Your favorite "old" song (pre-90s)
  • 43. A song that makes you laugh
  • 44. A song from your favorite musical
  • 45. Your favorite Disney song
  • 46. A song that you wish more people knew about
  • 47. A song that you love to dance to
  • 48. A song that you can't help but sing along
  • 49. A song whose lyrics you have memorized
  • 50. Free slot! Any song you want to share!

anonymous asked:

Hi! I'm a nt singlet trying to learn about neurodivergence (and systems) so I can be a better ally. If you don't mind me asking, what do you think I should know about bpd (and anything else you have, because a lot of people seem to have multiple diagnoses)? Like the basics of what it is, how I can be an ally, and how I can be a good friend if I meet a borderline irl? I hope this wasn't invasive or rude, also feel free to correct my terminology because I'm really new to all this ❤

do my eyes deceive me??? a nice neurotypical in my ask box??? of course i will help u….(besides im bored and have nothing better to do)

firstly, being in a system is neurodivergent. you sort of separated the two, idk if u meant to do that.

i think u what should know is that borderlines are people too. people love to condemn us and say we’re manipulative, abusive. in reality, a lot of borderlines have high empathy for others (to the point where it hurts us if we see someone else in pain). we’re not bad people by default.

even doctors and psychiatrists call us abusive and manipulative. the belief actually comes from them. back when bpd was first coined as a disorder, it was seen as “the borderline between psychosis and non-psychosis” hence the name borderline. doctors back then couldn’t understand why borderlines kept ending up back at hospitals treatment after treatment, how we were so driven by emotion, why regular therapy would not work. they concluded that borderlines were manipulative, sought attention, and were on the borderline of psychosis and non-psychosis, deeming us “hard to deal with.”

ive heard so many stories about borderlines being treated extremely negatively back then, to the point where doctors and psychiatrists would give up on their cases, tell them they were unfixable and manipulative. if they wanted help, they wouldve worked for it by now.

thing is, borderlines don’t respond to cbt/talk therapy. psychiatrists failed to see that we weren’t failing on purpose. their treatment was not up to par. from the cbt i’ve worked with, ive noticed that cbt assumes one has a stable identity and is always aware of themselves. borderlines are not.

dbt was created by marsha linehan. dialectical behavior therapy was made specifically for borderlines. it combines elements of cbt, behavioral science, and zen buddhism. and serious…this stuff is amazing. it works. dbt is split up into four modules: mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, distress tolerance, and emotional regulation.

mindfulness is the teaching of always constantly checking if youre in the present. it is by far the hardest module to master, but it’s extremely rewarding once you understand it.

interpersonal effectiveness is on interpersonal relationships. y’know, because abandonment.

distress tolerance teaches you what to do in a crisis. and it isn’t cbt crap docs hand you and expect you to master in a day. whereas cbt tells you “just breathe, count to ten” when you’re distressed, distress tolerance teaches you three steps: distract, relax, and cope. distract yourself from the situation, relax using your five senses, and cope with the situation by weighing the pros and cons. i use this nearly everyday.

emotional regulation teaches you to do the opposite of what your negative emotions tell you. it teaches you that you are more than your emotions. while you may not be able to control them, you can certainly stop the snowball effect of emotions that trigger thoughts, which then trigger more complex emotions, and more complex thoughts, and so forth.

being a good borderline ally is simple: dont spread needless hate about our disorder, don’t infiltrate our spaces, and advocate for fair treatment.

if you meet a borderline in real life and you are even just a smidgen nice to them, congratulations: that borderline is your new friend. also in retrospect, don’t be mean to them. they will hate you very much.

if you ever become the fp of a borderline, always try to be there for them when they need you. encourage them to talk to you about their emotions. some borderlines are quiet and won’t talk about their negative emotions, even if it hurts.

also, they are constantly afraid of you abandoning them, it is a constant fear. reassure them as often as you can that you do not have plans to. also, don’t ever tell them they’re a handful, or “a lot,” even in a joking manner. they most likely have heard so many borderlines like them being called “abusive” and will wonder if “they are too,” because of their emotions.

well, that’s what i have to say. i might do another thing like this on systems. maybe. depends.

Me: college isnt that bad

English teacher: we’re going to study fanfiction and it’s correlation with academic writing

Me: … I-I… okay I can get through this… college is still not that ba-

English teacher: :^) watch and reply to this in 4 pages

Me:

ok so im kinda sad the first strike comic is getting delayed but if the writers felt the story needed an overhaul THAT badly i can only see it as a good thing because blizzard pays attention to its fans??? like especially with regards to gabriel’s characterization i hope it means that

  • they’re not going to make him a one dimensional mustache twirling villain
  • they took notes about how popular dorky halloween comic gabriel was and are going to stick with that
  • they’ll write him being a positive mentor/father figure for mccree
  • they won’t make gabriel some “loose cannon renegade” when it’s been pretty heavily established he’s a pragmatic tactician who thinks before he leaps
  • they’ll add in how he actually does care about the people under his charge (the whole “no one left behind” line when sym puts up a teleporter and how he offered jesse a position in blackwatch to help him reform his ways and how he was clearly upset about what happened to ana in her comic implies he does care quite a bit)
  • they won’t single him out as the perpetrator for what happened at swiss hq (why would gabriel be mad jack didn’t save him when the explosion happened if he betrayed them??? and why would he blow up a building if he was inside it??? doesn’t make any damn sense)
  • maybe JUST maybe they’ll confirm him as one of the lgbt characters because i would legit cry if that was canon
  • anyway its 6:30 am and i’ve been thinking about this for the last four hours i love him so much

shoutout to heroes who are:
- mentally ill
- abuse victims
- lgbt+
- poc
- disabled
- muslim
- jewish
- all of the above or any combination of the above

you all deserve so many good things and i hope you’re all having an absolutely wonderful day!!!

You know I'm sick of? People who make great art/fanfics of a gay ship and then go "Ooops I sinned"

I know you love the ships a lot, but I really wish people would stop calling it “sin”. And every time I see it, I feel even less welcome in the community.

You wouldn’t stand for someone in public calling it a “sin”, so why do you do it online?
Just please watch your words.