Jeremy Dooley is on the record of saying that fans should not grab at him. He doesn’t like it or find it cute or funny. He has said that if you want a picture or a hug, that’s awesome, and if he has a moment, he will be happy to stop and accommodate you; just don’t grab him!
It’s a simple request, and one he shouldn’t really have to make, because grabbing at someone, pulling on their arm or shoulders is a really rude and aggressive action. Just because Jeremy is famous, this does not change that fact.
Imagine that a stranger grabbed your arm and pulled on it as you were walking past. What would you do? You’d probably freak the fuck out! I certainly would! Don’t touch somebody without their permission, and specifically don’t pull on them.
Do not pull on Jeremy Dooley or any of the other Achievement Hunters.
Dean is allowed to be angry when Sam abandons or betrays him.
Dean is allowed to keep his feelings to himself.
Dean is allowed to have feelings regardless of whether they are what Sam thinks they should be.
Dean is allowed to call out even a loved one for hurting him or betraying him, especially if they keep doing it.
Dean is allowed to be afraid or nervous that they will do it again.
Humans are allowed to do all of these things, and as a person, so is Dean. None of these make Dean controlling, abusive, or cruel. Framing it as such what an abuser does to keep their victim in line. It’s a method certain people use to manipulate someone else into silence or compliance. Dean falls for it because of years and years of formative, psychological abuse, but that doesn’t make it even remotely true or right or even acceptable.
Today marks two years since the first time One Direction played No Control live after the biggest project a fandom could ever drive in order to make them add it to the concert set list. I just want to renew my thank yous to all of you that gave No Control the importance it should have had. I am glad you all joined the No Control project, I am glad you embraced that idea that started from a random post of thoughts in a very difficult period for this fandom and turned it into one of the biggest achievements of this fandom as a whole. I always get emotional when I watch videos about that, there is one in particular that I shared more than once that has the summary of everything that No Control project was from the beginning to when we finally saw them perform it live. The happiness in the boys’ faces and especially in Louis’, how he talked about it in interviews, how proud he was of us, how grateful he always showed to be, the screams and the joy of fans around the world, it will all stay with me forever. I can’t thank you enough for what happened two years ago, the work each and everyone of you did starting led a tumblr post to a a global phenomenon that was called a ‘punk movement’ and it was amazing, truly appreciated and frankly only possible in a fandom like ours. Something I would have never expected, for sure. A special thank you goes to the boys who talked about what fans did for them around the world with their kind words and their enthusiasm, Louis in particular because he was the most outspoken about it and I am so glad we gave him some happiness with what we did with his song. This will always be one of the proudest moment of this fandom, so remember: there is nothing more powerful than when this fandom unites, No Control project was the biggest evidence of this idea. Don’t forget it.