@ people with disabilities that dont affect them greatly or every day
you are still disabled
your struggles are still valid
just because you arent sick all the time, it doesnt mean you arent sick.
just because you dont have many limitations, it doesnt mean you cant vent about the limitations you do have, because if your illness takes away even one experience/ability/feeling from you, its already taken too much.
dont let people invalidate you because you arent as “disabled as you could be”, because you are disabled, come @ them if they try to tell you youre not.
dont feel like you shouldnt be upset that you have this illness, just because it doesnt always affect you, or doesnt constantly affect you, it doesnt mean it doesnt affect you.
please dont feel like you have to constantly prove youre disabled, and if you do, remember that you are disabled, and you do have hardships and that you deserved to be believed.
I am so sorry you have to go through this, you shouldnt have to.
and above all
youre important and your issues, whether they be small or large, are important.
Pluto is a generational planet, it takes a long time for it to transition into a different sign, it takes somewhere from 14-30 years, so it doesn’t take part in our daily life. Although, where it’s placed in the houses is far more important than the sign, because that changes by the hour. I will start off by explaining what exactly is Pluto? Well, Pluto is the co-ruler of the sign Scorpio. Now, we all know something about Scorpio ;) (hehehe) There are 5 main themes of Pluto. One is transformation, two is destruction, three is intensity, four is rebirth, and five is obsession. Pluto is also known to be the ruler of the underworld which can be very intimidating and powerful. He’s mentioned in many books, and my favorite mention of Pluto is Inferno by Dante Alighieri, where Plutus is the lord of the 4th Circle for those who are the Miserly or Prodigal, which means people who sinned by trying to control money and fortune were to be in the 4th Circle. As many of you may know, the 8th house rules other people’s money, due to Pluto being the ruler of that house along with Mars. Now that we’ve learned a few things about Pluto, I will explain what it means when it goes through each house!
Pluto in the 1st house: The 1st house is the house of your identity, public persona, first impression, personality, and physical appearance. So when Pluto is placed here, you can be a bit of an intense person because you come off as different from society, you don’t mind hanging in the shadows. Being in the public eye and having everyone know about you can annoy you a little. You change a lot, whether it’s weight, height, style, personality, so on. Each person thinks of you differently because of that. You can have a bit of a dark atmosphere hanging around you, and your eyes are hypnotic, demanding, and very powerful. You can seem a bit power hungry yourself, always trying to be in control. 1st house also represents the story of your birth, and early childhood. Your birth could’ve been painful, intense, and transformative for your mother. In your early childhood, there could’ve been a war in your birthplace, or some sort of deep conflict that later brought enlightenment.
Maybe you are being taken advantage of, maybe the activity you are engaged in is tedious, maybe someone close to you is dishonest, irritating, or unconscious, but all this is irrelevant. Whether your thoughts and emotions about this situation are justified or not makes no difference. The fact is that you are resisting what is. You are making the present moment into an enemy. You are creating unhappiness, conflict between the inner and the outer. Your unhappiness is polluting not only your own inner being and those around you but also the collective human psyche of which you are an inseparable part. The pollution of the planet is only an outward reflection of an inner psychic pollution: millions of unconscious individuals not taking responsibility for their inner space.
Either stop doing what you are doing, speak to the person concerned and express fully what you feel, or drop the negativity that your mind has created around the situation and that serves no purpose whatsoever except to strengthen a false sense of self. Recognizing its futility is important. Negativity is never the optimum way of dealing with any situation. In fact, in most cases it keeps you stuck in it, blocking real change. Anything that is done with negative energy will become contaminated by it and in time give rise to more pain, more unhappiness. Furthermore, any negative inner state is contagious: Unhappiness spreads more easily than a physical disease. Through the law of resonance, it triggers and feeds latent negativity in others, unless they are immune — that is, highly conscious.
@ people who are ill in anyway but are still trying to find a diagnosis
you are valid
your issues are valid
I am so sorry you have to go through all this
just because you arent sure whats wrong, doesnt mean something isnt wrong.
just because you havent been diagnosed, it does not mean you are not sick.
you are not making it up
Its okay to feel panicked, scared, stressed or anything else because this is a scary thing to go through, your emotions are valid.
its okay to not know how to feel, because this is a very hard situation to go through, any form of confusion or frustration you might feel is valid.
whether you are home, in school, or working, your health is the most important thing, please put yourself first. and never feel ashamed for putting yourself first.
you are going through so much, and im sorry you couldnt just be diagnosed and at least know whats wrong, i hope you get whatever amount of help you need soon.
do not let people invalidate you, do not let them say youre lying, and do not let them treat you like youre lying. this goes for friends, family, strangers and even doctors. you are a person, you deserve to be treated like a person. you deserved to be believed.
you matter, you are amazing and im so proud of you.
just a quick doodad bc I don’t blog about it bc this is a horse blog but I brought the drama to it:
I super support rescue. I also super support responsible breeding and buying of pets and working animals.
I have two rescue horses, a rescue cat, and a dog that came from a breeder.
The first three I was able to adopt because I was happy for them to be pets. I didn’t know anything about their backgrounds, I didn’t know anything about them, and I was happy to rehabilitate them.
I got my dog from a breeder because she’s a service dog prospect, and so I wanted a very specific type of dog, with certain guaranteed physical traits and certain genetic behavioral predispositions. I wanted to be able to guarantee that she was raised and socialized to fit my needs. None of these were things I could guarantee from a rescue dog.
Responsible breeders do not contribute to pet overpopulation. Irresponsible breeders, who are trying to breed for money, who had an oops litter, who do not test their dogs for genetic disease or physical flaws, who do not track bloodlines, who do not plan homes for their puppies, who are not working specifically to improve their breed, who just breed for the funzies, are the ones contributing to pet overpopulation.
Responsible breeders aren’t working to turn a quick buck. They’re working to preserve or improve a breed. Depending on the size of their operation, maybe they’ll have a litter a year, maybe a litter every few years. They’ll usually have a waiting list. They’ll carefully scope out candidates who want a pup, find out what kind of dog they’re looking for, examine all of the puppies’ different traits at an early age, and work to put the pups in the right homes. If there’s a super drivey pup with maybe a tiny physical flaw that means it won’t do well in the show ring, they’ll give it to a working home. If there’s a more low-key pup, they’ll give it to a pet home. If there’s an absolutely perfect puppy, they’ll probably keep it for themselves, to work and show and use to (again) improve the breed. And almost every single one of them will ask that the puppy be returned to them if the new owner can’t keep them. Many of these breeders will remain in contact with the new owners and even showcase the accomplishments of the dogs on their websites as they grow up, to show the quality of animal they are producing. They are invested in the future of these animals.
Badmouthing breeders overall does not help to reduce the number of unwanted pets. Responsible breeders are not the ones whose dogs end up in shelters. And those responsible breeders often do a better job than shelters at keeping dogs in homes. Breeders make prospective owners wait, do their research, and pick them out the right dog for them. Meanwhile, many shelters (my own local shelter included) will let you walk in and adopt a dog on the same day, without so much as a home inspection (unless the dog is a certain breed that they says requires a fence, in which case all that’s required is the fence, and then you’re good to go!). Many shelters are not invested in the future of these animals; as much as they may care, they do not have the resources to track animals that have been adopted, or ensure that they’re succeeding in their new homes, or ensure that they’ve stayed in those homes. Rescues also almost universally perform a pediatric spay, which has been shown more and more to have a negative impact on a dog’s health longterm.
There are shitty shelters just like there are shitty breeders. The problem is not as simple as ‘rescue, don’t buy, while shelter animals die’. As usual, black and white pronouncements are catchy, but unhelpful.
I’ve volunteered a ton in rescue. That’s why so many of my pets are rescues. But I have seen questionable things happen behind closed doors at rescue organizations. I’ve seen animals adopted out to people who couldn’t properly care for them. I’ve seen animals returned after hurting or scaring someone. My own rescue horse has taken years to get to a safe place. I took that on because I accepted the responsibility and I wanted the challenge. Someone with a rosey-eyed view of rescue could have taken him in and been seriously injured.
Rescue does not guarantee a happily ever after story, and breeders are not all assholes out there trying to turn a buck.
Irresponsible breeding, irresponsible rehoming, and irresponsible ownership is the problem. People need to be educated about where their animals come from and how to care for them appropriately. Ignorance is the problem.
A message for disabled people who have upcoming doctors appointments
if you do not want your parent/guardian in the room with you when you talk to your doctor, then they should not be in there with you.
DO NOT let your parent, doctor or anyone tell you that you need them in there or that you cant tell them to leave or get out.
if you are considered an adult legally speaking, and do not want your parents in the room, they should not be in the room.
alot of the time, people who are disabled have this right taken away because doctors/parents/people believe they are not mentally or physically able to speak for themselves, but never once do they actually ask the disabled person, they just assume this and thus, taking away a human right, and choice.
this can also go for people who are underage and want their parents out of the room, if you feel uncomfortable, then tell your doctor and especially if you are considered an adult, and your doctor still doesnt want you in the room alone and refuses to make your parents leave, then you should get a new doctor that will listen to you, because this is a right and its too often taken away from the disabled because of the ablest assumption that they wont understand anything/their opinion on any situation doesnt matter/wont make sense and so on.
please dont take this the wrong way, this post isnt meant to make the disabled people who need people in the room with them feel bad or upset, this is meant to make sure the disabled people who DONT want their parental guardian in the room with them, or anyone else but their doctor in with them, know that they can have that arranged and to not let people take that right away.
you are disabled, and if you want to be with your doctor alone, then you should be able to.
“oh youre so pretty, its like youre not even sick”
“oh well, youre still beautiful despite your illness”
“youre so handsome, i didnt even think you were sick!”
Stop treating this dumb shit like its a compliment, because even if you mean well, what youre saying is that if theyre sick they cant look pretty, and youre assuming that all illnesses need to affect how you look, and that they ALL need to make you look bad.
disabled people are pretty and handsome and goodlooking, not “despite” their illness, but with their illness.
you can also just say “wow youre goodlooking” without having to add on “despite your issues” or “i didnt think you were sick”, its not that hard to give a compliment, and it stops being a compliment when you add that part, because youre doing nothing but invalidating them as disabled people, and also making the assumption that disabled people arent attractive.