platonic male hugs

Please please please can we normalize platonic affection between boys. Twice in the last 24 hours I have mentioned that one of my favourite things to see - in fics, TV shows, real life, movies, literally ANYWHERE - is platonic affection between males. Platonic hugging. Platonic snuggling. Platonic hairline kisses. Platonic hand holding. Just - all of the platonic affection.

And both times I said this I received a weirded out expression in return, and a comment something along the lines of “uhh, weird,” or, “Ugh, no, boys being affectionate means they’re gay.”

No.

AFFECTION BETWEEN BOYS IS BEAUTIFUL. AFFECTION BETWEEN BOYS DOES NOT ALWAYS COME WITH ROMANTIC INTENT BEHIND IT (though it’s beautiful whether it does or doesn’t). PLATONIC AFFECTION BETWEEN BOYS IS IMPORTANT.

NORMALIZE PLATONIC AFFECTION BETWEEN BOYS.

anonymous asked:

I see so much sjm hate (or 'constructive criticism') lately and my passion for ToG is really shaken. Do you mind making a list about the good things in ToG? Thanks so much. xoxo

Well let’s see… Abraxos. Abraxos. Abraxos. Manon Blackbeak. Manon Crochan. Dorian Havilliard. Manorian. Asterin Blackbeak. Chaol Westfall. Chaol saving Manon. Asterin being defiant as fuck because she loves her cousin Manon and recognizes her as her family. Manon letting Elide choose her racial identity “Do you bleed red or blue?” Uuum. Manon flipping out and seeing Iskra as the Matron (and Abraxos as her) when Iskra whips Abraxos—Manon doesn’t want to kill her she just wants to hurt her (just like the Matron has been hurting Manon all these years). Abraxos. Platonic male love and hugging and tears—cuz straight men can hug and cry and tell their friends they love them and it should be normal. Abraxos flirting with Asterin’s wyvern. All the ambiguity surrounding Dorian’s dad (sorry, I’m a sucker for that shit. IS was VERY unclear whether he was honestly trying to help Dorian, or just trying to save his own ass. But his actions throughout the series—especially in QoS—have been SOOO ambiguous. Ugh.)…. um um um…. Nehemiah and Celaena talking in Ellewye in front of everyone because they could. Nehemiah and Celaena’s friendship and sisterly love. Chaol’s very real fear of bleeding vaginas. Abraxos. Fenrys curling his hair around one of his fingers. Fenrys deciding Aelin is his queen within the first 15 minutes of them meeting. “Where is my son?” Because, angst. Elide kickin ass and taking names even though she’s “cripple” and “illiterate” and “too small” and “too malnourished” and all the other things people see when they look at her and don’t see her. Manorian. ABRAXOS.