I Care vs. I Don’t Care
So, take an ISTJ and an INTP. I know I use these two types a lot, but not I’m using them because I think that INTPs are one of the most classic examples of Perceivers, and ISTJs are one of the most classic examples of Judgers.
Actually, it’s sometimes easier (I think) to spot a Judger than a Perceiver. But INTPs are usually so obvious about being Perceivers that they make good examples.
We all know the difference between the two, right? Perceivers go with the flow,and Judgers create the flow.
So, real life example:
ISTJ and INTP are going to get a rescue dog. ISTJ researches out different dogs in the area and looks up all the information from the Humane Society and other shelters within a twenty-five mile radius. ISTJ has a list of the types of dogs which would be appropriate (no pit bulls, German Shepherds, Labradors, or hounds), and also insists on finding a slightly trained dog so that minimal work will actually need to be done once the dog is acquired.
INTP takes a different route. INTP thinks that maybe we should just go down to the shelter together and look at the dogs because that way we’ll find one with a good personality that we know we like because we’ve actually met it. After all, the dog might look a lot different on the Humane Society web page than in real life.
Naturally, we follow ISTJ’s plan. Because the Judgers make the flow, right? Also, Judgers have a hard time understanding why Perceivers don’t seem to care.
And here’s the thing. Going with the flow doesn’t mean you don’t care. It just means that you care about different things. Going with the flow means that you prefer to deal with your problems as they come to you, rather than making a lot of work at the beginning. This is viewed by many as irresponsible, and I can definitely see how this impression is created.
But Perceivers aren’t inherently irresponsible. They don’t “not care.” Rather, they understand that there’s more to life than making plans, and while planning definitely has its place, there’s another aspect to life: that of understanding and seeing life as it happens.
Here’s the other thing: There are more Judgers than Perceivers in the world, and every Perceiver probably has to put up with some Judgers in his life. You see, we wouldn’t work very well alone. Our way of doing things would probably result in stuff falling apart in the long run.
But when you couple Perceivers with Judgers, you get a balanced view of life. Perceivers, if they’re nice about it, can help the Judgers chill a little. Judgers can help keep the Perceivers on track. It’s a symbiotic relationship, doncha know?
And, if you’re wondering, the ISTJ may have caved and let the INTP pick out a cute dog that fit most of the criteria.